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  • in reply to: Women Shouldn’t Be Expected To Work #1997320
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    CS: Yeridos Hadoros.

    in reply to: Women Shouldn’t Be Expected To Work #1997291
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    By the way, much credit to the Chasidim on this issue. By and large, the default among Chasidishe wives is that they do not have careers or full time jobs (outside the home.) Indeed, it is very rare that any do have something like a 40 hour workweek outside. In fact, a majority or close to it might not work altogether as anything other than a housewife.

    in reply to: Women Shouldn’t Be Expected To Work #1997214
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    huju: It is considered impolite to ask a grandparent their age. As far as education, following a bit over five years in Kollel (which includes a bachelors), it took an additional three years (including the required internship) to obtain the degree and work requirements for the chosen career.

    in reply to: Women Shouldn’t Be Expected To Work #1997175
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    Reb Eliezer: The Aruch Hashulchan denounces in no uncertain very strong terms the terrible state where women left their hair uncovered.

    in reply to: Women Shouldn’t Be Expected To Work #1997089
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    smerel: Please cite the alleged “Gemorah and Shulchan Aruch”.

    in reply to: Women Shouldn’t Be Expected To Work #1997073
    ujm
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    FYI if anyone wants to see the source being discussed, they’re Rambam Hilchos Ishus 13:11 and Shulchan Aruch EH 73:1.

    in reply to: Women Shouldn’t Be Expected To Work #1997071
    ujm
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    Nice trying to confuse two issues, gadol, after having foresworn responding and declaring you’re done replying here and that others can have the last word. Quick change of heart, I must say. But no one has ever proposed that executions are legally viable under Jewish law governing the conduct of our lives today, living under a Torah based and enforced system that we currently have in exile. Such a penalty is officially suspended until Moshiach comes.

    On the other hand, the topic we’re discussing here regarding how each gender is obligated to govern their lives is specifically relevant regarding our contemporary lifestyle today. The Shulchan Aruch and Rambam codify the laws we’re obligated to live by in the here and now.

    in reply to: Women Shouldn’t Be Expected To Work #1996920
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    Gadol: Are you accusing the Rambam of making up an “arbitrary” set limit when he codified the Halacha? Are you implying that whereas the Halacha was correct and proper in the times of the Rambam and the Mechaber, today that changed and the codified Halacha needs to be whited-out from the Shulchan Aruch what was correct and proper then is no longer now and, as such, the Halacha has changed? At what time in history after Klal Yisroel accepted the Shulchan Aruch did this particular halacha go from being in force to it being cancelled? And where is this change documented in sh”ut Seforim that we no longer adhere to this halacha?; and which great rabbis (Rav Shlomo Riskin? Rav Avi Weiss?) wrote the teshuva?

    If this is your position, please explain how your position is any different than that of the Rabbinical Assembly of the Conservative movement’s Committee on Jewish Law and Standards that every so often updates, modifies, deletes and/or adds to Halacha. Such as when in the 1950s they decided driving to shul on Shabbos is now permissible even while acknowledging that the “old halacha” prohibited it. How is what you’re suggesting different in principal, even if you perhaps differ from them on individual halachos that you consider need to be changed for the 20th/21st centuries.

    in reply to: Women Shouldn’t Be Expected To Work #1996899
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    Gadol: You consider yourself a greater expert in Shalom Bayis than the Rambam to the point you’re calling out the Rambam’s “mistake”?

    Shulchan Aruch was written concisely and with the intention to be taken in literal form. Furthermore, as a general point (not necessarily/specifically being made for this topic), when there’s a conflict between Halacha and secular law, Yidden are obligated to give precedence to Halacha between the two.

    But most important to how you presented your comment is that there’s every reason to give the benefit in assuming every Jewish woman would voluntarily and very happily adhere to Halacha, rather than your implied assumption that it would be necessary for anyone to enforce it upon her.

    in reply to: Women Shouldn’t Be Expected To Work #1996799
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    Gadol: “if you or your family members are taking this literally”

    Why would anyone *not* take the Shulchan Aruch literally?!?

    in reply to: Women Shouldn’t Be Expected To Work #1996677
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    AY: How many fingers do you need to count how many Gedolei Yisroel sent their wives to work on Wall Street or in tumah Corporate America or, for that matter, any employment outside their home working for someone else? Any?

    Where did you get this incorrect idea that the Gedolim advised Klal Yisroel to disregard Kol Kevudah Bas Melech Penima? The Shulchan Aruch paskens as a matter of halacha that a woman should not leave the home often. Rambam actually gives a number of times per month that should be the maximum (and it is much less than you’ll guess.)

    in reply to: Women Shouldn’t Be Expected To Work #1996524
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    Yseribus: I’m making the point that the wife — unilaterally — has the right to choose not to work. It isn’t her natural, traditional and Torah role to go to work outside the home.

