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  • in reply to: Alternative Communities in New Jersey? #1657455
    Haimy
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    How about Toms River or Jackson? There’s no perfect place to live. Colored shirts are not a good enough reason to put your family through the difficulty of resettling somewhere else. The “pressure ” in Lakewood may be influencing you & your family in a positive way without you realizing. There guys just like you in Lakewood who figure out how to find a nice group. Wearing a white shirt is a small sacrifice for all that Lakewood offers.

    in reply to: Propane gas Portable Matza Oven in NYC #1654518
    Haimy
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    I had such a style oven (from Israel but don’t remember the manufacturer) but sold it for the following reason. Lechatchila the matzot should not be touched once placed in the oven until the bottom is baked. In my oven, due to the position of the fire, part of the matzot would burn before the rest was baked . It would need to be moved before the complete bottom of the matza was baked.
    It’s not worth the tremendous work involved to produce second rate matzos.

    in reply to: The Killing of Nahal Haredi Soldiers and the Anti Draft Protests #1652699
    Haimy
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    The Chachmei Yisroel don’t need to provide anyone a written teshuva explaining their decisions. The Yishuv in E.Y. has long fought for it’s independence from the Zionist regime. Nachal Chareidi was a big chidush & never intended for a boy able to sit in yeshiva. There are many reasons why the chachmei yisroel want us out of the army, not only because of bittul torah. If you don’t respect their opinion then no written Teshuva will change your mind, if you respect their opinion then you don’t need a Teshuva.

    in reply to: OPEN LETTER To My Fellow NY Hatzolah Members About Billing Insurance #1652613
    Haimy
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    First work on perfecting your Davening, your learning, your bein adom lechaveiro, & then we’ll aim for a pure hatzolah that doesn’t bill insurance for services it rightfully can bill for. Your mitzva is as chashuv whether insurance is billed or not. Let’s stop being OCD about this subject.

    in reply to: The Killing of Nahal Haredi Soldiers and the Anti Draft Protests #1652261
    Haimy
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    Thank you neville-chaimberlin, I couldn’t have said it better.

    in reply to: The Killing of Nahal Haredi Soldiers and the Anti Draft Protests #1652113
    Haimy
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    The repository of Torah has always been the Chareidim. The modern orthodox yidden were the Zevuluns who went out into the academic/professional world. “We” strive to be shevet Yisochor who are the spiritual backbone of klal Yisroel.
    Look at you seforim shelf, at least 95% was written by a Chareidi yid. Artscroll Shas etc. Written & edited by a Chareidi Jew. Mishna Berura, kitzur Shulchan aruch, Aruch hashulchon, Igros Moshe, all Chareidim.
    The chachmei hador belong to the chareidim because they have invested so much into producing gaonei yisroel.
    They have taken responsibility for the chinuch system in E.Y.
    It is absolutely foolish for unqualified people so voice their opinion about this subject. It’s no different than a layman expressing his opinion about how a brain surgeon should operate. Or a Chareidi Jew telling a MO Jew how to run his hedge fund or law practice, everyone should stick to their area of expertise.

    in reply to: The Killing of Nahal Haredi Soldiers and the Anti Draft Protests #1651991
    Haimy
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    I never claimed such a thing!. There is an army. They don’t need us to protect the country. We will be pulled down spiritually if we join them. Therefore, we don’t join.
    It is better for them that we don’t join since thereby Klal Yisroel has more zechusim by us remaining pure.
    Quoting a senior Talmid Chacham & recognized leader is not a “joker card” It’s how orthodox Jews have been making decisions since we stood at Har Sinai. (Excluding Korach & several others)

    in reply to: The Killing of Nahal Haredi Soldiers and the Anti Draft Protests #1651972
    Haimy
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    “WE” are the yidden who believe in the Torah’s commandment to follow our senior Talmidei Chachomim of each generation.
    “WE” don’t pasken for ourselves on our own from cliche like Yishuv E. Y., We rely on the guidance the senior chachmei hador of each generation.
    This is how Yiddishkeit always was before modern orthodoxy took off.

    Rav Ahron Leib Shteinmann was a recognized Manhig Yisroel & this was his opinion as you can read here:

    Recently Released Letter By Maran HaRav SHteinman To Hagon HaRav Don Segal Regarding Nachal Charedi

    in reply to: The Killing of Nahal Haredi Soldiers and the Anti Draft Protests #1651848
    Haimy
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    We believe that a) the army is not an acceptable place for any yeshiva bachur regardless of how little he’s learning.

    B) the nachal Hareidi was only intended for boys who would otherwise become mechalilei Shabbos.

