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1) what is the proper shiur of latkes and jelly donuts that you must eat within 6 minutes, in order to be yotzei on the zecher l’shemen?
2)how much money constitutes Chanukah Gelt equivalent to a coin minted by the chashmonaim?
3) do you make a shehechaynu on the Chanukah presents received the first night, or are we already yotzei with the shehecheyanu made on the menorah?
These and other “burning” questions related to Chanukah, await your answers.
I forgot to say, I am also unexplainably scared of hearing a bug go CRRRRRUNCH, if I were to step on it, especially if it is a bigger than usual size bug. I also will not eat something that is plated or in bag on the table (i.e. in a restaurant) if as I am eating a bug merely passes nearby the food, but never touches it. I am so grossed out that it was in proximity to my food, that I cannot eat the food, that was perfectly clean.
I am so scared of mice, that when we had a problem, due to construction work going on next door, I called the exterminator, put sticky traps across every door’s threshhold, and slept in my shoes until we saw no more of them (yes, I know, you are not supposed to sleep with shoes on, but I was that scared of them !).
inconclusive evidence of that”
Sorry, Squeak, but with respect, I believe you are mistaken. They have conclusively linked cancer in many non-smokers, to their exposure to someone else’s smoking. And pediatricians will tell you that more children in smoking households come in for repeat checkups for URIs than those in non-smoking households.
I am VERY emotional when I eat. I cry if there is no chocolate.
My goodness, you must give us credit
We’re all busy now – there, I’ve said it!
You’ll just have to wait
For tomorrow’s date
By noon, I am sure you’ll have read it.
“And Oomis – I fully believe that in one angle or another, we will cross orbits when I start doing shidduchim. Just a hunch, but that’s my guess. Either an aunt, or macheteneste, or a neighbor, or co-worker. Somehow, I just see it on the horizon. “
It would be my honor and pleasure,BPT, and I sincerely hope you identify yourself, come that day!!!!
Shnayim ochzim b’talis, yachloiku, “
If that’s the exact wording (and no more in the sentence…) then I SAY it means – if two guys take hold of one tallis, they should fight over it (Yachloku). 😉
“oomis1105
Its clear from the story that we are talking about young able bodied girls. Although it would have been nice for someone to help they they weren’t exactly in serious need of help (and as the story teller said they were laughing so obviously ok and having fun) so why should anyone be obligated to help? “
Have you never fallen down and laughed out of embarrassment, and still really been unable to stand up? They fell into a pothole. I have fallen and laughed hard, and STILL could not stand up without help when I was much younger. Depends on how they fell. In any case, even for passing WOMEN not to help…
I had five kids. Each child was a different situation. Your best bet is to either “Ferberize” them, the method of going out, saying good night, and letting them cry for a few minutes, then coming back to reassure them that you are there and they should go to sleep, let them cry for a longer period, come back, etc, etc. OR you can simply allow the baby to cry (by three months, they are certainly old enough to go through this, as uncomfortable for you as this will be, but it will only be for a few days. Get ear plugs or the headset from a radio.
For anyone who likes to point out that their parent who smokes is a tzaddik in all other ways, and I totally believe you, substitute alchohol for the smoking addiction. No matter how wonderful that parent may have been all your life, would you defend alcoholism the same way? We are not impugning their niceness, or kindness or ability to face edversity. We are arguing that if they truly love their families to the best of their ability, they would love them AND themselves enough, to QUIT SMOKING. This is a vice that physically affects not only the one who does it, but all those around him/her. It EMOTIONALLY devastates the loved ones who have to live with the aftermath and pain of the damage the smoking does to the smoker, when they die a slow and painful death from lung cancer or emphsyema, stomach, or bladder cancer. There is no justifying this easily preventable tragedy. Those who “smoke three packs a day until they are 90 and die peacefully in their sleep, of old age,” are the VERY rare exception. Maybe they would have lived to 120, had they not smoked.
MO people with whom I am acquainted would NEVER order from Ben’s Deli.
Hebrew National was never treif meat in the past. I know personally the son (a Rov)of the former Rav Hamachshir). He always asserted that his father said that there was absolutely nothing intrinsically unkosher about Hebrew National, although it certainly was not a glatt hechsher. Those who were makpid on glatt at the time, would not eat it, but would not have been eating tarfus if they did.
Nowadays, the rov is gone, and I would not rely on what he said in the past. But at least 30 years ago, he stated it was kosher schechitah and kashering of the meat. BTW, I never used Hebrew National products at any time, but those who did, were not chayav on treif.
You appreciate much more, that which you have to work harder to attain.
I WAS kind of outed once, and I do not really care. I am not embarrassed by what I say, I try to be respectful, and really try to sound intelligent (though at times, I might fall short), so why should I care if “someone” knows who I am?
