oomis

I once had a friend and relative whose main desire in life was to learn and go to college, while at the same time plan his future and get married, though his mother and father told him him that they thought he should finish his schooling and get a job before doing anything else.

I was taught that even if you cheshbon Tzedaka for a specific purpose, you may change your mind and give it elsewhere, if needed. That said, if I have ever been “strapped for cash” in a moment and needed to “borrow” from the pushka, I wrote a check corresponding to that amount, and sent it out to tzedaka, knowing that the funds would be available by the time the check would be cashed by the party to whom I wrote it. I only keep a general tzedaka box in my home. When I want to donate to a specific place, I just send the check to them. Personally, I like to donate to Hachnossas Kallah, Tomchei Shabbos, and Hatzolah.

I would send your mother, sister, or wife to shop for you.

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I appreciate Hashem for providing these things. However, that being said, did Moshe Rabbeinu not show hakoras hatov to inanimate (much less animate) objects such as the Nile River, for hiding him, by not striking it with his staff to turn it to blood? I think the Torah teaches us in genreal that we need to be makirei hatov, because if we cannot recognize the good that is done for us through simple venues, how can we properly thank Hashem and reccognize his Tov v’Chessed to us every single day for the myriad of things he does for us?

Still – I am not walking over to Elsie and saying todah rabbah. I might give her some gourmet hay, though.

What part of this thread was offensive to you HaLeiVi?

There are 45k lawyers graduating every year. There are 30k job openings every year. “

So I would advise those graduates to have a backup plan. They still need to put food on the table.

Everyone and his second cousin cannot be a mechanech, so a backup plan is ALWAYS a great idea. And I would say the same thing to a lawyer, if there truly is a glut of lawyers without jobs.

and so that we can restore a perfectly legitimate name that was good enough for many a girl or woman who died al kiddush Hashem to bear.”

While I agree with you totally in theory, “Yenta” is still not Loshon Kodesh, and on THOSE grounds I am not a fan of naming a child that, or any other name that is not Hebrew.

I understand and appreciate the view that babies should be named for Tzaddikim, kedoshim, and Gedolim, but I cannot help but think that one of our zchusim in Mitzrayim was that we did not take on the names of the goyim, even when those goyim were were good to us (did any Jews ever name their sons Tzafnas Paneach for Yosef? They might have, but I doubt it happened until the days of Alexander the Great).

Many people have trouble expressing their emotions, but a simple thanks, I appreciate what you did, is easy to say. You might feel it comes across as “phony” or uncharacteristic, ebcause you don’t generally do it, but if you make yourself say the wors, after a while it will come naturally to you.

Look at it this way – if you cannot express hakoras hatov to your own parents and mean it, how can you do so to Hashem?

B”H, thanks for letting us know. Nice way to start the week.

bombmaniac – you da bomb! (feeling better now?)

Nail Dry.

Upsherin has its roots (pun intended) in the comparison of Man to a Tree in the field. And just as the tree’s fruits are orlah and not picked for three years, after which they may then be “shorn” from the tree and eaten, so, too, do some of us have a minhag to wait three years and then cut the child’s hair.

MAZEL TOV!!!!!!! May you have a lifetime of simcha together as you build a BN”B.

This is interesting to me. I once worked for a Jewish book publishing company and was given the assignment to edit a special Birchas Hamazon that was being annotated by Rav Immanuel Jakubowitz (sp?)who was then Chief Rabbi of England. He repeatedly wrote the name out as G o d (no spaces), and I respectfully wrote in my recommendations, that it was more typically written as G-d and I would like to make the changes. He sent me back a polite thank you note and said that it should be written exactly as he specified, that there was no reason to write a dash and omit the o. We did it his way, of course.

It depends on what you mean by better. Girls have much more responsibility thrust on them at a young age than boys typically ever will in a yeshivish household (actually in most households).

The boys spend many years learning, while the girls go to Yeshivah AND get educated for a job that will bring in parnassah to support their husbands while they continue to sit and learn. I would like to remind you that Zevulun is EVERY bit as choshuv and s’char-worthy as Yissachar. The only difference is that zevulun, unlike young women today, was not expected to also be pregnant and raise the family while earning that parnassah to facilitate Yissachar’s learning. In that way, yeah, I think girls might be a little better.

