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On Beefsteak.
Grass will give him stomach issues. Spinach is practically toxic.
mdd:
I was not refering to any specific example, and I know nothing about the Boro Park Eruv.
I believe Wolf is correct on this, that it could happen, and it is a “very narrow-minded approach”. The OP and goldenkint should have their “other parties” check it out with their Rov before acting.
Holding a more lenient opinion = being mechalel Shabbos B’Mayzid?! That’s quite a stretch there.
Do you hold of every machmir opinion in the world? If not, are you transgressing aveiros b’mayzid?
The Wolf
Of course not. But I could see someone’s Rov saying “If you don’t follow my shitta, you are being Mechalel Shabbos B’Maizid!!”.
You can’t see it?
Wolf: Since the doer knows the Machmir Shitta, and chooses not to follow it, I can see a Rov saying it is a Maizid, since the doer should have known better.
Working on it:
Internet is different because the actual internet is not an issur, but there may be a gezairah by her community not to use it (similar to TV, to a large extent). Chometz on Pesach is actually assur.
The fact that she thinks that internet is “assur” just speaks to the method of teaching (Don’t touch the tree, because if you do, you will die!!!) vs. the actual dinim involved.
However much time you need to teach the material that you want to teach.
So for the OP, the internet is not really “assur”, but THEY just can’t use it (peer pressue, shidduchim stigma, etc., or a gezairah made by their rov for his community). That is not to say the benefit from it is disallowed (or there would be many more things they could not do, like talk on their “kosher phone”, etc.
I just heard a shiur regarding this.
Simply, there is a concept in Halacha called Shaas HaDechak, and we allow certain things for “B’Dieved”. That does not allow someone else who does not have the B’Dieved to go ahead and use the heter!
Similarly, if you hold opening a bottle cap on shabbos is a melacha, if someone else opens it, that is as far as you are concerned that is Melecha. Whether you can use it or not depends if you define the doer as a shoggeg or Maizid, ask your LOR (See SA OHC 318).
mikehall12382
It was edited because I wanted to add a point that was unrelated to the topic at hand, but a personal pet peeve. The edit was fair.
The woman’s only coffee room is closed to non marrieds, which is why they turn up here?
I haven’t noticed anything (but then again, I try not to notice strange women) (as in stranger, not as in abnormal).
BS”D
The famous letter of 1979 tried and succeeded in making OWNING a TV into a “wedge” issue between followers of Rav Yoshe Ber and followers of the Agudah Roshei Yeshiva (The poskim of the time (such as Rav Moshe, Rav Yaakov & Rav Ruderman) did not sign it, IIRC). This is one of the main reasons why the “Yeshiva World” is so against TV, Lehavdil Ben’nenu Ubain “Ha’Amim” (sic).
It has been said many times by the rabbonim that if they could Assur Internet they would (and they tried, at first), probably for the same reason, to make it a “wedge” issue. When they saw no one (working) would listen, they changed their minds to what the Tzibbur thought was doable (as per the concept of “Gezairah SheHatzibbur Yachol Laamod Ba”), while still maintaining the guidelines against the real Issurim. In EY, the Charadim were able to make it such, due to the lack of members in the outside world (which is after all, against Charaidi Hashkafa anyway).
Telling a child that watching a TV is “poison” is counterproductive. Always tell the truth, say what the issues are (Ervah, Tznius, waste of time, etc.). You don’t want to be raising the next version of Tzaddok & Baysus.
For the OP I simply ask: Why have something in your home that will distract you from one another? At least wait until you are bored of each other! (If that CV ever happens).
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While the Chasidim and Chareidim in EY have stricter tznius criteria, the Yeshivish oilem in C”L generally go with the same shittos as Rav Falk shlit”a brings in his Sefer. That’s the reason the Yeshivish girls high schools and seminaries use Rav Falk’s Sefer to teach the girls.
I don’t think so. Ask a Rov, not what Sems do.