Mice (no offense to Squeak).
Also, lightning (if I am outdoors even for a second) and cockroaches. I absolutely freak out if I see either of those.
Wolf, if I understood you correctly, you are employed by someone who rents from the church. YOU are not supporting the church. Would you feel that way if you were a doctor in St. Johns Episcopal Hospital?
there’s a new product on the market dols for $10 at CVS – Twin Draft (?). It is a sleeve that contains a foam filling, it fits under the door and stops the draft from both sides.
Aries, well-said.
IS it FAIR?????? It’s ABOUT TIME!!!!!!!!! For all you princesses out there, Mom and Dad are all tapped out from paying for your Yeshivah tuition. You should not only pay for your own clothing, it wouldn’t hurt to do what my Dad O”H did, and kick in even a modest amount towards household expenses (you DO use the shower, blow dry your hair or use other electrical appliances, and talk on the house phone, don’t you?).
“Why does smoking bother people so much?
It seems to make people angry that others smoke.
Why do you think that is? “
Do you REALLY need to ask? It bothers us because 1) IT STINKS
2) it pollutes the air that I have to breathe, so even if a smoker does not care about what he is breathing, I DO 3) it makes people sick from breathing in second-hand smoke, and babies and young children have a measurably higher incidence of serious upper respiratory infections, when in the home with a smoker 4) it causes SEVERAL different types of cancer, emphysema, exacerbates asthma, and stains the teeth and nails, the nasty stench clings to the clothing of anyone unlucky enough to be nearby… I could go on and on. The most important thing is that smokers, like public cell phone users, tend to be incredibly self-absorbed, selfish, and oblivious and uncaring of the people around them. They will light up, and expect everyone else to adjust to their nasty habit. If they would smoke in a self-contained bubble, I wouldn’t care if they smoked their guts out. But since we share the same space, and it endangers mine and makes it unpleasant to be in that same space, I have a serious objection to it. Yes, it makes me VERY angry. BTW, I don;t want them to die, either.
LOVE, love, love it! Their pastrami burgers are wonderful.
“…hear 5 year old girls talking about dumping”
Excuse me, but I watch TV and never heard that expression, except in relation to garbage trucks, and it certainly was not something that 5 year old girls would be discussing. What does that expression mean to you?
If you are going to have people “pop in” to check up unexpectedly on your babysitter, please by all means inform her that some relatives will be coming over from time to time to “visit the baby,” and you are letting her know in advance that it is “OK” for her to let them in even if they were not expected (show pictures of the people to her so she will recognize them.
Otherwise, if I were the babysitter and some lady claimed to be the aunt or a grandparent wanting to visit the baby, I would not open the door to them without first speaking to the parents. Any babysitter who DID let a stranger in would be looking for a new job,as far as I am concerned.
The shopping issue of elaving kids outside while the moms shop, also reminded me that so many women will leave their kids alone with the cleaning woman, but hide their jewelry.
OY PBA.
Anti glare glass is a great idea. There was atime it was so bad, I put on those orange wraparound glare-cutting glasses (but I do not recommend this, as it might not be legal to drive at night that way – it DID help, though).
I don’t think this thread will be boring.
In fact, it’s a thread I’m adoring.
Sometimes it’s quite funny
At other times, pun-ny.
while reading it, I’m never snoring…
Poppa, I used to be the person who defended people who committed heinous crimes, with the PC idea that they were “misunderstood, brought up in a terrible home situtation, were abused while growing up, didn’t have the same advantages as I, blah blah blah…” There but for the grace of G-d…etc.
There comes a time when people must take responsibility for their actions. Jews in Europe often grew up in abject poverty, were physically abused by the Goyim; their mothers, daughters, and sisters were raped by the Cossaks, and NONE of us will ever be able to comprehend what unspeakable evil the Nazis, yemach shemam v’zichram, perpetrated on their bodies and souls. Did most, or even a large number, of Jews become perverts, murderers, sexual abusers, because of what they suffered? The excuse that any abusive person couldn’t help it because of his background, does not excuse his behavior.
My only issue vis a vis sexual predators, is that not everyone who is on the list of perverts, is necessarily a bona fide predator. Many young men who had a consenting physical relationship with their underage girlfriends (even 15 and a half is legally underage for a girl to consent), were arrested on statutory rape charges, and are listed as pedophiles, and I think that is wrong. If they were both the same age (15), the girl would not be charged for having a relationship with a minor, and that is a double-standard. Other than that, I say they deserve what they get.
