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August 29, 2022 7:42 am at 7:42 am in reply to: School District Bringing Back Spanking Unruly Students. what are your thoughts #2119352
Read Rabbi Yaakovson in “SPARE THE CHILD” how he feels that hitting is not a productive tool anymore. The dangers and possible negative outcomes outweighs the possible benefits. See the end of the chapter on Punishment.
Please read SPARE THE CHILD by Rav Yaakovson!!!! Please!!!
1- IN NY I can buy MAztos baked that day. Cannot beat the freshness Israeli Matzos may have been baked in Sep or Oct and were sipped by boat.
2- NY matzos can be made thin and thinner if you like them that way. Shatzer has 8 Matzos to the pound. Satmar, Pupa have between 8 and 9 to a pound. Almost all Israeli matzos are 5 or 6 to a pound.
3- The taste and texture are very different. Komemiyus Matzos taste very fresh, but the flavor and texture are unique. Ya gotta like it.
All taht said…. you can get Matzos for 10-12 dollars a pound in KRM, Moishes, Bingo….. and it is $32 in the local Bakery. Saving 20 dollars a pound- and we use nearly 40 pound’s over Pesach…. that saving does have a good fresh taste about it:)February 23, 2021 7:43 am at 7:43 am in reply to: Tznius — Not Directly Handing Items Between Men and Women #1951172
Kedoshim Tihyu…. it has uncharted parameters…. whatever will increase Kedusha….. it is not a finite goal… it is a standard of growth and climbing- the purpose of life. It grows with the person, so no two people can be measured equally.
I am complaining??? If I think of money to try to help others and mosods etc…. that is similar to the Rebbi who is complaining he cannot make ends meet?? I wrote that BH I ma making ends meet. I feel for those who cannot. I am not ready to leave chinuch to attempt to make money to help them. So I open up the door a crack and if Hashem wants me to be the shaliach to help others, fine. If not, I say….fine!!
I would also calmly suggest that you’re bias about Rabbaim is peeking through.
“A friend said that when he asked his son’s Rebbe to do more for the kid, the guy said…:
your friend is a friend but the Rebbi is a guy?? Not even that much kavod Talmidei Chachamoim or Raban shel Tinokos shel Bais Rabban??? Also- I find it hard to believe that your friend is quoting accurately…… a Rebbi knows such a line will be whatsapped or texted all over….
Thanks for the ideas of remote possibilties…. will look into it.
Reb Eliezer- The Gemara says yuor income is determined from Rosh Hashanah to RH! It is pretty clear that it is a year by year din. If Hashem wanted me to have 50 million, then one ticket is enough of an opening for it to happen without being an overt clear cut miracle. Also, when odds are 1 in 300 million tha is clearly not called hishtadlus. It is “pischi li psicho shel machat…” HIshtadlus has to make sense on the “olam hamaaseh” This just downgrades the miracle a bit.
ALWAYS_ 1- If you want me to go fully bderech teva, then Most businesses do not succeed at that level. 2- I am in chinuch and have no heter to leave what I am dong to make money if my own needs are basically covered.
3- Hiring them when they are all oever …. are you just poking or you can think if a plan that your words make some sense?
DAAS- 10 percent I think I earmark for my own childen and einuklech if possible….
I have no desire to be wealthy. I have what I need to live right now and BH my family is not desirous of the “world out there”. Nevertheless I have a big desire to be able to help others including my family. I have over 30 cousins in Eretz Yisroel, many of whom are struggling-some full time learning and some working- and many have children of marriageable age but are concerned that they cannot afford to participate in chassunah and post chassunah expenses because of lack of funds. They do not want to procure a letter and come collecting in person. I’d love to be able to have the money to take away their worries and let them marry off children without borrowing and worrying.
I would love to give a few million each to some of the Yeshivos I went to and help eaase thier burden, or give raises to the faculties or pay bills or expand if needed. That is a taava- a deep desire I have. I’d love to have the ability to write a check for 100 or 500…or??? dollars to the aniyim who come to my door shlepping alll over to try to raise money to pay bills.
