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  • in reply to: Better Not To Say Kaddish #1915840
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    WM: Have you ever c’v had to say Kaddish for someone halachicly required of you? If not, are you even allowed to say Kaddish for someone not halachicly required of you?

    If you c’v had to say Kaddish for someone halachicly required, would you be asking the same question you ask in your OP? Why would it be less applicable?

    in reply to: Halachic Ramifications of Killing Whilst in the Military #1915769
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    AAQ: Murder is a whole ‘nother level than lying (is that even against halacha?) or even stealing (assuming it is stealing, which is unlikely.) Violating Shabbos when working for a police department in a non-pekuach nefesh situation is indeed forbidden.

    But whatever you think of any of the above, comparing it to murder is out of line.

    in reply to: Halachic Ramifications of Killing Whilst in the Military #1915665
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    And what does he psaken?

    in reply to: If Trump Wins Reelection #1915615
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    With us being almost on the eve of Election Day, as strongly as I pray and hope that Trump wins, my intelligence tells me that will not be the case, most unfortunately. I also think that the Republicans will lose the Senate. This second prediction, if correctly combined with the first, will result in a completely disaster for the United States and its citizens over the next (at least) four years, much moreso than if the Republicans lose the presidency but retain the Senate. That said, while losing the Senate is likely I believe, it is less certain than losing the presidency.

    I say all this not from desire, as I very much hope I’m wrong on both accounts, but out of analysis.

    in reply to: New Conservative Supreme Court Supermajority #1915309
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    The next goal of the left abortion supporters is the legalization of doctor assisted suicide. As GHD above describes his support of abortion, it being illegal for doctors to assist in suicide (no less than doctors assisting abortion) is a “violation of personal liberty”.

    in reply to: mask effect #1915025
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    N95 is supposed to be 95% effective (hence its name), not just 88%.

    in reply to: New Conservative Supreme Court Supermajority #1914499
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    When general society has immoral laws, it certainly affects the Yidden in their midst. Even the Shomer Torah uMitzvos Jews. All the more so the Jews who utilize the immoral laws.

    Even before Roe v Wade mother’s whose lives were endangered were permitted to abort to save their lives. Reversing Roe v. Wade would not change that.

    in reply to: Political alternate universe #1912320
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    AAQ: Better to give up a percent of economic growth (especially as even with the lower economics we’re still the richest nation without becoming impoverished) if the upside of doing so is having more moral laws and policies (i.e. legal proscription and/or disapproval of toeiva, abortion, improper gender roles, etc.)

    in reply to: Political alternate universe #1911957
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    Absolutely “A”. Morality is more important than better economics. Even assuming the economic program was worse than his opponent, supporting more moral national policies and laws is far more vital.

    in reply to: Heshy HaGever #1911448
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    Goldstein caused Jews to be murdered in revenge for his attack.

    If BLM has a first amendment right to mass protest, Jews have a first amendment right to mass religious prayers and mass religious schooling.

    Tischler is an idiot. But from a legal perspective he has a first amendment right to publicly protest Kornbluh by jeering him as a moser and to protest him outside his home.

    in reply to: Mochel Loch… time to forgive and be forgiven! #1904426
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    Let’s all be michel one another. I hope you all can be mochel me.

    Gmar Chasima Tova

    in reply to: How much did you pay for your hand shmura matza? #1716756
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    How many pounds/kilos of handmade shmura matzos does everyone here buy for their family to cover the eight-day Yom Tov?

    in reply to: Do we KNOW there is a “shidduch crisis”? #1716755
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    The survey is voluntary, self-selected and web-based, so it is highly doubtful it is scientific or representative of anything.

    in reply to: Amazon Automatic Shipment of Chometz Received on Pesach! #1716752
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    Are you koneh it if your dog brought the package in from the front porch?

    in reply to: What do you eat Erev Pesach? #1716750
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    I fast since I’m a b’chor.

    in reply to: Shopping for a Psak #1716748
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    What if your brain isn’t as Torah advanced or as fully developed as your Torah superiors? Should you use your less developed brain or rely on the ones of your Torah superiors?

    in reply to: Amazon Automatic Shipment of Chometz Received on Pesach! #1716160
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    We need R’ Yair Hoffman to address this question.

    in reply to: Shopping for a Psak #1715489
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    rational: Do you believe Israelis visiting chutz laaretz for yom tov should keep two days? Or why the hypocrisy?

