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adorable, good point!
shudder.
It appears that we are living in the “end of days”. Moshiach’s arrival feels imminent to me.
the reason we don’t see divorced couples getting back together is probably pretty simple. They don’t want to be married to each other. They prefer the challenges of being divorced to the challenges of being married to someone they can’t get along with.
why can’t people just behave themselves?
that said, it is rather distictive!
cars. the big kind that actually take you places.
so a man should uncover his head every time he does something inapproriate?
a man is required to have his head covered.
I wonder what poor Leiby’s family wants.
What a horror.
the person who checks my mezuzas always reminds me that the reason we put up mezuzas is because the Torah says we should.
There is an extra benefit to putting up mezuzas, and that is that they are a “shemira”. But “shemira” is not the main reason we do it.
what kind of abuse are you talking about? domestic abuse? child abuse? molestation?
They are all kept hidden for the same reasons: shame and stigma.
Marriage counseling does not always help. Some couples are just incompatible. They hate being in the same house. They disagree on more than they agree. If they can manage to stay married and to hide their problems from the kids, great. But it’s not always possible. Divorce is tragic and traumatic for the children, but not always avoidable.
single motherhood is the fastest route to poverty. Some women have no choice, they lose their spouse to divorce or death. Just another point to consider.
if you want/need to see a therapist you need to know if the person is good at what they do, and not just some person with a degree.
you also need to know if the therapist has expertise in the problem that you are experiencing. Depression, OCD, domestic abuse, trauma, eating disorders, anxiety….there are lots of different mental health issues out there, and not all therapists have the necessary training to deal with each and every one.
a therapist can help a person who wants to become more self-aware. perhaps this is what the rosh yeshiva felt would be beneficial. it can be easier to change certain behaviors if you can get to the cause of them.
my car and I remain good friends, but I’m not sure how committed this relationship is. a civil union is as far as I’m willign to go.
even if it’s muttar, it does not mean it’s a good idea. those poor kids would be stigmatized for life.
intervention makes a difference. hopefully the boys learn that it is not OK to abuse, & the daughter learns that she does not have to be a victim.
In this story the daughter has good role models (both mother & grandmother) which is an important protective factor. If she ever decides to get married, she will know that abuse is unacceptable & she will know how to get help if her husband is abusive.
what about the boys? they saw their father get away with abusive behavior for many years until their mother demanded change. so will they end up thinking that abuse is OK as long as the wife tolerates it? Or will they learn that it’s never OK to treat your wife badly?
I think that if Eliyahu HaNavi told me to do something, I would do it! He has a track record, after all, of being a true navi.
The story went for a “safe” ending. It’s not a “happily ever after” situation, but they have ground rules that will hopefully help the marriage work better.
I think the author wanted to give hope to women who are in abusive marriages. I just wonder if it is actually realistic to think that abusive men can change their personalities. Do most even have the desire to change? Are they willing to see themselves as the one who needs help?
I thought the author did well, especially considering the fine lines and sensitivites involved in writing for a frum magazine.
everyone talks about the weather but no one ever does anything about it.
too late!
when people start a thread like this, someone has to take the bait or it’s no fun.
the last report card of the year should focus on the positive as opposed to areas where the student needs improvement. Leave the student & his parents feeling good, not bad about the school year.
it’s a casual look. some might feel it is undignified for a frum, married woman.
there was a similaar discussion a little while back about a certain fabric & whether it is problematic or not since it is generally used to make pants or skirts of a caual/chilled out nature.
either one, but I would supervise their choices.
I get more use out of knowing my zip code than knowing my IQ.
is there an issur of mesirah in America today?
leave an anonymous note in their mailbox.
both rabbanim and rebbetzins can give good advice. The question is, who will best understand both the issue you are dealing with, and what is best for YOU.
Hatzlocha.
if you read pshat, it does not say that anywhere that Vahsti was killed. That always struck me as interesting. If she was exectuted, why not say it straight out?
maybe your rov can make a recommendation.
if the bochur HOPS behind the maidele instead of walking, that might get around the problem.
of course it might create some new ones.
just saying.
agree with Mandy. I think a woman would be more likely to accept the comments regarding her clothes from a woman. If she will listen at all.
A man who goes over to a woman to comment on her tznius/lack thereof looks like a wacko. My daughters know to scream loudly and back away if a man is acting inappropriately to them, and this is behavior that would qualify.
if a car goes off the derech you should show it unconditional love and it will no doubt return.
There are plenty of qualified rebbetzins around to guide and advise women regarding tznius issues. Men should not get involved in this area.
I’m sure people confuse Telse and Lakewood all the time. Especially people who have no sense of American geography.
bpt:
Yeshiva Chofetz Chaim and RIETS are easily confused, since both allow their students to wear shirts that are not white. Innocent mistake.
the bite of a tarantula will make someone sick, but usually isn’t fatal. so there may not be a heter to go over and speak to a woman who is not your wife in this situation. I suggest you ask your Rav, just in case the situation arises.
let’s all sing Yalili now!
give it a peannut butter sandwich to cheer it up.
bpt: RIETS is Y.U., not Chofetz Chaim
it is inherently NOT tznius for a man to go over to a woman to comment on her lack of tznius.
Separate point: the woman would probably think you were trying to flirt with her.
obviously, coping methods would be different depending on the age of the person.
can you give more details?
Hershey, Pennsylvania. But only if your kids like amusement parks. I think there is kosher food available in the park, and there is kosher “bed and breakfast” about an hour away.