🍫Syag Lchochma

Yes, she was a cousin of mine, a wonderful wife and mother, and an author.

There is a date on the bottom of the screen that says when the street view picture was taken. My dad’s house was photographed 3 days before he died. For a long time I loved to go back to that page and see the house with his car still parked out front . . .

This soldier was my hero.

He wrote articles about having been abused by several members of his community and opened a website about it to encourage others to get support. He worked on identifying his abusers and making sure they lost access to other boys (some still pending in court). He worked with Magen, a group in Israel that fights pedophiles and those who hide them. He was a true hero who, in his own words, chose “leadership over privacy”.

He was my hero.

what missing soldier?

I think he plans to start over in Austin.

. . .and I’m just thinking, “I still can’t believe TBONTB is a guy”

I can assure you that 25 years ago nobody would even think of sending such a message thru a text!

somehow the post must have blurred, making it hard for you to read, so I am reposting.

So in other words, most boys are horrible.

typical way of mocking a whole bunch of legitimate concerns by oversimplifying them into something silly. Maybe some sensitivity to those who are actually suffering from the above mentioned stupidity of the system would be more appropriate. Or maybe leave it to those who have been there and know it really happens.

Goq, I’m posting from a tent in the 7-11 parking lot. I want the very first free slurpee tomorrow!!!!

Halacha – learning the halachos of bein adom l’chavero

Minhag – being over zealous of the mitzvos of bein adom l’Makom even if you hurt people

Shtus – thinking you’ll go to gan eden anyway

I see no value to making a bar mitzvah expensive. the party is not relevent to the occasion and it is money that could be better spent, for sure. If you make it fancy and expensive by doing something to honor the fact that this is a day when a boy becomes responsible for Torah and Mitzvos, than that is something else.

We made a dessert buffet instead of a meal and we had it in a place where we could bring in food so our friends could bake for it. It was still ‘fancy’ because I have friends and kids who know how to make anything look beautiful but it was far from expensive. Better to save the money for the suit, hat, tefillin, hat, shirt, shoes (you get the picture)

if they’re that young, better they don’t. What kind of behavior are you encouraging DY 🙂

Sam2 – as someone who is uncomfortable about almost everything life has to offer, I disagree. He’s a Rav, not a friend. There should be nothing to be uncomfortable about. It is like the difference between discussing bathroom habits with a Gastroenterologist vs. a friend.

Now if I had to discuss relationship issues with him and discuss stupid things my husband and I may have said or done to each other that required intervention, well *that* would be uncomfortable because it would be personal.

target, marshall’s etc are carrying these awesome long skirts, unfortunately they are reeeeallllly narrow. Oh well, I can always buy one for each leg. or buy two and sew them together. the possibilities are endless!

no, some puzzles have pieces that fit together, some have pieces that actually grab each other. Those are the ones you can lift up by the corners in one piece when they are done. A non-interlocking puzzle will not come up off the table.

(though I cannot imagine it to be)

even after mentioning my rav said it was?

I do happen to be a serious puzzler, but that includes considering the puzzle to be finished when the last piece is placed. It then goes back in the box for the next time. I’ve seen people save them but I cannot imagine why.

I know puzzles is a shaila and we were told we could do the ones that are not interlocking. We probably spent more shabbosim doing puzzles than we did playing risk and spoons!

Seriously though, I could never understand the concept of keeping a puzzle once it’s done. What could you possibly do with it? Hang it on the wall next to the bar mitzvah pictures?

takamamash – that’s fine. I hope they are following their rav just as I did. My point wasn’t to pasken, I was pointing out the difference between doing something individually and as a group.

I’m more surprised than offended that you’d accuse me of dishonesty.

not at all sure what you are referring to, I don’t see anything of the sort in my post (nor my intent).

regarding the rest, I have no doubt you are more learned than I am (my words, not yours) since you have learned inside, and my knowledge comes from either a call to the Rav, or a question to my husband. If the Rav says yes, I cannot justify it for you, but I can stand my ground on it.

The joke is, I just asked my son (he happens to be home sick) which of the Rebbeim said they can use headphones and he said he himself never heard it from a Rav, he heard it third hand from a bachur. ahh, the wonders of broken telephone.

And lastly, regarding

Unless your son . . . relies on . . . daas yachid

Although I find Daas Yochid to be a knowledgeable poster, I would never rely on him 🙂

squeak – that’s very slick

rebyidd – I think you misread that title

excellent point (though I myself won’t be shaving)

I was also taught that music = live music, and that recorded music should not be listened to in a group of three or more. That’s why headphones or alone would be fine. My son added that the group of three or more prohibition was so that you would not come to dance. That is also why an avel does not eat with a group of three or more.

maybe his screen name is “viewer”. either way, I have just offered a mod big bucks dust the room for fingerprints. I’ll let you know what shows up.

No, because there are many valid opinions that you can listen to radio music with headphones/alone during sefira