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  • in reply to: Drinking on Simchas Torah #820435

    There is a huge difference between making kiddush and drinking to get drunk!

    In our shul which is real Chassidish, a group of bochurim from a so called Litvish shul came by and asked for aliyas which they could not get in their shul(maybe they overslept and came too late). They nicely each got an aliya and then asked if they could make kiddush. When shown where the kiddush would be taking place, they went made kiddush and got so high and rowdy and i will not write the end. One of the men, who has a daughter in shidduchim

    (and only wants a Litvish boy)commented this is what i am supposed to commit myself to at least $30,000 a year for support!?!?!?!

    in reply to: Temple Beth El in BP ought to become an Aish Kodesh type shul! #822289

    Boro Park Mensch

    Calm down, i mamesh can hear you screaming like the Rechnitzer Rebbe. No one is speaking loshon hora, it is ledivrei toeles to try and help your shul. Sometimes people look at life through a mirror(where they see themselves only) rather than through glass/window, where they can see others.

    Like i mentioned, i enjoy coming to the shul and contribute nicely and will continue doing so even for the few times i may attend.

    Listen and be realistic or else you’ll need a box of Kleenex for your tears of mourning(the Shul), chas v’shalom.

    Tell me where you sit and i will say hello when i come next time!

    in reply to: Jackie Mason #820659

    Maybe one of you should invite him to a Rabbi Rietti lecture, who with his humor can bring him to do teshuva. Yes, he may not be interested but perhaps if exposed to what is available today he may change his mind.

    in reply to: Hello everyone #819537

    What are some of your topics of interest and how do you spend your time away from CF?

    in reply to: Temple Beth El in BP ought to become an Aish Kodesh type shul! #822272

    No, i don’t agree with the last post to rent the shul.

    The shul should stay with the Rabbi and board becoming realistic and open to changes suggested to make the shul more vibrant.

    I understand that the current board members may be somewhat wary and rightfully so. But, when having a meeting it should be done at a time when notes can be taken and reviewed and thereafter all should be typed up in black and white to protect those who are long time members. Yes, they must be careful of who wants to jump in because they may take over slowly as has been done with one such shul in the mountains. One relative of the people who built the shul and are no longer among the living and their children are not affiliated was hurt to see the shul officially becoming a Chabad site. No, the Rabbi is very nice and devoted but by officially becoming a Chabad site, he receives funding and can survive even if there is no minyan many a time. It is not fair to the oldtimers, to those who contributed and if the same would be done to Beth El that too would not be fair and correct.

    in reply to: Things to do in baltimore #820617

    Meet Rabbi Frand and get a good mussar shuz!

    in reply to: Temple Beth El in BP ought to become an Aish Kodesh type shul! #822265

    soleik and anonymous

    Your ideas and points are well taken.

    Now that the long nights are almost upon us, perhaps you have an OPEN FORUM one evening where all who are concerned could come and discuss their concerns about this lovely shul and perhaps some kind of decision or direction could be determined and tried to make this shul more vibrant.

    About the shul Chas V’Shalom being knocked down, i am starting to remember other that were knocked down and forgotten along with Temple Emanual and Eitz Chaim Yeshiva.

    Another thought/question of mine is how is Shomrei Emunah doing with this community change?

    in reply to: Temple Beth El in BP ought to become an Aish Kodesh type shul! #822246

    Another factor or type which can be attracted are the Med students at Maimonidies Hospital such as the Congregation Ohr Hachayim of upper East Side in Manhattan does for the med students from Mt. Sinai and Lenox in N.Y.C.

    This is a very important topic and we all have to try to keep this shul alive.

    Even though i attend rarely such as for High Holy Days or special Shabbosim, i make an effort to give a nice contribution annually.

    Perhaps their website should be updated weekly and there should be communal functions such as inspiring lectures that may attract more(for a fee of coarse).

    in reply to: Temple Beth El in BP ought to become an Aish Kodesh type shul! #822222

    You have some very valid points.