But that was a side point. “In Town” might be more machmir due to the pull of Times Square, what do I know.
And Chassidim (I don’t know about Charaidim) are strict in some things, but less strict in others. It is (like most things) a mixed bag (and the less strict stuff will not and can not be printed in mixed company).
Yes guys have changed over the years but what about girls? Why is it unheard of for a girl to be a stay at home mom?
Rav Miller was very much for SAHM’s and husbands working. He lost out to the “Lakewood” velt (post 1980’s), who hold it is better for women to work and support their husbands learning.
And at this point, tuition (for those who are working) needs two salaries (and let’s not get into the economics of the issue).
Linear Mass Density?
Now I am confused.
I’ll also add my usual R. Falk disclaimer that that book is not accepted as Halacha by most of the male “Yeshivish” Olam (as opposed to the sems) or Charaidim in EY, and certainly not by the chassidim (all of which have their own mesorah). Ask your own LOR for actual practice.
TBT:
Sadly, there are many people who practice Yiddishkeit but are not excited to do so (they continue either from social pressure, family structure, or ignorance).
The term some people use is “orthoprax”. The OP does not want someone like that, so she had to add that point.
Every day, take 30 seconds to thank Hashem (IIRC, Rav Miller).
I am a gavra at work.
Agree with SJS.
You are looking in all the wrong places.
Go out of town, and you will find.
The major in-town yeshivas have made a good living discouraging anyone “intelligent” from making a Parnassah (at least within the past 15 years). Don’t expect to find anyone there.
Sounds like you could go for a Skokie boy, or maybe even Lander College/Ohr Hachaim (in KGH). I know of some very serious (learning & Parnassah) boys who came out of Lander College.
Good luck.
The yeshivish crowd thinks you’re too modern because you are pursuing a college degree from a respectable secular university, and the more modern crowd thinks you’re too yeshivish because torah and mitzvos are a serious priority.
But your school administrator blesses you every day, and twice on payday.
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Lefi Rav Moshe, Concerts should not be attended either. Also, Rav Moshe (here) is discussing live music, not taped. IIRC, there is an opinion that a tape/CD/MP3 has a din of a Klei Zemer, and should not be used even for vocal music.
P.S. The issur brought in Mishna Berura is specificly Rikud (dancing) and music that would lead to it (493:3), which seems to back the opinion of RSZA. (And yes, the Chofetz Chaim had “classical” concerts during his day as well)
now, changing a thread and philosophizing and telling everyone what kind of figure you prefer may be interesting, but in this thread it’s hurtful. The girl is crying because she’s terrified no one will ever want to marry her because her body is simply not skinny. She is a wonderful girl, has great middos, but she is scared.
Sorry Bina, it really is a boy’s market. As long at that stands, the girls will have to conform with what boys want.
To quote:
Some (very few) boys think:
Most will judge by size. And that is where we fail. Deal with what is, not with what you want things to be.
All other things being equal…
Jackson WY.
it would be foolish to assert that it is better than hand-made matzah’s, as such a claim would effectively mean that the kashrus was lacking in the matzah’s of Am Yisroel in the 3 millennium leading up to the invention of the machine.
Rav Gifter = fool?
I don’t think so.
I leave for a week (not at work), and we get namecalling and outright Lashon Hara (don’t claim Toeles) regarding Rabbonim.
What happened?
If one sticks to loshon Hakodesh, he’s got all the seforim he needs and doesn’t need these aids in other languages.
Rav Gifter went to study Arabic to be able to learn Rambam Perush HaMishnayos in the original.
Di Fara, Midwood.
Too bad it isn’t Kosher. But I do have a real Yetzer Hara when I am in Brooklyn to try a slice.
D: State legistators should vote for their state’s choice, as well as their choice for senator (after the election).
Why do the kids have so much vacation from school? And don’t tell me the teachers need the time off to clean and cook. Women who work at non-teaching jobs work until the last minute. What gives?
