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  • in reply to: Helping smokers quit. #861673

    My husband was a heavy smoker and stopped after 40 years of smoking using the NYC quits program. He started phase one of the patches and did it beginning on a Monday and no patch on the first Shabbos. When he was up to Phase 2 the next Wednesday he decided not to put the patch on but have it with him just in case. The rest is history, he didn’t use the patch and has not smoked since then, now 4 1/2 years. What pushed him was that he developed a severe bronchitis and the doctor gave him inhalers. At night he coughed so hard that the neighbors commented on his coughing. When he coughed i told him he could use a good sucktioning, something done on people who are on vents and develop secretions in their longs which must be sort of vacumed out and is extremely uncomfortable. I kept on telling him that if he was Chas V’shalom sick, i as a wife will be at his side but if it was illness as result of smoking his friend in the nursing home business will care for him. After he stopped he realized why the children didn’t want to ride in his vehicle and had to get a new car. Someone close to us gave a large donation to a needy cause and matched the same for us, which my husband to gave for a needy chosson. In short, where there is a will there is a way. Smoking is an addiction equal to drugs and is horrible. It is also not fair to people around smokers who are affected to with smelling and getting sick to chas v’shalom.

    P.S. At one point the doctor perscribed Chantix , at which time insurance did not cover cost. Yet, after reading the side effects and possible lifetime effects, i just dumped the whole batch of pills.

    in reply to: lack of menchlichkiet yeshiva administration #846808

    to abcd2

    you are being too critical! This is life ! If your children were living overseas would you consider traveling for such occassion?

    Bli ayin hora with our grandchildren not being in the same town it is normal that we can’t attend every function and the children are understanding about it. We try to provide in any way possible to make their life easier and making a fuss about this does not fall into the category. While our children were growing up, my husband did a route for a food company and could never attend a Chumash seuda. Even when we asked that it be moved from let’s say 11:00 A.M. to 12:30 on the same day it was not possible. B”H the children understood that there were good intentions and we have lots of nachas from them! So change your attitude and focus what you can do, not what you can’t. Remember the schedule that may be good for you may not for another grandparent. B”H your grandchild has parent(s), your children, who can attend.

    in reply to: Diet Pills From Brazil Being Sold In Brooklyn #942342

    Keep away from this. These pills are smuggled in illegally. Right now a frum U.S. citizen is in jail after being caught with these pills on his way to reaching his dreams of become RICH.

    A family member of mine also lost alot of weight with these, only to gain it back quickly. Anyway, when he wanted to try again(because he met others who were successful in losing such as 100 lbs.) he asked a Brazillian we know to bring some on his next trip to U.S.He educated us about the source of the pills and it’s not being legal and that is the end. Keep away from it. In Brazil, it is penny item…real cheap! So if you want to take a risk travel there and buy them yourself but we won’t bail you out when caught!!!

    in reply to: Should I donate my kidney? #836099

    Again i am repeating what i posted earlier. Make sure you know how committed the recipient is to taking care of the donated kidney. As previously stated someone close to me has received a kidney and is just doing what he/she feels like as far as eating habits. This person looks like a walking time bomb and talking to him/her is as if talking to the wall. And today , someone associated with me on a Chesed project went to fetch her family member from the hospital, who also received a kidney(a few years ago) and yes, is not taking care of her/himself. Both of the above people were matched through Renewal. These 2 people have been given a diamond and treating it as cheap glass. Yes, it is sad but true.

    in reply to: Is every other Woman on Zoloft? #837928

    Throwing words as almost every other woman and Chassidish is very vague. Did your so called friend do a study? Does she have data? Does she have a questionaire that help her come to this determination and vague statistics? We are humans that may be affected by changes in our system, but to run for the bottle does not solve the problem. There is so much in regard to shiurim and books that one can read to strenghten them. In life one has to face and deal with reality. Going for a pill will just make someone sink deeper. In short, B”H there are not as many sick people, some people make themselves sick! Next time you feel down, sit down and read some Tehillim or go for a walk and you will see the difference. And for those that really are not well have a Refuah Shelaima both refuas hanefesh and refuas haguf!

    in reply to: Brands of Frozen Veggies #831430

    Our family preference is Golden Flow for quality and reliablility.

