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I am about as far from Charedi as possible, but Avi Weiss is not a Talmud Chacham. Maybe he has other postive traits that are needed in the community, Certainly he draws people who would not go to any other stream of Orhtodoxy. The people he draws certainly are not becoming Satmar anytime soon or moving to Lakewood.
However that still doesnt make him a Talmid Chacham or a Halachic Authority.
Dunkin Donuts donuts are kosher everywhere, since they don’t make them in the stores.
And who told you this?
It is not currently illegal to be a jew in Spain, inmformally the inquisition was over in the 1800’s and was formally repealled in 1968.
But I had heard that people with more verifiable jewish connections like a jewish father or grandfather or someone already married to a jew (with kids too) the convertion process is made much easier and they are not diswaded too much
There is an app called Minyan finder that has many of even “private minyans”
YW
The NJ/Transit to Newark is really good. I had to return from a flight to Newark and I didnt want to pay over $100 in taxi fares. The train took about 30 Mins to get to Manhattan and that was during Rush Hour when you can get stuck for 1 hour at the bridge or tunnel
If you are worried about ruining the diary because you ripped out a page, make a temporary page that you can easily tear up later if need be.
Bottling in anger can be a very harmful thing, and most of the time especially for teenagers its over stupidity. getting out that anger now in a way that can be discarded later is the best way to deal with it.
take airtraiu to subway .$6.25. take subway to Penn Station and at Penn Station get a train ticket to Newark airport for $12. You will need to switch to the Newark Airtrain at the newark airport station, but its included in the price
Homeschooling would work.
Every states Blaine amendment is slightly different so even if the one in Ohio passes muster, the one in NY is different and the laws apply to it different
Sometimes people write things in diaries to let off steam, If this is your reason its better to release your anger in a diary then let it out loud.
If you are concenred that someone might find it, write it in diary and when they steam passes and you are not upset anymore, you can always rip out the page
I love how some seem to know the Halacha better than Rav Yisroel Neuman , I am sure he knows S”A also and his wife drives
I dont know exactly either, but Israel is likely a better place to look than the US
I dont know why the Rebbetzin drove that day, It was from a Simcha and it could simply be that after the simcha she drove the car and dropped off the Rav at the Yeshiva along with his sons (Who were also in the car in the back seat) and then she was going to take the car home
The wife of the R’Y of Lakewood drives, I saw it with my own two eyes and he went into the passenger side
There is a constitutional law in NY forbidding vouchers, Its called a Blaine amendment.
To get a constutional amendment in NY (you need an amendment to change the constituion) you need 2 consecutive legislative sessions (each session is 2 years) to vote for the amendment and then it goes for a vote before the people of NY. so it would take 3 years MINIMUM to change the law
613..
There are a certain boots that go over the knee that have a non-tzniut name , but Ive hardly ever seen a frum women wear them
Its possible to live past 120 years
Jeanne Calment of Paris lives until 122 years and 164 Days
Because the intention of fashion is to be noticed, the same purpose as pritzus.
Like it or not when a Chassidic man goes outside of the Shetl and into a crowd of say on the Subway. The long Peyos, The Long Beard , The Long Frock and a streimel is noticed by everyone. That might not be the intention, but it is. It definatly stands out more than a pair of boots
Short of locking women up in their houses and forcing them to wear Burkas when they absolutly must leave, what is not Prizus
They do sometimes, They can fall into buildings and sometimes they even grow in buildings (If they are not trimmed and the building is abandoned, trees grow in them)
Iced, both things, non-males driving and sitting in the front, are pirtzos of tznius whether your Chassidishe or not.
So I guess its Prizus for women to drive, but not Prizus for them to take the bus or Subway
Why is it gashmeus to own the Shas on an Ipad but NOT Gasmeus to own the Artscroll Shas.
And if you are so concerned about money, why not donate the money for your Shas to Hurricane Sandy victims too.
And if you are concerned about technology, Dont learn by electric light, if the Vilna Gaon learned by candlelight, so can you
Canolis arent weird, they are just awesome
I suppose most here are greater Talmedi Chachamin than Rav Dovid Cohen (and Im fairly sure with the blessing of other Gedolim as well) who allowed Ohel to have female therapists with male clients
People want Tzedkah to Date so they can meet the person, then people want Tzedkah for Chacnas Kallah so the wedding is paid, then people want Tzedakah for learning in Kollel .
Who is going to give if everyone followed this formula and took.
Now its assur to shop on Black Friday, Have you asked a Rav if you can poskim a Chumra?
Not really because it always winds up that I eat turkey for the next week. there is only so much turkey I can eat.
I do love Pumpkin pie though, Its one of my favorites
Its considered bad form for a therapist to get involved with a patient, no different than a doctor or nurse getting involved with a patient.