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    in reply to: Why do we seclude ourselves from the world around us? #1713846
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    places: The reference was to frum Ashkenazim who isolate themselves as much as possible away from the secular world. Those people have a nil intermarriage rate, a close to nil assimilation rate and a very high staying very frum rate.

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    DrYidd: Rav Schwab was appointed to assume the leadership of Rav Breuer’s community after his petira. Rav Schwab must’ve known a thing or two correctly to have been the appointed successor chosen by Rav Breuer’s.

    in reply to: Not tzinius for no reason #1713842
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    Mrs Plony: Because these so-called frum stores actually sell non-tznius clothing to so-called frum people who buy them.

    in reply to: Why do we seclude ourselves from the world around us? #1713679
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    Yabia: That’s what kept the Ashkenazim (that engaged in seclusion from the outside world) frum. You see the Sefardim (who socialized with the goyim) didn’t remain as frum.

    in reply to: Waiter’s finger was in my my soup! #1713476
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    Welcome to eating in restaurants!

    This happens in almost every restaurant.

    The only difference is that the vast majority of the time you don’t see the finger in the food or the sneeze in the kitchen or the roach crawling behind the stove.

    in reply to: Mesivta run by a Godol but not necessarily a “top” yeshiva #1712187
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    Mesivta Tiferes Yerushalayim.

    in reply to: Women Wearing Costumes on Purim? #1008052
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    mitzvah to be drunk is to get to the point of not knowing the dif between cursed is haman and blessed is mordechai.

    in reply to: Talking With Members of The Opposite Gender #662998
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    ames, did I ever identify my gender? I think it is mostly irrelevant. Part of the problem is when people unnecesarily think it important to advertise their gender here. I think you even made clear you’re married. How is that relevant?

    Obviously here it isn’t as bad as in real life. But if you read some of the kibbutzing threads and see what is going on between the genders, it raises many red flags. Talking “issues” is one thing. I see you and others deeply involved in chatting on non-issue familial terms chatting. This is wrong.

    in reply to: To Drink or Not to Drink? #674593
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    You are supposed to get drunk to the point of not knowing the difference between cursed is haman and blessed is mordechai (according to many poskim, including my own) Therefore, it takes quite a bit of drunkedness to reach this halachic state.

    Please don’t interfere with my religious obligations. Even U.S. law allows MINORS to drink alchol when it is for religious obligations.

    in reply to: Talking With Members of The Opposite Gender #662997
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    SJSinNYC, I am talking about Chareidishe Yidden. You are MO (and by some MO, there is even mixed swimming.) So you are no raya.

    By Bnei Torah, talking with the other gender is minimized to the bare possible minimum. And that’s the way it should be.

    in reply to: The “Come Back to the CR” thread #653780
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    asdfghjkl, plead what? what wrong was done?

    in reply to: Talking With Members of The Opposite Gender #662993
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    Does anyone have a justification for the regular chatting with the other gender?

    in reply to: Cholov Akum #772675
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    gaw, confused. You are patur until you are a tzadik gamur? Sounds like a cop-out. No one is perfect. If you push off observance of something until you reach perfection on everything else, you are essentially saying you don’t wish to observe it – as you’ll never be perfect in everything else.

    PM, did you read Reb Moshe’s letter clarifying b’shaas hadchak, copied in Hilchos Kashrus?

    in reply to: Coca-Cola Classic and Yiddishkeit #640780
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    Like a few people mentioned, we need to follow the directives of the Gedolim on these (and other) issues.

    in reply to: Talking With Members of The Opposite Gender #662974
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    Jothar,

    If you were running this place, what would you do about this situation?

    in reply to: Talking With Members of The Opposite Gender #662958
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    “Chazal say to stay far away from arayos.”

    Thats exactly it. Don’t expect every situation to be written. Chazal say stay far away.

    The bakery comparison is a fig leaf. That is a necessity. This is not.

