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July 30, 2020 2:32 pm at 2:32 pm in reply to: What type of yeshiva is Reb Shlomo feivel schustals yeshiva in Lakewood? #1888183
So there is a kesher, but it is the responsibility of the bochur who wants to keep a connection to do so. Is that bad?? I have BH a few thousand Talmidim in 40 years of chinuch. Those who call, write, come by are showing they want to keep a kesher and it becomes a two way street. Am I expected to make “checking on you” or “kesher keeping calls” to all of them?? The few hundred who keep in touch, invite to simchos, gather for reunion Melave Malka in my house, call with needs etc keep the relationship going. Many others habve found other people to connect to. That is fine. When I hear of an issue, problem, tzara, aveilus in any of them I will initiate and reach out. I really believe in moat cases it is the achrayus of the Talmid to try to keep a kesher if he wants it.
By the way “shpitz amava” is not comparison to Moshe Rabbainu ch”v…. it describes someone in comparison to most people in OUR generation. If you’d meet him once for 5 minutes you would understand the description and how he reminds of his saintly humble father.July 26, 2020 2:51 am at 2:51 am in reply to: What type of yeshiva is Reb Shlomo feivel schustals yeshiva in Lakewood? #1886608
Stating facts is not gaava. I have many Talmiidim learning there and they are real ovdei Hashem which means they recognize the importance if working on midos, anava, mikabail form Rabbaim, that there is limitless growth which Hashem has invited us to do,and you need to keep striving and working to achieve. As a group and mossad, they are the furthest from gaava. The Yeshiva is designed for bochrim who want to fully immerse themselves in learning to the exclusion of everything else. It is not for those who need or feel they need diversions and a way to take breaks. Here the bochrim learn and the break is to learn other limudim or do chazara. That is not gaava. It is a certain type of bochur and environment. The Rosh Yeshiva is one of the best mecahnchim and role models around and he himself is “shpitz anava” like his father was. He knows how to raie Talmidim to heights of Torah avoda and feelings for chesed. There is no shidduch crisis with bochrim coming from this yeshiva. We wait on line to have a chance….July 24, 2020 8:45 am at 8:45 am in reply to: What type of yeshiva is Reb Shlomo feivel schustals yeshiva in Lakewood? #1886288
Bochrim who are very capable in learning, have a serious attitude towards learning, are looking to work on their analytical skills as well as the intangible of becoming a solid, real, dedicated Ben Torah and Ovaid Hashem.
It is not a place for wannabees or bochrim who need diversions such as testing out the many local restaurants, ball fields of social activities. They come to learn and want to find their happiness in learning. There is great peer pressure AND peer support to learn, learn well and learn more.
The question is what is the Hadracha of Gedolim??
I saw it done by Rav Nosson Tzvi Cohen in Mir Yerushalayim in 1973. The bil rubin count of the patient was 29 when we started and 7 when we finished about 17 pigeons later. Instead of hospitalization, the patient was back n Bais Medrash in less than a week.
Rabbi Twersky of Pittsburgh did lab tests to discover and found that it not scientific, but a spiritual siyata dishmaya.
Call Shalheves and ask for the shiur by a Rav Rabinowitz on the topic.
Sit and learn for 20 minutes and you’ll forget the difficulty of the date. Much healthier and more of what Hashem wants.
Do not dwel on what was……….. move forward with passionate pursuit of Chesed, Kedusha and self improvement. Read inspirational books about Sara Schnirer, Rebbetzin Kanievsky, etc… fill up with Kedusgha and do acts of kulo kodesh- selfless Lishma chessed_ and you will be transformed into an improved version of what you were and the past will fade.
1- Maybe its not Motzi Shaim Ra, but could it be Lashon Hara? Toeles is not a heter in such a forum in which you don’t know who is reading it.
