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Q: If you were a non-Jew:
Would you want all the stores to be closed on Saturdays and Jewish Holidays?
A: All the stores? There are stores that have inconvenient hours and you work around those hours or they go out of business eventally. It’s called capitalism.Q: If you were a non-Jew:
Would you want kosher food stores,
where the prices are higher than for non-kosher foods?
A: Whole foods has higher prices than other stores that sell similar products so i prefer to shop elsewhere. Many people shop at Trader Joe’s, even though their prices are frequently higher and the stores are further out because the like the products. No one is forced to shop anywhere.Q: If you were a non-Jew:
Would you want public signs in a language that you do not understand?
A: There are lots of signs in Spanish. I was annoyed for a few years but eventually I realized that it makes sense to learn Spanish if you live in the USA. Duolingo is a good place to start.Q: If you were a non-Jew:
Would you want all your neighbors to speak Yiddish or Hebrew?
And even when they speak English,
they use many words that you do not understand?
A: in America, there are lots of people who speak lots of languages that the neighbors don’t understand. I had lots of people on my block speaking lots of languages.Q:If you were a non-Jew:
Would you want all your neighbors to be people who
are not interested in forming meaningful friendships
with non-Jews, or even talking to non-Jews?
A: Many people don’t have a meaningful relationship with their neighbors. I live in israel and am only close with a few of my neighbors.Q:If you were a non-Jew:
Would you want to live in a place where most
celebrations and events are for Jews-ONLY?
A: Sounds annoying but there are Halloween events, Xmas, Mardi Gras, Kwanzaa, Dragon events all over the USA and the Jews seem to be just fine.Q: If you were a non-Jew:
Would you want to become a minority in
the place where you lived your entire life?
A: Neighborhoods change. it’s annoying. It’s why there are no jews in South or West side of Chicago. At least in NJ, the locals aren’t chased out violently and they are selling their homes at way more than they would’ve ever dreamed.Q:If you were a non-married non-Jew,
would you want all your neighbors to be people
who you could never marry or even date?
A: Most people don’t marry the girl next door. It’s usually considered weird.Q: If you were a non-Jew:
Would you want to be used as a “Shabbos Goy”?
A: I don’t think that most non Jews find it offensive at all. Most people like to help. It’s not considered a lowly job. In fact, many Shabbos Goyim figured out that they can make money off of a basic service like turning off the lights.It’s interesting that you are asking this question now.
There is no end to the suffering in this world. I see families where one person died of a heart attack, another had cancer and other has major emotional issues. I see families where one parent died young and less than a year later, the other parent died in a freak accident. I see families who suffer with poverty and with debilitating medical conditions.
We are not here for this world. The closer you are to God, the more you realize that this world cannot be the purpose of creation. The more you tune in, the more you realize that you have a soul and that this world is just a mirage.
I learned (I don’t have a source so please verify with rabbis you trust) that our souls agreed to be in the body that we were given. When we were with God and had perfect clarity as to what we needed to accomplish, we agreed to our life. Now we are on Earth and we are clouded by physicality. The seeming paradox is that we have a spiritual mission but we aren’t in a spiritual reality that would allow us to clearly recognize how to achieve it.
I think the real question is, “why would God create a being that is so compromised by his human understanding of reality, and not a being that can intensely sense spirituality?” That is a similar question to what the Angels asked when they told God that He would’ve been better off not creating humans with our desires for physicality.
God doesn’t want us to know the answer to this question. If we knew the answer then this world wouldn’t be what it is. God created the world and He created the rules. Our choice is only how we deal with the reality that we were given.
I struggle with what the point was in all the pogroms for thousands of years if none of them brought Mashiach. If we needed thousands of years of perfection after all the exiles and persecution then it seems that it didn’t bring us to where we needed to get to as a result.
Which leads me to my final point. Do you remember that when Israel was accused of bombing the hospital, Israel announced that they MAY release proof that they didn’t do it? They ultimately released a phone recording of Islamic Jihad and Hamas. I believe that the reason they were hesitant to release that proof is because they didn’t want the other side to know how deeply they are entrenched in their systems. I’m sure that by revealing those conversations, they knew that those groups would make changes to their methods of communication which was a tremendous risk.
