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Hunter is excellent. My son received his LMSW from there. He was accepted at Wurzweiler and Columbia also, BUT, the scholarship offered was greatest at Hunter, and for his particular program, it was the best choice. There IS a difference between Hunter and Columbia, depending on whether or not you plan to be a clinician or academic. For clinical work, Hunter is top notch. it is also highly regarded in the field.
I made your idea of the fish / salmon and the cucumbers for the chrain. It looked divine! Thanks for the idea. I actually made my own rolls of fish from scratch. We thoroughly enjoyed the simcha B’H and enjoying the next stage in life I’YH – loving and enjoying the einaklach and I’YH great grandchildren in good health! May we all share many simachot with simcha be karov!!! “
TBB, mazel tov, belatedly, on marrying off your mezinik, and boy am I excited when I get positive feedback on my cooking posts!Amein to your last sentence.
If we do not forget a tragedy that happened to us (twice) a couple of thousands of years ago, and still mourn, why would we ever forget something horrific and tragic that mamesh happened in our own lifetime?
The Best Bubby (I thought I was, but nevermind…) had the right idea. Only send Pesachdig non-perishables. If it is not edible as is, it is not Mishloach Manos. It’s not her birthday or Mother’s Day. Flowers are nice at those times, but do not fulfill the MM mitzvah, and unless they are meant to be eaten, make no sense, for Purim.
First day, but still called the “weekend.”
I made a wonderful meal the other day, that I think would make for a lovely Friday night dinner. I took three large bell peppers of assorted colors, sliced off a thin slice from each bottom and top, then sliced them across in thirds, to form three rings from each pepper, about 1/2″ thick each. I filled each ring with a mixture of chopped meat (such as I would make for a meatloaf or meatballs) and added a little crushed basil and lemon pepper to the mixture as well. I then diced and sauteed in a large fry pan, whatever extra pepper slices remained from the parts I had cut off originally, added in chopped onion, sliced mushrooms, and fresh crushed garlic , and when they were soft and slightly browned, poured in a couple of jars of marinara sauce, plus half a jar of water,mixed in some additional basil, a little rosemary, kosher salt, and lemon pepper. I let everything simmer for a minute then gently placed the stuffed pepper rings in the simmering sauce, covered the pan and simmered everything for about an hour. I served it over a bed of brown rice, and my family is STILL complimenting me. When putting the stuffed pepper rings in, and serving them, be very careful and use a spatula.
You can get a one time postponement. But eventually they will call you in again with a “Must Serve” notice. If you can get a doctor’s note that shows you have a physical or mental incapacity, that could get you out of it. But really, don’t you want to do your civic duty???? Hmmmmn….?
I always thought that giving a siman for something in advance is ok (i.e., Eliezer’s siman regarding if a girl would offer him water and offer to water his camels as well, that it would mean that she was the chosen bride for Yitzchak Avinu. However, it is assur to say after the fact of an occurrence,i.e., a bird suddenly flies overhead and lands on your shoulder, “Oh, that is a sign that such and such will happen.”
“I thought this sounded familar. Oomis, was this just an expression, or am I right and you are quoting Maxwell? “
BPT, you are quite Smart! 🙂
How are men supposed to vote and be at work at the same time (or for the very Yeshivish – vote, and be in the Beis Medrash at the same time?
Because of this new attitude -I’m not the least bit surprised that there are women whom only want to marry other women.”
The “new attitude” is not the problem. Women who want to marry other women (and men who want to be with men) are who they are, irrespective of women’s lib and “new attitudes.” You could not be implying there were no gay people 3,000 years ago – because apparently Hashem thought it potentially was enough of a problem, to destroy Sodom and Gomorrah, and to give us halachos against these practices.
“so you’re saying now instead of dealing with their problem’s they’re running away from it?”
No, they could not deal with their problems, because they had no SAY in anything then. Women were chattel, like any other property of their husbands. Men made ALL the decisions, and women were expected to bow to their will. Of course, the men ALSO brought home the kosher meat and potatoes. Were they NOT the breadwinners, the women would have had NO one to take care of them, and where, after all, WOULD they go, even if their husbands WERE abusive? Abuse was virtually NEVER spoken of anywhere. Even to this day, it is underreported and considered shameful if someone speaks out about it.
