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Aht or ahta (You) from Lir-oht (to see). The person whom one sees directly before him and to whom one speaks is the “you.”
THERE’S your topic right there! “People who post controversial troll-ish remarks under an assumed name…”
I wanted to post something, but I was too shy.
These nutjobs are probably saying NOW, that because of their timely warning, everyone repented and staved off the End of the World.
Thanks, Goq. Max was a tremendous nechama to us after my Bubby died. And I cannot emphasize enough that we were NEVER a dog-owning type family, just the opposite. I was terrified of them until my mid-teens.
I SAY Lag B’Omer, but counted L’Omer.
Derech Hamelech, there is more kedusha in both parents attending their daughter’s granduation and ELEVATING the occasion to one of kedusha, than trying to eliminate an entire 50% of parents from attending. What if the girl HAS no mother? What if she has NO female role model that will stand up when she walks in and clap for her with nachas? This is way overboard, and I am surprised more parents have not pulled their kids out of such schools, and taught them that this is NOT frumkeit.It was good enough for men and women to stand together at Har Sinai to receive the Torah, it should be good enough for them to sit in the same room and watch their daughter receive her diploma. Have separate seating, if you must, but do not eliminate the fathers and pride yourself on the kedusha. All the posters who have spoken out affirmatively for the father’s right to attend, have made good points.
Why should Pac-Man think that comment was sarcastic? Those ARE the garments of many typical laborers, are they not?
Who says they don’t? I know lots of people who do, my neighbors included. My parents, rather late in life had a dog, because he wandered into their yard on the day of Shloshim for my grandmother (who had lived with us and taken care of us for almost 30 years) O”H, which would also have been her birthday. My parents were as far from being dog owners as I would be from having a pet monkey (to quote another poster), but Max would not leave their yard, and he was incredibly adorable,loving, and fiercely protective of our family, especially my mom O”H. We like to think my Bubby sent him to us.
A child old enough to be getting married, is ALSO old enough to make his or her own decisions about whom they wish to date. If an overly-picky mama is preventing her son or daughter from meeting someone whom SHE deems not worthy enough,but good things have already been heard about the person, the son/daughter should go directly to the shadchan to request a set up.
“next rule will be no fathers can sign tuition checks, only mothers”
Yeah – nah, I don’t see that being a problem any time soon.
There is nothing trashy about jeans skirts that fit well and are long enough. The material is more durable than most other clothing, and that reason alone is a good one to wear clothing made of jeans material. The preoccupation that some people have with jeans and tznius boggles the mind. It wears very well, it covers the body well, and does NOT fly up on a windy day. It could not BE more tzniusdig. And given the high prices charged for some jeans these days, I doubt anyone would call it “farmer’s clothing.”
Why not say yes, anyway, and possibly meet the girl who is right for you? Maybe you have the wrong impression.
Is it the sunlight, or any light (going through a prism)?
Whoa! In the zechus of your beautiful heartfelt words, may you and all of klal Yisrael who are not married, find your zivugim bimheira.
Even for those who would argue that Bnos Yisrael should not be seen in a published photograph (and I do not understand that rationale), what does that have to do with a non-Jewish woman? Hillary Clinton is far from a Bas Yisrael (or ANY type of Yisrael). AND she is a powerful woman in government. Insulting her was a BIG gaffe.
You’re welcome. I like everybody.
Hershey bars with almonds or Chunky chocolate are the best in my opinion, and I have done EXTENSIVE research.
Obama will never miss a photo or political op.
I think it’s a great idea for a shidduch date. The tables would have mechitzas and the shadchan should come along on the date, along with his/her spouse, so they can actually make the conversation for the boy and girl, who naturally would not be allowed to see each other through the mechitzah. For example. let’s say the shadchan is the husband. he could ask the boy to make a comment, repeat that comment to his wife, and she could convey the sentiment to the girl. The girl could then reply (to the wife) and she could convey the girl’s comments to the shadchan who could in turn repeat them to the boy. All very tzniusdig.
Lag B’Omer was always a traditional day of fun for the kids in Yeshivah. We always went on school trips, had picnics, games etc. Part of our Jewish heritage is the recogntion of the simcha of this day and celebration of that simcha. Ivdu es Hashem b’simcha.
I would love to see the daf.
binahyeseirah, thanks for printing that. It brought tears to my eyes.
As the Torah makes a point of telling us of the beauty of the Emahos, clearly making oneself beautiful is not the issue as not all of us are blessed with the bone structure of the Emahos. Making oneself beautiful in such a way as to be prutzahdig, however, is not consistent with the tznius with which our emahos conducted themselves, and that is the sole issue IMO.