If an army is hesitant to reveal its intel then how much more so God, who is the master plan of the entire universe. So many people have opinions about what the army should or shouldn’t do. We know nothing-nothing-nothing about what information the army has, so whom are we to have an opinion. How much more so God?
So beautiful, thank you for the chizuk.
“One such “kid” I know whose working parents encouraged him to learn (possibly beyond his talents) later responded to their concerns that he is not gainfully employed – “you encouraged me to go in this direction” …”
Are you suggesting this is Lakewood’s fault?
I just thought it would be relevant to point out, to those who think that kids go off because of gemara and no English studies, that girls in Lakewood also go off at a very high rate.
Has anyone here even asked any of these kids why they are acting this way, instead of assuming?
The USA is not going to nuke Moscow if Russia nukes Crimea. Ukraine should be willing to do some compromise to end the war but Ukraine would rather the entire world to be blown to smithereens rather than to do give an inch to end the war.
I feel very annoyed that there are families in which the kids have no food to eat and its because of specific life choices that the parents have made. I am not talking about people who are unlucky. I am talking about people who do it on purpose. I think it’s irresponsible and silly that they are choosing soliciting as their form of profession. But unacceptable is too strong for me.
“To get back to the point of this thread, those coming to minyanim to schnor wedding funds, I find it unacceptable. I’m a Justice of the Peace, I’d marry them for nothing in my office, enough frum Yidden there to make a minyan and I’ll break out a bottle of scnhaaps and kichel afterwards.”
Why is it unacceptable to ask? Demanding, stalking, bullying, exploiting for donations is nasty business, but you have a problem with asking? Just say no.
I really don’t understand people complaining about whats available on YouTube. If you’re on unfiltered YouTube then you are not a victim to whatever you choose to watch.
“MY point is that unless able to earn a living a couple has no business getting married.”
My point is that you have control over your offspring. You are raising them according to your beliefs. Many people believe differently. Just like you can choose which store to shop at and which brands to buy, you can also choose which charities you wish to support. But even if you are passionate about your reasons for not shopping at Kmart or Bergdorf Goodman, those businesses serve their demographics.
Your chinuch preferences are yours to make but saying that everyone else is wrong seems close-minded.
“It upsets me when I see the names of donors in larger lettering than the name of the institution.”
Obviously it’s good for marketing.
“Do you think there is anything wrong to give for recognition or fame rather than shtil aheit?”
It is impossible to know how you would feel if you were in that position.
As someone who has not given millions in order to have my name on a building, it irks me when I see a name on a building with large letters “donated by xx” and in smaller letters “in memory of yy”. But if people are willing to pay thousands to have someone else’s name on their watch, or hundreds to have someone else’s name on your bag, then it makes sense to want to pay millions to have your own name on a building.
“lots of things are disgusting. Dead rodents on the street are pretty gross too; it’s a shame that some people have to deal with the frustrations of seeing things that disgust them.
what does that have to do with the soul-destroying power of pritzus in the eyes of a jewish man?”
Unfiltered YouTube is not a place for someone who cares about shmiras einayaim.
Ujm has quite an imagination. Women see a huge difference between singing and swimming even if men don’t.
To continue what I said, with almost every criminal, there was a trajectory of unfortunate circumstances in the perps life, until he eventually commits a terrible crime. Obviously bad things happened to him, whether from others or perhaps mental illness. None of these things are permission to ruin other’s lives or even to cause pain to others. The world community requires people to behave in ways that do not endanger others and respects people’s rights to their own possessions. Without these boundaries, the world cannot continue existing. We can feel terrible for those who were not blessed with healthy families or stable communities, and we should try to spread positivity. But there are red lines and some behaviors cannot be tolerated.
I feel terrible for the mass murderer. It seems he had a tragic life and was tormented by his peers.
That doesn’t give him the right to go and kill people.
