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Take it easy da, it’s chocolate.

The only one that can be taken on an empty stomach with no adverse effects is tylenol”

Tylenol when taken in large doses, can cause liver damage.

Coke, I discerned what your problem was, but did not feel comfortable addressing it here. That said, try starting taking Advil (with food and if you do not eat only Cholov Yisroel food, you can take it with a bottle of Ensure or Boost) a day in ADVANCE of when you anticipate having this problem, and it does something to calm down the hormonal issues that cause pain.

Wait, Dr. Pepper – like an infomercial, THERE’S MORE! A few months later, my mom O”H went to a sisterhood meeting and got a ride home with one of her friends. It was late at night, maybe midnight, and they were sitting in the friend’s car in front of the driveway and schmoozing for a half hour. All of a sudden, they found themeselves surrounded by cops who shone their flashlights in their eyes, demanding to know what they were doing there.

The ladies got out of the car and explained they had come from a women’s meeting and were just chatting, and the officers informed them that a neighbor had called 911 to report a suspicious-looking car, with the headlights on and no sign of anyone exiting the car (which takeh WOULD be suspicious in my old neighborhood).

My mom was indignant and said, “What nut job would call the police on us?” By this time the “nut job” AKA my wonderful father O”H, sheepishly recognized my mother and came out to tell the cops to cuff her and take her away…er…to let her go as she is his wife. Embarrassed does not cover it. I think he is still making it up to her in Shamayim.

Thank you, Best Bubby. i would love to know what advice I gave you that was helpful ( I need to prove to my family that sometimes I really DO know what I am saying!).

You ask how it can be that the molestor is protected? Well, he may be a prominent person in the community – even a rabbi. People will cover up because they are afraid it will ruin shidduchim for the person’s family members. Or it is that we as a holy Jewish nation cannot fathom that a so-called “frum” person could possibly do something so sick, so we make ourselves really nishtvissendik, or refuse to believe that someone we think we know so well would be such a pervert. It is really painful to acknowledge that a family member could do something so sick. We also do not want the Goyishe Velt to see that even we can fall prey to our taivos, however abnormal they are. And when we are busy pointing fingers at Goyim, three fingers are pointing back at ourselves. Not a pretty picture.

No more than 3-4 at a time, AND do not exceed that dosage if you take it (only one time additionally during the day) again. Also, do not get dependent on the Advil, because it CAN cause inflammation of the liver (or was it the gall bladder?). I learned that the hard way, when after having an abscess over a three day yom tov (not this year), and self-medicating with OTC Ibuprofen, after a few days I was doubled over with pain in my upper abdomen. Be careful. Refuah shelaima.

It taps into the left side of your brain, when you rhyme words with a specific meter, and btw, a side benefit for us “old foks” is that it helps exercise the mind, much like a crossword puzzle does.

My wife usually gets a gift certificate for a manicure for the balabusta “

VERY NICE idea!!!!!!! When would you like to come for lunch…?

Bringing food is always a safe bet. Flowers are a touchy subject, and no one needs another candy dish.”

I say a bottle of Moscato is a safer bet. Everyone drinks wine (this one happens to be great), or if they don’t they can re-gift it to someone when they are invited out, or put it in a shalach manos to the machetonim. Food is a tricky item, because a) the hostess already cooked and b)there might be someone allergic in the family. We can never accept homemade food unless the guest checks with us on the ingredients, because a member of my family is highly allergic to sesame and other seeds, and presumed allergic to nuts, as well. So everything has to be checked and triple checked that it has no traces of those items. This is harde than one would think, as even equipment in a facility where nuts and seeds are processed can affect an item NOT made with those items. So check with your host.

A nice thing that someone did recently was to make a frozen dessert (first asked me if it was ok) in a lovely ceramic tart pan, and the pan and the dessert were a gift. After the first time, I would not want, much less expect someone to bring me a “hostess gift,” but the first time someone eats in my home, it is a nice thing for them to do, even a small token. I was brought up to do so. I have had people who never brought anything, other than their appetites, and I still invite them. Though it should not be expected, it is proper to show hakoras hatov in the form of a gift of some type even in a small way.