There were few divorces, because the stigma of divorce was so awful in those years. Women bore abusive, or even merely unhappy and unfulfilling marriages, because the alternative was even more scary to them. they did so because of the “shanda” of being divorced. And what would they do with the children? Who would want to marry them? And even today, don’t people often shy away from a shidduch from a broken home, though it is surely not the child’s fault that the parents didn’t stay married to each other?
Women were so financially, emotionally, physically, and in every way dependent upon their husbands then, that it took great courage to walk away from a bad situation. When women got the right to vote, the right to earn their own living, the right to be paid equally (still working on that one) with men working in the same job, they also got more options. Some may not like this, but I guarantee you, this is not going away any time soon. Women are educated and world-savvy now, and there is no going back to the good ole days, which in some respects weren’t quite as good as we like to think.
The yarmulkah is known as an “achdus” Kippah. It reflects the unity of various types of Jews who are ALL frum. It is big in E”Y, my son brought it home with him after his Shana Bet. I thought it makes a poignant statement.
the question is do women follow politics enough to give educated decisions (this applies to other groups of people as well) “
The question is – do men?
I did not read the book, BUT I did see the interview on The View. Sickening. BTW, since when does the product of a Yeshivah education that gives girls the “reading level of a 4th grader” have the ability to speak so articulately and write a publishable book that she can hawk on TV? This woman is a phony through and through. The things she asserted as truths to the co-hosts were absolute rubbish. And they fed into it! How did a girl who never graduated from high school, much less with a 4th grade level of reading, get accepted to a prestigious school like Sarah Lawrence College?
She didn’t even say “Chuppah” when talking about her wedding, but pronounced it “huppah,” and kept using the term “hasidim” and not “Chassidim,” which though possible, is very unlikely for someone who grew up as a Satmar chossid. Her speech was surprisingly articulate for a so-called chassidic under-educated person.
I see someone like a good Broadway show. 🙂
HUH?????? I do not get your point. Legislative change gave women the right to vote a LONG time ago, before they routinely went to work outside the home. As women are (more than) 50% of the population, they deserve the right to vote, just as men do. And given the fact that women are financially supporting their families, often in lieu of their men, they are even MORE deserving of having a say in the politics of our country. Simple as that.
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How’d I do?
My daughter went on the trip (it was gender-mixed) with a group of her friends. Though it was Orthodox in nature,realistically only she and her friends plus a few other members of the group actually were frum. They were the ones who got up to daven every morning, and paused for mincha and maariv later in the day. Their group did not go to any bars, but the absolute rule was that no one could deviate from the planned itinerary (for safety’s sake).
It was the best time of her life, to that point and instilled a great awe of E”Y in her as she stood on mekomos kedoshim and realized our Avos and Emahos walked there, too. Nowadays, I don’t knwo what the program is like, if it still exists. I had heard the funding was withdrawn.
Halacha, we ALWAYS have to follow. But lots of these things that were not halacha, but rather only considered to be prevailing wisdom/advice for the times.
I have never smelled it so I don’t know, but I absolutely love a perfume by Avon, Far Away.
Personally, I believe that the fact that a plane can fly and not crash is a miracle from Hashem altogether.
I agree about the bungalow reference. I think it is very bad for a wife and kids to leave the husband/dad alone all week and have him come up for Shabbbosim. If a family goes away, they should ALL go away together. JMO. I think the bungalow money could be better spent. I never got that mentality, to be honest. If I could afford to get away, I would want to be waited on hand and foot, not have to pack up my belongings, and then do everything I normally have to do at home (laundry, cooking, cleaning) somewhere else.
PBA, some kids did something similar to my husband when he was teaching in a chassidish yeshivah. Only in his case, what they actually did was remove the hinges from a class closet door, put the door back, and were waiting for him to open the door and have it fall on him. What a riot, right? Just hilarious!
What actually happened, however, was the Rosh Yeshivah came into the class for something, and opened the closet door to find it, and the door fell off on HIM! It was NOT a pretty sight, and the boys got into deep trouble. My husband was mortified, but he had no idea the boys had done this before he came into the classroom (apparently they were unsupervised for some time after limudei kodesh). What kids think of as harmless pranks, may not always be quite so harmless.