    If there is a problem at any time, they will openly recall and admit.

    in reply to: Eating at peoples houses with teenage daughters? #984066

    Sam2, i was referring to extended family as cousins not sibblings!

    in reply to: Finances………..what are we doing wrong? #830661

    Sorry Chanie and i understand exactly what you mean. All i can say is that i know you will not become a moser and the people doing this so easily should be ashamed of themselves because it is pure genaiva, stealing. We do not rely on credit card spending, just on occassion if i want to order something to send overseas or rarely an online purchase. Cell phones are basic,flat rates and no texting. One thing i buy real quality are fruits and vegetables! Clothing is another story as a matter of principle i will not overpay. Good Luck and Hashem should repay you for your honesty and realize you B”H have company and alot of good advice from the CF.

    in reply to: Kohanim taking out the garbage… #926267

    What is a person who is a Kohen, an alman L”A and no children at home supposed to do? This is not meant to be funny, as we are nogea b’davar!

    in reply to: Eating at peoples houses with teenage daughters? #984062

    It seems that there are some people posting who confuse Litvish with modern. Litvishe people are very ehrlich and frum and so are Chassidishe people. When some people who may be Chasidish or Litvish and look for a loophole, that in my opinion is called modern, something i will not post about as deep down we all know what it means.

    There is halacha and in our family, at this point with bar mitzva and bas mitzva ages we have two tables. The young ladies will always go to another table without having to even say anything. Unfortunately, besides the Shulcha Orech there is the new trend to follow the “THEY” or “THEM” which may be very wrong at times even if many do it.

    If we are not such a large crowd then men at one end and women at others with facing of only a married couple.

    For those who don’t agree ask your dayan or Rav and do what is right for yourself, not for others.

    in reply to: Articel on NY Post Web-site on religious Jews child abuse #832371

    if i am correct, it was the Fowards who set up Rubashkin that led to this big lie that ended him where he is, unfortunately. May Hashem watch over all of us.

    in reply to: please, just leave me be/alone #830385

    Did you ever discuss your shidduchim issues with your Rosh Yeshiva or are you doing things the way you feel is right? What is the opinion of your parent(s), if involved?

    in reply to: Finances………..what are we doing wrong? #830657

    ChanieE do i trace something called “do not fargin” in the comment you make about people who own a business?

    Let me tell you Chanie that try living in a bracket where your taxes are almost more than take home pay and then comment!Let’s meet and let me see your submissions for end of year taxes and i’ll show you mine easily.

    The bottom line is that all is from Hashem yes, but one has to have a budget and think about tomorrow and unforseen expenses in case of emergency!

    in reply to: Singles: Want inspiration? Rabbi Moshe Tendler spoke beautifully #830010

    how exactly can one access this lecture for others to listen to and foward to others

    in reply to: SHADCHANS POINT OF VIEW #830008

    The shadchanim are continuing with their old ideas as much as you people are trying to show and prove how certain age groups are ingnored, such as 21+ age group. Yes, they all were 19 about 2 years ago and no not all of them got married so they still are available and want to get married. Why is it that at a certain age the girls name just go to the bottom of the list or fall off the list, yet the boys names stay on the list and rarely fall off.

    So, i told you about the boy in our family who is in the freezer after returning from E.Yisroel. Yes, Boruch Hashem he is every parents wish in all areas and guess what, the parents get resumes, that they could probably bound already and all with 19 year olds. Yesterday, the call came from someone very choshuv in E.Yisroel and guess what the suggestion was also of a 19 year old.

    As much as the parents are pressured, the boy is adhering to the freezer rules and when the time comes and he is ready to go ahead , he prefers a girl of at least 22. A girl of 22 is more solid, knows if she really wants a long term learner and by now what her friends are really good for (especially the married ones who already forgot her phone number). This boy is turning 24 and says has no problem with someone 23 or even just about his age.

    So, as much as the shaddchanim are trying to wash themselves clean of blame they are not all totally “not guilty”.

    in reply to: Who are you? Who am I? #828421

    Wow, maybe it’s time for us to close and reorganize with limitations!

    in reply to: Closet Cooks, Men In The Kitchen #826965

    B”H my husband is too busy to help in the kitchen, although on occasion he will help with peeling needed for cooking.

    Going back to the mafrish challa issue? When i am doing several batches of challa before Yom Tov, i will always give my husband the honor of being mafrish for one batch and he actually is serious about it. He nicely puts on his hat,jacket and gartel to do the mitzvah.

    in reply to: What Would The Title of Your Autobiography Be? #885980

    How i spent my time in the CF when i could have……

    in reply to: corelle dishes #826839

    In Boro Park there are

    Wilhelm’s

    Duddy’s

    Tip Top

    Plug In

    most of these stores will toivel and deliver

    in reply to: Is Lakewood Looking At A School Shortage For Next Year? #892409

    I hope Moshiach will be here by then!