2- I encourage the naysayers to visit Lakewood and pick any Bais Medrash. Learn all sedorim.. see the thousands around you doing the same…….. feel the intensity and seriousness of the multitudes. The minority who are squandering the opportunity are too immature to appreciate the gift. But then there are those who squander the opportunity when working in an office or even as a doctor or lawyer. Are they all living according to the Shulchan Aruch? Are they maximizing the time on behalf of the employer…… or do they “batil a bit” around a cup of coffee? iN EVERY ARE OF HUMAN INVOLVEMENT THERE ARE THOSE WHO GIVE IT THEIR ALL AND THOSE WHO ARE A LITTLE LAZIER AND THOSE WHO SQUANDER…….
Wow! Even the Vilna Gaon who paskins that you make a Bracha on Esther, Shir Hashirim, Rus and Koheles if read from parchment says not to make a Bracha on Eicha.
So syag, you do not agree, you actually did cry again and again. NO, crying is not just internal…. when it flows form within the tears flow. Anyone who lost a close relative or friend know the pain and freedom of crying. If we cannot cry for the loss of the Mikdash its because we don’t feel that she is a close friend or relative.
If you can’t cry about yourself you need to learn a lot more to see and then feel the great gap of what we can be and what we are. We need to put ourselves in a private place with no phone and no distractions and learn the Hakdamah and first perek of Mesilas Yeshorim and see how we measure up.
Reb Doniel- Which drashos made a big impression?
Ask Gedolei Torah and Moray horaah. They too know the Gemaros anad parameters of Pikuach nefesh. We need bitul to Daas Torah………..
Origin of the Walkie Talkie
The Chidushaei Harim says if you cannot cry about Churban then cry about yourself……….
Good for you! I wish i did!
In Yeshiva of Brooklyn Ocean Pkwy and Ave,L all day
It’s not exactly graffiti. That would be mazik!
It is permissible fun………….
Smile that Yiddishe kinder are enjoying themselves!
Smile that there are Yiddishe kinder!!!
Charliehall- Why would you do something against the Halcha, especially if there are easy ways to comply WITH the Halahca??
Frum people BBQ in this world to appreciate Hashems bounty with Brachos before and after…….. and won’t BBQ in the next world!
If the non Kollel kids are children of Bnai Torah who are working, where is the bad influence?
Achdus creates strength. Discrimination on any grounds creates dispute.
BTW the initial day that the secularists wanted to declare as Yom Hashoa Ugvura was 15th of Nissan!! That would have certainly discounted all Shomrei Shabbos! In truth it demonstrates who is doing it for what purpose. Shomrei Torah can find ways to do it appropriately.
Agudas Yisroel has made Asara B’taivais a day to focus on aspects of the Holocaust as well . They supply schools with high quality professional video presentations.
I remember that in summer camp we had a lot of focus on the Holocaust before and during Tisha Bav. Our camp brought in survivors and we had small groups of teens bonding with them and spending hours together with discussion, q and A and ending with an Ani Maamin kumzits. This combined the need to learn and know, the need to remember and not forget and the appropriate weeks and a day.
What question is bothering you?March 31, 2013 8:31 am at 8:31 am in reply to: The Longest Seder ContestóHow Late Will Your Seder End? #1199611
With Talmidim joining night 1 @6am. With family an a few non religious guests night 2 @3am.
Look up and learn Rav Dessler in Kuntres Hachessed in the first volume of Michtav MEliyahu. He describes that real love is created by giving. Juxtapose a birth parent who has not seen a child in 30 years since the birth and an adoptive parent who has been giving their all to raise an adopted child for 30 years. Undoubtedly at the end of 30 years the adoptive parents will have much much more love for the child than the birth parents. Giving (hav) creates ahava!
Talmud….. Now that we are on the same page…
1- We discuss in Hagada the time of sipur and how you can be Yotzai.. from here the Halcha seforim prove that speaking in depth about the Halacha is part of sippur. and it is all done with the Korban Pesach on the table. Mahral says all halacha inyanim of the seder now or tehn is part of sipur.
2-You are absolutely right….. pilpul can be part of the sipppur but the story at different levels is what it is all about. For the lamdan it get exciting when he can delve into lomdus as well. But the mesader needs to know the audience and he has a chiyuv to teach each child appropriately. Children can even be older as well.