I’d love to be able to set up a fund to help the needy Yesomim and almanos of so many who were niftar for various reasons.
I am close to someone whose wife was niftar at 35 and left him with 8 children. Someone stepped in and paid for a Yiddishe woman to be there all day to cook, do laundry, prep supper ans shop so he can be free to be with his children when he came home from a long day at work. Life insurance kicjked in and he put it aside to be able to make chassunos and pay some tuitions. Oh- how Id love the zechus of doing such Chassidim!!
I’m OK with what I have, but I have a Ruchniyu taava to do Tzedakah and chessed but do not have the money to do it. So I daven =, write out and sign my shtar, and buy a ticket once in a while. Is that bad???
No one joins me in advocating for Chayeinu?? It is the real deal…..and it is only 18 dolllars for 5 huge copies per year
Chayeinu… all the way!!! Incredible!!!
Daas Yochid- along with $$$$ comes a huge Yetzer Horah. The shtar is to make sure you do as you promise. Asking Hashem to let you win so you can help mosdos, tzedakah etc…. is asking to be zoche to be a great shaliach MItzvah. Once you have taken the steps to commit to a plan, now you can ask to be a shaliach Mitzvah
Reb Eliezer- one yearly!!! Parnassah is form Rosh Hashonoh to Rosh Hashonoh.
Always- Mesillas Yeshorim says the nisayon of wealth is far greater than the nisayon of poverty! If he Gemara says that poverty is the risk of maavir al daas kono…. what can be said about wealth?
If you buy only one. Not any more. Just one. In that way we are giving Hashem a pesach- an opening that al pi teva can be explained as a winning ticket even though its clear that based on the odds it is a miracle. Bu we may not be zoche to a miracle in which Hashem drops 300 mil into my bank account. So we open a door the size of a needle- that iis our way of diminishing the miracle. Buying 2 means you are trying to increasing the odds. That is hishtadlus- that is ridiculous. Those odds ae not reasonable hishtadlus. You wouldn’t go for a job interview or for a shidduch if there was 1 in 300 million chance you would get it. The other thing is to be afraid of wealth. Ashirus is a bigger nisayon than poverty. Maybe the following is an idea. Draw up a contract in whihc you commit to give away 90 percent of the post taxes winnings to Tzedakos all over the world. Designate percentages for Yeshivos, Chesed organizations, yechidim etc. WRITE IT OUT> Sign it in fornt of 2 witnesses, give then copies, tell your kids you wrote such a contract so you are diminishing g the chances of the Yetzer orah creeping in. Then buy it and say Tehillim that the mosdos need you to win. Imagine if yo were able to distribute 270 million to Tzedakah….. without publicity. Set up a foundation- your name should not appear in public…. ah!! That would be a Kiddush Hashem!
Sorry- I did not connect tob the end. If you do that, forget aout what shallow people think. Know that you are doing ratzon Hashem and can live b’simcha not with the frustration of people who live their lives in the lens of the camera of the shallow insincere and popular. Be real and Hashem will provide an incredible shidduch and great simchas Hachayim. Its living with real Emunah. real connection to Hashem and to inner self. Others will look at you and see a balanced, ehrlich, yarei shomayim and that will garner respect and admiration.
It is a vast sugya. Let’s go to the beginning. When Adam Harishshon was created and looked around the world what did he see??? Nothing. Absolutely nothing!! The passik says all was “terem yitzmach”. Prior to growing. Why? Adam ayin laavod haadama. Thee was not man to work the field. Rashi says that the pshat of he possuk is there was no man to recognize the good of rain and to ask for it. There was no man to daven that things should grow. That means that Hashem wanted to make things grow but He waited for the Tfillah of man. In this way Hashem has made us part of the process of creation. The world is created with the name Elokim and we are created with then name Elokim….. Btzleme Elokim…. Of course Hashem wanted the should be trees, grass, plants, fruits, veggies, grains etc…. but He gave us the trigger- Tfillah- to make it happen. NO davening? No food. Yes davening, -zechus of being part of the process of bringing shefa brocho down from ON HIGH. I tried to write succinctly and provide a simple livable relatable approach. Hatlocho!