    And lets face it. Most people here have identified their gender, marital status, and even roughly their age. In fact, there was a whole thread once dedicated to posters background information.

    in reply to: The “Come Back to the CR” thread #653771
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    We miss syriansephardi.

    in reply to: A Humorous Item #1172337
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    Will Hill: ROTFL!!!

    in reply to: Shidduch Priorities #637682
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    Jothar: Why did they stop doing that? Should we do the same today?

    in reply to: Chivalry & Yiddishkeit: A Foreign Concept #641842
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    I agree with Will Hill. We have to follow Shulchan Aruch whether we like it or not and whether we understand it or not.

    in reply to: Shidduchim Tips #642752
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    I think there are so many good guys and so few good girls.

    That’s why some people believe that the guys have a list of 100 girls, while the girls are begging to get just one name.

    in reply to: Funny Shidduch Stories #1226248
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    the guy took her to the wax museum and they decided to do the mini haunted house they have there. so my sisters like sure why not im not a lil kid anymore i wont be scared…

    theyre walking and its nice and scary but in a kiddy kind of way until they get to a tiny room enough to hold maybe 5 ppl seriously and theres a wax figure standing there.

    my sister goes right up to it, inches away, and says, wow it looks so real!!

    well, it was real, and the guy jumoed out at her and without even thinking, she grabbed her date and just held on for a few seconds…he was shocked for a few seconds until my sister realized what she was doing and pushed him away…..they had a good laugh over that…

    Bais Yaakov maydel:

    You’re story may come across as funny, but you must be sensitive to the fact that what occurred was an Aveira B’Shogeg of Shomer Negiah. Of course it was a mistake and they had charota, but this story should not be related publicly as some sort of kosher funny thing as it is an avera (b’shogeg).

    Imagine if they c’v had by mistake gone to a treif restaurant (they thought it was a kosher one or thought it was another restaurant a block away that is kosher), and only realized it after eating a few pieces of treif meat. Would they be joking about how good the treif meat at Tony’s Steakhouse was or how much kavana they had when they made a brocho?? One would hope not. They would be embarrassed about it, and not joke about it.

    in reply to: Eretz Yisroel #636867
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    berlin:

    Did you bother reading the Gedolim quotes on the first page of this thread? Did you bother reading what Rabbi Hutner ztl and Rabbi Miller ztl and others have said about the zionists war-time treachery and murder?

    Did you bother to read what Judge Halevi and Rudolf Vrba said about the zionist Kasztner?

    These are a few, out of an ocean, of examples.

    in reply to: Chivalry & Yiddishkeit: A Foreign Concept #641813
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    The opening the door for the girl (specifically) comes straight out of the goyish playbook. It is assur for both Chukas Hagoyim AND tznius. (Tznius is especially an issue by a car.)

    JayMatt: Assuming that came from Rav Gifter, what the Rav is stating is to mentchlich, not “chivalrous”. If there is inclimate weather or something, of course one must be mentchlich and help the other person if necessary.

    But assuming a normal situation with a healthy individual (not involving one party carrying heavy luggage), there is no more reason for a guy to open a door for a woman, than for a woman to open the door for a guy. In fact now that I am reading the first post with the meforshim it quoted, I believe it is correct al pi din for a woman to open the door for the man to go first.

    oomis1105: It is RASHI who stated that it is unbecoming for a husband to walk behind his wife. (Walking behind a woman other than ones wife, is outright assur.) You have no standing to dispute Rashi.

    kiruvwife: There is no more reason a bochor on a date should open (or especially close) a car door for the girl, than there is for the girl to do so for the bochor. THIS idea comes straight from the gentiles and has no basis in kedushas yisroel.

    cantoresq: I don’t know all the background of the situation you describe, but it is appropriate for a wife to stand up for her husband, rather than vice versa.

    So again; the idea of chivalry is “woman first.” This is incorrect from the Torah standpoint. In fact the Torah says men should go first. This fact does not negate the absolute necessity to be mentchlich at ALL times.

    in reply to: Eretz Yisroel #636861
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    SJS:

    I think you still missed Rabbi Avigdor Miller’s point. You said that Kastner was a collaborator and despicable but you question whether other zionist leaders are. The answer is an unequivocal yes. Kastner was, as pointed out, just an example of the atrocities committed by the zionists prior to statehood. There are so many others. Did you also read Rabbi Hutner’s description (in addition to Rabbi Miller’s) earlier in the thread of their activities during that time frame?