2- Our seder?? We try to start the Matza eating 60-70 minutes before Chatzos so that we can have 40-45 for the seuda. we have soup and chicken with sides . Dessert is afikoman. we start Afikomn bargaining about 15 minutes before chatzos so the kids can have a great fun time and adults finish eating and then eat afikoman 5 minutes before chatzos. Then with the pressure off we can hear “personal stories” or individual amida in nisayon ….. how we survived or withstood and grew from our makos of the year. Our makos bring us closer to geula from this galus.
After 4th cup people who need/want go to sleep ( after a litlle clean up) Those who want try to fullfill the dictum of fqalling asleep while engaged in sioour…… A few of us try to say an enivened Shir Hashirim and then fall asleep with hashkafa/ Chassidieshe toros. Looking forward. I hope you can find a way to enjoy yours this year. Kdai to broach with your father if he is receptive……… Biderch kavod.
Chag Kasher Visameach!!
“You have a very naive and warped Yiddishe outlook.
1) People talk Chiddushim hours on end, and are NOT even Yotzei Sippur Yetzias Mitzraim.”
“2) The Mishnah Berurah says not to drink so much that you are full by the other Kosos.”
so dont!!! Take a smaller cup!! Who said you need a large one? Thats what I mean, are you an adult? Take control of your daled amos!! Need to spend 2 dollars to but a 3 oz glass, do so!!!
3) You’re supposed to enjoy Shulchan Oreich- (and it’s not called Shulchan ‘Oreich’ because it rhymes w/ Koreich,) and there is a special Mitzvah to have meat.
So enjoy it! Eat less mataza… self control never hurt anyone! A baby eats whatever he sees and then has no room. If you know what is coming, mavbe some self control by the Matza and leave room for the fleish!
“A mature adult who has any spirituality would not be where you are.”
I’m in Beis Medrish, and enjoy Pilpulim, but there’s a time and place for everything. You don’t begin to know what you’re talking about.
BTW if you learned the halachos, speaking pilpul about hilchos Pesach is part of sipur Yeyzias Mitzaryim
If you are in Bais Medrash and are a mature bochur, sit down with your father before Pesach begins and discuss the possibility of changes to the venue. Be an adult, not a whining baby on the internet!
You have become so entangled in the minutia of Yeshivish culture that you are completely lost of true Frumkeit.
Sorry, you got the wrong guy. You read between the lines incorrectly. You have become so entangled in self you forgot to think of what a father is and how we need to speak about him and to relate to him.
I’ve had Rabbeim like you, who are very imposing of their Chumros. Instead of being Mekarev people, you push people back.
Chumros??? You are the one who eats too much Matza! I measure it out before Pesach for each person so no one has to eat more than the basic shiur of Rav Moshe Feinstein.
Our sedorim are filled with singing dancing, stories for the kids, pilpul for the older bachurim, midrashim and analysis for the women. and all listen in rapt attention as the older generation share stories of their personal hatazla after we eat the afikoman….. and we rarely finish befroe 2:30 or 3am
Talmidim come second night after their own sedorim to join with my family and we can continue till 4 or 5 am………. we do discovery.. enthusiastic, enjoyable, uplifting, frelich yiddishkeit.
Be active, not passive!
Talk to your father respectfully with humility and Yiras Hakavod and you may find a very receptive person.
It is you who need to join a discovery program.
I am in it each day of each year………..Thank you!
Talmud, how old are you? A mature adult who has any spirituality would not be wheere you are. YOu need tikun gadol!! Try a dsicovery program! Be mekarev yourself to Yiddishkeit
But is this not also form Hashem? When people do irrational things, isn’t that the biggest sign it is from Hashem? For some reason Hashem felt you needed this test now. Accept with Emunah BItachon, daven for each of you to find the right shidduch and hopefully in the zechus of passing the nisayon you will be zoche to the right shidduch soon!!!
Upset?? That’s not a success in nisayon…….
There are hand Matzos available at less than 15 dollars a pound…… it may be from Israel…. or after Succos….. but it is there!
It would be hard to find one Baalhabasta ( Jewish Torahdik housewife) to allow it……….. even if you find seforim permitting.
