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  • in reply to: Who's going to be wearing blue and white tomorrow? #943823

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    1- It’s on Monday

    2- Whichever shirt is clean…….

    in reply to: Lifting Weights On Shabbos #765225

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    One genuine Talmid Chacham who is a posaik knows more than the entire YWNCR put together……… that is how good they are. Embarrased?? No need. the real ones will NEVER make you feel uncomfortable with any question. Still Embarrassed?? Ain Habayshan Lomaid! Still embarrassed?? use the phone……

    Hatzlacha. Please post the answer when you get it!

    in reply to: Lifting Weights On Shabbos #765224

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    One genuine Talmid Chacham who is a posaik knows more than the entire YWNCR put together……… that is how good they are. Embarrased?? No need. the real ones will NEVER make you feel uncomfortable with any question. Still Embarrassed?? Ain Habayshan Lomaid! Still embarrassed?? use the phone……

    Hatzlacha. Please post the answer when you get it!

    in reply to: Wedding of Price William (U.K)… #765933

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    Is it mutar to view the inside of a church?? Is it mutar to view nishuk between ish and isha?? Is it Hashakfically correct?? Will you be proud or embarrassed when the video tape after 120 years shows how you spent your time and what you looked at?? Where is our YIras Shamayim??? Where did it go??

    in reply to: Dear Niece #764097

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    Why are you posting this instead of writing it by hand and sending it to her? Wouldn’t it show a more personalized interest in resolving whatever may be the issue?? Why a public forum?

    in reply to: Dream Chosson/Kallah… or Settle? #761993

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    I waited for 4 years looking for the dream person, but then woke up and realized the dream person would be a nightmare. I took out some time,introspecion…. reflection…….. questioning…… counseling with friends and my Rebbi and reevaluated to determine what do I NEED instead of what do I WANT and the n i met the right one BIG TIME!! The relationship surpasses anything I ever cold have dreamt. Align self with Ratzon Hashem and escalating meaningful happiness will ensue.

    Hatzlacha!

    in reply to: Pesach #760174

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    1- Learn.,read, say some Tehillim 2- Go visit people who need a visitor. hospital, nursing home, shut ins etc. the chessed will make you feel uplifted and small ….. things won’t bother you. Try it!

    in reply to: scared to get married #1063952

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    He sure is and now he is getting scared!

    in reply to: QUOTES #850299

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    The Man who dies with the most toys wins!

    in reply to: Hair Spray Anyone?? #757423

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    Chometz ia assur in hanaah (pleasure) as well…….. not just eating. That is why beer base shampoo and certain alcohol in some deodorants is not permitted.

    in reply to: Fasting on Parents Yartzeit #757565

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    Generally Litvish fast because the Mogen Avraham says to fast. Many Chassishe don’t and give a Lchayim so people can make Brachos liluy nishmas.

    in reply to: Diamond Wedding Rings #763448

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    1-And how much do you pay the cleaning lady here in NY?? How much better is that than slave wages?

    2- But now that it became the norm, NOT to give it shows disrespect unless you are part of the Kehilla which is using CZ for everyone.

    in reply to: burnt out from davening #758479

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    have a private conversation in your own space

    in reply to: public speaking #756980

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    Try some of thses ideas. Many work very well.

    SPEECH COURSE

    Mesivta Ateres Yaakov

    IN ADVANCE OF A SPEECH

    Fear, nervousness and stage fright are conditions usually present prior to the speech and actually diminish significantly once the presentation has begun.

    It is a GOOD sign that one is nervous. It indicates a healthy respect for the audience and the task at hand. Even great speakers have enormous stage fright. In addition nervous energy can be converted to positive energy if the source of the nervousness is not doubt and defeatism. Reflexes are actually sharpened by the tenseness.

    How can one channel the adrenaline generated by the nervous system to be positive?

    1- TRY TO WORK UP AN ENTHUSIASM FOR THE TOPIC.

    A-It makes you feel you have what to contribute to the audience

    B- It endows you with a confidence which feeds off the nervous energy.

    C- Once you begin, the audience will be active listeners and transmit their enjoyment to you, the speaker.

    2- PUT ON A GOOD FACE

    A-Nonverbal cues affect the audience

    B-The external has an effect on the internal. (Ex. Wearing a sports uniform to a formal wedding or a tuxedo to gym.) It alters the internal by expressing the feeling that the internal really wants you to have.

