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  • in reply to: Divorce: Whose Fault Was It? #932148
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    Someone once asked Rav Avigdor Miller zt’l (in the open Q&A at the end of one of his Thursday night shiurim) why there are so many mitzvos in the Torah to protect an almana, but not a grusha. Aren’t they both undergoing the same nisyonos of single parenting?

    Rav Miller responded, “Because 99% of divorces are the woman’s fault!” The grumbling and chairshifting becomes immediately audible on the tape.

    Rav Miller continued, “And in case you think that I am discriminatory, I will tell you that 99% of divorces are the man’s fault!” He then explained that there are 1% extreme cases that are only his fault, and a likewise 1% amount of extreme cases that are exclusively hers. The rest are a bunch of combined factors with enough blame for everyone to share.

    in reply to: YBC Acapella #872085
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    Just trying to figure out certain topics that have appeared here in the last few days. Virtually every qualified posek of note who has published on the topic, has said that it is assur to listen to these a Capella tapes during the sefira and three weeks that have the music and beats simulated to sound real. Maybe I missed something, and the esteemed CR can enlighten me. I should surely be dan l’caf zechus that there are such poskim. Does anyone know if they exist? If not, people should probably cease commenting about all these wonderful things that are kneged halacha.

    in reply to: kollel and welfare #866805
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    Assumptions make a donkey out of you and umption.

    Love it!!

    in reply to: Zoos and Chometz #1196509
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    That’s what you get for not keeping your mouth shut during laining.

    in reply to: WHAT?!!?? No Shalom Zachor??? #867676
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    Never heard of anyone making on Yom Kippur night.

    in reply to: Maarava? #902205
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    Are out of towners welcome? The camp is owned by Chicago Aguda, and is located in Southwest Indiana! The closest city is Indianapolis. Second is South Bend. Third is St. Louis. Fourth is Chicago. The director was a rebbetzin in South Bend for more than 20 years, who only recently relocated to Lakewood. That’s pretty much out of town in my book!

    I have sent three daughters there for multiple years. They absolutely love every minute of it! Although if you’re first applying now, it is likely to be a waste of time.

    in reply to: drinking on purim, teaching kids? #1056423
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    I think the theme of many of the responses is two things: One, does everything our ‘outdated’ Chazal (chas veshalom) determined for us still hold true even in the 21st Century. Second, if we don’t understand something our Gedolim (of past and present) institute, are we obligated to accept it.

    There are many sources for reasons to drink on Purim, and even to get as drunk as some may consider to be ‘gross’.

    in reply to: What is wrong with you, Popa? #865726
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    Please, please people. Is there really anyone who thinks that Popa was recommending molestation of anyones children, even of a moser?

    Let me endeavor to explain the humor to those who are so offended (at least to the best of my understanding). He was not making fun of molestation. He was making fun of those who consider mesirah the worst aveira known to mankind. He then thought up a punishment that other segments of the CR think is the worst thing in the world. (He might actually be pretty close to the truth there.) He made the association between those two extremes in a single post. Voila! The humor inherent in associating two things that don’t connect in your natural thought process.

    HE’S ON YOUR TEAM!! He believes child molestation is horrible! He’s making fun of the Mesirah-is-almost-as-bad crowd!!

    in reply to: Kibud Av vs. cranky father in law #865479
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    When dealing with non frum relatives, you must have boundaries. But you must know that wherever you draw those lines, there will be pressure against them. They will never be happy with them. So you might as well draw those lines where you are comfortable. No sense both of you being miserable about it.

    I think kids can handle that grandma and grandpa don’t keep Shabbos. That is common enough (nebach) nowadays. But the dei’os kozvos, the wrong ideas coming out of their mouths, might sink into their heads softly, after hearing it enough times. They’ll go on and begin to wonder themselves later on. As Goebbals, ym’s, said many times, repeat a lie often anough, and they’ll start to believe it.

    in reply to: 'The Wolf' Fan Club #864667
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    His screen name here is wolfishmusings. You should be able to find it from that.

    in reply to: DR. MIDDOS LINES…….. #864694
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    I know its not from Dr. Middos. But one of my favorites is when Mayor Figallely La Gardenhose says, “And that’s a campaign promise!”

    in reply to: I missed my own 5th CR anniversary!! :( #895476
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    Well I can assure you that I am not misrepresenting anything here! I am most definitely a Midwesterner!! Both geographically and professionally.

