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Chani comes to her parents and asks them for a $500.00 loan. Father says no way, Chani replies does that mean we are poor daddy, no sweetheart in means you are and i am just fine.
The Chesed of the Ribbono Shel Olam is actually how we deal with death. It begins with the Shiva, shloshim etc. As the years distance us from the petira we feel a little better. Give yourself time and commit your feelings in a diary. I lost my baby brother about 10 years ago and my dad a little over 6 years. There is no rule book as to how you should feel, it is there and allow it to be there. This will ultimately assist your healing process. Acceptance is a huge part here. May the nifteres be a mailitz yoisher. A goed gebenchte year.
you did not miss any Noahide laws, however, as Jews we tend to remember a yortzeid based on the Yiddish date. No one inferred for a non-Jew not to commiserate on September 11. I thought my intention was conveyed in a crystal clear manner. Sorry if you feel you were mislead. My message that i am attempting to convey is that due to the extensive publicity associated with September 11 one tends to not relate to Chof Gimmel Elul as the Yortzeid day for Kaddish etc.
the humor level here sometimes give the appearance of not being here. For all you young persons who do not remember Princess Di she was dating Dodi El Fayad at the time of her untimely death. Hence:
Ani LeDodi ve’dodi li.
A goed gebenchte Year to all, Sh’nas chaim, refuas to all those who need it, Parnoso be’revach and we should all I”YH be inscribed in the Sefer Ha’chaim.
First we say B”H for what we have. Where ever you call home, make it good and it will be. Even in Utopia one can potentially find bad. So, if you don’t like here, then learn to or leave, stop whining.
thanks for your perspective. As it states : Al tadun et chavairecha ad sh’e tagia limkomo. In this case Chas ve’cholia anyone should ever have to deal with something as catastrophic of this nature.
A Goed gebenchte Year to all in this forum and all Yidden in the entire world. May we be all zoiche to a sh’nas shalom, refuas to those who need and we should all I”YH be inscribed in the Book of life.
B”H we have organizations who are more than adequately equipped to help deal with these types of situations, turn to them, they experts in this field proven time and time again. If you are sick do you ask your car mechanic what to do?
wow, so many poskim with intimate lack of knowledge regarding this matter, Asai lecho Rov!!!!
not a matter for debate in a public forum
no shaila return the money
I became ‘frum’ about 42 years ago when it was not in fashion. It is not about the mitzvos she is or not keeping but her emunah/belief in the Ribono Shel olam. If the doubts are there there then mitzvos are an issue however if emunah is strong work with that.September 9, 2011 9:24 am at 9:24 am in reply to: #816371
The frum society is not immune to the goings on in the world. Fortunately today we have well trained frum people who can help guide us back on track. We need to recognize the ‘need’ to take of this. No fancy words are needed here.
then you are not a fein schmecker
talking as a parent, we give, gave and will give I”YH unconditionally to our children. Stop making everything so conditional!!!!!!!!!!!
H-shem is asking us to wake up. So many calls to this effect. Start your cheshbon hanefesh early this year. The rest will be easy. Take nothing for granted and do something oh so simple and beautiful. Greet people every day without them greeting you first. We need to show resepect after all people are created be’tzelem Elokim are we not? The second Bais Hamikdash was destroyed because of sinas chinam. So why do we perpetuate it?
Insurance companies differentiate between men and woman. Men like to show off and pay a price with higher premiums.August 28, 2011 3:20 am at 3:20 am in reply to: Earthquake + Hurricane during One Week in New York #802757
Rosh Choidesh Elul, wake up yidden.
In the place of a wake call for K’lal Yisroel so many people are steering what happened into a public event which ultimately leads to all these money making schemes. We just cried on Tisha B’eav, we need to do Teshuva, deburim be’alma. Leiby A”H was a korban, we however do not do the cheshbonos of the Ribbono Sh-l Olam. Stop with all these outcries of self pity, recognize H-shem will take care of us, periodically we need reminders to observe mitzvos properly. Take on something you would not normally do, whether it is learning for an extra 15 minutes a day, no loshon hora, shimras Shabbos more carefully and above all koved habrius, respect each other as we are ultimately created be’tzelem Elokim. This will indeed I”YH be a tikun for Leiby A”H.Leave judgement to the ultimate judge and do your thing. Our focus is to far off track, or perhpas you still need to tell the Ribono sh-l Olam how to be the master architect of this world. This job is taken!!!!!!!!!!!August 16, 2011 10:21 am at 10:21 am in reply to: Kohanim not being able to go to exhibits with real dead people. #800171
and if they are not really dead?
This is not about frum people but the people themselves. We do not expect frum people to kill others but sometimes they do.
remember people, what goes around comes around, be nice and they will be nice to you, it is hard to go against that, be honest, be upfront, above all be respectful, after all this is your spouses parent. Now they are are also your ‘parents’, so the shaila that remains I suppose, Kibud Av ve’aim? The Aseres Hadibros are quite explicit here. No room for error in judgement.That is is why it says Kabed, respect, and not start with love, they get it automatically, so which ever way you slice this one must still draw the respect conclusion or we have failed what H-shem truly wants and demands of us.