“Bourbon is really the way to go. It brings a smile to the face of any host. And, it will assure you more invitations….”

Seriously?? Bartenura Moscato di Asti does it for me. Bourbon (or any straight liquor (as opposed to a nice liqueur)makes me vomit.

Whatsa rhyming wive, Minyan Gal?

A name change is not meant to be.

My own suits me just perfectly.

In case you don’t know,

I’m attached to it so,

And anything else just ain’t ME!

I agree with 1st Timer. There may be many doctors on this blog who could give some insight into a variety of questions.

The Pam story is sweet, but I do not believe in helping someone celebrate something which is rooted mamesh in witchcraft. All Hallow’s Eve is avodah zara. I explained very nicely to the kids who first came to us, that we don’t celeberate their holiday, but hope they have fun. It was never a problem.

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Was that the actuary guy? “

Sorry, I am first seeing this today – No it was not Actuary Guy. It was Cheap & Thoughtless Date Guy. And no, I did not call my dad – it was way too late to disturb him, if I had another safe way of getting home. Ironically, this was a shidduch for which I never gave my approval. The person who set us up, called to give me a heads up that the guy was calling because she already gave him my number. There were a number of very pertinent reasons why I would NEVER have accepted this guy as a shidduch possibility, had she spoken to me first. He was a few years younger than I (I was 23, so you do the math), his religious hashkafa was off the wall and very much to the Left, he had no job, was NOT interested in dating seriously, which at age 23 I most assuredly WAS, and he was just not a thoughtful person. But I believed strongly in not embarrassing someone who was trying to do me a favor, and I figured it’s just a couple of hours of my time, at worst. Every truly uncomfortable date I ever had, was the result of someone giving out my number without speaking to me first.

Oh yeah, and THAT’S why a girl should always carry a purse.

With somewhat more delay than usual in moderating, I’m thinking that this is the thread to be in- gives everyone a chance to keep thinking about the riddle without seeing anyone else’s answers for a while.

1. Which English language word is most frequently spelled wrong?

2. What has one horn and gives milk?

3. What starts with “T”, ends with “T”, and is full of “T”?

4. What word becomes shorter by adding letters to it?

5. What 3 letter English word has an odd start, an even finish, and an infinitely long middle?

6. What falls but never breaks? Breaks but never falls?

7. Forward it is heavy, but backward it is not. What is it?

1. W-R-O-N-G

2. a milk delivery truck

3.

4.short

5.

6.something to do with the weather, climate, or seasons

7.ton

Best I could think of al regel achas…

“So, rather than let things fester, I did the sensible thing; I asked the friends husband if he wants to eat out. Once at the table, the 2 Mrs. were soon back on good terms. Not that there was a problem.. only a PERCIEVED problem.”

I like your style. That was a great idea (o’ course it coulda blown up in your face, if the two women really were broigez with each other!)

Ok, just FTR, if one observes one’s friend doing the wrong the thing, there is an inyan of Hocheiach tochiach es amitecha.

Also, for the one whose feelings are hurt, I would write your friend an extensive e-mail, telling her why you are hurt, and why you feel she is mistaken (this works for giving mussar to the person in whom you perceive a flaw, as well). It is hard to ignore what someone is saying when it is written in black and white and they can re-read and digest what is being stated. The words are also being written, no yelling involved, so the other party might “hear” what you are saying better than if you got into a verbal argument. There is no mistake in you saying one thing and the other person hearing something else. It is there b’ferush.

Klal Gadol – if someone had the secrets to making money, he wouldn’t be selling them.”

But that IS how he makes the money – by getting people to give it to him for what might be absolutely worthless information.

I do. I’m his chavrusa. He said he only pretends to like it to make you happy.”