    V’hameivin yavin!

    in reply to: Mega Millions #865057
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    So Popa, it turns out that I was right! Thanx for getting me a haskama from the choshuve economist!!

    in reply to: good shtark but not "greesed yeshivas #1056480
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    Few and far between is politically correct for nonexistent.

    in reply to: I missed my own 5th CR anniversary!! :( #895474
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    A while back there was a thread about oldest posters. On of the Mods said that the oldest poster/first one to sign up was . . . Joseph!!

    in reply to: Mega Millions #865047
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    You’re buying the right to actually dream until Friday night (till Motzoei Shabbos until you can find a way to check the numbers b’hetter).

    Insurance policies work by one taking a small hefsed now (premiums) to prevent a big hefsed later. Lottery is taking a small hefsed now for a potential revach later. One is attempting to remain a muchzak in what you have. The other is an attempt at an increase.

    Also the risk in insurance policies is based on actuarial tables to be realistic. One calculates what the aggregate risk in all of his potential customers and sets the rate at what is theortically a couple of points more than what he expects to pay out. Risks are calculated by the customers in a similar way (albeit without consulting actuaries) and they elect to buy the policies, or not. The odds of winning the lottery are off of any actuarial table. No one invests based on any EV having any realistic values. Your purchasing a dream, that’s it.

    in reply to: I missed my own 5th CR anniversary!! :( #895472
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    My 5th was in December!

    in reply to: Husband Nullifying Wife's Oath #863880
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    Amar R’ Pinchas, kol hanoderes al daas baalah hi noderes.

    in reply to: Should Unhealthy Foods Be Legislated Against? #863070
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    No.

    in reply to: Advising mods #861967
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    There was a thread that bothered me very much earlier this week. I sent an email complaint to a friend. Voila, it disappeared! Not just closed, but gone! I explained my reasons for concern, he sent it to someone connected, and that was that.

    I would suggest that if you give a coherent and reasonable explanation, they will listen. Not just “I think this thread should be closed!”

    in reply to: On a plane #939016
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    Midwesterner lives in the snow belt. (Not complaining about 82 degrees in March today, though!) Midwesterner has no interest in going to look for MORE snow!!

    in reply to: what do you think of daf yomi? #860750
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    To borrow a line from the political world: Please don’t make the perfect an enemy of the good.

    in reply to: Posted on Shabbos? #976450
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    Actually, at just west of whatever place it is that you recognize the international date line to be, when it bain hashmashos there on Shabbos afternoon, it is Bain Hashmashos on Friday just east of there, and during Shabbos gufa everywhere else.

    in reply to: Popa is Brave #858430
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    Think first: I’ve had regular laining jobs since I was 16, and now I’m a grandfather. So its been a few years. My reputation is such (I like to convince myself, that is) that people who daven at my regular place wouldn’t dare correct me like that. So I’m not used to someone who has the aliya even trying to chap something.

    This fellow was a guest. Every year or so he comes to town and tells me how much he admires my laining. He then waits to pounce on me at the first opportunity.

    in reply to: Crowdsourcing dating #914324
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    The rest of them are what they are. But oomis, you’re a veteran of the coffee room. Don’t you know Popa yet?

    I must admit though, as familiar as I am with a very large body of the work of the Holy R’ Shlomo, I don’t get the reference.

    in reply to: Bizarre song adaptations. #857751
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    Along that theme, we’ll see if this makes it past the censors.

    There was once this couple who owned a grocery store. The wife was a powerful personality, and the husband was very dominated. If he disappointed her in any way, she’d pull out a paddle and give him a whack.

    One day, she left him in charge of the grocery store. Came time to daven mincha, and he was late. He ran out of the store without locking the door, figured it was safe. How long does mincha take anyway?

    He came back 12 minutes later, and found the place cleaned out. He went home and told his wife the bad news. She blew a gasket, and really gave it to him with the paddle.

    At that beating, he decided he’d had enough, and demanded a divorce. So they went to the rav. After hearing the 2 sides of the dispute, the rav said, “This is the first time a couple came to me where SHE said ‘Pesach Pasuach Matzasi’ and HE tayna’d ‘Mukas Eitz!'”

    in reply to: Walled Cities during Yehoshua Bin Nun's times #856923
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    There are 8 cities listed in the gemara at the end of Arachin. Daf Yomi about 2-3 weeks ago.

    in reply to: recycling shalach monos #857957
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    If you get receycled from Yitay, its probably OK. His friends probably use hashgachos. But if its stuff that he bought and prepared, you have to be concerned that he just read the ingredients and paskened on his own what’s kosher, per the psak of his rav.

    in reply to: Leap Day – February 29 #856663
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    Wolf: Come visit us in Chicago! We may hit 60 tomorrow!!

    in reply to: Americanishe Meshugasim #854207
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    And another American Mishugas is the amount of people who learn Torah. In Europe, the men knew a little bit of Ein Yaakov, and the women some Tzena Urena. Why do so many people send so much time learning? They should work more, because thats what they’re meshabed themselves to do in the kesuba!

