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December 3, 2012 5:35 pm at 5:35 pm in reply to: Yasher Koach to Rabbi Horowitz of Project Yes, for protecting and not punishing #912438
I’m with funnybone. I know of a case where a child made accusations that were untrue, and certain people in leadership positions, possibly feeling guilty because they had dropped the ball in an earlier abuse case, assumed the child was telling the truth. It’s just as bad to assume the accused is a molester as to assume the child is making it up. All these cases need to be investigated thoroughly by unbiased authorities.
As midwesterner says, you should follow the minhag of the shul (assuming it’s not an ad hoc minyan). As regards the avodah, it’s important that everyone be able to follow it. I daven Nusach Ashkenaz in a Nusach Sefard shul. I have no problem following the davening with my Ashkenaz machzor except for the avodah. The shul provides leaflets with the Sefard avodah so we Nusach Ashkenaz people can follow.
There’s also minyanmaps.com. Since the OP said they’re 45 minutes from the nearest (known to him) minyan, there’s not much point in listing Riverdale minyanim — I’m sure he knows there are minyanim there, so he must be far away.
SaysMe, are you saying there are singles who accept suggestions (for shidduchim, I assume) from people who DON’T know them?
When you pay your NYS income tax, there’s a line for use tax. That’s for stuff you buy out of state without sales tax. It’s based on income and it’s pretty minimal — I paid $27 last year.
torah613, please ask them what they called each other before they had children.
So when Lipa wears his weird glasses, it so people will notice his body?
farrocks, what do they call their wives in such situations?
I think it’s pretty rare to get a speeding ticket in NYC.
It’s not the only state. If the merchant has a presence in a state that has a sales tax, they generally have to charge that sales tax. Many larger merchants have some kind of facility in lots of states (for example, a warehouse).
Lots of trees bumped into buildings during Sandy.
I don’t think anybody has answered Baalhabooze’s question about Lavan’s cheshbon. The best I can come up with is that he solved two problems by switching Leah for Rachel: the “shidduch crisis” and the fact that it’s hard to find good shepherds who are willing to sign a 14-year contract.
Here’s my question about Vayetze: Why did Rachel steal the teraphim? Rashi says she wanted to encourage Lavan to give up idolatry, but it hardly seems that a diehard idolator wouldn’t just go out to his local idol store and get new ones. Also, since it’s forbidden to possess idols, Rachel should have destroyed or hidden them rather than steal them.
Ramban says teraphim weren’t really idols, they were used to tell time, but some people (like Lavan) used them for divination. But that doesn’t explain why Rachel stole them. Since Lavan had worshipped them, why didn’t they become assur to Rachel? And why did she need them?
Dating doesn’t have to be face to face.
I never did any long-distance dating, but my first contact with my wife was a very long phone call (her roommate couldn’t understand how she could talk for 3 hours to some guy she’d never met). These days, I would think Skype would be a reasonable way to go through some of the preliminaries and decide whether it was worthwhile to continue.
Please note that there are two people named Rabbi Nachum Eisenstein. One lives in E”Y and was a associated with R’ Elyashiv ztl. The other lives in Lakewood and writes a column for Yated.
I suspect most of the wheat is imported.
It’s like Young Israel. When a shul joins, they agree not to secede. Well, they can secede but they have to hand over all their assets.
zaidy78, no native speaker of English pronounces “of” with a voiceless labiodental fricative. Otherwise, it would be pronounced the same as “off.”
The Rabbanut’s list is out of date. Rabbi Abraham Halbfinger was niftar in September.
I didn’t think my post was so unclear, but so far two out of two people have misinterpreted it. My point was that people with medical issues deserve to get married too. Clearly, there are exceptions, such as people who are likely to commit acts of violence (I wouldn’t want my daughter to date Norman Bates).
I’m not suggesting that any particular person is obligated to choose a spouse with medical issues, but I think people should be a little open minded and treat each case individually. If you’re picking a stock, it’s OK to use a stock screener. But we’re talking about people here.
