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Maybe someone can explain to me why those who are machmir on this, eat it on the last day of Pesach? Chazal were very careful not to differentiate Yom Tov Sheini from day one. Here you are making a very clear statement that the last day is “only mi’dirabonon.
Whow Cantor! Even I, the MO YU guy would never say that something the Rema assured is a silly practice.
There may be many reasons to do away with it but if the Rema assured it, then we(Ashkenazim) need to stick with it.
Nice! Most people forget about the bracha on the fruit trees….
But, as Feif said, Shofar is usually recited twice…..
Good answer. I can think of one more. Anyone?
Sorry if this was posted already…
Give three places in the Torah where there are five words in a row, with each word containing only two letters.
Why would you get an aveirah for forgetting something?
Thank you Oomis-
Chag Kasher V’sameach to you and your family!
I plan to make the cakes tomorrow, so I will have to post at that time about how they came out 🙂
I know what you mean about people making you feel guilty ( i.e.”you CAN’T make a Seder alone!…it’s not right”!)
I also agree with you that I would prefer to do things my way, especially since that is what I did when I was the head of my household.
Why would anyone criticize you for the things you mentioned? What am I missing here?
No, you are not overstepping your bounds. I appreciate your thoughts.
Chag Kasher V’sameach to you and your family!
Yes, I give blood…..
There are some who take a take a tiny sip of each kos because they are “afraid” of too many calories.
I wish I could donate a kidney, but my doc would never clear me because of hypertension. I think it would make me feel like I did something really important in life. What could be more important than saving another life? I think it would be an automatic ticket to Olam Habah.
Anuran- Generally, if kidneys go, they tend to fail together. Studies have shown that people who donate kidneys have as long a life expectancy as anyone else.
Anyone who is able to, should do so. There is a major shortage and people die every day waiting for kidneys.
Thank you all for writing and your good wishes.
I gotta go with those who believe I should do what my gut tells me is best for me. My therapist encourages me to go to people, but he respects my feelings. I DO think about what Aries wrote regarding my children feeling bad about me being alone. I try my best to reassure them that this is best for me.
Believe me, I AM grateful for the things I DO have.
B”H I will be busy with my shul. I need to layn and speak every day of Yom Tov, as I am the gabbai and we have no Rav in this minyan. I LOVE to bentch Tal more than anything else. I wrote up one drasha already and posted it here last week. I will try to post another (better) one, which can be said at the sedarim.
Oomis, thanks again for the recipes; I will let you know how they come out 🙂
Chag Kasher V’sameach to all!
Any brand of machine Shmurah made in E”Y……
1)Less chance of becoming chometz by machines
2)Support the yidden in E”Y that make them.
3)I happen to think hand matzos taste like cardboard
As someone who was once a kid, you cannot expect them all to work “happily” together. You can certainly expect them to get their jobs done, but don’t expect it to be done with a smile. Kids will be kids….
Yes, Health they do. The one positive thing that came out of my loss of a child, is that I am more sensitive about what to say to someone else in a similar situation.
Even a friend and a family member said some terrible things, though they meant well. I think if people would think things through a little more about how it might affect the other person, they might keep their mouths closed.
I never decided how anyone should spend his money. I simply raised the question if in this terrible matzav many people find themselves in, it would be a good idea for people to use the thousands of dollars to feed the hungry rather than a hotel.
I am 100% sure, HKB”H will overlook this “aveirah” (of giving more than a chomesh) that “mt mehdi” raises…..
I would never criticize anyone’s decision about where to spend Pesach. I would merely like to raise the following question.
With so many people out of work, and people needing to take from Tomche Shabbos to put food on the table, wouldn’t it be tremendous if every person took the thousands of dollars they spend on a hotel and gave it to tzedakos that need it desperately?
Wouldn’t this hasten the arrival of Moshiach?
Thank You! I will write up some more IY”H…..
Why don’t all you folks see the Rashi in Parshas Mishpatim on “Azov ta’azov imo”?
Rashi says “Pe’amim she’atah chodel, u’pe’amim she’atah ozer”. There are times you are supposed to help someone with a heavy load, and sometimes not.
Rashi gives two examples. Zakein v’aino lifi chivodo and beheimas oveid kochavim. An old man who passes someone with a heavy load weighing down a donkey, it would not be kovodik for the old man to help. Or if an akum is the one with a heavy load, the yisrael can withhold helping.
I think it is (and should be) pashut to any thinking, rational person, that if a woman was excluded from being helped (and vice versa) Rashi would have said so. You don’t need to ask shailos. You have a clear mitzvah in the Torah….
In the Hagaddah we read that Lavan was actually worse than Paraoh, because “Paraoh lo gazar eleh al hazicharim, v’Lavan bekaish la’akor
es hakol”. Lavan sought to totally uproot everyone…..