    On occassion i frequent the shul and too found that the Rabbi, knowledgeable and nice is giving a sermon rather than speak to speak to the people. Yes, there is room for improvement to attract more people which would include trying shidduchim for many of the older singles that are looking to get married.

    in reply to: Please stop! #816881

    One of our day workers who was in U.S. for many years and received their driver’s liscense here in U.S. returned to their home country. Their U.S. driver’s license was not recognized and they had to take the whole driving course and lessons which are more stringent there.

    In short many driver’s and pedestrians here in U.S. do as if they are the only ones out on the road!

    in reply to: SHIDDUCHIM! (Because we all really want to talk about it) #820707

    Ofcourse

    Would you agree that you are having a harder time getting a date/bisho for some of these very “aidel” and fine looking girls?

    We all know of such girls who are 25+, dress tziusdik(not skimpy and fit clothing), wear their hair nice and neat and are not made up like clowns or those of front cover,so called “fashion”(garbage) magazines? Is one of the first questions, when redting a girl “what does she look like”?

    In my opinion, even a girl who is out of school does her hishtadlos to listen or go to a shiur to keep her frumkeit. Some girls change as time goes because they feel perhaps looking and behaving more “with it” will get them a shidduch.

    All in all, there are many great girls out there, too many 40 and 50+ still eager to be married.

    in reply to: kiruv- no interest in shabbos? #812404

    How would you deal with someone who refuses to listen and does not want to keep Shabbos and has in the past!?!?!? No, this person wants no part of such as Partners in Torah.

    in reply to: Does every family have an element of Dysfunction? #812571

    Most of us are aware of the saying that “everyone has skeletons in their closet”. Yes, it is true that not all is perfect in life. However, some people deny it or pretend they don’t know who you are talking about if you ask them such as “are you related to so and so”. Recently at a wedding i had such experience and the side that wants to be in denial is playing a good show…they think so!!!!

    in reply to: why is texting wrong #812636

    I was appalled at seeing people texting in shul at the prime of selichos. One young lady came in very late, about 20 minutes befor the end. She sat in front of me so i couldn’t help notice that she was busy with facebook and taking photos of the men’s section and texting all. Perhaps, the shuls should have phone detectors to prevent this sickness on Yom Tov. I wanted to tell her something at the end of the services but she left! No, she was not the only one busy with this texting. This texting has become a real sickness!

    in reply to: I payed $21,000 for my daughters misery! #813266

    Arig, i feel for you and what you fell for!

    Now that she is there, you have to try to work things out and teach your daughter some real life lessons.

    Perhaps you speak to the mechanechet and help set your daughter up with a family where she will feel comfortable and the mother/father can be her mentor and hold her hand while you are not close to her.

    In Mir, the bochurim are today hooked up with such. I know, as my son is the shoulder for some bochurim. They feel close enough to discuss their doubts for whatever it is and have a place for a good home cooked meal and some real family life, not yeshiva/seminary lunchroom dynamics that sometimes does not see a mechanech/mechaneches and the kids are busy with such as bottomless texting and that starts their sliding down from Torah life!

    Hatzlochah!

    If your daughter is adamant of coming home, tell her that the condition is to get a job and pay back the $21,000!!!!

    Gut Shabbos, Good Luck and a Gut Gebencht Yuhr.

    in reply to: All Mechila requests here #897584

    In short we at CF are all well meaning.

    Some of us, however just post without rereading and therefore may hurt someone unintentionally.

    Perhaps, CF should have an agreement we sign before we can enter.

    in reply to: why is texting wrong #812634

    I have seen young mothers verbally abuse their young children who tried to get their attention because they were busy texting.

    Not only is it addictive but too many are doing so on Shabbos too,with many admitting to it and looking for a heter.

    What have we come to!!!

    in reply to: Bringing children home from Israel because of impending trouble #811511

    just me

    Unfortunately i am quite aware what is going on with todays kids , especially those who are handed cell phones and credit cards freely.

    But woe to the parents that went into hock so their children can freely loaf around and they think they are studying or learning!