MDD wrote RABBAIM, one does not make machos about a midas chassidus. Anyhow, I have to double-check “Orchos Tzadikim” to see if he really says what you claim he says.
1- What is machos?
2- Did you find your Orchos Tzadikim in the first perek yet? I did not make it up.
Verapoi- I asked over 10 people and not one associated herring with a specific non Jewish nation. But each one named Pizza as Italian.
Get the difference? try it yourself!
Thee is an inyan brought in seforim that some Yidden are on the level to be concerned with. It is called Maachal Akum, a food that is currently clearly idnetified with a specific non Jewish nationality. The Orchas Tzadikim in the first Perek speaks of separating ourselves from non Jews in our foods as well. It means from food CURRENTLY primarily identified with non Jews. So there are Chashuve Yidden who mean it for real and who would not eat Pizza or spaghetti because it is associated with Italians, or Chinese food ( China….. duh) or Sushi ( Japanese) but would eat lukshin, herring etc…. because they are not currently associated with non Jews. But if the origin of something was non Jewish but it has lost that identity, it would not fall into that category.
It may part of a madreiga of Kedoshim Tihyu- Perushim Tihyu. we need to respect those that are ready to do that even if we are not.January 27, 2013 8:58 am at 8:58 am in reply to: Are things wrong cause they're wrong, or because people go OTD? #924329
Teach with simcha. Parent with simcha. Learn. Daven. Do mitzvos. all with Simcha. It is azechus to be a Yid. It is a privilege to live with Torah. Simcha!!! Then if they go OTD you can honestly say “my hands did not spill this blood”. Then love them more, and hopefully they will return.
My cousin did it…….. date just to get some experience and prepare for the real one.. she dated a doctor when she really wanted Kollel/Chinuch….. no way it would go, right?…. and she has been married to that Doctor for 20 years and has 11 heiliger children!
. and are WE real…… or are we fake???
Twisted- It’s a business always running n the red……….
It is chinuch, not business!
I thought by saying that mandatory can backfire and some need other programs and that the other programs can leave him with a much more positive experience and desire. Different Talmidim need different things.
If a abcur is not ready for 3 sedorima day and he is forced to do it,
1- how productive will he be?
2- How happy will he be?
3- How will this encourage him to continue learning with determination and simcha?
If he were given a program of learning whihc includes a few electives in general studies such as Computer graphics, Photoshop expertise, Literature, or even AP courses (if the Yesiva allows) gym, chessed opportunities and then returns to serious focused learning at night, wouldn’t he be better off?
Is the means to the goal to inspire or to force?
I once worked for a Yeshiva with low fees and loads of non serious people applied just to
a- give their child the experience of going through the interview process and
b- keep their options open.
It cost me mega hours of research and interview time. Once we raised the fees we pared it down to those who were seriously considering our mossad and life became more focused and productive. We were also seen in the eyes of the public as a more serious place than when we charged mush less. We DID deduct the fee from the tuition for those accepted.
What I have difficulty understanding is why my local elementary and high school charge a yearly registration fee of 200 dollars for a child who is already enrolled! What is the justification?
For those who are ready it’s great. for those who are not.. DISASTER!!!January 6, 2013 5:37 am at 5:37 am in reply to: Should a rebbi participate in a kumzitz with his talmidim? #917769
What’s the tzad that he shouldn’t? Isn’t that a part of the pinimiyus?
1- Who is ever ready? ha.
2- Chassidm get married younger because that is the mindset form the they they are born. If Litvaks can change the mindset, they too will be “as ready” a year or more earlier.
Let the children stick to the sections made for them
that 1- please write in English! Thanks
1- “Every complete tzaddik is a baal teshuva. If he is a genuine tzaddik he is constantly making a cheshbon hanefesh and doing teshuva.”
So, how do you learn Pshat in that Gemara?
2- Who determines at what age who can become great?
Also, aybe the development of great ones needs the atmosphere, and challenge provided by the 999 others! Finally, Kollel is limud Torah Lishma…… anyone should be allowed if he can and wants. It may even be more LISHMA for the one who plans to work later on than for the one who wants to learn and then get a job in Klall positions……