    Where is the emunah and bitachon we are supposed to have?

    in reply to: Need charity recommendations #826307

    let me know how to contact you and i will give you info where monies can be sent

    in reply to: Buying A New Camera – Suggestions Please #826322

    just checking on u and c that u r still not serious about getting into a good school

    work on your spelling as there is an English regents in High School

    i might decide to tap on u in school and announce “hello GumBall”…so get ready to stand steady!

    in reply to: Disappearing members!… #864913

    ??? ????? ?????

    in reply to: looking to start Boro Park knitting group #827173

    To make fun of someone trying to start something purposeful and is serious is not really nice!

    in reply to: Mezinka #825828

    It is a Chassidishe minhag.

    When marrying off our youngest i was very against it. However, a few days/nights before the wedding my son happened to come across the minhag in a sefer(i will ask him if he remembers the source and yes this son is a real talmid chachim and full time real learner) and we went with the theme. On the womens side the girls and young ladies danced around me first and then other forms of us dancing with the brooms and then the men got the brooms and they had their dance. Being it was after Purim the men wore Yerushalmi levush. There was no mixed dancing at all!

    There are gemachs that rent out very nice brooms for this purpose, i am sure at least one of them know the source.

    Mazel Tov and lots of nachas!

    in reply to: Need charity recommendations #826292

    private people whom these organizations may not want to help

    sometimes they adopt 2-3 families and work with them only and deny others who may be in the same need

    i personally know of two such cases, one of whom died lonely and dependent on stranger and the other who is very sick now and the bills are just adding up

    in reply to: Why People Go Off The Derech #826452

    Too many people are missing the Emunah Peshuta that many of us, especially post Holocaust children were raised with. We were raised by strong people who picked up their lives and continued doing what was done by their parents, grandparents most of whom perished in the inferno of the yimach shemom haters of us Jews, Yidden. One thing one who questions should remember that you cannot shed being Jewish. At any time when the world decided to go against us, they found people who had no idea they were Jewish and included them in the expulsions too. So for those who have questions and doubts, do what it says in Pirkei Avos, “asei l’cha Rav u’knei l’cha chaver”-get yourself a Rav and even if you get someone through such as Aish, Partners in Torah or Oorah, that’s fine even if you are FFB.

    in reply to: how many cups of coffee did you eat today? #825215

    If i couldn’t sleep and am stupid enough to do this, i will be needing alot of coffee today and yes some so strong that it may be edible!

    in reply to: Highschool diploma vs. G.E.D #825208

    Perhaps get in touch with the N.Y.S. department that approves the diplomas and find out if what the school is doing is legal.

    In my days college was ossur. Even though i chose to go Touro, when they started out, the high school did not want to give me my transcripts. Tuition was paid up and i had finished seminary as well. To make the long story short, i did not give up till they gave me my transcripts.

    Tell the school that you will go to the Department of State and get it from them, perhaps they will then relent.

    There is a difference between a diploma and G.E.D. Some jobs need the Regents Diploma, not such as a General Diploma or GED. Good Luck!

    in reply to: looking to start Boro Park knitting group #827162

    Does one have to know how to knit to join this club?

    in reply to: Surgically created blue eyes and shidduchim #1088431

    Such narishkeitin and shtus! Be happy and thankful for what you have,not what you don’t have.

    Years ago, while in an elevator in the building that i worked in, someone commented that she dyed her hair blonde because she thought she would have more fun and it really did not help! It happens to be that in our family many of us are blonde or blonde shades with blue eyes and we ourselve B”H don’t focus on it.

    i for one will make sure to spread this to my family that no one should end up with a fake person and heartache!

    in reply to: whats on in israel over chanuka?? #824889

    Perhaps treat some disadvantaged children to some day fun, even such as a trip to the pizza shop and you will feel good and they will feel great.

    in reply to: Entrance Exams…AHH!! :0 #826177

    Ms. Gumball, who seems to be so sure of yourself, the time has come to expose who you really are. After all, wasn’t one of the questions(on school applications) if you spend time on the internet….and what was your answer? So if you think pull will get you in, think twice and start studying because you may end up having to go out of town!

    in reply to: Friend Received 150k offer for a Kidney #824287

    Unfortunately there are some frum people doing time for such crime. It is 100% illegal and taking the chance is riskly. Perhaps he/she is really not your friend but wants you out of his/her way!!!!