Why should everything that happens to us be a potch from Above and not a yeshua”
Because a potch always seems to get one’s attention, but a yeshua does not, necessarily. It is the nature of Man to NOT always be makir tov. Sometimes we need a wakeup call, unfortunately. BTW, everything that happens to us is NOT a potch. We just take everything good for granted.
Would love to eat caviar once in my life….”
There is such a thing as kosher caviar (it tastes vile to me, way too salty). Caviar is only fish eggs. ever have roe with your gefilte fish???? Now THAT’S good stuff!
Maybe you could try to convince your parents to make aliyah with you?
Amein.
I didn’t. So what do I win?
It’s a minhag for some not to, but it is NOT assur. Otherwise we could never eat tuna melts. I always thought, rightly or wrongly, that the reason for that minhag was because we can’t eat basar and chalav, and fish are a type of “basar” when you come right down to it,so maybe the halacha extended for some even to not mixing FISH and chalav. It’s a stretch, perhaps, but i could see the line of reasoning, if that in fact IS the line of reasoning.
Would it cheer you up more to realize that PESACH is right around the corner (it makes ME happy – I Love Pesach!!!!)?
“some people say they have seen the ushpizin.I don’t see them,but I believe they are in my sukkah.And believing is greater than seeing!”(Torah Tavlin) “
This is so interesting – it was the exact story I was going to tell over. But I heard a slightly different version from a Rov giving over a shiur. His version was that R’ Mendel was giving a shiur and suddenly asked his talmidim, Who here believes that the Ushpizin come to their sukkah?” All the hands went up. He then said, “Well, I do NOT believe it!” Everyone looked around, dismayed and confused. “I do not BELIEVE it,” he went on to say, “because when I am sitting in my sukkah, I KNOW they are there. I can feel them all around me!”
Whatever version is the accurate one, that story has had a profound impact on me even to this day. The Kotzker Rov ZT”L was a gevaldig man, and his neshama should have an aliyah today.
The Best Bubby (thought I was, but I’m willing to share the title). How was the aufruf, and how did the fish come out? For some reason I never saw this thread again until now, even when you wrote your original reply about the aufruf.
oomis, if you want to be technical, he said “Purim-Fest 1946” (in German obviously). “
Yup.
oomis1105 (et al.) – The assumption is that Streicher understood that the highlight of Purim was the mass hanging of the enemies of the Jewish people (remember it was all the leading war criminals being executed at the same time in 1946). He might have made the connection that the Jewish people had no (direct, this worldly) influence on the trials or executions (carried out by Ahasuerus and the Allies, quite of their own volition).”
No doubt you are right. It just was such an odd thing to say of ALL the things he could say at that moment. How many Goyim do you think really know or care about Purim?
I agree. If she won’t speak to you, either text her that you miss her and are sorry, OR better yet, send her a really nice Hallmark card of that type and write a heartfelt SNAIL mail apology.
oomis1105: she is wrong, and i am the first to admit that she is wrong and that what she did is awful, but i havent written her off as a jew or a person because i know what drove her to it.”
Neither have we. But we condemn her actions, not the person.
you all know that im working on a book…and let me tell you it is taking a LOT of self control not to use it as a platform to air my grievances about our community–and i have many. but i know what it feels like to want to, i know where that feeling comes from, and i therefore cannot disparage her for wanting to do that. “
The difference, my dear, is that YOU haven’t done so, and she has. It is a crucial difference. I am sorry for whatever you have gone through, and I sincerely hope your life is on track and happier now, but you withstood the temptation to be motzi shem ra on ALL of Judaism, because of your personal struggle with whatever has challenged you. She, however, takes an obvious special pleasure from airing her dirty laundry, and THAT is what grigerehs our kishkes.
i can condemn it…and i do…but i havent given up on her as a person. “
I don’t think we gave up on her as much as she has defiantly given up on all of Judaism. And BOY, does she love sticking it to us publicly. Over and over again. And she is doing it to make money. If she truly were a decent person, she would not tar the really FINE people who are frum, with the same brush she uses on those whom she feels did her wrong.