“Women upstate volunteered”
Do you know women who actually want their husbands to stay home but they go anyway?
And if they do go without their wives consent then does uman turn them into jerks or are they always jerks?
My point is, do you truly care about the poor, mistreated breslov women or are you really just anti breslov?
” When a family goes away for the summer and only sees their father for Shabbos cause he works the entire week then at least the family feels good that they are getting to enjoy a nice summer vacation versus like rosh Hashana when they are stuck at home and alone without their father to enjoy yom tov with.”
Rosh Hashanah is a serious Yom Hadin. Many of the serious breslevers who go to uman, spend most of the hours of the day in shul so the kids and wives would barely see the father anyway. Most women feel that it’s a huge zechus and want their husbands to go.
Also, I think that if women were given a choice of having their husband go on frequent business trips to mixed conventions where the women will be dressed to kill, or to send their husband once a year to uman for Rosh Hashana, I think most would choose this.
“Second, if someone’s sending their 6-year-old to the store it’s because they said who wants to go to the store and they’re six year old said I do. And this person obviously doesn’t have the judgment to realize it’s not appropriate.”
There’s a difference between a 6 year old and a toddler. I have seen preschoolers going shopping but not in over a decade.
Most parents have more seichel than that.People have an impression that if parents in Israel are sending out their very young kids on errands, then that is a sign that it is safe here. It is not safe here. Between terrorists, pedophiles and reckless drivers, anything can happen. I get emails on a relatively frequent basis about pedophiles in the neighborhood. My kids also tell me hair-raising stories about what their friends tell them happened in the park when adults weren’t around. I realize that I’m overly cautious because I don’t allow my kids to hang out outside without an adult but I have let a 7 year old do a quick run to the Makolet with a cellphone when it was right by my house.
IIt’s not a number that is “too many”. It has nothing to do with family size. Some people are amazing parents to their 15. Others are abusive to their 1 or two. Whether it’s because you’re too taxed or because you think it’s normal, if your situation requires you to send your toddler shopping for you then you have too many kids to handle.
“imagine if it was safe enough here to do that”
It’s not safe enough to do that in Israel but since parents have too many kids to handle so they think they need to parentify their preschoolers in order to continue the cycle.
It’s interesting that everyone feels so bad for the women and children who are without their fathers for 5 days, one time a year, while their father is in uman, but I don’t hear the same level of sympathy for the women and children who go upstate for an entire summer and only see their fathers on the weekends.
It’s hard to know what he would say because the entire world was different.
My hunch is that he would be proud. He set out to create a Torah-centered society and that is exactly what we have now. He set out to create a culture of Torah learning as the antidote to assimilation and if you look around, it seems he exceeded way past what he could’ve even dreamed of.
That would create a shidduch crisis for men. Some men would end up with multiple wives and others would end up with none.
This thread is mean and I’m not sure what the moderator was thinking by letting it go through.
Forget locking it, it should be deleted asap.
“Define “regular”. If you have a thingy with an attached cord going into the wall – you can’t text it at all. I mean you can text but I won’t get it.”
I don’t think that is true. I remember as a teenager that we could text home phone numbers and when the recipient picked up the phone, they were hear a computer voice reading the text. It was expensive but the option did exist. I’m not sure if it still exists but I’m sure there’s a way.
“ Interject; so a career is more important than a baby’s life?”
I didn’t say that. I said that the emotional and physical toll on the body is so great that if she would’ve known then she probably would’ve tried harder to prevent it. Everyone experiences pregnancy differently and for some the sensations may be too much to bear.
“Black women are biologically more likely to die in child birth? Source? Maybe it’s because they don’t seek health care and have babies at home, which is societal and can be fixed.”
I didn’t say this. It’s actually pretty racist to say that black woman are more likely to die of an issue that you never heard of because blacks are less likely to seek out medical care. I said that black women are more likely to die from pregnancy complications (and even if a woman is not suffering from complications, the emotional toll that she is at risk of it can add another layer of instability to the pile). If you need a source, it is easily verifiable through google.