HaKatan, yontiff is clearly easier to say than yom tov. With both n and t, you touch the tip of the tongue to the alveolar ridge. morewords.com lists only 30 words that have an mt combination, while there are “more than 2000” words with nt (2000 is the point at which the website throws up its hands).
Another advantage of yontiff is that when you see the pope on Yom Tov, you can say “Gut yontiff, pontiff.”
What is with this NY thing of calling fire hydrants “pumps”? If they were pumps, people would be swiping them to deal with their post-Sandy basements.
Double parking is not only obnoxious, it impedes the flow of emergency traffic.
I’m in Far Rockaway. We had almost as many people as usual at our Daf Yomi shiur this morning even though we’re all supposed to be evacuated. Somebody in shul was talking about Hurricane Donna in 1960 when the entire peninsula was under water (check out “Hurricane Donna Hits the Rockaways” on Youtube). We’re going to keep an eye on the conditions and make a decision later today. Last night at around 7:00 I was heading home from Queens and there was very little traffic in either direction.
I don’t think the city owns the poles. I think one of the utilities does. Poles are safer than trees. They don’t have branches and they don’t get diseases. I’ve never seen an uprooted utility pole.
aurora77, only tiny bits of Manhattan are supposed to evacuate. Nevertheless, I suspect that the evacuation centers aren’t spacious enough to accommodate those who are supposed to evacuate from other areas. I assume people only go to those centers if they don’t have friends or relatives on higher ground who can take them.
I’m in an evacuation zone, but I’m far enough from the water that I’m not terribly worried. I believe most of the people on my block are also staying put. A local shul sent out an email that they’ll have two minyanim tomorrow morning, and the mikvah sent an email saying they have a generator and will stay open as usual.
YeshSoc, if you’re going to correct yourself, I don’t feel bad pointing out that you should have written elicit, not illicit.
HaKatan, since you say everyone should pronounce vowels correctly, are you planning to adopt Teimani pronunciation of vowels? I davened in a Teimani synagogue recently. Their segol sounded like my patach, and their shva sounded like my segol.
Here’s a question for those who would not consider a shidduch with health issues. Let’s say you find and marry someone in perfect health. You have a child. The child has health issues. Do you forget about marrying off that child?
Englishman posted a comment from Rabbi Pruzansky’s blog that talks about a MO school with MO teachers. There was an article a while ago, either in Jewish Action or YI Viewpoint, that said that there are not enough MO limudei kodesh teachers, so many MO schools hire yeshivish teachers. Obviously, it varies from school to school. In any case, Rabbi Pruzansky’s message was aimed primarily at parents.
TLKY, although Bloomberg may be heterosexual, he’s spent a substantial amount to promote gay marriage. Of course, that has nothing to do with his office. Presumably he’ll continue along that path.
dhl, you actually gave credit to goole, whatever that is. Something to do with Halloween, I think.
Health, instead of assuming, you could look it up. There’s an interesting twist in the Wildflower Inn case. The owners are Catholic, and they are personally against gay marriage because of their religious convictions. Their lawyer says their policy was to reveal their religious beliefs to potential customers, but to agree to host all kinds of weddings anyway so as to be in compliance with the law (and in fact, in a 2005 case, they did this, and the state said it was OK). However, one of their (now former) employees told the couple in question that they would not allow the wedding because of the owners’ beliefs. Presumably, the reason they settled the case is that it would have been too costly to fight it in the courts.
REALIST, is it “my son the medical” or “my son the doctor?”
Wrong. There was another case in Vermont. The Wildflower Inn had to pay a hefty fine. They no longer host weddings of any persuasion.
Note that the study with the shocking statistic is unpublished, and Rsbbi Pruzansky won’t reveal its author. There’s a wide range of schools that could be classified as Modern Orthodox. Without knowing more specific information about the schools, it’s hard to evaluate the numbers. As Sam2 points out, in many schools regarded as MO, many of the students aren’t Shomer Shabbos or Kashrus going in.
In no way am I saying there’s not a serious problem here. I’m just frustrated that there isn’t enough information on the study.