The main perk of the “Klei Kodesh” job is that it follows the Yom Tov schedule (and school, so you get both Yom Tov & summers), as well as being home for your children when they get home from school. It is like a union job (nothing against you, SJS), where certain perks are the reasons why people take the job over other possible venues, even if the pay is much less.
Teaching is meant to be a “cushy” job; it is not meant to be working in the “real world” (whether the actual job is difficult or not is irrelevent). Even if you paid the teachers extra, they would not want to come in, and many would quit if they had to work real hours.
So to a certain extent it is a win-win. Teachers get their hours, and schools pay them Bupkis.
Define “Shop”
It is assur to do “Sechora” (loosely translated as business) during Chol Hamoed, except for a Davar Ha’Avud.
You can buy food you need for Yom Tov (you can actually do that on Yom Tov itself, with qualifications)
Anything else, ask your Rov.
Offer Schlepping services.
If you need millions then you can try Zimbabwe Dollars.
For the Jews, tell them no. i.e. “you are a Bais Yaakov girl”.
For the non-jews, tell them you don’t touch men for religious reasons, but feel free to “be friendly”. They have no shaychus with you, and are not a threat.
Pesach is a Yom Tov of Chumras.
I was told Machine Shemura (Geula) was selling for $4.50 a pound in BP.
For those who want to be Machmir and get better hand matza (let alone non shemura) is only that, a chumra.
Kol Hakavod, but to be Machmir on this and therefore Mekel on other things needs a qualified Rov.
Gavra, The point is that upon who is the burden of proof? Maybe it is upon the agnostic to prove that a complex system can self-assemble. Therefore, if he can’t, then G-d must exist.
Whomever is attempting to convince the other to change their mind has the burden of proof.
When the Agnostic comes to convert me, I will use your logic.
Own.
IMHO, leasing is very good for those who get nervous about “car stuff”, so they need a new one every three years so that they don’t have to worry about new tires, brakes, etc.
Also, leasing allows families to jump a bracket (from a US to Japan, for example) without having anything additional out of pocket (during the time of the lease). Three years? Bezras Hashem Moshiach will be here.
Forget Reuvain. Can Shimon commit a capital crime (resulting in his execution) if it’s not his time? Can he commit suicide if it’s not “his time?”
Yes. The question is strengthened if we involve others. Bechira will allow you to not get what you would have otherwise, but will it do the same for others*?
* Yes, others could include children and spouses. But let’s assume that indirect punishments will get tallied up in the “Schar V’onesh” calculator and used elsewhere.
Pharaoh, if Hashem had not hardened his heart, would have had no free will.
Malachim, who do have free will, are unable to “choose” not to believe in Hashem as they “see” Him.
BY: There is a somewhat well known Machlokes between the Maharal and everyone else in the following case:
Reuvain decides he wants to kill Shimon. However, it is not Shimon’s time yet. Can Reuvain use his bechira (IIRC the Maharal) or will outside forces intervene, since it is not Shimon’s time?
I guess once we decide there is a supreme being, we will probably want to think about what form it might have. That sort of philosophy is way beyond me. There probably are rishonim who go down that road until concluding that it must have no form.
Re: form: Rambam Raavad.
PY: No argument, but “we don’t know” never convinced someone who is an agnostic. And as long as you agree there is no “proof”, the agnostics will continue to be skeptical.
i have no proof that there is not a lion waiting just outdoor my house in the morning. but a reasonable person conducts her life by what is reasonable.
Where have I heard that exact argument before?
PY: Infinite monkey theorem argument. And again, sharpshooter’s fallacy. If it produced an Airbus 320 would you be any less impressed?
Besides, a simple counter-argument is that we have no idea what 15 billion years can or can not do.
But if you can believe that G-d always was, is and always will be, why can’t I assume the same for matter?”
G-d is not “is and always will be” the way a five year old sings an Uncle Moishy song (Hashem is truly everywhere….then where is he? Invisible? How about my invisible friend Yankel?)
We had this idea recently. Take a look at Rambam Yesodei HaTorah second perek towards the end.