    3-YOU ARE IN CHARGE

    You are the one who is going to set the tone. You are responsible for the mood transmitted to the group. Try to feel the responsibility of the group and not focus on your individual experience. Look beyond yourself.

    4- IMAGERY

    5-KNOW THAT THE AUDIENCE IS ROOTING FOR YOU TO SUCCEED.

    IN than majority of situations our audience wants you to succeed. They do not want to walk away feeling it was a waste of time. All research indicates that the audience roots for the speaker to succeed. Look at the audience in positive framework. (If they did not want you to succeed would they come to hear you?)

    6- DO NOT DIVULGE

    7-BE PREPARED

    8- Practice the speech so that you are very familiar with it.

    Make sure that you are strongly familiar with your material and its organization within the speech and you know clearly what you are going to say and what you are NOT going to say. Be clear as to what the opening, body and conclusion contain. Make sure the speech/lecture is not only appropriate, but engages the listener and feeds their interest. It will help you feel confident.

    9- FOOD CONCERNS

    Be careful of what you eat prior to the speech if, you able to eat! Avoid foods which give digestion problems, gas or heartburn. Avoid foods which increase saliva (all type of nuts, spicy foods) and avoid most cheese/ dairy products.

    AT THE TIME OF THE SPEECH

    1- Burn off some excess energy by doing some physical exercise. It is good for oxygen flow, blood flow and for your mind as well.

    2- Still nervous? Sit in a chair and let your body go limp – total flexibility and looseness. Then starting with your toes, tighten up each muscle in your body until you reach your neck. Then loosen up slowly reversing the process. You can do this 2- times and feel relaxed and in touch.

    5- Do not hold mike. Do not hold your notes in your hand.

    6- Avoid holding anything in our hands, especially a cup of liquid.

    7- If you are very nervous, shift your weight between you feet and partially lean on the lectern until it subsides.

    8- Know that nervousness subsides once you start to speak until a point when it almost disappears.

    9- PRAY!

    in reply to: younger sublings getting engaged before older #752015

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    1- The younger does not have to ask. The parents could have a discussion.

    2- Maybe the older should think about Emunah. Each will get his or hers in the time ordained by Hashem. Giving or witholding permission may be getting involved in an area and in a way we should not be involved. Maybe we need to leave it up to Hashem who will /will not and when.

    3- Maybe in shamayim there is a some negative issues which is preventing the older from getting the shidduch he or she is waiting for and “not being makpid”. no……. more than that, GIVING permission willingly and happily may be the chessed and zechus which breaks the “hold” in shamayim and will be the cause/effect for the older to find his-her shidduch.

    Hatzlacha to all…….. younger, older and all in between…. in whatever order Hashem chooses!

    in reply to: I can't fall asleep #735300

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    “Learning is not supposed to be something that makes you fall asleep!

    It is how we talk to Hashem”

    1- In Tefilla we talk with Hashem… Learning Torah is Hashem talking with us (Nefesh Hachayim)

    2- You shouldn’t fall asleep when you learn, but it is OK to learn while you fall asleep!

    in reply to: What Gemara are you learning? #821575

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    “DO the Daf”?? Where does that expression come from? We learn Torah…Yegiah in Torah….. Osaik Bdivrei Torah………seder in learning….. we don’t DO THE DAF! Can it come from an old commercial “did you dq today”?? That would be a sad source. We must rise above society through limud HaTorah!

    in reply to: I can't fall asleep #735283

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    Take a sefer to read in bed. The yetzer hora will make sure you fall asleep fast!

    in reply to: What do you drink AFTER a date #733393

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    A daf Gemara! Get back to the ikar.

    in reply to: advice needed #733543

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    A Heimishe owner?? Why does he NOT ask his Rav how to deal wiht it?? I once asked Rav Pam about hiring a collection agency and he looked horrified… We go to a Bais Din! Thats being Heimish!

    in reply to: saying hello #733200

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    ??? ???? ?? ?? ??? ???? ???? ????

    It does not mean to start a relationship or shmooz,Davka Not to do that!!! just a greeting. I was told that in Gateshead the Mashgiach, Rav matisyahu Solomon would greet each person he passed in the street ……… male and female. Obviously if peole cannot stop at jsut a greeting then it should not be done, the yetzer Horah is too strong.

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