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It seems clear to me that Hashem does not want our learning or our mitzvos. There is more Torah being learned worldwide than ever but still we are threatened.
Hey UJM – we’re a few weeks past Tisha B’Av and heading into the Yomim Noraim. How about toning down the Sinas Chinum, huh?
My mother was a Holocaust survivor from Czechoslovakia. She was more comfortable with Yiddish than English so my brother and I were raised to speak Yiddish at home. When I was very little, she’d sing songs to me from her childhood in the 1930’s. Almost all of them were very sad – about lost loves, losing one’s home, loneliness, poverty. One song she sang was called “Papirineh Kinderlach Hub Ich” (I Have Paper Children), a mother’s lament that all of her children have grown up and moved away or died, and all she has left are their pictures. It made me cry every time.
The passing of Rav Edelstein ZT’L, while sad, is not a tragedy. He lived to be 100 years old and had a life filled with Torah. Every person dies, even Moshe Rabbeinu. We should be celebrating that we were zoiche to have lived in his time and were able to share in his knowledge.
Men do get breast cancer. Refuah Shelaimah.
The worst airport anywhere. Crowded, inefficient, expensive, rude employees and stormtroopers posing as traffic agents bullying people trying to pick up and drop off at Terminal 4.
My wife and I have discussed making aliyah. It’s on the radar.
I hope and pray that practical nuclear fusion will be perfected in the lifetimes of my children. It would put the Arabs and their oil out of business for good.March 26, 2023 1:05 pm at 1:05 pm in reply to: Should girls wait for older sisters to get married? #2177025
When I was in my early 20’s, I wanted to start dating badly but my mother objected, saying in Yiddish “koidem der elterer”, meaning my older brother had to go first. And he waited until he was 30. It wasn’t fair.February 7, 2023 8:05 am at 8:05 am in reply to: Brainstorming an Alternate Term for Boyfriend/Chassan and Girlfriend/Kallah #2163237
Never cared for herring.February 5, 2023 9:01 am at 9:01 am in reply to: Shame on EVERY Democrat – re Islamist-bigot Ilhan Omar #2162515
Next time a Jewish member of the House claims to be supportive of Jews and Israel, remember this vote. Jewish politicians, in the House and Senate, only care about themselves. This is ESPECIALLY true of Hypocrite #1, Chuck Schumer.
What’s a meat board?
Aviary – giving “petch” was child abuse. Don’t kid yourself. You didn’t need to give “petch” to help a boy learn. My sons are now learning in Eretz Yisroel, one in his third year. They attended a Yeshiva where they didn’t give “petch”. BH a lot of fine boys came from that Yeshiva who now are in chinuch without ever having had “petch”.
And I’m not talking about “petch”. I’m talking about sadism. I’m talking about the principal who once hit a kid so hard he knocked him unconscious and an ambulance had to be called. I’m talking about a rebbe who relishes verbally abusing children, calling them “ferd” and “hoont” and putting snow down their backs for laughs.
You say that many Bnei Torah came from that Yeshiva. I personally know three classmates who went off the derech after graduation because of the abuse they received. Does that make it worth the “petch”? And now you’ll tell me these three probably had bad parents or were going off the derech anyway. You’d be flat out wrong. All three were from yeshivish Flatbush families.
Deal with it.
Avira: I was in Mirrer Yeshiva from 1978 to 1982. I’m sure things have changed in 40 years. For example, I’m sure the current principal of the high school doesn’t beat up talmidim anymore, like the one in my day did.
My post was meant to say what it was like when I was there. I have no idea what it’s like there now.
When I was in Mirrer Yeshiva, they went out of their way to keep us from learning to speak Hebrew. They told us that Ivrit was only spoken by the non-religious Jews in Israel and that Ivrit was an impermissible version of Loshon Hakodesh, which was only spoken by the greatest tzaddikim in Tanach. We were expected to know Yiddish (which I did). The Yeshiva refused to provide a Hebrew language course so we could take the Hebrew Regents exam. They even wouldn’t mention Yom Ha’atzmaut.
Do we even have the capability of reaching the level we need to reach? If we can’t, what’s the point?
akuperma: What’s the point of being kept alive only to live under existential threat century after century? How much longer can we live with unbridled hate?
ToShma: You say that Dirshu and all of the chiburim today don’t reach the prior generations. But all I read is how the Dirshu participants have tremendous spiritual strength and Ahavas Torah and Yiras Shamayim. If these people can’t reach the prior generation, what hope do we have?
It just seems to me that no matter what we do the haters are allowed to arise. The tzaddikim of Europe were murdered brutally – if we can’t reach them, what hope do we have?
For those who say the quality of learning is missing. Don’t we see articles about tests being given everywhere on Shas by Dirshu to people in the thousands? Are these people not learning with quality? What does quality mean anyway?
I had a Shabbos bar mitzvah – a sit down lunch after davening, with a few speeches, some dancing and that was it. No music, no photographers.
I wish I could ask my father anything – he was niftar over 41 years years. Yom Kippur is his birthday.
I grew up in Kew Gardens Hills, lived there until I was 35. I’ve had enough of that place too.
I’ve been living in the 5T for the past 21 years and I’m ready to get out. There is too much development going on, with large buildings planned, and the level of gaiva is ridiculous. Middos are lacking too. I’m not saying Teaneck is better but the 5T, in my mind, is done.