“Interject; so a career is more important than a baby’s life?”
I didn’t say that. I said that the physical and emotional toll on a woman can sometimes be too much to bear and if she would’ve realized that then she probably would’ve prevented it.
” Black women are biologically more likely to die in child birth? Source? Maybe it’s because they don’t seek health care and have babies at home, which is societal and can be fixed”
This was pretty racist but I’ll respond anyway. I didn’t say that blacks are more likely to die of childbirth. I said that they are more likely to die of pregnancy complications. They are in fact about triple as likely to die of blood pressure related issues, hemorrhage, pregnancy-induced hypertension, embolism among ither risks. If you need a source, it’s easily verifiable. Just Google it.
“say a black single woman trying to put herself through school/ work to get ahead in life who is saddled with an unwanted pregnancy”
…without realizing in advance the physical and emotional toll that a pregnancy itself does to a women or she likely would’ve worked harder to prevent it.
Blacks are also more at risk of dying from certain pregnancy complications.“I think it is without question that the DNC is an abortion. Certainly under the radical membership therein.”
It’s a d&c, not dnc. Also not sure what practical relevance it has but it’s called an abortion according to the medical documents even when the fetus was already dead prior to the procedure.
“The Democratic Party platform has never called for the abolition of private property, the hallmark of Communism.”
Does many Democrat politicians demonizing capitalism coun?
When Lori Lightfoot was asked about the shoplifting that has become rampant in downtown Chicago (thereby causing the Magnificent Mile to become dubbed “the Mile of Fear”, as I read recently), her response implied that the end of capitalism is a good thing.Stealing under $1000 in many states is not considered a felony. Does this legal reappropriating of goods count? In my opinion, if nothing else, it’s at least a step towards communism…
“All good Jews must vote for a party whose National Security Advisor tweeted “not again Jews not again””
Did someone actually say this?
“Does anyone understand lakewhut’s last sentence?”
Yes. He says that the USA isn’t ready to fight a war. It is no longer a priority to bring in tough and deadly generals like Nero. Instead, the Pentagon is to make sure that it has enough diversity.
actually, according to Wikipedia, as of 2014, there were 110,000 jews in kiev and about 400,000 jews in Ukraine.
“50,000 people identify as Jewish in Ukraine (No clue how many are halachic, but obviously many are)
200,000 are eligible to emigrate to Israel (they have 1 jewish grandparent, meaning could be Halachic jewish, Are married to a jew or have a parent who is eligible to emigrate (Also could be halachic jewish))”
I think these numbers are totally off. I read this week that Ukraine actually has 300,000 Jews with 60,000 just in Kiev.
“So is it that we’re biased and therefore we go to the site that agrees with our bias or are we biased because the site that we usually go to feeds us biased information”
I think it’s a combination.
There’s also almost a feeling of intimidation to agree with the “other” side of whatever side you are on.
Meaning, if you are a bit more conservative and you read CNN then you might feel that you must plug your nose. If you tend to identify more along the left then even when you agree with Trump, as a CNN commentator did yesterday, it must be with a huge “but”.My doctor said that if I hadn’t already gotten covid then he would strongly recommend I take the vaccine. I took an antibody test and my numbers are high. I’m expecting so the doctor told me that the risks of taking the vaccine outweigh the potential benefits.
I don’t support protesters. I was just sharing the backstories.
What would you have preferred to be done by Shimon Hatzadik? That they should have sat calmly and not responded until one of their kids were murdered? There are Israeli families who live in that neighbourhood, including my daughter’s classmate. (Today, my daughter came home from school telling me that they could see from the windows of their school that it looked like Kever Shimon Hatzadik was on fire. I don’t think it actually was on fire but the young elementary school kids were convinced that it was). They claimed they were afraid for their lives, which isn’t crazy to believe considering that the Arabs had already set a car on fire.
Those shouting death to Arabs are extremist. We cannot control every extremist. On the other hand, the ones shouting death to Jews are the mainstream Arabs.