    In my corner of town, B”H i don’t see any boys and girls mingling and i hope it stays this way.

    Yes, we do have children and grandchildren who are our crowns and joy for the nachas they give us.

    in reply to: Should I donate my kidney? #836062

    Kol Hakavod for people who undertake this mission.

    There is a however.

    People are sick and very promising when they need a kidney.

    However, once they have the kidney some go back to their bad habits and feel they can eat whatever they want and end up sick again.

    Before one gives part of himself, they should not rely on the info from the coordinator but do homework on their own in regard to the personality of whom they will be giving their kidney or other organ.

    If there is secrecy involved, the coordinator should have some form that the recipient will sign as to how he/she will take care of their health.

    Unfortunately, i am writing from experience and talking to the recipient is like talking to the wall.

    in reply to: Bringing children home from Israel because of impending trouble #811502

    Just returned from Eretz Yisroel and the danger that i saw was possible outcome of too many so called seminary girls and yeshiva boys from U.S. mingling together on Friday afternoons. Even if they are cousins or family friends it is not correct.It does not look good and goes against what Pirkei Avos says about “al tarbeh sicha im isha”! To top it off, the meetings are in middle of Meah Shearim which is an absolute disgrace. So maybe this will shake them up and they will go back to what their parents, some of whom went out of their way and even had to take out loans to send their children to learn in a makom kodesh, as Eretz Yisroel.

    in reply to: I want to be the most perfect wife be'esras hashem bekorov! #806421

    Make sure to treat your husband better than your cell phone which you should use for phone only. Make him #1 and not your friends.

    in reply to: single peolpe are marriage counsellors? #807298

    Sounds like the child expert who had no children.

    Yes, today many young recently divorced women both here and in Eretz Yisroel are becoming social workers. With some of these fly by night college programs it is a very easy route to take and these people have some money in their pocket to help pay their bills.

    in reply to: interesting minhagim #842814

    The Hebrew edition of Hamodia lists different customs and their source, as well as Yahrzeit of others (besides known gedolim) and where they are buried, especially in Eretz Yisroel.

    in reply to: Dear Teacher, #806644

    Let’s all give a standing ovation for the CF where people could vent without identifying themselves and yet open the eyes for people who sometimes choose to close their eyes and ears to reality of what is happening.

    While purchasing some school supplies yesterday i came home disappointed. There in the store were young teachers excited to purchase items to beautify their classrooms but were bumping into people and nothing in terms of “middos” visible. These young girls who couldn’t even say a simple “excuse me” or “please” will be educating our children. They may end up with a new “yisomah” or a child of recently divorced parents and we expect them to know how to deal with such. In my head i could see them going down the throat of these kids who may not be doing their homework or not get a 100% on such as a spelling test….so what are we to do? Perhaps getting the PTA involved in such as making schools aware of when there are family issues and the family is afraid to say something and hope the issues will just disappear!?!?!?!?

    in reply to: gimme a break- cholov yisroel?? #892120

    To me this appears to be written by someone who has some underlying guilt and wants to hang on to one thing going against “cholov yisroel”. My question is does this person have the latest model phone and texts and is busy with “shmutzbook”(facebook) all day ,which is a waste of time and and a mode of destruction.

    Reb Moshe is not with us for a while. Yes, he was a WOW of a person and we have to realize that some of the answers he gave was adapted to the times. Bashing something as Cholov Yisroel will not make you a better person the same way someone drinking only Cholov Yisroel but doing alot of other wrongdoings will make those wrongdoings okay.

    It’s Chodesh Ellul…wake up to the real things important to a Torah Jew.

    in reply to: Not canceled #805092

    In my opinion this couple should live out of town meaning not a place you can easily drive to. such a Australia or Eretz Yisroel is far enough and they should consult with a gadol of their choice to help them set themselves up in a community of their likes so that the community becomes family. Staying here will just end up with problems that will get worse this time!

    in reply to: Who is your favorite member, responding to threads? #807092

    Oh my,am i that critical?!?!…and if yes, what are your suggestions for change!?!?!?

    in reply to: There is an issue that really bothers me…. #802821

    Honestly speaking one of our daughter in laws is not from New York and all i can say is she’s is one of the best things that happened in our family. Recently, i told my son how he lucked out and that his wife was not a WOW but WOW,WOW,WOW,WOW…..