Gee. And here I thought it was all about us. Go figure :/ “
Sorry about that, Chief.
I think Mikehall hit it on the nose. But the one statement should have been made that all religiously observant Jews, no matter WHAT their background, follow the laws of Kashrus, Shabbos, and Taharas Hamishpacha. It’s a Torah thing, not a chassidish lifestyle choice.
Soliek, we have NO idea what she actually went through. Only what this farbissen woman has published all over the place. Someone filled with such venom, to write about Jewish life that from her perspective is miserable, is doing it to get revenge. The look on her face says it all. My cousin’s son also became disillusioned in his chassidic life, and became completely frei. But he did not rub everyone’s noses in it. And he does not do things tzu l’hach-iss.
I do not believe she is mentally retarded, but I do think she has some type of emotional disturbance, because of her need to defame every aspect of her former life, and her desire to “show us” how she will do whatever on earth she wants and defies us to stop her. That is just over the top, even for someone disgruntled. Your life stinks? So either get over it or move on. But don’t try to hurt everyone around you in the process.
When Julius Steicher ym”s mounted the gallows his last words were “today is Purim” although actually it was Heshvan.
He actually called out Purim Fest, and no one could understand why, as you are right, it was not Purim time. The inyan with the small letters that gave us the Jewish year, is an amazing bit of Hashgocha Protis.
Personally, I like the leichter to be set up specifically as a “zechus mitzvah” for the next Shabbos. My husband handles this tafkid, so it gives him the opportunity to actively participate in specific Shabbos preparations. That is not to say he doesn’t help me in other ways, too, but this is his “baby.” And don’t we daven every day “hayom yom… ba-Shabbos?” We are supposed to be thinking every single day, of the next Shabbos, so why not immediately AFTER Shabbos, in a meaningful way that actually impacts on the Shabbos?
I only watched part two. It’s great and all, but something bothered me. I have nothing against Chassidim, but it bugged me when Oprah said stuff like “Hassidic Jews cover their hair.” “Hassidic Jews wear black hats and have beards.” “Hassidic Jews keep kosher.” All frum Jews keep all of that (well, except the beards). I guess it’s just to keep things from getting too confusing? “
Thank you – that is exactly what I said yesterday when I watched it. My criticism was in the implication that ONLY chassidim act a certain way or hold by certain things. I recently read an editorial about the Hamptons Eruv controversy, in which the (Jewish) writer stated that the purpose of the eruv is to enable Jews to do certain things that are forbidden on Shabbos. He went on to list a few of those “things” and included among them, carrying housekeys, wheeling a baby carriage, and DRIVING A CAR. I immediately wrote him a letter about this, correcting his misinformation, and have yet to see a retraction.
Greatest, that’s a pretty strong “only reason” would you not agree?
War is terrible. But if they were forced to take such a drastic action, it would be more in keeping with the Megillah if they did it the day before Purim.
Funniest of all? When my wife puts on makeup/ eyeliner to go to the gym. And its an all woman facility! “
Which goes to prove what I have maintained all along – women dress for and put on makeup to look nice for themselves and for other women, and not necessarily to attract a man. We just like to look and feel pretty – period.
These posts all demonstrate exactly why it cannot happen until we have a Beis Hamikdash and Sanhedrin again.
(my line about those poor crabs was my attempt at humor). “
Don’t worry – I GOT that the first time around 🙂
We set up the leichter for the next Shabbos.
OK, wolf, DY, et al: I have nothing personal against crabcakes. They smell delicious, they look delicious, the might even BE delicious. But they are not kosher, so we can’t eat them.
That said, “retzicha” in the sense that I used it, CLEARLY refers to an expression said with hateful vehemence. Though the Hebrew word means murder, when used in the Yiddish context in which I used it, it correctly means (more or less) spitefully.
I hope that clears things up, so I can go back to marching with PETA…er…I am not a member of PETA, nor do I believe in the aspects of their philosophy that makes it a crime against humanity to wear animal fur (though to be honest I do not own any), nor test drugs on animals in the absence of ANY OTHER way to test the safety of those necessary drugs. I do believe we need to be makpid in the Torah mandated guarding against tzaar baalei chayim, but human safety still comes before animal rights.