    Nor is it ideal for her to even choose to work outside the home. At best, it is a b’dieved utilized when circumstances compel it.

    in reply to: Spirit Airlines #1996511
    ujm
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    First World problems.

    Do you hear yourselves?

    in reply to: 2 is better than 1 #1996503
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    There are legal tender $500 and $1000 bills.

    in reply to: Charaidim #1996497
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    Avram, as an addendum to the above point, it is also relevant that Chareidim mostly simply maintained their traditional dress and mannerism. It is what it was. Whereas others decided to make a point by changing. Such as the kippa sruga was an intentional statement. Stopping to wear a hat was a change. Same with no longer wearing a jacket. On the other hand, Chareidim simply never decided to change what kind of Yarmulka they wear. Or to drop whatever aspects of their communities dress norms.

    Again, this is all very secondary and whatever nitpicking one might make on any of these individual points, the overall idea is this is at most a tiny, and not even universal, aspect.

    in reply to: Charaidim #1996473
    ujm
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    Avram, I don’t disagree with what you pointed out. But that’s very very secondary. It isn’t even close to a major point. Many Chareidim regularly dress in business attire, or other general attire, no different than many other segments of society. And only put on special clothing for davening and Shabbos.

    in reply to: Jews’ flight from city per racist attacks in Israel #1996363
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    I thought the State is the zionist dream land.

    in reply to: Are you allowed to give Tzeddakah/charity to Non-Jews #1996358
    ujm
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    Does anyone know what the actual issur of cheating a nochri is?

    in reply to: Temple Beth-El of Borough Park, what do we know about its history? #1996282
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    Anybody remember Rabbi Moshe Snow as the day camp director in the Irvington Bungalow Colony (in the 80s/90s, before it was rebuilt) in South Fallsburg?

    in reply to: Charaidim #1996279
    ujm
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    Chareidi is both Ashkenaz and Sefard.

    Look at it this way: All universally acknowledged Gedolei Yisroel, that are accepted throughout the world as Gedolei Yisroel, are Chareidi. Even the non-Chareidim accept them as Gedolei Yisroel because it is blatantly obvious and indisputable. I can’t think of any non-Chareidim, especially ones who never in their lives had identified with some affiliation with the Chareidi world, who were accepted as Gedolei Yisroel throughout Klal Yisroel.

    Both contemporary and historical.

    in reply to: 2 is better than 1 #1996269
    ujm
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    Use the dollar coin.

    in reply to: Hatzalah stickers color #1996196
    ujm
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    When Hatzalah started 212 was the area code for all five boroughs of New York City, including Brooklyn. 718 only became the new area code in the 1980s.

    I recall yellow stickers a long time ago (1980s/90s) as well.

    in reply to: PSA for Hikers #1996164
    ujm
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    Smartphone GPS can send you down dangerous hiking trails.

    ujm
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    Has the age gap of shidduchim in the frum community significantly narrowed in the past 5-10 years?

    Are there now relatively less of an overflow of single older girls?

    Has the shidduch crisis eased?

    in reply to: Charaidim #1996004
    ujm
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    CTR: Being Chareidi has close to zero to do with externals such as dress, speech or mannerism. It’s all to do with how to implement practice of halacha and hashkafa.

    Simply, those described today as Chareidi is how the average (and most) religious observant Jews before the haskala/Reform lived their lives — just, without any special or additional terms, descriptions, moniker or group name.

    in reply to: PSA for Hikers #1996006
    ujm
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    I would think pointers about swimming would benefit a lot more of our chevra than backpacking.

    in reply to: Leave of Absence #1995895
    ujm
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    Refuah Shelamo. Kesiva V’Chasima Tova.

    in reply to: Charaidim #1995872
    ujm
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    And those who were given the term Chareidi are simply the people who continue to follow the Judaism and mesorah started at Har Sinai.

    in reply to: Why? #1995864
    ujm
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    Gadol: That’s the Beis Din Shel Matah.

    in reply to: Charaidim #1995860
    ujm
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    The word or term may be a recent invention. But the practice of Torah Judaism that it refers to is the direct contemporary mesoratic practice of Judaism that started at Har Sinai and continues uninterrupted with those this term currently refers to.

    in reply to: My Walkabout #1995861
    ujm
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    Didn’t the Great Chicago Fire burn most of the city to the ground?

    in reply to: Why? #1995836
    ujm
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    Syag, as to your first question, with my super user abilities. As to your second question, per the rules I’m not permitted to divulge that information.

    in reply to: Why? #1995628
    ujm
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    Syag — Here are all the replies:

    Why?

    in reply to: Charaidim #1995404
    ujm
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    YO: A Chareidi is simply a Jew who follows Judaism as the Torah meant it, in full without looking for compromises.

    In other words, a default practicing Jew.

    The name was given to them by outsiders; they didn’t assume it for themselves. Much like Orthodox, another term imposed by outsiders who broke off from normative Judaism default Judaism and gave a name to those who simply continued following the Torah like their ancestors.