    C) The yeshiva draft law places all Yidden in E.Y. In danger by weakening limud Hatorah, which is our main zechus.

    D) If Nachal Hareidi boys were killed, it signifies we need to do Teshuva & accrue more zechusim.

    E) We certainly protest the draft which would leave us with less zechusim & thereby more soldiers dying Ch”vsh.

    F) We don’t make a specific misheberach for Israeli soldiers because we need to be clear that it’s existence is a terrible bedieved, only for boys that would otherwise go otd. We have them in mind by acheinu other general tefilos for klall Yisroel.

    Those that died protecting klal yisroel are kedoshei elyon.

    in reply to: Trump will not be re-elected. Sorry #1650020
    Haimy
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    I’m sorry for all us frum Yidden sighed with relief when Obama finally was done. We may be looking at another 8 years of a super liberal anti-Israel president from the Democrats. If only Trump could control himself from all his lashing out & tweeting. If he isn’t reelected then he has himself to blame. I think he’s well-meaning & want’s to help the country but is sabotaged by his own impulsive temperament.

    in reply to: Is the MO community concerned with SED? Why the silence? #1648483
    Haimy
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    I don’t believe the MO schools have 5 hours of secular studies per day in the 7-8th grade. Will they just go along with whatever the state decides for them?

    in reply to: Your 21 year old son may be ready for marriage #1635501
    Haimy
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    If 2000 unmarried American chareidi girls above the age of 25 is not a “crisis ” then I don’t know what else to call it. If getting boys to marry a bit younger can help solve this problem than we should be responsible & try to make it happen.
    A lack of bitochon? Helping out other yidden from living a life of loneliness is a mitzva, we don’t apply bitochon to absolve ourselves from mitzvos.
    There are countless single girls who are leaving their childbearing age who will never experience the joys of motherhood due to the shortage of boys. It’s baloney that so many boys have left the chareidi world & that explains the shortage.
    Some people have shidduch crisis phobia & simply cannot accept that Hashem would allow such a scenario. They think it’s kefira to believe that such a crisis can even happen, let alone trying to fix it. I wasn’t addressing my post to anti shidduch crisis diehards.
    There is much the rest of us can do without them.

    in reply to: Your 21 year old son may be ready for marriage #1635255
    Haimy
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    If your son is 21 & is a mature boy then you should definitely bring up the subject of marriage & whether he would like to begin dating. Hopefully, if more boys marry girls of similar age we won’t have several thousand unmarried older girls like we have today. You don’t need to call it a “crisis” if you find that word disturbing, we can just call it the 2000 missing boys of marriageable age dilemma.

    in reply to: Is it Mutar to celebrate Thanksgiving?!?!?!?!?!?! #1628825
    Haimy
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    Don’t be frummer than the gedolei Yisroel like rav Moshe, rav Yaakov, rav Ruderman, rav Ahron, etc. Non of them celebrated this non Jewish holiday. They had a better understanding of hakoras hatov than any of us.

    in reply to: Did Dell Bigtree change your perspective about anti vaxxers? #1626038
    Haimy
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    Which Rabbonim have called them rodfim?
    Why does it need to be in writing? I personally asked one of the most respected Rabbonim in Lakewood who said he supports the decisions of anti vaxxers. He’s not interested in being harassed by the multitudes of hysterical people so it’s not in writing.

    in reply to: Did Dell Bigtree change your perspective about anti vaxxers? #1625865
    Haimy
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    I’m not condoning people’s decision not to vaccinate during an epidemic, I do think he raised legitimate concerns with the oversight of vaccines. I personally do vaccinate though at a later age than what’s recommended by the CDC. Vaccination doesn’t need to be all or nothing, we need a state of balance. The anti-vaxxers are not a bunch of fools, they have well-respected poskim supporting them. As long as they have rabbinic support, you have no right to call them rodfim or humiliate them. You may have a right to keep their children out of school since schools are generally private institutions.

    in reply to: How can the Lakewood township fix the local traffic problem? #1621815
    Haimy
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    We need more cross roads between Prospect & James & James Central Ave. The only connecting roads are Williams & Sunset, both roads are slow moving.

    in reply to: Some topics are just too controversial for the coffee room moderators. #1620673
    Haimy
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    Dear moderator: Daas Torah is your Rebbi or a gadol hador, neither has told me which political candidate to vote for.
    Most of Lakewood voted for Hugin so they seem to agree with me.
    I’m glad to see YWN getting serious about loshon horah but I do not consider havi g a conversation about a lack of lines sofrim in local politics loshon horah.
    It’s not about any particular person, it’s about whether the current political process is working.
    Some topics are too controversial even when they’re nor loshon horah it seems.
    Thank you for allowing this thread to continue.