    What you are asking, to put it in other terms, is if the Nazi’s (yms) are really all bad, since there were some exceptions where individual Nazi’s actually saved Jews. The answer there too is an unequivocal yes, you can clearly state that the Nazi’s were bad. Same with the zionists.

    cantoresq:

    Trying to shut up discussion by calling all who you disagree with you fanatics is comical. Effectively YOU are engaged in ideological fanaticism. The truth is a very powerful thing, and it hurts those opposed to it. The ostrich buries its head in the sand. You can close your ears and heart to it, but the truth it remains.

    Jothar:

    Good joke!

    BTW Its good you stressed that reminder after someone tried to portray your views as something other than what you stated.

    in reply to: Cholov Akum #772548
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    gaw, stop cheppening with lesschumras. Anything he doesn’t like or want to do is hence a chumra.

    oomis, it is a good and appropriate thing to encourage people not to use Kulahs, where unnecessary.

    in reply to: The greatest financial supporter of Torah Jewry in the world #634122
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    Oy, where would we be without the Gedolim?

    in reply to: Daven With A Hat BeYichidus or Without it with a Minyan #1081705
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    tentwenty30, re: mekor for needing hats, etc.

    Hilchos Tefiloh, siman 91, (megulah)

    sk 4, mb 12

    the mishne berureh is in s’u orach chaim 91 seuf katen 12

    S’O Orach Chaim Hilchos Tefiloh, siman 91, sk 12 (megulah) [sk 4, mb 12 ?]

    Mishnah Berurah 8:4, citing the Ba”ch, requires two head coverings. (Shulchan Aruch O”Ch 282:2)

    in reply to: Daven With A Hat BeYichidus or Without it with a Minyan #1081700
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    tentwenty30, re: mekor for needing hats, etc.

    Hilchos Tefiloh, siman 91, (megulah)

    sk 4, mb 12

    the mishne berureh is in s’u orach chaim 91 seuf katen 12

    S’O Orach Chaim Hilchos Tefiloh, siman 91, sk 12 (megulah) [sk 4, mb 12 ?]

    Mishnah Berurah 8:4, citing the Ba”ch, requires two head coverings. (Shulchan Aruch O”Ch 282:2)

    in reply to: School and Internet #633949
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    squeak, administrator?? I do believe the internet issue was determined and announced by Gedolei Yisroel at various asifas. Not some maveric.

    in reply to: School and Internet #633946
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    squeak,

    It is too dangerous for our children’s neshamas to wait to we find out if the internet spiritually killed them. We must act now, not when the issue is “fully ironed out.”

    in reply to: Shidduch �Crisis�, Daas Torah and Hishtadlos #634670
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    Eighteen is the age given for marriage in Pirkei Avos. For many reasons, 18 is a very practical age – by then a man has had an opportunity to learn a large amount of Torah. He is expected to be mature enough to support a family. The Gemora (Kiddushin 29b) says that from a perspective of guarding against sin, 16 is better and 14 is better yet. The Shulchan Aruch (Even HaEzer 1:3) says that the best way to perform the mitzvah of marriage is to get married at age 13.

    The halachic deadline is age 20. If a man has not gotten married by age 20, the Gemora says that all of his days he will have sinful thoughts. A man who did not get married by age 20 is supposed to be beaten by the Beis Din until he agrees to get married. This is the halacha in Shulchan Aruch (Even HaEzer 1:3), though the Rama says that the custom nowadays is not to force people to get married. In any case, if he hasn’t gotten married by age 20, he should get married as soon as possible.

    The Chachomim of the Gemora understood the nature of man and his drives very well. They suggested that a man should get married at 18, and that for protection against improper sexual urges, younger would be better. They said that putting off marriage to later than 20 would permanently warp his personality.

    Today in Jewish society, it is unusual for a man to get married as young as 18, and most don’t even get married by 20, and it is almost unheard of for a man to get married younger than 18.

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