Right-wing protests in Palestinian areas: Palestinian teens were randomly beating up Chareidim for the sake of Tiktok fame. In response, far-right extremists protested in Arab areas.
You want the story?
Har Habayis: Leave the Halachic question of whether or not Jews should be going to Har Habayis. If Israel had a neighbourhood in the country where Palestinians were forbidden from going, it would be an international outrage. The Palestinians stockpiled rocks and stones to throw at police (something which the police are concerned that their intelligence didn’t manage to uncover in time). Whatever you saw, was the aftermath of the Palestinians throwing big rocks at Israelis, attempting to kill.
Shimon Hatzadik: There were some properties in neighbouring Sheikh Jarrah. Arabs stole the land but according to a court ruling, they were paying rent. They stopped paying rent so the Israeli court ordered evictions. AOC and her friends got involved and cried that the evil Israelis are trying to evict poor Palestinian children from their homes. In my opinion, that gave the Pales the green light to start attacking Jews who live by Shimon Hatzadik. They attacked the Jews for a month while the police did nothing (because the police don’t want to escalate tensions which were already pretty high). Last week, the Palestinians set a car on fire and the Jews felt that their life was in danger. After waiting 40 minutes for Police to show up, and worried for their lives, the Jewish residents of Shimon Hatzadik, took out their guns and that is the footage that you saw. Only then, did the police show up.
Israeli military acting rashly by throwing random rockets at Gazan buildings: Are you sure you were watching the right footage? The one’s sending random rockets targeting civilians are Hamas. Hamas houses their rockets and military supplies in apartment buildings, hospitals and schools. The IDF warns for hours in advance where they will be sending precise strikes in order to clean out Hamas’s terror supplies. If some old Palestinian grandma decides to stay home, she essentially committed suicide.
“Why hasn’t anyone else besides for mishpacha discovered these facts?”
This information is publicly and readily available. I think you meant to ask why the mainstream media is ignoring it.
“When people feel that their message is falling on deaf ears, they may resort to ‘forcing’ people to pay closer attention to their movement.”
It seems that you understand the language of rioting. (I am NOT saying that you condone violence. I am only saying you seem to understand their message.) Can you explain exactly what it is that the rioters goals are?
I feel really bad for African Americans and other minorities who live in the “hood”. The neighborhoods are filled with dangerous criminals, tons of garbage and destroyed buildings. They live in a western country that looks like a warzone.
For one semester, I attended a community college in a sketchy neighborhood. During that semester, at least every other week on the bulletin would be written that people had been murdered in the neighborhood. In fact, three times during the semester, the school was on lockdown because a murderer was nearby. Once, he was hiding in the parking lot
Another time, while I was in class, I found out that a murderer had ran through the school hallways while being chased by the cops. The third time, the cops had closed the nearby streets to traffic because a serial killer had escaped from a prison in a neighboring state and was hiding in buildings less than a black away from my school.I was young and naive when I went to that college so I thought those experiences made the college more of an adventure while I noticed the black kids would be extremely on edge whenever these things happened. The time that the murderer was hiding in the parking lot, I was in the bathroom with some black girls who were crying, terrified to leave because they were worried that they might die. I reassured them that I wasnt afraid but, one of them explained that someone’s boyfriend (I cant remember if it was hers, a friend’s or a cousin’s boyfriend) had been murdered a few blocks from the school. I felt terrible, and I feel terrible that this is happening only 4 miles from my parents cushy neighborhood where I grew up.
I understand why they’re rioting. They live a couple miles away from the beautiful downtown and their neighborhood is dangerous and dilapidated and many people dont know who their father is. I get it that they think that the cards are stacked against them with it being exceedingly difficult to achieve a better life. To me, that sounds like a foolproof recipe to create an aggressive teenager. Still, other than the fact that they’re angry, I don’t understand the message of the rioters. Do they want more police? Do they want to abolish police? Do they want signs on the street? I’m pretty sure that they dont speak for the average black person or else we wouldn’t be seeing the same trouble makers showing up at every riot. I’m pretty sure that the silent majority of the black community would rather that these rioters not make it seem that the only language that blacks speak is that of violence.