    Not only that,her parents are the most unmeddling and appreciative for everything we do….

    and no we did not have to fly overseas for anything like vort or wedding as they have alot of family here.

    Hatzlochah and good luck!

    P.S. She doesn’t run shopping but loves to help others.

    in reply to: Lets hear it for the emergency workers #803023

    Thank you Hashem for showing us more of your wonders and teach us more real life lessons!!

    in reply to: Dating in a Hurricane! (or immediately after) #804818

    People got married right after liberation of the holocaust. In fact there are stories of people who were married during the war too! Yes, the hurricane was a frightening experience but when you think into life, you realize it is not a picnic either!!!!

    in reply to: Shayne Coats look funny #805700

    The objective of this raingear is to protect you from getting sopped from rain.

    If the same were offered by a high fashion garbage magazine/company would you say the same?!?!?!?

    in reply to: Earthquake in Brooklyn! (and surrounding out-of-town places) #801364

    Reporting second hand from Boro Park where effects were very much felt.

    My son was in the bakery and felt the shaking so that at 9 this evening was still feeling dizzy. This was his second experience, the first being while living in Yerushalayim.

    One of the grandchildren came home saying they were on the rooftop playgroung and felt the shaking so that the whole building was quickly evacuated.

    My mother’s nurse said she woke up because her bed was shaking so, she thought she was dreaming at first.

    in reply to: Yeshiva World Radio music is AWESOME!! #921260

    Yes, with their music and other online free listening to nice music, we have no need to pruchase CDs!

    in reply to: This coffee room is addictive!!! #1121283

    Perhaps CF should put a timer that automatically disconnects those of us that are spending too much time here because of our addiction!

    in reply to: Divorced and Remarried Woman–didn't cut her losses #801428

    True to the above comments that we don’t know what it was like living under one roof with husband #1.

    Another reason for her attitude is perhaps jealousy, assuming the first husband went on with his life and living a normal life and she is trying to convince people that it’s not what they see.

    Lo Aleinu what attitudes have seeped into our frum world from the outside goyish world.

    in reply to: How to locate a nice apt in Boro Park #801068

    Our needs for an apartment was the same as yours and we were successful through a broker, as many people(with apts. to rent) don’t advertise to try to make sure they will not end up with “problem tenants”. Yes, we did have to pay one months rent as her fee but it was far less than what our old neighbors had to put into such type of an apartment.

    Our apartment was in move in condition and the rent very decent.

    Papers as Hamodia and Yated will have apartments listed through brokers. You won’t regret it. Good Luck!

    in reply to: Do you remember when….. #800987

    Sorry, but life experience makes me sound older…many people ask me where i was during the war, so no i am not insulted.

    Perhaps one day we can have a CF masquerade where we all have to guess who all members are and admit to a correct guess. After masquerade we will choose new names for the CF.

    in reply to: Catskill Nostalgia #805379

    the wandering Shmate guy who usually is seen walking on the 42 beween Kiamesha and South Fallsburg, who during election years wore an Uncle Sam hat… have not seen him this season, did you?

    in reply to: The geography game! #1203542

    Potomac River

    in reply to: Country Yossi #801317

    Country Yossi still has a program but at a different time each week. Upstate i haven’t heard this season.

    He is for all types of children both young and young at heart!

    in reply to: Bed Bugs in Boro Park! #800252

    be carefull for the people you let into your homes…you never know what they bring with them! One of our family member’s nurse moved from an infested apartment and one year later our member’s house was infested. It was no picnic but we got rid of the bugs and the person who was the carrier. Yes, it was in Boro Park.