Sugar high, with no letdown!
Sound like Chazal was right on (as usual).
You can try active participation, and/or a play about the Yeztiah.
PY: Not so simple.
Using the “sharpshooter’s fallacy” Wolf pointed out before, any changes in universal constants would have created a much different world than we have, if it would even have been possible to create life. Athiests will say the constants are random.
None the less, an athiest still needs to agree that those constants (whatever they may be) exist somehow without intervention of a being (which would be a god-like power which then is anti-athiest).
So an Athiest has to start even before the “ball of mud”, with how did the rules (whatever they may have been) come into existence?
Now, there is multiverse theory (idea?), but talk about completely unprovable! And that in of itself points to complexity, which points to a creator.
I use around 600 gallons of gas every year. Not anywhere close to that in the other categories.
So think of gas at 2.75, and you are paying an extra 600$. That is somewhat more reasonable, no?
Poshut. Like the Chazon Ish said, we can not have Charadim working under the auspicies of the state (which is why he (and other Charadim) held Sherut Leumi is Yehoreg V’al Ya’avor). Charadim must always be under the direct hechsher of the Gedolim.
I’m just surprised that there were any Charadim working for MADA. I imagine there are not, and the question came up only recently by someone who was unable to be “Mayvin Davar Mitoch Davar”.
What I find a little more disturbing is the attitude of if they don’t want to believe, they’ll find ways to refute your proof. If you can’t give them a good solid proof (even if its not absolutely fool proof), why would they believe? Do you think Judaism encourages mindlessness?
It is too bad that Yiddishkeit doesn’t have a form of Rumspringa, or the “Yisro” method. It would probably allow more of these “going off” to see and understand why one should be an active Yid.
I have my emunah and bitachon B”H but I don’t pretend there is rock solid “proof” for it (There is obviously- at least to me- much evidence). Otherwise it wouldn’t be emunah and bitachon… and there wouldn’t be so many followers of other religions and athiesm. It wouldn’t be a test and we wouldn’t get schar.
Preponderance of the evidence, anyone 🙂
If your guy thinks he’s smarter than rambam, rashi, r’ Yonoson Eibeshutz, the Vilna Gaon and innumerous other incredibly smart people, he has a lack of midos.
Or Spinoza, Aquinas, Descartes and Locke?
Not to compare C”V, but that doesn’t begin to make an argument. And if you actually say that, it will just make it worse.
PBA: We have discussed why previously, the reason is the same.
Why would you be insulted?
I’m sure your wife feels the same way.
Yup, she does.
Why?
Most Rabonim believe that if one does not hold from the eruv, that person should not eat any of the food that is carried in on Shabbos.
I’m going to hijack the thread a bit (if that’s OK, Its getting hot in here as is).
There is a rather “unknown” din from the fifth perek of Beitza that discusses the idea of being “Koneh Shevisa”. This means, that once an object has a “place” for Shabbos or Yom Tov, it retains that place and may not be used outside that place. The concept is brought in the Mishna (37a) for the Din of Techum (2K Amos), and is codified in Shulchan Aruch Simin 397. This has various practical Nafkei Mina, from reading a Sefer that arrives in the mail on Shabbos to having a non-jew push a stroller between bungalow colonies that are more than 2K Amos apart.
IIRC (which I am not sure of), this does not apply to Eruvei Chtzeros.
What this issue here may be is that of being Nehene (gaining benefit) from someone elses Melacha on Shabbos. the SA (318) discusses that the food cooked on shabbos by a jew, even by accident, is not allowed to be eaten by someone else until after shabbos. The MB there brings the Gaon and Tos. that hold that the food may be eaten even by the doer right away, and says that you can be Somech on that in the case of Tzorech.
In general, the Kiddush the “olam” will be at is considered a “tzorech”. As such, it is possible the Halacha would be different than when the food is being brought for an individual.
I have a tray like that, the pattern is amazing; I don’t plan on polishing it.