Virtually all the meforshim find it difficult to identify the source which indicates that Lavan wanted to eradicate everything. Rav Soloveitchik said that based on the pisukim quoted in Parshas Va’yetzei, perhaps we can identify a source.
Yaakov has noticed that his father-in-law, Lavan, is no longer pleased with him. HKB”H appears to him and tells him to return to the land of Canaan.
Packing up his entire family, Yaakov leaves suddenly without saying good bye to Lavan. Lavan overtakes Yaakov and complains that he did not even have the opportunity to bid farewell to his children and grandchildren.
The critical pisukim follow:
“V’atah lichah nichrasa bris ani v’atah”. “Let us make a covenant”. There are two types of covenants. One indicates that the two parties will pursue a common goal, a shared destiny and a pledge to help one another. There will be interaction between their respective cultures and there is
no hesitancy to intermarry with one another.
However, there is a different type of covenant where the two parties have no interest in pursuing a common path. The agreement consists exclusively in respecting each other’s independence, a non-aggression pact. “I will not attack you and you
will not attack me”. Yaakov agrees to establish a covenant with Lavan but the two men have opposing visions regarding what the covenant will
“Vayekach Yaakov ehven va’yireeme’ha ma’tzaiva” Yaakov takes a single stone which for him symbolizes a barrier between his family and Lavan’s
and establishes it as a monument.
“Vayomer Yaakov li’echav liktu avanim”. Yaakov tells the clan of Lavan to gather stones because he knows that for Lavan the symbol of the covenant is the gathering of many stones, of many cultures and values and merging them together.
In confirming his understanding of the covenant, Lavan states “Elohai Avraham vai’lohai Nachor yishpitu baynaynu”. Avraham, in his early age was
an idolator just as Nachor was. It is this god, whom the pagans worshipped that should serve as a witness to this covenant. But Yaakov…..
“Va’yishava Yaakov bifachad aviv Yitzchok”…does not include Avraham. His understanding of the covenant is to be confirmed exclusively by the God of Yitzchok, who served God all his life.
Finally, “Vayizbach Yaakov zevach bahar”…In preparing the feast Yaakov slaughters the animal in accordance with the laws of shechita (vi’zavachta ka’asher tziviseecha”). The laws of kashrut are destined to remind us that social interaction with idolators, expressed throughout the
world by food and drink, should not exist.
Had Lavan succeeded in convincing Yaakov that Lavan’s understanding of the covenant should dominate, this in effect would have been the end of kedushat Yisrael and the uniqueness of the Jewish people.
Hence, Lavan beekaish la’akor es hakol. Lavan wanted to uproot everything we stand for.
This could explain why the Ba’al Hagaddah begins the paragrah with the words “Tzei u’limad”. “Go out and study”. When we are faced with a Paraoh, a Haman, a Hitler etc. who would like to eradicate us, it is easy to recognize their motive. When it comes to someone like Lavan, who tells us he would like to make a covenant, a peace treaty (i.e. Arafat) then we need to really go out and study the true motives of that person, because it is presented it a way which is much harder to detect. We need to study it again and again and be extremely wary!
Chopped nuts or ground nuts?
It was actually my idea.
If she was a clever woman she would have agreed to go to counseling and we might still be married….
Thank you Oomis. Either way is fine, although I found that the non-gebrokts cakes that my ex used to make were always better (lighter, fluffier).
They also have the advantage that they can be eaten on Erev Pesach as opposed to the cakes with matzah meal which cannot.
My ex would bake some non gebrokt cakes for me to take to work on Chol Hamoed Sukkos, because they are shehakol and don’t require a Sukkah 🙂
I hear you Oomis, so why not give me one of your best cake recipes..that you KNOW is a hit with your family?
You’re not embarrassed to write on YW that you wear colored shirts on Shabbos?
Some people have no shame….LOL
You stated that a siyum is indoors and seated (which would be okay). This clearly implies that walking outdoors is not okay.
So according to Volvie, a girl should never take a walk outside, because she is then “parading herself around”…..
Thank you Oomis!
I am definitely going to try a few of these….I have my kids with me for the second days and I want to be able to put out some decent desserts.
Hard to believe that with only two weeks to Pesach, people have not posted more recipes.
Would you kindly give directions for this cake….you just listed the ingredients.
I’m a divorced guy who would like to make some good cake (as opposed to the expensive stuff which tastes lousy) for the days my kids are with me.
In Parshas Bo, we read about the last three makos; arbeh, choshech and makas bechoros. The story continues with HKB”H giving instructions for the
preparation and eating of the Korban Pesach and then the actual leaving of Mitzrayim.