Quinoa is not kitniyos, BUT – in order to be chametz-free, I was told it has to be grown somewhere that is not near chametzdig grains. Some rabbonim therefore hold it should not be used on Pesach, but others who have checked it out, will allow certain brands to be used. It’s kind of like how mushrooms need a special hechsher for Pesach.
My husband likes it, but it makes me barf. Though it looks somewhat like cous cous (which I do like), it has a weird texture and taste, even when prepared properly by an appetizing store, that I just cannot warm up to (sorry for splitting my infinitives, again).
“jakyweb: If you don’t like the society, feel free to leave it. I’m sure the Reform will welcome you, take pictures of you, and post your pictures all over their publications and websites. “
A true Ben Torah would not have posted such an boorish and uncalled-for comment such as yours. I am with Jakyweb on this one. She makes a very salient point. If you, BT, disagree with her position (and you have the right to do so), then try framing that disagreement in a respectful tone. people who make comments such as yours, only reinforce the notion that some people hold that the Yeshivishe world is judgmental, intolerant, and fanatic.
Hillel Hazakein would never have responded as you did, and he had good reason to do so. What was your excuse? You owe Jakyweb a sincere apology.
A child needs to be questioned in a way that does NOT “suggest” the truth to him/her. Some kids are too young to explain things, or even to understand what they are being asked. When my husband was a teacher in the PS system, an emotionally-disturbed child accused him of abuse (not molestation). She had climbed on a chair and was rocking back and forth and it tipped, all in the space of a second or two. He caught her just as she began to fall, and sat her down firmly in her seat with a stern admonition to NOT get up again. She told her parents that he shoved her down and hit her, and a report was filed against him at school.
VERY fortunately his assistants were present and witnessed the entire incident, and stated unequivocally that he had saved her from injury, and did not shove or harm her in any way. However, the otherclassmates, many of whom were non-verbal in this special education class, “stated” (meaning they were spoonfed the question and answer) that he HAD pushed her. I don’t know how kids who cannot speak at all could make such a verbal assertion, but that being said, the very next day, the extremely embarrassed parents who filed the complaint, acknowledged that their daughter finally admitted to them that she made the shoving story up, because she wanted to go to a different class where she had been the previous year, and thought if she said something bad about her present teacher, they would move her out.
Now, my husband was cleared of any scintilla of suspicion of wrongdoing, but it remained in his file that an accusation has been made, albeit that it was dismissed as without any foundation. Still, it is like sending something into Cyberspace -it is there forever.
In goyishe courts. That is antithetical to Torah Judaism and its laws for its courts and evidence”
However, Dina d’malchusah, dina, and molestation is a very serious crime in the secular courts. Therefore, we cannot hide an accusation, just because the Torah standard of proof is higher. we still have to abide by the law of the land. (I am not suggesting turning someone over to the courts without proof that is incontrovertible).
I personally like the CVS Brand tape myself, but you can go with Scotch, if you like. (It IS more expensive, though).
“it is a compliment to the ladies that the newspaper values their dignity”
I respectfully do not agree that you are correct. They are not concerned about women’s dignity. There is nothing undignified about having a mice picture in the paper. If there was, then the men should be similarly concerned about their own dignity.
You and I both know that the reason is, they do not believe it to be tzniusdig to show a picture of a woman in a paper read by men, even if the picture is inherently tzanuah. It is not for me to argue the merits of that idea, and I am sure most people who have read my comments could discern what my opinion might be. Butin any case, please do not try to couch it in terms of it being for the BENEFIT of women’s dignity, to basically refuse to acknowledge their presence as half the world’s population.
Hinei Ba’ohel, does not necessarily mean she never walked outside her tent to be seen by anyone. But if it does, that was a generation when women in general were probably not seen much if at all, because they were viewed by so many, as chattel. It certainly was not because of the Torah, which a) had not yet been given and b) does not direct us to keep women ensconced solely at home. (And if you want to argue that it does, then I would respectfully answer then that no kollel wife should be out earning a parnassah – she should stay home in her ohel.)
I have never been drunk, but when I have arba kosos on pesach, I am usually VERY happy. I never drink more than a serving or two of a mixed drink, and only at a catered simcha (never at home or at shul).
Also, if you are capable, how about tutoring for free? Chai Lifeline, Yachad, HASC, all need volunteers.
Tomchei and Bikur Cholim come to mind.
“Of course no one came to help them. “
And THOSE are the ones who should be embarrassed, not the girls.
Let’s not whine about it if it is kosher.
Moscato di Asti – YES!