    300 years ago those called this today would’ve simply been called Jewish.

    in reply to: Charaidim #1995367
    ujm
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    Are you up to the lofty task?

    in reply to: Are you allowed to give Tzeddakah/charity to Non-Jews #1994643
    ujm
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    Avi, does Ayn Rand say a wife should risk her life to save her husband?

    in reply to: Politicizing kashrus #1994604
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    CA, it’s usage is Yiddish. It isn’t utilized in Modern Hebrew. Furthermore, its roots is Amaraic, not Hebrew.

    in reply to: Jewish Comedy #1994476
    ujm
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    Was he frum?

    in reply to: Politicizing kashrus #1994471
    ujm
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    Coffee Addict: Yasher Koach

    If non-essential companies boycott parts of the State of Israel or the entire State, even, no one should care. Losing B&J’s in no loss at all.

    Unless you’re a theological zionist.

    in reply to: Politicizing kashrus #1994052
    ujm
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    Avi K, I noticed that you started speaking Yiddish, as Yidden should. Ah groisa dank.

    in reply to: Anti semitism poem #1993944
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    AAQ: You can’t differentiate between Russian gentiles and Russian Jews? A large portion, likely a majority, of the Russians admitted into the State of Israel are gentiles.

    in reply to: Politicizing kashrus #1993611
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    Because Zionism comes before everything else.

    in reply to: Otzar HaCochma vs. HebrewBooks vs. Bar-Ilan #1993557
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    Reb Eliezer: What is DBS?

    in reply to: Anti semitism poem #1993552
    ujm
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    The Ran in Nedarim (among others) paskens lhalacha that dina dmalchusa does not apply in Eretz Yisroel. Since the reason for dina dmalchusa is that the local government has no obligation to admit Jews in their country, since they do so we owe them dina dmalchusa dina. On the other hand, every Jew has a Torah right to live in Eretz Yisroel. That right isn’t dependent on the current local governing authority of Eretz Yisroel. As such, the halacha is that dina dmalchusa isn’t in force in Eretz Yisroel.

    in reply to: Are you allowed to give Tzeddakah/charity to Non-Jews #1992689
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    AAQ, how many times have you ridden the NYC subway?

    in reply to: Are you allowed to give Tzeddakah/charity to Non-Jews #1992631
    ujm
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    The Gemara says מפרנסים עניי עכו”ם עם עניי ישראל – “We are obligated to support the gentile poor together with the Jewish poor” (Gittin 61a). That means because of darkei shalom, in order to keep peace, we give some charity to the goyim as well. In order to create a good impression, when you’re giving money to a Jewish poor man, and at the same time a gentile comes by for charity, you should be careful to give him something as well. It doesn’t mean that you have to give him the same. But for the sake of shalom, you give him something.

    It says עם עניי ישראל – “With the Jewish poor.” Only when they come together. When this נכרי, this gentile, comes by himself, then you’re not obligated to give him anything. He could just think that you’re a tightwad; but not that you’re impartial to Jews. However, you should always be careful, because if it will create animosity, you should make sure to give him something. You’ll have to use your own judgement.

    in reply to: Are you allowed to give Tzeddakah/charity to Non-Jews #1992618
    ujm
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    Since this site can’t publish Rav Avigdor Miller zt’l’s direct quotations, allow me please to paraphrase what Rav Miller said about this subject.

    You’re sitting in the subway and a so-called blind man comes into the car tapping with his stick, and he’s peeking through his small glasses, looking for customers. He’s walking around and nobody is doing anything. So when he passes by, you just take out a penny – not a nickel, because this fellow is not worth a nickel – and you take that penny and drop it into his tin can. Don’t let anyone see that it’s only a penny, and you drop it into his tin cup with the most resounding bang that you can. And then lean back virtuously to enjoy the admiring gazes of your fellow passengers. Look, you have to do something, so you make it worth it.

    When you’re waiting on line at the post office, and this gentile woman comes by. She’s knocking her pushka for veterans or cancer or some other gentile cause, so it’s good to always have a penny ready. Drop in a penny and she’ll give you a big thank you. And you’ve done what is required of you.

    in reply to: Going to the left #1992527
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    Many, and probably most, people with Asperger’s live normal lives with no one knowing the person has Asperger’s (unless told for some reason.) No different, in essence, than most people with diabetes. No one has to know. And the person lives a life like everyone else. With certain necessary health accommodations, of course. But no need to put your medicine containers, or diagnosis, on your workplace or Yeshiva desk.

    in reply to: Are you allowed to give Tzeddakah/charity to Non-Jews #1992497
    ujm
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    “No”

    Moderators, so why was his Torah deleted by the mods?

    His Torah wasn’t deleted, your excerpts were. In a past life the request was made by family

    in reply to: Are you allowed to give Tzeddakah/charity to Non-Jews #1992331
    ujm
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    Do the moderators consider the Torah as explained by HaRav Avigdor Miller zt’l to be unacceptable?

    No

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