I am so sorry, and I have known your pain, many, many years ago. But hearing no is part of real life, and a grownup learns to accept the “no” along with the “yes.” Sometimes YOU might be the one saying no. It hurts, but it is what it is. Because you see how hard this has been for you, please make every effort yourself to be considerate and thoughtful of the next person that you might have to say no to (not implying that you are not a considerate person already). It will get better, I promise you. And B”EH, the right person should say yes to you VERY VERY SOON.
Hillary is Secretary of the United States, and cropping her out for ANY reason is disrespecting that role. Whether we like her or not is not the issue. She is in the position that she is in, and out of respect for her authority, should not have been omitted out of some misguided sense of tznius in this case. JMO
People tend not to want to reveal such details (loshon hara, rechilus, some similar reason), not realizing that it is a CRUCIAL piece of information that a prospective shidduch has every right to know. All the details do not have to be revealed, but some basic information should be, i.e. there was a problem regarding the support issue that had been promised; the girl turned out to be very self-centered; the boy was not being candid about his intentions regarding earning a living; one or the other turned out to have anger management problems or some other emotional disturbance, that had been kept hidden. You get the idea. Details come out when an actual dating relationship goes forward, if it seems shayach to do so after finding out the broader issues.
Cropping the photo without saying it was edited, would also have been a lie. History was being made, and the paper basically re-wrote it by erasing a key player, unnecessarily.
So He sends an angel at that moment, to spare them from an accident. In the disguise of Oomis.”
Sweet of you to say so, but I am hardly an angel, and lately am not in condition to run quite as fast after other people’s unwatched children. I really have moirah that someday one of these kids chalilah v’chas a million times, will get into a situation from which there is no escape.
Boruch Dayan Emes. Rabbi Koff Z”L was a wonderful, patient mechaneich and an outstanding person. He taught in several yeshivos in the Far Rockaway/Five Towns/Long Beach areas, and he was an understanding rebbie. All his talmidim were very fond of him. I believe he went on to be a Menahel in a new Yeshivah. This was a huge shock to all of us who did not even know he was ill.
T”NZBH.
Really the thing that grinds my gears and grigerers my kishkes, is when I see little kids running hefker with absolutely no adult watching them, especially when it forces my husband or me to run outside and down the stairs to catch a toddler about to get hit by a car or fall down a really steep staircase (yes, this has really happened more than once, and I am tired of our apparently being the only responsible adults on my block).
You cannot tell us to mind our own business or not look, because a) it’s impossible to avoid seeing what’s going on and b) we believe that the Torah mandates us to NOT turn a blind eye (lo suchal l’hisaleim). if that halacha refers to merely helping return a lost animal to its rightful owner, or help a beast unload his excessive burden, how much more so are we required to do so when it is a small child involved?
We have tried telling the parents that their kids were doing dangerous things, when we brought them home to them, and have talked about how people tend to overly relax and let their guyard down, forgetting this is not a bungalow colony, but it goes in one ear and out the other. We are not desirous of calling in CPS and massering on them. And we have no idea who their rabbonim are.
Any other helpful suggestions?
“As a professor of mine told us this past semester
Wolf, have you told us you are in school? What for?”
Yep, I noticed that, too.
“Why is the media making such a fuss about this? The Islamic radicals do the same thing all the time. “
And so you want frum Jews to be compared to THEM??????
This is getting out of hand. If Hillary Clinton were President of the USA, would they STILL delete her pictures from news stories?
Reading anything by Mosherose. (JK)
Make sure of what the underlying CAUSE is for the repeated nosebleeds. It could be the blood vessel thing, OR it could be the result of high blood pressure, or a more potentially serious condition. Don’t fool around with this. get it checked out.
Adorable: I am glad you got your hug and your present and that it was enough for you. I wonder if it was really enough for him, even if he said otherwise. It’s hard for me to envision a dad that would not take great nachas from seeing his daughter graduate (even more so if she were valedictorian) and I cannot understand why any father would be denied that nachas, “boring” or not.
Assuming this system was in place 40 years ago “
Who says it was? I got married 34 years ago and was a child of the 60s, and it was not the norm for a typical frum chosson to take off a year or more to learn while his wife supported him, (though women had begun to enter the workforce in greater numbers). I am sure there were some, but not in the numbers that you see today.
Frum guys learned part of the day and worked the rest of the day, and more women than not still stayed home to raise their families, until women’s lib caught up with the frum world and “stay at home moms” became a pejorative expression. We have seen the dangers of kids being raised by non-Jewish babysitters, however wonderful they might be. It has reached a point where women sometimes feel that unless they are working at a “meaningful” job, their efforts are worthless. When did it become worthless to prepare the next generation of klal Yisroel? When did Hashem tell men to stop earning “b’zayas apecha” and turn that responsibility over to the women? Most of all, who is going to pick up the slack for the next generation, which are ILL-PREPARED for real achrayus in life. There is no money tree in my back yard, and even if there is one in yours, what happens when there is a drought and it stops producing? None of us lives forever and the last grouop of earning parents will eventually be gone. What then?