@oomis – We all know what “retard” really means and that it can be used in a technical way, but there are MANY names and words that become slang with a derogatory meaning over time. I could give you the definition of “gay” as being “happy” but you probably wouldn’t take kindly to someone calling you “gay” with a defense of “look it up in the dictionary”. That should be pretty obvious…’
SeanBN – I totally support you. Perhaps you misunderstood my intent. I do not expect you to take kindly to what Bombmaniac wrote. Quite the contrary – it was insensitive at best, and in really bad taste (though in his defense, I doubt he meant offense and surely did not expect such a reaction from us).
I was however, pointing out that the original meaning of the word has absolutely no insulting connotation attached, and it is a shame that it has come to mean something offensive. Sorry, if what I wrote made you think I was trying to defend the use of a word that has come to have a negative meaning.
My good friend, Art Scroll would love to help him.
Unless she is watching stuff that makes the innuendo crystal-clear (to a BY girl who has never been exposed to the “harsh realities” of those innuendoes before, and therefore would not understand them anyway), it is not your concern, if it is not her PARENTS’ concern (and apparently, they are not worried about it). I would stay out of it, unless asked for my opinion.
I remember seeing Shrek, which is rife with innuendo, most of which I MYSELF did not get, the first time around. I doubt a BY girl would get most, if any, of the referrences.
I suggest the guys Pesach (pass over) this thread until further notice.
The way I bowl (though I have not done so in a long time), no one would accuse me of not being tzniusdig – (klutzy and coordinationally-challenged, maybe, but not untzniusdig).
Shlomozalman – beautiful paragraph. Let me know when the Purim edition comes out.
Kives, this was clearly meant to be a joke – though in truly questionable taste, Bomb. Really.
But FTR, the word “retard” simply means slow, NOT stupid. There is no question that developmentally-delayed people have retarded mental development. They are in fact called Children with Retarded Mental Devlopment (CRMD) in the education system. Autistic children run through an entire spectrum of development. Some autistic children are geniuses, some are at the opposite end. In either case, no one should use the word “retard” in a pejorative sense.
There is very little that is worthwhile or even entertaining to watch on TV these days. Plus, the more you watch, the more likely you are to become obese or get insufficient exercise, even if you do not gain much weight.
“oomis, frum kids DON”T make up these stories they are too sheltered to know about this to begin with! If a boy talks to a girl he is going to gehenim remember? So do you think he would make this up and die right on the spot????? “
FTR, only SOME frum kids are sheltered, Aries, and some are not. One little girl told me that someone touched her (body part) and it hurt her. She spoke matter-of-factly, and I became very upset until I found out from her mom (to whom I felt obligated to relay the information) that it was in fact her pediatrician, the mom was there, and the child had a UTI and was being examined. To a small child, there is a thin line between good and bad. They do not always understand the ramifications of what they say, or how important the WHOLE story is in context.
“Innocent until proven guilty (both a Jewish and American concept) means we dont convict based on the press reports, hearsay, or he said/she said claims and ruin a persons life and reputation prior to proof has been fully made and a conviction obtained.”
Firstly it is legally PRESUMED innocent.” The distinction is important, because if the person was considered innocent, he or she would not be arrested in the first place. People are convicted on things other than concrete evidence ALL the time, make no mistake about that. They are also let go, despite overwhelming evidence (OJ, anyone?) to the contrary. As to reputation – once someone has been accused, his/her reputation has gone to the dogs, no matter what truth comes out in the end, especially where molestation is concerned. People usually believe the old adage that “where there’s smoke, there’s fire,” and iof it was not true this time, it probably was true at SOME time.
I had not heard of it, but I surmised what it might be. I can only say that the pushing stage of labor, requires a great deal of pressure exerted by the mother, and I have burst capillaries in my face and eye during one of the births. Speak to your doc, but if there is any danger of detaching or tearing a retina due to labor, a C-section is a safer bet. Retinal damage (depending on its severity) can result in blindness.
Avi Weiss and company were decrying the way people disrespect gays… “
MW13, I did not read the article in question (how on earth did I miss that?), but I will say one thing – we all need to learn to act with respect towards all people who are decent, good people, regardless of whether or not their personal lifestyle is repugnant to us as Orthodox Jews who live by the Torah. Please note I said “respect.” I did not say we should endorse, enable, support, agree with, or even like their way of life.
Respect must be shown to all people. We live in a Democracy, and it is not governed by the laws of the Torah. We are also here at the sufferance of this country (with the complete help of Hashem), and it is not for us to disrespect its citizenry with whom we do not agree. Also please note, I said, “decent, good” people. There are gays, and there are disgusting gays, just as there are heteros and unabashedly immoral heteros who enjoy flaunting their disgusting actions in the street.
I don’t think Avi Weiss (who has certainly misspoken and misstepped a bit this year in some respects) was so very out of line in what you wrote about him, as to warrant no longer reading the Jewish Press. But, hey, I respect your choice.