    in reply to: Americanishe Meshugasim #854206
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    The growing number of shomrei shabbos is getting totally out of hand. IN Europe, due to haskala and economic difficulty, the number of Shomrei Shabbos was declining. Why are we reversing that trend? American meshugassen!!

    in reply to: The Koach of our Gedolim: A Story with Rav Chaim shlit"a #851428
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    Syag, that is very interesting! I had never heard that! I would be curious who it was that introduced them to the Steipler? Because that would’ve been quite a while ago! I don’t know exactly how old you are, or where you fit in in relation to your siblings, but it should be close to 50 years ago!

    in reply to: Where's PBA?? #852140
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    Perhaps he’s in a Starbucks someplace.

    in reply to: Where's PBA?? #852138
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    POpa has been all over the place.

    in reply to: Random Questions #850446
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    There was never a president named Sam Harrison. William Henry Harrison and Benjamin Harrison, yes. But Sam? Nope.

    in reply to: our dor and the dor hamabul #1207612
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    Well informed: The amount of the gezel may be higher, but that does not necessarily make the maase gezel gamur. First of all it is not being motzi mamon from anyone. It is only minui revach. And second, There is no maase gezeila, as in vayigzol es hechanis miyad hamitzri.

    NOT CHAS VESHALOM saying that its muttar. The poskim have already ruled, and I do not consider myself a mechutzef enough to argue. But you said that what our people do is worse. I say that is debatable.

    in reply to: Chassidic Rebbes – how many are there? #849700
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    Well just in my list above, there are Bobov, Satmar, and Skver have 2 rebbes each, and Vizhnitz has 3. And there aren’t any Lubavitcher Rebbes today, and Dovid Hamelech’s list has 5 Chabads.

    in reply to: Which are the great subtitles in the coffeeroom? #895091
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    You just ask. If the mods are in a creative mood, they may give you something nice. I wonder what I would get if I asked?

    in reply to: Chassidic Rebbes – how many are there? #849695
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    Frankfurt and Kamenetz as Chssidic Rebbes?

    Belz, Bobov, Satmar, Stolin, Ger, Munkacz, Skver, Vizhnitz, comprise 90% of today’s chassidim, and they’re not there.

    What kind of joke is this list?

    in reply to: Baruch ShePatrani #848936
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    You are thanking Hashem that he gave you a job with a 13 year limit, and you successfully completed the responsibility.

    in reply to: Chassidic Rebbes – how many are there? #849693
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    I thought Bender was from Far Rockaway! (That’s about as far as I had patience to read.)

    in reply to: wow what a story #847648
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    I can tell you that Syag and her husband are wonderful people doing a great job in raising a family. But the source of truly caring for others comes from her mother, o’h. She laid the foundations for one of this countries greatest chesed organizations, without any fanfare whatsoever. Surely the greatest out of town organization.

    in reply to: Where's the snow??? #850123
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    50 tomorrow!! Yes!!

    in reply to: Appalling attitude of smokers. #847583
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    You have the right to feel however you feel. Just as he has the right to do what he wishes where there is no law against it.

    in reply to: If you've read "NASI Project Responds", have you changed your mind? #848223
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    “Most can.”

    That is where NASI is the MOST WRONG of everything that it does.

    in reply to: lack of menchlichkiet yeshiva administration #846803
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    This is a serious problem. I thik that we should move all siddur and chumash parties, as well as nursery and kindergarten graduations, to 8:30 PM. That way all of our 4 and 5 year olds will learn the virtues of late night study.

    We should train them at a very young age to not go to sleep on time. That way, by the time they get to yeshiva gedola, they will be ready to stay up learning till the wee hours of the morning, and then sleep through shacharis and half of morning seder. Perhaps we should provide them with cigarettes and beer. That will make them truly prepared for the full late Thursday night experience.

    in reply to: Where's the snow??? #850113
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    Syag? I think its time to put that check in the mail!

    in reply to: HELP?!?! #845235
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    As a Midwesterner, I can say with relative confidence, that there are no coffeeroom members in Kalamazoo. Having been through there many times on the way between Chicago and Detroit, and its proximity to South Haven, MI, home of Camp Aguda Midwest, I can say that there is not a single member of The Yeshiva World there. (Unless you count a teeny Chabad House on the campus of Western Michigan. Somehow this question doeas not appear to come from a shaliach.)

    in reply to: Where's the snow??? #850110
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    Where’s the snow? It’s right outside my stooopid window!! 4-8 inches piling up on Erev Shabbos yet! And we’re supposed to walk to my daughter for the seuda tonight, almost a mile away!

    in reply to: Last week #859234
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    Maybe he can give first hand reports on the hafganot!

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