    in reply to: Lakewood Vaad’s Gefilte Fish Recipe (T) #1620670
    Haimy
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    It’s a shame my choice of gefilte fish isn’t decided by daas Torah, it would taste so much better.

    in reply to: Some topics are just too controversial for the coffee room moderators. #1617858
    Haimy
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    Dear moderator:
    Can you explain why the thread was closed several hours after it opened? Should the members of YWN have the choice to voice their opinions regarding the political leadership of their town? Was YWN contacted by an influential individual to close down the thread before people realize how unhappy people are with the current political establishment?
    Competition brings out the best ideas & talent, I believe the rubberstamping of local politicians does not allow them to be the best they can be.

    in reply to: Pro Vaccination Paranoia in the frum community. #1617811
    Haimy
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    CDC: Two doses of MMR vaccine are 97% effective against measles and 88% effective against mumps. One dose of MMR vaccine is 93% effective against measles, 78% effective against mumps, and 97% effective against rubella. MMR is an attenuated (weakened) live virus vaccine.

    97% effectiveness regardless of all the antivaxxers.
    Of the other 3% The chances of a healthy child becoming seriously ill is extremely low.
    Of course, I wish everyone would vaccinate & protect those who are immunosuppressed.
    For the overwhelming majority of parents there is no need to be worried about an “epidemic” any more than many other (unnecessary) risks we take in life.
    Examples:
    Swimming: every year multiple frum yidden drown in pools.
    Talking on the phone while driving: endless accidents.
    Obesity: Heart attacks, diabetes, & Cancer.
    The risk of harm from these is much greater than the antivaxxers ever could be.

    in reply to: Pro Vaccination Paranoia in the frum community. #1616911
    Haimy
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    How many people die from texting or talking on the phone while driving? Are you a rotzeiach? Shomer psaim Hashem. This no more of a danger than many other risks people take.

    in reply to: Gemany & Amaleik #1587311
    Haimy
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    Once again I’m hearing a derision of the opinion of Rav Yehoshuah Leib based on scant historica data. This smells of a modern orthodox approach to the opinions of gedolei hador. You’re posing legitimate questions but unfortunately the Gaon hador of his time is not with us to ask. I choose to accept his opinion.

    in reply to: Gemany & Amaleik #1585373
    Haimy
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    Rav Yehoshua Leib Diskin was the gadol hador of his time. Be careful before casting doubt on his opinion (even if you are modern orthodox). The seed of Amaleikites may have gotten mixed into the German population. He did not say that every German in an Amaleiki.

    in reply to: Gemany & Amaleik #1584685
    Haimy
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    The majority of Germans wholeheartedly supported their furer. Today, as the US is cutting aid for the Palestinians, Germany announced they will be increasing aid significantly. The repressed Sinas Yisroel since the holocaust is slowly reemerging.

    in reply to: Shelo Asani Isha #1583549
    Haimy
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    There’s a concept of loeg lorosh. We don’t cause others to feel bad that they don’t have as much as us. This is why we don’t perform mitzvos in a cemetery since it pains the meisim that they can no longer do mitzvos.
    We don’t sing shelo asani isha so as not to pain women. Let’s remember that for most of history women were illiterate & knew little about what men said by davening.
    Shelo Asany goy the ainom yehudi don’t hear so there’s no life lorosh.

    in reply to: Shelo Asani Isha #1581119
    Haimy
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    Chabad shlucha: Adam was created first, Hashem took his rib away and made Chava from it. Chava owes her life to Adam for sharing his rib.
    After Chava fed Adam from the Eta Hadaas Hashem Said “venue yimshol boch” he will rule over you. As chazal tell us “Isha kesheira oseh ritzon baalah”
    A wife is meant to be subservient to her husband as his eizer.
    He is to be treated as a king while he treats her as his queen.
    Feminism has made us think that there are 2 kings in the home, that is a recipe for divorce. No organization has 2 ceo’s, the same goes for marriage.

    in reply to: Shelo Asani Isha #1580950
    Haimy
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    The secular world believes men & women are equal in all ways & anyone disagreeing is a misogynist. Torah Jews are not misogynist but believe there are clearly different life roles for men & women. Adam was the main creation of “man” while Chava was to be his helper. Together, they are complete & ready to fulfill their life’s mission of connecting to Hashem.
    The feminists have denigrated the role of Chava as the child bearer so they gave women the role of Adam. Frum women are proud of their special role & are equal partners in their accomplishments together.