    An acquaintance of ours who lives in a mini 8 apartment building watched as the bugs craweled from a neighbor to her. She B”H caught them in time and was spared unecessary aggravation.

    in reply to: I'm hungry! #801835

    when you all are done i’ll meet you at the gym!

    in reply to: Shaitel help!! #801636

    Take the sheitel back immediately. The hairs are not put in properly. Hope you have a receipt….but don’t go on T.V. to prove your point!

    in reply to: Catskill Nostalgia #805373

    Yes, there was Anne’s Dress Shop in Monticello which closed about 3-4 years ago

    Klein’s of Monticello was a very classy children’s shop that the women from Brooklyn would come down during the winter to shop

    Phil’s grocery in Liberty

    Hecker’s taxi used to transport from Brooklyn to Catskills

    does anyone remember the fruit and vegetable bus, which was a schoolbus where the seats were removed and became a travelling bus with the most delicious fruits and vegetables which were probably all farm fresh

    Nagel’s or was it mayber Nadel’s grocery in Ferndale(Golden Flow Dairy’s home today)

    Woolworth’s where Nu Design furniture is today

    Stollman’s fish market

    …..talking about a skunk in the bathroom, i remember back in the good old days when we were in Harris and one little boy while sitting in the outhouse(you know what i really mean) the roof fell in with a cat!

    in reply to: If Im the ony one to give complete down payment to children… #800711

    Perhaps looking into the option of putting the house into a trust or LLC about which you should consult with your financial advisor of his/her recommendations.

    Your concerns are very valid!

    Good Luck

    in reply to: Do you remember when….. #800980

    oomis 1105

    Sorry, but not only was i born in a leap year and actually am a drop younger.

    i also remember….

    the pharmacy selling Coca Cola in a special glass with its’ name

    Kahal Cholov Yisroel Milk

    Stumer’s Bread

    being permitted to eat such as Devil Dogs,Tootsie Roll, Nestles Crunch, Oh Henry bars because if the kosher grocer sold it we assumed it was okay for us to eat

    Klein’s ice cream machine, with ice cream pops for ten cents and a pull up crunchy paper wrapper

    Lieber’s candy store on Lee Avenue

    Madanim potato chips

    in reply to: Do you remember when….. #800974

    How old do you think i am? Give a 5 age range and i will let you know if you are correct or not!

    ….here are more

    Turkish Taffy

    The Three Stooges

    Chazan Hass and his daughters

    Molly Pikan

    The Art Raymond Show

    Tzvi Sekula

    Der Vetter Nuvi

    Bernard Melzer

    Watching the Eichman Y”S trial

    in reply to: Question about bungalows #799888

    Nachlei Emunah bungalows in Monticello, located on Joyland Road

    there are all types there

    in reply to: Meshulachim #799858

    It is the minhag of some, not all. The reason, they have no choice. We are here and they there and you have a choice of giving or not giving but let on not be mekatreg on holy people. Yes, they are holy and think of how they feel going begging!

    Try it and maybe then your opinion of criticism will change.

    in reply to: Catskill Nostalgia #805354

    Yukelson’s was the name of a colony

    Otis hotel was in Swan Lake up the road from Goldwasser’s

    Zucker’s hotel is still in business if you want to go back in the past!

    there are families of 8+ who still are in 3 bedroom bungalows where at times some sleep on a high riser in the kitchen

    remembering more….

    Julie’s gas station

    Itzkowitz grocery

    Red Apple rest station

    seeing cows on the farms all the drive up to the mountains

    staying put all summer and not going to and from city at least weekly(for whatever reason)

    all children of colony waiting for each father coming with Short Line on Friday

    wearing shorts all week when there were no men around

    going blueberry picking on Thursday and then Mom turning small kitchen into a bakery with delicacies no bakery could bake

    being in a colony where all types could live together in unity whether modern, litvish, yeshivish,chassidish,etc. and helping each other with a smile

    we didn’t need Chofetz Chaim heritage to tell us what we are permitted or not permitted to say/speak

    telephone booths at a slightly secluded place and having your name called when/if you had a call

    doing “phony” collect phone calls so the person could call you back because direct calling was cheaper

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