I meant New York State Constituition, not US constituion which is also hard to change
Tution vouchers are illegal based on state laws not federal laws. It is illegal according the NY constitution to pay for private school tutions (It has nothing to do with jews and was there because of Anti-Catholism in the late 19th Century, they are called Blaine Amendments)
Until the Blaine Amendment is repealed, vouchers will never be legal (Its is very difficult to change us constitution)
Too much learning can lead to burn out. Its not a bad thing to give people some time off without the pressures of Yom tov and time to just chill and re-charge the batteries
I guess its also assur to see an opposite gender doctor or be helped by an opposite gender nurse
Most of the therapists at ohel are female
Pulease, I asked you about less restrictive forms of judaism, not to make you religious again, but you seem to want to be part of the jewish community and all the people you seem to know are the ones with the harsh view of it.
I cant help you with your family, I wish I could, but I cant. But maybe you can connect to people with similar views to yourself. People who want connection to some form of judaism in their lives but dont want the harsh view.
While almost everyone here will disagree with me, They want all or nothng and when this is the choice many times its nothing. its isnt the worst thing to pick and choose sometimes. You can decide where you want to go in life. You can meet women who got to shul on Shabbos and wear Jeans on Sunday. You can meet people with the same interests as you who are not quick to wag the finger that you will “Burn forever” (Which is NOT a jewish idea anyway).
People here have condemed UJA and certain Rabbis. While I do not agree with many of the positions they have taken, at least they keep people connected. When someone is on the fringe becoming a Chasid or Yeshivish is not an option.
On your US passport it would say Palestine
By some of the comments here Its no wonder many are leaving.
Please share what Gadol says its OK to take government money in the US (As opposed to other countries where the law is differnt) instead of working
acookiejar
Science and History dont prove or disprove anything. I happen to have a university degree in both from a normal secular university (Not even Touro or YU) and Ive taken all those courses (OK I didnt take Biology because I hated it in High School.
Again its unfortunate that some here disparage all secular studies, it then becomes “the forbidden fruit” and becomes more mysterious than it really is
Pulease
Have you considered trying a less restrictive form of orthodoxy. The wag the finger element that occurs on this website and in some communities doesnt exist everywhere.
I do agree that some forms of orthoxy have insulated themselves so much that it becomes impossible to see other views. And many do find pleasure in Chumaras, many do not and are really turned off by them.
Rav Ovadiah Yosef says the Ethiopians are jewish and Rav Elyashiv says they are not
Who are we to follow?
Bad “Help” is worse than no help
To live on Higher ground not near the water and make sure you are not in a flood zone
Rabbi Perez Steinberg is actually part of the Vaad of Queens the only organization that has actually guideliness for converts.
If somone went to Torah Vadaas and asked to convert, Rav Belsky tells them to go to Queens
Everyone has a place to be in life . There are some things people are good at and other things they are bad at.
I can tell you from some of the responses, some people need to stay as far away from Kiruv as possible, they are doing more harm than good.
Pulease
May I ask if you were brought up in a more charedi community perhaps Chassidic and if you were, do you think you might have a different view. Not all communities are against college for example. Not all communities are as restrictive as others.
Do you have any connection to organized religion, Do you ever attend services?
The problem is many others feel the same as RN and they are the ones chasing people away and then they beg them to come back.
They have been so soured by Yiddishkeite no amount of begging is going to work
Now you have to do Teshuva for reading secular books. Its no wonder so many are going OTD, Since almost everything according to you is an averah, why not go full fledged.
. Your 16 year old daughter or 16 year old grandaughter is also a niddah
Most OTD’ers are probably “chased away” Ive seen their stories and they have been chased away (although via differnt ways) and I find it ironic that after they have been chased away people beg for them to come back.
You dont chase someone away and expect them to come back too easily
I will try to explain the Charedi position on that.
Charedim cannot fathom that people would want to leave, They cannot understand why boys dont like Gemorah or women dont like Tzniut or Tahrat Mishpacha. They cannot understand why someone would rather text their friends on Shabbos than sing Zimrot.
Since everyone loves these things, and if you dont their only reason you are mentally ill. The reason they exile the OTDer is because they cannot handle the situation. They know no other way and if someone goes a differnet way “YOu must be mentally ill”.
Its very unfortunate the OTDers are cast that way. It doesnt help the situation and really makes it worse.
There is no NEW OTD phenomenom, People have been going OTD for centuries, Conversions , The Haskallah, The Reform movement Chassidism (Dont forget the Vilna Gaon excommunicated Chassidim) emigration to america etc.
The only differnce now is one you are not intersted as are most of figuring out what to do, The only goal today of such discusssions is to “prove” whatever you thought was the reason “IS” the reason Like “See it was the Internet” , “See it was movies”.
The reality is today religion in general is on the decline. 30% of Americans do not belong to an organized religion. Its not just judaism, Its christianity as well. You think you know alot of OTD’ers. Look at the Catholic church. Most Catholics today are “OTD”. And this is in America. In Europe its even higher, even in catholic countries like Ireland and Italy.