    in reply to: Question on R Miller (maybe joe will answer) #1580685
    Haimy
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    Just like a person can lose the reward for doing a mitzvah by later regretting doing it, so too we can enhance a mitzva later by feeling happy for doing it. A mitzvah is a live reality which can be affected even after the act of performance as well as before.

    in reply to: Going to Uman for the Hock #1580357
    Haimy
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    Do you have Rebbi to discuss this with? He may be the right person to answer your question.

    in reply to: Question on R Miller (maybe joe will answer) #1580356
    Haimy
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    You’re taking Rav Miller too literal. This concept is mentioned in earlier sources (possibly chasam sofer). Of course, the mitzva is accomplished without the daas of the baby, however, we add to the shleimus of the mitzva by expressing our happiness later for it. After all, according to some opinions the mitzvah continues throughout a person’s lifetime.

    in reply to: Shelo Asani Isha #1580124
    Haimy
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    According to the Mahral, men are more spiritual than women or in his words the Ish is the tzurah & the Isha is the Chomer. (this by the way is why women are more bound to the cycles of time then men are, they are more connected to the physical world than men are.) It was a modern invention of (Rabbi) Dr. Norman Lamm to say woman are more spiritual than men.
    According to Chaza’l, if your going to be born then the best situation is to be born a Ish Yehudi, second is an Isha yehudis, 3rd, an eved, 4th) aino yehudi.
    It’s not about who is better, it’s about who was given the most spiritual potential in this world.

    in reply to: Is there a problem of ribbis borrowing from Kabbage? #1579491
    Haimy
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    Correct. But it’s very easy to click on the pay later icon & you may be dealing with ribbis dioraisoh.

    in reply to: Is there a problem of ribbis borrowing from Kabbage? #1579476
    Haimy
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    They also have their own money invested in the company. They aren’t just loan processors. This a company with significant Jewish leadership & probably capital as well. With many yidden buying on Alibaba, this deserves serious scrutiny.

    in reply to: Is there a problem of ribbis borrowing from Kabbage? #1579318
    Haimy
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    Another senior Jewish partner is Marc Gorlin. Have you received a heter to from a privately held loan originator like Kabbage?

    in reply to: Zenni Optical Glasses #1567116
    Haimy
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    I get headaches from zenni as well as other online glasses stores. The local Jewish stores have a better quality lense.

    in reply to: Hats and jackets in the street #1564010
    Haimy
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    As Ravi Avigdor Miller said; Today, a bar mitzvah bachurs new hat is as important as his new tefillin. His hat let’s him & everyone around him know that he’s different. He follows a different code of conduct.
    A hat & jacket are important parts of preserving our yiddishkeit.

    Haimy
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    Demeaning to the gedolei Torah of our time. Not appropriate for a public discussion.

    in reply to: Amudim: Abuse often occurs within your home . #1548604
    Haimy
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    Let’s be honest with ourselves, our chinuch system does little to educate young men as they begin to mature so many go underground to find things out on their own. How many bachurim even have one conversation with an adult about the difficult challenges they face? Very few. This creates a dangerous situation for them & their families. This is one of the most difficult but unspoken issues facing our generation.

    in reply to: What does it say if the Umos haolom like our music? #1547431
    Haimy
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    I’ve noticed a trend among heimishe rock singers of late. There’s much less of a yiddishkeit theme to the music. Much more universalistic themes are being used as lyrics with little connection to yiddishkeit. I now wonder if this shift is occurring to appeal to a non Jewish or frei audience.
    It’s hard for me too grasp that a chasidishe yungerman is singing to a non Jewish mixed audience, something doesn’t jive well.

    in reply to: Amudim: Abuse often occurs within your home . #1546607
    Haimy
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    They are not talking about incest they referring to inappropriate touch. By the way Chazak prohibited yichud even with close family when there is a porutz. A significant number of people fit that category.
    Amudim recommends that the guidelines of yichud be applied even even with some family members due to the reality they are aware of.
    This is the world we are living in whether we like it or not.

    in reply to: Is the YWN internet filter broken? #1546146
    Haimy
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    Yeshiva world news obviously allows Google to place ads on ads on their site. That is problematic because viewers are being exposed to inappropriate material. I will definitely look into an adblocker for android.
    Aside from Google ads, I have come across several instances of of pictures posted which included immodestly dressed women. Immodest according to all halachik authorities.
    Pictures of Nikki Haley are posted almost on a daily basis even though he neckline is too exposed according to halacha. There are many more examples. We have become so used to seeing pritzus in our lives it almost seems extreme to bring this up.