I may be confusing it with something else, but I think it’s a way of getting college credit for studies in seminaries in Israel (and probably yeshivas too).
In the 2004 election, my 10-year-old daughter came home from school convinced that if Kerry were elected, he’d kill all the Jews. Apparently, she got this idea from her teachers. They weren’t exactly the most sophisticated thinkers when it came to politics.
This clearly doesn’t belong in this topic, but since WIY gave a link to the Chofetz Chaim’s list of mitzvos that apply today…
He lists yibum and chalitza as two mitzvos. Does anyone in any community practice yibum today?
Not to embarrass anyone, but some of the posters here who are criticizing others’ writing need to work on number agreement of pronouns. “One” and “any [person]” are singular. “They” and “them” are plural.
mdd, surely most males (including bochurim) eat Shabbos and Yom Tov meals at the same table as nicely-dressed married women who are not their relatives. How is that different from a wedding?
This whole “dressed to kill” issue bugs me. Is it tznius or not? I raised the question of form-fitting gowns earlier but no one seems to have responded.
It’s not frum English. It’s just bad (or careless) English, as practiced by many or most English speakers, Jewish or not.
Here’s frum English: He has what to learn about writing a decent sentence.
oomis, make yourself a thermos of brewed coffee just before Shabbos. With a good-quality thermos, it will stay reasonably hot until the morning, especially when Shabbos comes in late. Not as good as fresh, but infinitely better than instant.
ZD: Verve is a noun meaning energy or vivacity. It’s also a record label. I think you meant swerve.
You can check out the Sears Outlet website, which used to have good prices for appliances. I was looking there yesterday for someone who needs a dryer, and the prices were quite a bit higher than they were when I needed a dryer a few months ago. I don’t know if this is across the board.
The reason the men go to the women’s smorg is that the food is better. Also, if the only person I know there is my wife, I’d rather hang out with her than be bored.
Also, what’s with all the female relatives in form-fitting gowns? How is that considered tzniusdik? Even the so-called tzniusdik wedding gowns are form-fitting.
I know of a situation where the mesader kiddushin had no objection to mixed seating per se, but he said that given the fact that many of those attending would not be frum, there was no way to assure that there wouldn’t be mixed dancing. Therefore, he gave a thumbs down to mixed seating.
I’m in Yerushalayim for Yom Tov, and I saw another reason not to park in bus stops. Bus stops here tend to be sort of an extra lane (the road widens so the bus can stop on a narrow street without blocking traffic). The buses also tend to be really long articulated affairs. So a taxi was stopped in the bus stop, and the bus couldn’t pull all the way in. It stopped and all the cars behind had nowhere to go. The bus was really crowded so it took a long time for the passengers to get on. Even though the taxi was gone, there was, as they say in the traffic reports, a “residual delay.”
This discussion seems to have gone far afield from the OP’s request. She asked for literature that wasn’t bleak and depressing, and that was spiritually uplifting. Besides the people who are saying that all literature is assur, we have people recommending bleak and depressing works like Shakespeare’s tragedies and now even Iyov! No wonder the OP hasn’t popped in.
I get robocalls from various frum organizations and businesses (such as a certain furniture store) that don’t release the line when I hang up. I got the screecher call twice tonight, but I didn’t check if they released the line. Of course, by not releasing the line, they’re preventing me from making a phone call until their spiel is over. If there were an emergency, they could be endangering someone’s life.
How special are the special needs? I have a fair amount of experience as both a parent and a special educator, and I’m sorry to say that many of the frum special ed programs in the NY area leave a lot to be desired. We moved to the NY area from an out-of-town community in order to allow our special needs child to be in a Jewish school setting, and we feel that because of that, our child was not educated adequately.
To Kill a Mockingbird is a favorite of mine, but I didn’t mention it because it’s somewhat “bleak and depressing” and it discusses (alleged) rape and domestic abuse. I think 11th grade girls should be able to handle the themes, but then I don’t run a Chabad school. Out of curiosity, what are some of the bleak and depressing books the administration has chosen? That will give us an idea of what’s acceptable to them.