I am curious – does this mean that none of the Roshei Yeshivah or rabbonim are present at these graduations?
What’s wrong with “ciao?” Doesn’t that mean something like, “Bye,” or “See ya,” in Italian?
1)”And what you said about uvdah dchol, can you explain to me what makes it uvdah dchol? I mean, if lifting weights is indeed mutar on shabbos, then why is it any more uvdah dchol than uvdah dshabbos? “
2)”Anyway, even though i strongly suspect that it is mutar meikar didinah, I may still refrain from doing it for the simple reason that it doesn’t feel ‘shabbosdik’.”
Uvda d’chol is a halachic way of saying “not Shabbosdik.”
I never used nannies, so I am not so knowledgeable in this area, but it seems to me that even if you give room and board for someone, that should not necessarily mean they ought to earn LESS than if they did not live in. People tend to take more advantage of someone who is already living in the home, expecting them to babysit because they are already there, and the job tends to be more of a 24 hr type than the 9-5 of a non live in. Their housekeeping duties also seem more extensive. I never understood that.
OH BROTHER!!!!!!
Even if I accept that SOME men have more seichel than SOME women, women are more intuitive, more highly attuned to nuance, and have bina yesaira. Men do not. And SO WHAT!!!!!!!
I don’t speak Yiddish, so I read this thread…
How can that help toenail fungus, when the fungus is UNDER the nail?
Thanks, Goq. Even though halacha mandates that every day is mother’s (and father’s)day, it’s nice that kids are actually “forced” to stop what they are doing and THINK about what that concept means, at least once a year. And yeah, it was invented by the florists and greeting card industry. Very smart of them, no?
Mewho, I will reiterate what I said. Her behavior sounds to be NOT normal, especially if it is of recent onset. She might be experiencing the beginnings of dementia and aneurological exam and general health exam are both crucial to early detection. My friend’s mom started to do things such as you are describing, became paranoid and secretive. She refused medical attention, and like you, her daughter didn;t know what to make of it, and couldn’t get her to go for a checkup. Eventually she was forced to go because she fell, so they did a neurop work up as part of her battery of tests, and it turned out she had advanced dementia. By that time, she had cut off all contact with people, and insisted her husband was not her husband.
There are many things that can trigger odd behavior, including emotional pain, but this sounds to me like something that needs to be addressed right now. Your husband should insist on taking her for a checkup. If she is resistant, he should remind her that he loves her, and he is concerned that she is not feeling well but not telling him. If she still objects he should play the guilt card that moms often use and say,” Do this for me, if you love me.”
Your point about rodents and racoons is well-taken, however, not all places have this problem, and if a racoon is coming out in the daytime because of the bread, then you have a much more serious safety and health problem than you think.
I don’t know if this is or is not actual halacha. I will tell you, though, that every Sunday morning my husband throws out for the birds the leftover challah crumbs and pieces that we cannot eat. The birds actually seem to have come to expect him to be there every Sunday morning, and they have begun to congregate on our lawn, waiting patiently for him to come out with their goodies. It’s really fascinating to see this and happens almost every week. When he comes out, they don’t fly off as birds usually do at the sight of a person, but wait for him to throw it out for them.
oomis1105: Would you say the same about goyim? They’re perfect the way HaShem made them, they don’t need mitzvos?
Who says so? 99% of them have broken every one of the sheva mitzvos b’nei Noach. When men say shelo asani goy or aved, they are specifying that these are people who do not have the chiyuv of mitzvos on them in the same way that we do, and they acknowledge Hashem’s chessed in giving us these responsibilities.
When they say it about WOMEN, they are really thanking Hashem that He let them off with JUST the need to do mitzvos, rather than the ohl of being pregnant, giving birth to, and raising the the next generation of our people. If even ONE man had to go through a pregnancy and childbirth, IMO it would be the end of the Jewish people. Or ALL people. I think they are just expressing their profound hakoras hatov for being let off that hook. 😉 I also think men do not really want to be on the same level of kedusha as women – it’s too hard for them to maintain that level on their own, hence the need for all the extra mitzvos. And boy am I SO not a B”Y girl!!!!!
Have you considered the idea that something might be going on with her neurologically speaking? it makes no sense that she would take photos of your parents and put them in her bag (even if she DID tell you). Has she always acted this way? If not, it is time to get her to a doctor for a complete evaluation. In fact, I would take her anyway. Her behavior sounds a little indiscreet.