    in reply to: SHOCKING Letter Published In Lakewood Newspaper ⚡📰 #1536198
    Haimy
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    The schools of the 80’s were a horror compared to the today’s yeshivos. The principals & Rebbeim are trained professionals in most cases. Our chinuch system is doing better today than ever. However, our children are facing more challenges today than ever before. Depression & anxiety is rampant, autism is increasingly common, & the world around us is pulling people down.
    It can be very harmful to a child to remain in the mainstream when they can’t manage the curriculum. We can’t expect schools to allow children to sit in a classroom bored & disturbing others. A child left in that situation will begin hating themselves & yiddishkeit as well.
    We do need more non conventional classrooms where these children can succeed & feel valued.
    The mainstream schools simply cannot service every child with an emotional/behavioral problem, some need different environment. It’s not easy putting your child in a non conventional classroom but it can save the child physically emotionally & spiritually.

    in reply to: How do you keep your children interested @ the Shabbos Seuda #1531742
    Haimy
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    Rav Yaakov Kaminetzky said that a Shabbos Seuda should be at least an hour. My children are elementary aged kids. I would like them to happily remain at the Seuda for 20-25 minutes which often happens when I have a good story to tell.
    I’m curious how other parents make their Seuda inspiring & interesting for kids. This has nothing to do with sushi or ptcha, the food is not the issue. Most of my kids aren’t interested in zemiros or in sitting longer than 10 minutes at a time.

    in reply to: How do you keep your children interested @ the Shabbos Seuda #1531198
    Haimy
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    Please leave sushi out of this impotant conversation.
    Is there a particular sefer you use that makes it exciting?
    Or share any other method you have used to make you seuda meaningful for your children.

    in reply to: It’s not only a segula, it’s a mitzvah too! #1528533
    Haimy
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    Reward for doing mitzvos is not a segula, Chazal never permitted us to do mitzvos as a segula. We do mitzvos because Hashem commanded us to do them & it’s true that by some mitzvos we are promised a reward in this world.
    Imagine telling a king that your fulfilling his will as a charm to get rich, would it go over well?
    Call it a zechus, don’t call Toras Hashem’s a segula.

    Haimy
    Participant

    Ok, but what’s with the onions? Do we need half an onion to go with a few measely pieces of herring? Fill the container with herring & charge 9.99. At least the majority of the container should be herring, not onions & oil.

    Haimy
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    Let’s assume we all became shadchanim & managed to marry of every last frum boy aged 22-39 in the US. How many girls would be left single? Many hundreds if not thousands.
    How does Redding a shiddach help the situation? If we get the girls in the market engaged now before the next 1000 girls enter the market they will have less candidates to compete with. As it stands, the market is flooded with excellent girls competing for an ever shrinking pool of boys.
    This my friends is a disaster in the making.
    We need a yom taanis utfilah to be mevatel this gezeira
    an make the best hishtadlus to fix it.

    Haimy
    Participant

    Ok, thank you all holy ostriches. Thank you for enlightenment me with alternative explanations.
    There is no shidduch crisis.
    Just as many boys are unmarried as girls, we don’t have the data to prove any crisis. (What we see all around us is not a valid study)
    There always were girls who didn’t get married because there was no dowry. ( Even wealthy girls are finding it hard)

    More girls than boys still theoretically allows each girl to go out on equal dates. (There won’t be enough boys for the girls to marry regardless if they all got a date)
    Let’s not make girls into rachmonus cases, it’s a chilul Hashem. (HASHEM wants us to ignore their pain& just trust in him to make it right.
    The girls are to picky looking for a full time learner so the boys married some other group of girls whom we don’t know about yet. (Please identify where these thousands of rejected boys are & who they married)

    This whole conversation comes from a lack of bitachon
    Everyone has their bashert we just need to daven that all the missing boys should reappear. (The chiyuv hishtadlus applies to shidduchim as well).
    Please continue helping me understand alternative explanations for this crisis/non crisis.

    Haimy
    Participant

    Ubiquitin the problem starts when a boy lands in Lakewood & immediately (in many cases) has a long list of girls 19-24 to go out with. Of course the youngest, more chashuv, beautiful, wealthy, etc. girls move to the top of the list. The shadchanim focus on these easy shidduchim first because there’s a higher success rate with bigger shadchonus.
    Meanwhile, the average excellent girls sit waiting for a date& growing older. Repeat this over & over & you have a crisis.
    If the market was even, then boys wouldn’t have long lists of girls to reject & grow older.
    I spoke to a successful shadchanim who told me she only deals in fresh crop of boys & girls because they are the easiest to get engaged, the rest aren’t worth her time.
    I think this basically explains what’s going on.

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