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Smart cookie ,Sacrilege, and Wolf

In no place did I express my personal point of view, so comments like shtark, a bit off, and the like are misplaced. I simply am trying to teach the less informed what the yeshivishe point of view actually is. When official (gedolim sanctioned)yeshivishe hashkafah is discussed, terms like romance and ” in love” are not in the vocabulary. If you like the idea of romance , be aware that it is incompatible with yeshivishe hashkafah. As far as romance within marriage is concerned, it is tolerated when absolutely necessary, but it is not a virtuous practice and should be discoraged.

This just so wrong, I don’t even know where to begin.

The Gedolim (such as Rav Moshe, Rav Yaakov, R’ Akiva Eiger, etc.) “romanced” their wives during marriage.

The Stiepler in Iggeres HaKodesh writes how crucial it is to “romance” your wife.

The current generation of Rabbonim and Roshei yeshiva “Romance” their wives.

Either you have no clue, or you are talking about a specific sect (who will not be called out, as I have been warned on it before) that does these things K’neged Halacha.

Maaser is tithing, not taxes. Taxation is state-imposed and is not a mitzvah. Maaser is a mitzvah, and is given from HaShem. Two totally different things.

Not in a Theocracy; Or are we ignoring “Som Tasim Alecha Melech”?

Beis Din (i.e. the legal system) would force it if required, and that makes it a tax.

Also, I disagree that Taxation is not a Kiyum Mitzva (in some form, what I am not sure), see BB 9a.

Medicare

Wic

Food Stamps

Section 8

SJS:

You are missing out a crucial point in the tuition calculations.

Most families on tuition assistance are aware that they will NEVER be able to pay tuition.

So they give up. It goes out of the equation. They pay (or try to) whatever the school asks of them, and they live their regular life with what they have left. They have no thought of attempting to pay more in tuiton, as the feel “since I will never get to full anyway, what is the point”.

Are they wrong? Probably, if they would ask their Rav, he would tell them so. IIRC Rav Schwab was Makpid not to accept donations from those parents on tuition assistance.

Will it change? Also not. Everyone believes tuition is way too high already, but most families have no choice. (Teaneck is different, as I will explain in a minute.) So they go on scholarship, and do what they want with the rest. But to punish the child is a bad idea, as they will resent the school and Torah for it.

Teaneck, on the other hand, has the option of JFS (I think) in SI, which makes the only excuse of sending to the “Legacy Schools” as they are called and not paying in full vs. paying in full and going on a 45 minute bus ride (boo hoo:(, laziness.

If you really wanted to change things, you would have to give a larger disincentive to go on scholarship. Back in the day, it was a Busha to have to give over your tax records to the school. Now, in the days of MOFES, no one cares. The schools need a new disincentive. And withholding the report card is not it.

Go visit the local kollel and watch the men learn for a day. What you will gain is priceless.

D9: Make sure they marry someone who is a dedicated as they are. If they really mean it, Bezras Hashem, they will not have Shalom Bayis issues.

Because I personally don’t want to pay $20,000 for my child to learn to make cheesecake. For that, I can keep her home and teach her myself.

So why are you spending the 20K?

I think what is more practical is to give the girls apartments and have them be responsible for their meals. Give them a weekly apartment budget at the grocery store (so they learn to compromise on what they can afford) and have each girl responsible for a dinner. Then mentor the girl on simple, good food.

Sounds a lot (from what I understand) like the Mir Dirahs, or Michlalla for girls. That may be your best option, even though it is not a “Bais Yaakov Seminary” per say (which may be a plus for you).

Bagel, Tuna & Lettuce?

Sure it can help.

You make a Brocha on it.

You can use it to give you strength to do Avodas Hashem.

Suffer? By living a mitzva?

If only it was that simple.

SJS: That is correct, IIRC. The svorah being the Torah can not require a woman to place herself into sakana by going through childbirth (although I don’t remember the source).

And the “incomplete” is sort of my answer. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with my husband, otherwise he would be missing from it.

That exact concept is a large part of how I knew that I was going out with the right one (when I was dating Ittisa).

Matziv, I am not required to get married. I am not obligated in pru urevu. Why should I get married?

Not really true. There is a concept/mitzva of Sheves Yitzra, that all people should populate the world (see BB 13a (IIRC) by a half slave, and other gemaros as well).

I’m surprised that no one has said they feel incomplete without a partner in life.

As a side point, black and white movies really are better than the current stuff, both in quality and for your soul.

Citizen Kane is a mussar shmooze in of itself.

All Torah is learned only with Divine Inspiration (what you would call Ruach HaKodesh), as it connects the Yid to his Source.

If it is not learned as a connection to the Source, rather as a subject, then that (seemingly) IS Apikorsus.

I like your “trying to define a gadol” statements: I do have issue with one minor point:

That is pretty much unanimously the derech of the Chofetz Chaim, Rav Chaim Brisker, and their great contemporaries.

Chassidim, Sephardim, Yekkies, etc. do not hold of or follow this derech. I would be very wary to exclude most of Klal Yisroel.

NOT ONE PENNY. We don’t charge for kibudim in my shul.

I believe that is a general rule for Young Israel’s, as well.

And your husband would also probably get a Kibbud based on the

“o’sek on behalf of the shul or community” criterion.

Salt:

Salt is a mineral that is composed primarily of sodium chloride. It is essential for animal life in small quantities, but is harmful to animals and plants in excess. Salt flavor is one of the basic tastes, making salt one of the oldest, most ubiquitous food seasonings. Salting is an important method of food preservation.

Source – Wikipedia

And by the way, latin is soooo not yeshivish.

Oops. Got me.

It would have to be an ant with a major case of DID. But I hear your point.

Moq:

The question doesn’t bother me, as I don’t see the inability to be lack of Omnipotence, rather proof of it.

Moq:

Interesting solution to the Omnipotence paradox.

agree with lkwdfellow:

Is your Rav a “full time Rav” (i.e. being paid 6 figures) or “part time”?

If you only pay part time, only expect to get part time service.

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Moderator-80:

why do you need a written source for particular detail of tznius?

only in todays immoral degenerate climate could you ask such a question

Excellent. I was waiting for someone to say this.

As I have said before, there are multiple aspects of Tznius, including Ervah and Hirrhur. Tight clothing does not fall under Ervah, rather Hirrhur.

Therefore, we need do make a judgement call as per what will cause hirrhur and what will not. You (as the wearer or husband) are probably Nogaiah B’Davar, so ask your Rav (who should be more impartial).

Kasha:

I’ll take a look.

Thanks.

Kasha: Love to see you! Welcome back!

I am just asking for a source, nothing more. Would you happen to have one?

SJSinNYC:

You are thinking of a Kedaisha.

and hashkafa does make a difference. not all are created equal.

Don’t care which is equal. No one should have to pay/give tzedaka so that you can have the exact hashkafa that you want in the classroom.