    Let this person get in touch with Renewal, an organization that helps people in need of a kidney and it is all l’shem mitzva. On one of the grant sites, it lists howmuch they get annually. So it is all government funded and no soliciting is really necessary.

    in reply to: Sefer Tehillim Worldwide Daily #1229495

    continue davening for Sheindel Gittel bas Chaya Sara , a young almanah who is very sick and needs our tefillos

    in reply to: Very Urgent tehillim #823779

    i guess no one picked up on this so we will just say on our own

    thank u anyway

    in reply to: Very Urgent tehillim #823778

    i will I”H say 11-50 (50 included)

    in reply to: Inglish – as She is spoken around the world #823332

    In Bnei Brak on the store sign of a take home food/restaurant they post

    FOOD TO TAKE AWAY

    in reply to: Very Urgent tehillim #823776

    kindly add Sheindel Gittel bas Chaya Sara, a young almanah who is undergoing major surgery right now

    if any of u r interested perhaps we can take perokim of tehillim to be said beginning now

    in reply to: Gateshead Seminaries. #845336

    It’s not brainwashing it’s real life with real Torah values which add up to a peacefull and most functional home. No, i don’t have any affiliation to the seminary,it’s my experience that i have with graduates that makes me write what i did. Should i suspect that you don’t like to read positive posts or don’t fargin!?!?!?!?

    in reply to: Gateshead Seminaries. #845334

    Till today, the Gateshead graduates are great girls who end up being great wives. They come back with a foundation that they can bystand any gashmius being sold on the street and can raise their children with such. So go ahead and enjoy with such as Mrs. Cohen and Rabbi Royd who continue and are available even 20+ years after having left seminary. Rabbi M. Solomon Shlita of Lakewood used to be one of the mechanchim there as well. We have one daughter in law from there and when we checked her out we had all we needed to know in 24 hours and she is even today, not a Wow of a person but a Wow, wow , wow, wow…………………………..and is GR-R-R-R-R-EAT!!!!!!

    So stick to the old one and don’t get sold on something new!

    in reply to: Procrastinating #824619

    You have alot of company with this issue. There recently was such study done and if i remember correctly the statistics were something like 60 or 70% of people who were found to procrastinate.

    Some people however were found to work better when they waited till the last minute! So if it works for you, enjoy life and accept that this is part of your makeup, as long as you don’t put off important things as wanting to daven and then realizing it’s time for mincha and you missed shachris!

    in reply to: Older Guys = Rip-off Rant (re: NASI "Game Changer") #822820

    You must discuss this with a reputable person who deals with such. There is no reason for you to put up with this and to follow his lazy lifestyle. Your points are very true and valid.

    Hatzlocha Rabba and don’t put up with this.

    in reply to: Sefer Tehillim Worldwide Daily #1229491

    kindly if possible have in mind the following name

    Sheindel Gitel bas Chaya Sara

    a young woman, an almanah too, who is very sick and is undergoing a procedure today and major surgery at the end of the week

    ongoing tefillos would be appreciated

    tizku l’mitzvos

    in reply to: Nasi Project has a new approach, I hear. Is this a nasty rumor? #823967

    We also have to take into consideration that there are numerous families who have more than one daughter who needs a shidduch. So,if for example one has a daughter of 29,25 and 23 or another who has nebache 28,31 and 33, if you add it up it’s alot of money for anyone.

    Another issue in the ad is stating that it is endorsed by many rabbonim, yet not one Ravs name is listed.

    Too many people trusted Bernie Madoff and we are expected to run after a big enticing add that may be just “luft maisos”, nothing but air!

    in reply to: My $21000 sacrifice to get my daughter out of her misery #822084

    Kol Hakavod what you did for your daughter.

    However, i am wondering if the money loss was discussed with a dayan who deals in such.

    Now i remember that when one of our sons went to Eretz Yisroel, he was unhappy with the yeshiva he went to. Luckily, he found a place who was ready to accept him(where he thrived B”H and is still in Eretz Yisroel learning, raising a beautiful family and doing loads of chesed). The first yeshiva was very understanding about the situation and reimbursed us. In return my husband gave them a nice donation.

    If this seminary is not reimbursing you, then, in my opinion it is a business and not L’shem shamayim.

    There are seminaries in N.Y. too such as Reb Bulka, where the girls can work towards a degree as well.

    in reply to: who doesn't have internet #820990

    In our family , we are the only ones that have internet access B”H and when the kids come, the computer is out of sight!

    There are B”H many good people out there who have no computer and do not yearn for one. Voil iz far zehi alleh!

    in reply to: Temple Beth-El of Borough Park, what do we know about its history? #1101204

    Check in the Hamodia archives as they had a full writeup last winter.

    To us Beth El was where we took group graduation photos on their outdoor steps.

    in reply to: Att: Anyone who Wears a Sheitel: #821992

    The most i ever spent was $1,700 which i felt was high. However, i stick with the same person the past few years who has good quality hair and even have a sheitel for over 11 years and still in good condition.

    in reply to: Trophy Wives #820022

    Remember the words in Mishlei of “Isha yaffeh v’soras taam k’nezem zahav b’aaf chazir”!

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