Right in the midst of this narrative, before the instructions on the Korban Pesach, HKB”H informs Moshe about a new mitzvah. He tell Moshe “Hachodesh
hazeh lachem rosh chadashim”…..the mitzvah of Kiddush Hachodesh.
The obvious question arises. Why did HKB”H choose to tell this to Moshe right in the middle of the story of leaving Egypt? Couldn’t this have waited until
they left Mitzrayim? After all, no immediate action was required of the people when God gave this mitzvah?
Rav Soloveitchik suggested the following:
What is it that a slave has the least amount of use for? A clock. A slave works all day, 7 days a week, 365 days a year. Each day is exactly the same as the day before.
He has no need for time. What difference does it make if the clock reads 11 AM or 4 PM? Or if the day is Monday or Friday? The slave is forced to do exactly the same thing at each of those hours. After being in Mitzrayim for 210 years, time certainly had no meaning for Bnei Yisrael.
Now HKB”H comes and tells Moshe to tell the people….”You are soon going to be free”. And time will suddenly have meaning for you. And I want you to take
time and be mekadesh it!…I want you to make time holy by making Rosh Chodesh and hence the Yomim Tovim holy”.
If we examine the tefillah of Birchas Hachodesh we find a very puzzling formula. First, we recite the Yehi Ratzon asking for everything good for the coming month.
After “Mi she’asah nisim’……we announce the day of the week Rosh Chodesh will fall out on, and conclude with “Yechadshayhu HKB”H….” which once again
asks for a good month.
But this paragraph “Mi she’asah nisim la’avosaynu v’ga’al osom may’avdus lechayrus” is strange…..What is the mention of the geulah from Mitzrayim doing here
in the midst of Birchas Hachodesh? What is the connection???
The Rav explained that each and every month, precisely when we remember that a new month is beginning, we must also remind ourselves that we are no longer slaves
in Egypt and time is therefore very important to us. We must remember each and every month to make a commitment to use time wisely and to make it holy!!!
It IS mentioned in the Shulchan Aruch as something one should do…preferably by washing.
The Mishna Brurah says it is not an absolute chiyuv like the other 3 seudos of Shabbos, but rather is a “Mitzva B’alma”…..simply a mitzva that is a good thing to do.
One major complaint I’ve had about Frumster is that there are many women who lie about their age (there are so many 39 year old women out there, it is unbelievable!). Yes, I know all about the “heteirim” to do so, but how does a person expect to begin a healthy relationship based on a lie?
Also, women tend to post old pictures of themselves. I dated two women from the site and when I met them I could hardly believe these were the same women as in the photos.
Thank you oomis! I LOVE this drasha as well, and it is always very well received when I say it over.
I was a camper in MA from 1967-76. Then I worked there until 1980. I only enjoyed one summer….when I was 14 and in teenage camp (it was not called Heller yet).
The reason for this is that the camp was so regimented and run like a boot camp. I am not the only one to have complained about this. The teenage camp was more relaxed (i.e. you did not HAVE to play a sport if you hated it. You got to choose which sports and workshops you enjoyed).
As a staff member, things were better though being a Federation camp the pay was lousy.
Yes, Rabbi Sachs was great but I enjoyed his shiur to the staff even more than “Ha’aderes V’ha’emunah”. Terrible that his wife Malka was taken so young. She was truly a tzadekes and an eishes chayil.
OKay here it is:
U’lekohain midyan sheva banos:
Speaking of names….
Anyone know the names of Yisro’s seven daughters?December 30, 2009 3:18 am at 3:18 am in reply to: Singles Over the Age of 25 Should Deal Directly With the Shaddchan #671672
If a single over 25 needs his/her parents to decide whether or not to date or who they should date, then that single is obviously not mature enough to date!
Your thinking is 100% correct!
AND by the way…..
Did Nachshon have a seder in learning or was his tzidkus the fact that he showed emunah in HKB”H by krias yam suf?
Anyone think of that?
I don’t know about you guys, but I would have given every last dollar I had to hear Yossele daven once on Yom Kippur. Though I enjoy Herschman, Waldman, Pinchik etc. none of them move me the way Yossele does.
As for todays chazzanim, I think you gotta go with Helfgot.
I’m sure you all remember the Rashi on “Vayay’ahser lo Hashem…….lo v’lo lah” Where Yitzchak and Rivka daven for a child and HKB”H only listens to the tefillos of Yitzchak and not Rivka, because as Rashi explains “aino domeh tefillas tzaddik ben tzaddik le’tefillas tzaddik ben rasha”. One cannot compare the tefillos of Yitzchok who was a tzaddik ben tzaddik to the tefillos of Rivka whose father was a rasha.