Pops, if he wanted to make me HAPPIER, he would forget about decorating – it’s like toiten bahnkes! LOL

First, be sure you are correct and that it is a genuine flaw (not merely something that irritates YOU). You risk the obvious, being told, WELL YOU AREN’T SO PERFECT, EITHER, YA KNOW! Or worse, the friendship might be in jeopardy. It really depends on the seriousness of the issue, whether or not it is fixable (you don’t like her taste in clothing??? Big deal! You don’t like her taste in shidduchim – that’s another story), or whether the criticism is worth the potential backlash.

“You are stuck with the decorating because your husband doesn’t care if he lives in a barn. “

OY VEY – you SO do not know my husband! Between the two of us, HE is the one who enjoys shopping, window shopping, looking at different types of window treatments, etc. If he lived in a barn, it would be done in Country French. (I wouldn’t trade him for anyone!)

“All I can say Oomis, (and I mean this with the utmost respect to you)if you could be a guy for just 10 seconds, you’d understand why this is raising such hackles. “

I guess ya gotta be there, BPT. And with likewise the utmost respect for you, I would NEVER wanna be a guy for even ONE second! When I say “sheasani kirtzono, I have the MOST kavanah!!!! I cannot respond in further detail in this discussion, because I would probably end up edited anyway. 🙂

This is a sticky wicket. If you do not have the temperament or space to put someone up, then it might be better to not do so, rather than embarrass them or make them feel unwelcome.

We had a situation where a presumed Meshulach (a total stranger) came by our house and knocked on the door late at night wanting to sleep over. My husband asked him to wait a moment outside, gave him a drink and came to me in our room to tell me that he wanted to allow him to sleep over (hubby’s middle name is Avraham, and I think he takes that seriously).

We had three teenage daughters at home at the time, and I told my husband that due to my discomfort with this, we were not taking in a complete stranger late at night, especially when the whole situation seemed a little sketchy to me. BUT, on the chance that he was really just a simple meshulach who didn’t realize how late it was and missed his ride back to Williamsburg, I told my husband I was totally on board with paying for him for a night in a motel, and we would drive him there. He did not hear our exchange at all (both of my not wanting him to stay or of the offer to pay for a night’s lodging) and when my husband went out to tell him our decision (a process which took less than two minutes), he had disappeared.

Ideally, one should purchase the fruit pureed or puree them prior to use.”

Why – if there are bugs in them, are they in them any less, when pureed?

My husband was and is a very moral person, even when he was not frum. His parents, likewise were very morally upright people in every way. They simply did not follow the Torah Bein Odom LaMakom. Bein Odom l’chaveiro, I do not believe I have ever met more righteous people (except for my own parents, O”H). Because of that, I had no reservations about marrying him, and certainly no regrets.

ACIT – you raise some very pertinent issues. I wish you much hatzlacha and speed in finding your zivug. You sound like a very special young woman, from whom other B”T could learn a lesson or two. But please understand that you are unique. Many kids who come from an irreligious background or who were off the derech for some period of time, have done things that could have lasting repercussions on their health, reproductive ability, and so forth, and these are things that very much concern loving parents when looking for a shidduch for their children. You will G-d willing, be a mother some day, and you will see how you feel then.

The main reason to execute a heinous criminal, is to permanently remove him from ALL society (that includes prison inmates as well). How many murderers have killed guards and other prisoners while in prison?

“Incapacitation- To prevent criminals from continuing to do crime, we lock them up.

The death penalty does not incapacitate more than life in prison.”

Did I misread this? Death is way more incapacitating – it is permanent. Life in prison is not always life in prison. And personally, I don;t want my tax dollars to have to be spent in hiring personnel to guard, feed, house, and give health care to monsters who took those privileges away from someone else.

IF – and it is a big if – there is no question that COLD-blooded murder was committed by that person, with no mitigating factors (such as years of abuse, fear for life even if not imminent, etc.), then I am in favor of swift execution. if there is any mitigation at all, then I am in favor of prison time. Admitted terrorists should not even get to stand trial. They should be treated with the same “justice” that they dispensed to their victims. In fact, if they get caught BEFORE they were able to detonate the bomb – the bomb should be strapped to them and then detonated in a “safe” area. (I know, I know, it’s time for my valium).