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I think we should stop judging others and look at ourselves ONLY. If we see something we don’t like either offer to help or GO AWAY. We are very comfortable drawing conclusions without knowing the facts. We don’t need to know the facts we need to MIND OUR OWN BUSINESSES and concentrate on doing mitzvos and helping others. Criticism of others is wrong, counter productive and drags our middos down.
I don’t see what the big deal is. Why shouldn’t we be open to doing chasadim. One whole week of having guests is not too much to ask. They won’t be by you for 24 hours a day – I’m sure they work etc. Just make some rules – ie: you need to have certain hours free etc as you are in shanah rishonah. In my experience these things tend to be difficult if the person doing the chesed doesn’t make reasonable conditions.
I wanted to see what was doing with this thread and you are talking about fish??????????????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sam2 – R. Moshe’s psak came from straight halacha – not his opinion regarding what actually happens in the relationship.
??? ????????? ?????? – this is halacha. Noone is trustworth when it comes to this issue.
Not quite. He could have bought an airline ticket.
That’s who’s sleeping in our spare room.
mosherose – the Torah demands that we live happy lives and create our own chelek in Torah. This means different things for different people. Rabbi Pliskin once said that we are obligated to do as much as we can to make ourselves happy (obviously correct choices). If constant Torah study etc makes you thrive and gives you fulfillment then that is the correct choice for you. However I feel that it is making you judgmental and narrow. Our Gedolei Torah who are as steeped in Torah as is possible to be are not as judgmental and narrow. Each person needs to find for himself what enables him to be a happy and well adjusted person in order to be able to grow.
A new halacha computer has just been developed.
You program in the question and the answer you would like and it tells you who to ask.
The whole issue is not whether it is allowed or not. But why she should want to do it something unusual in the first place. The biggest rebbetzens don’t feel the need to do it – they have other ways to come close to Hashem so why would a woman choose to do make her connection in that way. It smacks of feminism and being uncomfortable with her role in Yiddishkeit.
Rabbi Orlofsky’s shiur is amazing and puts the whole issue in perspective. It is informative and of course really entertaining.
This is very painful. But most children have issues with friends who may not like them just for who they are even if they don’t have specific disabilities. Don’t be passive. Ensure that your child has what to give to others. Maybe he can learn a musical instrument or take some kind of art or other activity. Monitor his friends very carefully and encourage friendships from those who can help him be who he is. He doesn’t have to be friends with everyone and we can’t shield him from disappointment but he can built up to know that he has what to contribute to others.
It is not a numbers game.
There are more good girls than boys.
Girls have less of a selection to choose from than boys.
A man walks into a bakery with a fish under his arm and asks for fish cakes. The baker says – excuse me this is a bakery – the supermarket is next door. The man looks at her in surprise and says, pointing to the fish, ‘but it’s his birthday!’.
I know both Rabbi Twersky do and also Rabbi Pliskin.
I’ll try and find an article
This is real obsession. The psychologists say you have to make a conscious effort to think about something else all the time. You cannot think about 2 things at once – so have a back up thought to fall back on every time you start to obsess and then you will get out of the habit of thinking about her. You also have to fill your life with meaningful activities to make you fulfilled and then you won’t need her so much.
I don’t think this is anything to do with you or him. Sometimes it just doesn’t go together. I had some awful dates when I was young and dating – I am thinking of one in particular – and my good friend ended up marrying him. If you don’t bring out the good in each other it is not worth pursuing.
Oh well. It was a thought. If you strike it rich next year…… then you’ll probably upgrade to the Plaza etc
You need to speak this out with another member of your family so you can learn to deal with disagreements in a different way than your parents
Don’t try and be perfect that always is an instant depression. Pick one thing you find easy to work on and stick to it no matter what. That will automatically lead to other stuff.
You’re right. How about ninja
come to us in israel for the price of a hotel you can pay for the ticket and enjoy succos in the Holy Land
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Oh, the gift of blushing – it is so embarrassing – mostly because everyone finds a need to comment and tell you you look cute. Thank the l-rd I grew out of that – age toughens you up. Now instead of blushing I just get defensive.
My daughter wanted to study nursing. She asked Rav Steinman for an eitzha. He said that she should wait until after she is married and then learn to be a midwife.