The Torah is perfect, we are not. When our time comes for a din and cheshbon the only question we are asked by the Ribono shel olam is why we did not fulfill our obligations. Each of us are fully and totally responsible for our actions. Covering one’s hair in addition is a constant reminder like the the yarmulke, we are so much and H-shem is the rest, in addition the request from H-shem is for one to be modest, display of a woman’s hair is considered part of her beauty which is meant only for the pleasure of her husband and no one else. Serving H-shem is a privilege and not an obligation, Torah is a way of life not a religion. You are covering your hair for yourself and derech agav your hubbie.
Good luck in your avenue of pursuit of your feelings and
Simple Simon says, do as I say, not as I do!!! Teach by true example and your children will be just fine. Children on so many levels seek to emulate their parents, so just in case the hint that was dropped before, be true to to yourself….
Today’s generation is getting married with one foot already out the door. The going gets a little tough and off we go. What happened to old fashioned hard core values, why is there a disconnect. Very simple, Pirkai Avos: Al tihiyu ke’avodim hameshamshim etc. This is called the conditional generation. How about doing just for the sake of, you get something back, fine, gravy :). Give yourself a chance, give your marriage a real chance, you will be happier and the kids ultimately as well. Show some respect for each other, no matter who does what. If you need help to work on/out your marriage, this is as important and saying a brocho, or any other mitzva, get the help before you on that path of self destruct, look how many people you are going to drag through the mud with you.
The ultimate judge, Ribono Shel Olam, has that task. We are so quick to convict. Concentrate on the healing process in a positive way. The rozaiach’s punishment will be metered out to him in good time. To question H-shem why this happened is not the Jewish way. Rezoin haborai is ultimate and supreme without question or doubt. This is a goyish mentality to make a media conviction. Do not misunderstand me for one second, in no way shape, form or size am I condoning this appalling act.
education takes some time before the desired effects can be felt. In the interim more radical steps can be taken, for example the usage of GPS tracking devices, this would have a two fold effect, one the child is automatically more keenly aware of their surroundings and secondly their whereabouts are very traceable. This is not an expensive technology and can help solve and resolve so many issues.
Just remember to be a Monday morning quarter-back is not the best policy.
You have the tools. Recognize them in your own inner strength. Saying you believe verbally and not coming from the heart will not help. you must sincerely believe on all levels. Sounds simple,,,,like the fellow looking parking,says to G-d if i find a parking spot $50.00 will go to charity, and then suddenly a spot opens up and of course, never mind G-d i just found one.
Every summer more liberties are taken, more testing of the waters as to how far one can go. Woman on the trains going to the city need a ‘mirror’ to reflect and see how they are dressed. Nobody said mitzvas are hard or easy. It is our way of life. If you are looking for a ‘heter’ permission, you will always find, is that what we really want? Do your own cheshbon hanefesh and ask, how was I raised?
One is being ‘poretz geder’ in this case. Latter of the law spirit of the law. If you want a heter so badly it can be found, however, this does not make it morally or ethically appropriate. Actions are accountable. Think before you do , there are consequences. Stop being selfish!!!!
So many people are getting married today with one foot out the door. The going gets tough, okay no problem, divorce. There is no one to blame but yourself,how many couples go to marriage counselling? The stigma of the young generation. They know it all!!! Kids do suffer as a result of your actions. Stop being so selfish and feeling sorry for yourself.June 27, 2011 10:27 am at 10:27 am in reply to: The next Generation is here…with more chutzpah than ever! #781397
Newton’s third law, for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction. What you put in is what you will get! Your child may not know the difference ,however the effects will be felt later on. You make a child, raise the child, they come first not you.
so therefore let us ‘choose’ the mitzvas we would like or are willing to do. Lucky for us H-shem does not discriminate, so why should we.
such issues, just don’t forget the Torah does requires you to respect them….
Sheker Ha’chain ve’hevel Ha’yofi or so we say everything Friday night, for those of us who do so say it, understand it, believe in it, Hi Tishalal. Emunah Peshuta is not from the mouth, but from the heart. H-shem listens to our tefilos more clearly when we cry and daven from the heart. Sincerity is measured very carefully by the Ribbono Shel Olam. If you present or feel negatively about yourself others will definitely perceive you as such. The perception of others concerning you remember is dependent on you.April 18, 2011 10:26 am at 10:26 am in reply to: Are No-Iron Dress shirts (like Paul Fredrick, etc) REALLY absolutely no iron? #785123
Go to the outlet stores holiday times when Brooks Brothers has their sale, open an account and receive additional discounts, the non-iron version should then cost about $30..
The heart does not know how to lie, cold feet might suggest or prompt a doubt, but that is all it is. If there is a more serious reason, act upon it, get serious help. It does not help to be sorry afterwards.