Sounds like a scam.
Zaphod’s just this froody guy, ya know?
UJM: I’m a first generation American-born person. My parents were Holocaust survivors from Eastern Europe who came to the US in the late 1950’s. All of their ancestors lived in Europe. None of them ever owned an African slave. I never have either. Why should I pay reparations?
I’m not a safek manzer because I look EXACTLY like my father. And he was an only child so there’s no chance of hanky panky with a sibling. Plus, I have photographic evidence to show that my nose is the same as every male ancestor in my father’s family since at least 1800.
My mother a”h spoke mostly Yiddish to my brother and myself in the house when we were growing up. It was her first language (she was from Eastern Europe). My father a”h was also Eastern European but he only spoke to us in English. I am very conversant in Yiddish which has come in handy sometimes. Unfortunately all of my Yiddish speaking family members have passed away so I have almost nobody left to speak Yiddish to anymore. 🙁
Looking at the OP, seems to me the elderly men were telling the young man to stop making such a commotion when lighting the candles. They used a colloquial expression.
Best invention: Indoor plumbing. People take it for granted. My mother grew up in a little town in Eastern Europe and she had an outhouse in her backyard. She’d tell me about having to visit the outhouse in the middle of the night in the winter.
Worst invention: Social media. It gives a voice to people who really shouldn’t have one.
My mother was from Czechoslovakia and she called it grfilte kraut.December 27, 2021 12:37 pm at 12:37 pm in reply to: Why aren’t autistic people that are orthodox open about their diagnosis #2045149
One word answer: Shidduchim. Or, more precisely, admitting that one has autism or has autism in the family would be a death knell for the possibility of being redt shidduchim. It’s shallow and stupid but that’s how it is.
Mayim Bialik is an actress who has been on several TV series and is currently the host of Jeopardy. She is a baalat tshuva who is an aspiring Orthodox Jew. She is quite public about it.
Reb Eliezer, the same goes for Paul McCartney – his children were born to his now-deceased wife Linda, who was Jewish.
I had a rebbe in high school who once said that five years for him went by faster than one year did for us teenagers. At the time I thought he was exaggerating but now that I’m older than that rebbe was at that time, I understand his sentiment.
You can often find frum Jews in unexpected places during Chol Hamoed Pesach and Succos.
I have an English name and I use it constantly. That’s because when I was a kid, my classmates would tease me endlessly for my Hebrew name.
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Didn’t China save the Mirrer Yeshiva by allowing it to relocate to Shanghai during the Shoah? There is no historical animosity between the Jews and China although it’s true, you never knew.
If your son is 16, how old should the girls be who are going to be redt to him? 14? 13? Can you see your son marrying an 8th grade kid?
When he’s completed his education and has a good job with which he can support a spouse and not be a burden on parents, in-laws, the government or Klal Yisroel.
UJM: I was hoping there would be at least one “Hitchhiker’s” fan here!
I’m 56. Full disclosure. Bar mitzvah in 1978, I leined parshas Tetzaveh. Shoin.
Replying to zen3344: I am prone to sudden painful back spasms if I twist just the wrong way. To be safe, I never do hagba.
How frum is your definition of “frum”, though?
I went through the Shadchan system when I was a young man in my 20’s. I learned pretty quickly that Shadchanim could only help you if you had at least one of the following qualities.
1) You were very rich.
2) You were a big learner and intended to be in Kollel
3) You had a large family and exceptional Yichus
Unfortunately, I had none of those qualities. My father died when I was 16 and left us no insurance, so I was not rich. Because I was not rich I had to finish my secular education and get a job as soon as I could, so I wasn’t a big learner and couldn’t be in Kollel. And my parents were Auschwitz survivors who lost most of their families to the Nazis and had to rebuild almost from nothing, so I didn’t have a large family or Yichus. So, as a result, most Shadchanim wouldn’t help me and the ones who did redt me girls who were not suitable for me (ten years older, et al). I finally married at 30 thanks to my mother’s friend, who knew a woman who knew a single girl. No Shadchanim.
I hate Shadchanim.
Avi K: When I was in high school in Mirrer Yeshiva, I was taught that Loshen Kodesh was the true language of Torah and Ivrit was the language of non-frum Jews and shouldn’t be spoken.
Reb Eliezer: I had a rebbe once in the 8th Grade who gave a very lucid explanation about Jews being like the “stars in heaven” and the “sand of the Earth”. When the Jewish people are fulfilling their mission of being the light unto the nations and glorifying the name of Hashem, we are like the stars of the heavens – bright, beautiful, graceful in our movements and most importantly, close to Hashem and out of the reach of enemies. But when we commit aveiros and make Chilulei Hashem, then we become like the sands of the Earth – worthless, drab, plain, drifting endlessly and aimlessly with the wind and, most importantly, at the lowest point on Earth and susceptible to being walked on by even the lowest animals and insects. We can be scooped up, pushed around, thrown from place to place without anyone caring.
I heard this explanation 43 years ago, and I have never forgotten it. Unfortunately, the Rebbe who stated it passed away young, at age 65, about 30 years ago.
We are the Chosen People – but what were we chosen for? This is widely misunderstood. We were not chosen to have the favor of Hashem no matter what – that much is clear. Jews have suffered more hatred and death than any nation on Earth. Rather, we were chosen to carry the עול of the Torah – to be the light unto the nations. And when we fail, we are punished.