Don’t laugh, this just happened to me before I read your post, with a container of “smooth” yogurt. I am going back to Chobani.

Tehillim said, davening for her refuah shelaima b’soch sh’or cholei Yisroel.

oomis1105 -“All those qualities contained in me, of course, reflect a top, top shvigger.”

Ok, I’m still waiting. “

There are too many things to list here, with love and support in a non-judgmental way, heading the list. My son-in-law appreciates all the help I have given them in child care for the last three years, the love and devotion that we give to him personally, my respect for him both as my son-in-law and as a person, the way I interact with his parents and siblings, etc. Likewise, his parents love my daughter, and I appreciate that.

My daughter-in-law knows she can call me any time of the day or night (and she has), if she has a question or a problem, something she is worried about. She respects and values my opinion, and will call me to schmooze, if she needs another sounding board. Typically, you see that only with one’s own mother, but my DIL trusts me, and even when we see things differently, she knows she can come to me,even with personal issues. She knows she is loved, and when she gave birth to my beautiful grandsons, the first thing I said to her was thank you from the bottom of my heart for the beautiful matanos she gave us.

The bottom line, I learned from observing my own mother how to be a truly wonderful shvigger. My husband cried when she was nifteres, saying to her that she was a mother to him, not a MIL. His own mother, who was ill for all of the time that I knew her, was nonetheless very loving and wonderful to me, and in turn, I was a devoted DIL to her. The best way to be a good shvigger is to show your kids that you are a good in-law child, as well.

Aside… I do hope you get that I was kidding around when I said top, top shvigger. I try to be, but we all make mistakes. The best thing is to let the kids live their lives; we already HAD our shot.

Thanks oomis, I feel the same way about you and was actually going to post just find out if you were ok in the hurricane and if you evacuated. “

We were indeed evacuated on Shabbos (I chose to leave on Friday, because even though one may be mechallel Shabbos for pikuach nefesh, there was no justification for me to wait for the evacuation order when I could just as easily leave before Shabbos.) and I was fortunate to have Mishpacha in a safer neighborhood. B”H all is well, and we came home on Sunday to an intact home, though I heard people around the corner from me were looted. I feel as if any would-be looters would have come by my house, they would have taken one look, had rachmanus, and left a fifty dollar bill on the door, with a note, “You clearly need this more than we do.”

“Deleted posts? No, this I cannot imagine. Even when you say something out in left field, its with such refinement, I’d be hard pressed to think of a time that a comment of yours would flunk the mods’s edit button “

Hard to believe, but yep, it has happened. But I do sincerely thank you for your very kind words.

And Mods – yeshivish or not, if everyone here is busy simply agreeing with each other, there is no need for a coffee room. All the fun is in the exchange of ideas (within reason, of course) and friendly debate. Just my observation. 🙂

All the responses makes sense to me. Immature might be the best description.

My wonderful and extremely kindhearted mother O”H, was known for her bloopers. She would say innocent things that often came out just plain WRONG.

Twenty-five years ago, when she unfortunately was sitting shiva for her sister, an elderly male friend of our family came over to pay a shiva call, and came into the room where she was about to eat lunch. She did a double take and blurted out, “OH!I thought you were my dead brother-in-law!” To which my brother quipped, “Before or after he died?” Needless to say, she only meant that the resemblance momentarily had startled her. But after the initial shock wore off, we all had a good laugh (including the “zombie”) and it has become a well-known family story.

Suspenders will work. Or your pants are too loose.

Popa, 80, The charlies, squeak, dr pepper, ICOT, wolf, kapusta, oomis. And what ever happened to Pashuteh Yid who I used to like?

Hold on, are all of those that I listed really Joseph?”

Not the last time I looked in the mirror…

Honestly I like and value everybody, whether or not we see things the same way, but I have to give special props to Aries, Wolf,kapusta, and Goq, for various reasons.