One last thing, if the media and Democrat politicians had integrity, they would talk at least as much about the police that are killed by blacks then they talk about blacks killed by police.
“They should not assume that he would start shooting in front of his kids. ”
I dont know anything about the case, and neither does anyone else.
But, using the argument that he had three kids in the car, threatened in front of them that he was going to get his gun and then went to get his gun, shows that he doesn’t necessarily deserve the benefit of the doubt and that the cop shouldn’t assume that he wouldn’t shoot in front of his kids.Again, I dont know anything about this case and I’m not making any assumptions of my own until more facts are in.
Gamzu wrote a letter to the Ukrainian government telling them that the Israelis who arrive will be bringing a plague with them that will take over the country (not his exact wording but that was the message). Does anyone have a copy his letter that he sent to Greece? Or is he only trying to stop chareidim from “partying” in foreign countries?
“ Throwing in the possibility of an Irish slave owning ancestor, which is an unproven piece of trivia, is meaningless as way to claim she isn’t what she claims she is. Many slave owners raped or had illicit relationships with their slaves (would also be rape by today’s standards for what constitutes consent). Children born from those relationships were not white.”
To be fair, your response to my “unproven piece of trivia” is complete speculation. Do you have any source, even quasi controversial, that backs up your statement?
GH I dont understand why it bothers you so deeply that people go to Uman. Every year, your posts are so passionate about this topic. You dont have to go but why do you feel so strongly about it?
“I assume you know all that because you intercepted her 23andme test results. Did you also happen to see the amount on the check George Soros sent her for world domination”
I’m not sure whom you’re referring to but in case it was me,
Its on wikipedia. I looked up her name and I looked up her dad’s name. It really didn’t take that much effort….Her Jamaican ancestry includes Irish immigrants who became slave owners in Jamaica. Maybe someone else in her history is African just like warren who suffered because of her Native American heritage.
This is what happens when you dont proofread.
I just realize a major mistake in my post.
I wrote, “Originally the government told us 14 days to overcome covid-19.”
That was incorrect. The slogan was, “14 days to flatten the curve”. No one would have agreed to stay home if they thought it might be for more than 2 weeks. Sometime later, after the government kept extending the lockdowns, they stopped talking about flattening the curve and instead spoke about saving all lives.
When people realized that everything would be closed indefinitely, many people got angry and started protesting that they want to be able to open their business. They were called murderers by the media and the government and the restrictions were tightened.
Then, people started protesting for social justice and the government and media praised them to the heavens for their bravery in raising awareness to these causes. Even Fauci agreed with them.
Like it or not, the reasons I stated are the reasons that people on the right feel that the left is betraying them. They think we forgot the original intention of the lockdowns.They think we dont realize the hypocrisy in allowing people to protest social justice but forbidding protests for not being allowed to work.
“When were we ever actually told 2% of the population would die? Can you point me in the direction of a credible source for that?”
The Washington Post wrote an article around April titled, “is the coronavirus as deadly as they say” and they wrote that we had previously thought that 2 million would die.
The University of Washington posted an article around the same time titled, “staggering death rate in US among those who show symptoms”, where they stated that 1.2 million would die without drastic measures.
Reuters also had an article around the same time where they stated that 2 million would die without lockdowns.
Originally the government told us 14 days to overcome covid-19. Then they added on a week. Then another. Then indefinitely. Then until July. Then until October 31. Now until 2022.
This paragraph is my OPINION, so read at your own risk. 170,000 is actually over 1 million saved so in that case trump did an amazing job. 6 people died in NY yesterday from covid, which is probably less than the number of people who died in accidents and we are not banning highways. The battle seems to be over and we can completely reopen without threats of us being mass murderers.
“Whatever your politics it is an undeniably momentous and meaningful occasion that an African American woman is on the national ticket; this is a hopefully a positive step for our country.”
She is in no way African American. She is a descendant of Indians and jamaicans.