This seems more than a bit unfair to Rivka and even shocking. Why should her prayers be ignored just because of her father?
Further, Rashi seems to contradict a well known gemara which states that in the place that a ba’al teshuva stands, even a completely righteous person cannot stand (be’makom she’ba’al teshuva omade, ain tzaddik gamur yachol la’amode”) The argument for this is that it is easy enough to be observant if one grows up in an observant environment, but a ba’al teshuva, who tries to become observant later in life is usually forced to make changes in his or her lifestyle and circle of friends which can be quite difficult.
I saw something interesting which may explain this.
Perhaps it is NOT easier for someone who is frum from birth to be a tzaddik than for a ba’al teshuva! A ba’al teshuva, whatever his difficulties might be, has an enthusiasm for an exciting new way of life, new experiences, new friends which carries him through. On the other hand, someone who has grown up in an observant environment (like me) may find it much more difficult to MAINTAIN the enthusiasm for davening three times a day. Even if he is a tzaddik, who may be a son of a tzaddik and so on all the way back to the Vilna Gaon himself, he may be doing mitzvot by rote (like me) because it is the only way he knows.
When an important task is new to us, we perform it meticulously. After we have grown used to it, we tend to find shortcuts and cut corners, in ways which are detrimental to our performance.
Yitzchak’s tefillos therefore, were answered not BECAUSE he was the son of a tzaddik, but because HE was a tzaddik EVEN THOUGH he was the son of Avraham and had been doing mitzvot all his life. His enthusiasm for mitzvot was maintained throughout his life, which can be a very difficult thing to accomplish.
If we keep this lesson in mind, HKB”H will indeed answer ALL OUR TEFILLOT!
Did anybody read the op-ed in the NY Times written by William Kristol where he writes that as an American Jew he believes we all should have much hakoras hatov towards George Bush for being the best president we ever had, as far as Israel and Jews in general are concerned?January 21, 2009 9:07 pm at 9:07 pm in reply to: Daven With A Hat BeYichidus or Without it with a Minyan #1081728
Thanks for typing out exactly what I was about to post. (Why DO we waste our time on this site?)
I cannot believe Will Hill agreed with me (and seemed to think I had no doubt that wearing a hat is more important than tefilah b’tzibur) when I said it is a sad commentary on the state of frumkeit when such a question is posed.
It truly IS sad that people believe wearing a (black) hat equals being frum, and (ad kidai kach) that one should daven beyichiydus if a hat is not available.
I’ve read many krum posts here, but this takes the cake.
I think the yeshivos are responsible for this. They teach boys NOT to think. Each and every thing must be presented to a Rav or a Rebbe, no matter how simple.
This results in mass production of ignorant men, who if presented with a situation where there is no one around to ask a shayla of, are completely lost.
Very sad………….January 20, 2009 11:42 pm at 11:42 pm in reply to: Daven With A Hat BeYichidus or Without it with a Minyan #1081683
I think it’s a sad commentary on the state of frumkeit today, when a question like this needs to be posed.
Anyone heard of R’ Yosef Adler of Teaneck, NJ? He was very close to the Rav (he appears on the video about the Rav) and is known as a tremendous marbitz Torah, in particular that of the Rav ZT”L.
Jonathon Mark writes for The Jewish Week, a Zionist liberal paper to say the least.
I applaud the editor for posting a good article here, no matter the source….
Joseph- Thank you kindly for your condolences. You cannot imagine how much it means to me.
JFem- Thank YOU for your backing. It’s good to know that some people on this site are intelligent…..
So according to Joseph, since only SOME of the Israeli army are practicing yidden, then the army as a whole is still considered un-Jewish.
By that logic, Jews as a whole must be considered non-religious, since only a very small minority are practicing yidden.
Yashrus- I think you have things twisted. When Joseph spews venom towards yidden that are moser nefesh for the sake of you, me and anyone else who wants to live in or visit E”Y , then THAT is sinas chinum.
When my brother, brother-in-law, and numerous nephews put their lives on the line to protect E”Y and at the same time do their utmost to adhere to halacha, then I will not sit quietly and read the garbage about an un-Jewish army without protesting.
According to R’ Joseph’s opinion that the Israeli army is completely un-Jewish, there should be no need to change anything about the way we go about our daily lives, and no need for any special tefilos.
Funny thing, I saw a picture of some members of this un-Jewish army wearing tefillin. Never saw a goy in tefillin before.
Also, the National Council of Young Israel has an ongoing appeal for sifrei Torah that are needed for the army. They have sent over 150 seforim in the past few years as many small units want to have their own sefer. Now why would a non Jewish army need sifrei Torah?
DD’s post made it on here because once in a while, the mods. allow the TRUTH to be expressed!!!!