In many instance s the same goes for our needs and for the gzieros of the world. Haashem wants us to be healed, or give parnosshoh, or stop th epandemic. He waits for us to daven. To realy daven. To recognize that He will give it if we daven and if that is what he deems as good.
If you live in teh world of action-not just intent- with the Hashkofo of “on 3 things the world stands: and they are not kinah taava and kavod…… if you learn lshaim shomayim, daven for real lshaim shomayim, work lshaim shomayim, and you always work on midos, bain adam lachaveiro and feel a sense of fulfillment and happiness within yourself for trying to live bishlaymus then you ae doing the max hishtadlus for the right shuidduch.
Can you bring yourself to cry in yearning and pleading to Hashem for yourself and others in the same matzav?? That is the segula mikol haamim!
Leaving full time learning should also be done Lshaim Shomayim.Thonk about never stopping to be a ben Torah. Be a ben Torah who will not suffice with kvias itim, but rather take out time to work. The rest of the time you can still enjoy learning. Stay connected…. learn a variety of things. If your going into business , learn Choshen Mish[at. Maybe parts of Yreh Daiah. But Orach Chaim must always be with us. And remember to thank your wife for doing your achrayus for the time you were in Kollel…… forever grateful. Bsimcha…. lchatchila!! and daven for real for siyata dishmaya!
WE need to refresh ourselves that laiv melachim vsarim byad Hashem and as the Chovos Halevavos says, if we trust in Hashem- He will take charge. If we trust in others, Hashem will let them decide for us…. it depends on our level of dependency and bitachon. Tine to re-learn Shaar Nabitachon and daven for real to Hashem to take care of us.
Talk with HIM for real…. dont just recite words, full hearted conversation with Hashem.
There are many ion Eretz Yisroel. Many in USA as well. one cannot advise without knowing the bochur- his history, affiliations, strengths, areas which need strengthening, his learning ability in various skill sets, his Yiras Shomayim, his hasmodoh and ability to learn retzufim, his need for breaks or relaxation. Thee are many factors which go into advising a bochur. There is no pre cut die which spits out recommendations.
I am in Mesivta and post mesivta chinuch for nearly 40 years and still very very active and involved. I think it would be a terrible mistake. An 18 year old bochur needs something different than a 20 and 21 year old. The enticements of the freedom , stores, trips etc…. are way too tempting and intoxicating for a HS graduate. It is probably even too much for a 20 yr old!! Mir is not set up for 18yr old Americans. O to a smaller, more involved place whe you can have a personal kesher with a Rebbi, Mashgiach, contained chevra, designed environment and work hard in learning, davening, mussar, hashkofo and halacha so you can be ready and empowered for the looser environment of Mir when you are a bit older.
Masbia on CIA off ave J. YOU need to call and set up an appointmentJuly 30, 2020 2:32 pm at 2:32 pm in reply to: What type of yeshiva is Reb Shlomo feivel schustals yeshiva in Lakewood? #1888183
So there is a kesher, but it is the responsibility of the bochur who wants to keep a connection to do so. Is that bad?? I have BH a few thousand Talmidim in 40 years of chinuch. Those who call, write, come by are showing they want to keep a kesher and it becomes a two way street. Am I expected to make “checking on you” or “kesher keeping calls” to all of them?? The few hundred who keep in touch, invite to simchos, gather for reunion Melave Malka in my house, call with needs etc keep the relationship going. Many others habve found other people to connect to. That is fine. When I hear of an issue, problem, tzara, aveilus in any of them I will initiate and reach out. I really believe in moat cases it is the achrayus of the Talmid to try to keep a kesher if he wants it.
By the way “shpitz amava” is not comparison to Moshe Rabbainu ch”v…. it describes someone in comparison to most people in OUR generation. If you’d meet him once for 5 minutes you would understand the description and how he reminds of his saintly humble father.July 26, 2020 2:51 am at 2:51 am in reply to: What type of yeshiva is Reb Shlomo feivel schustals yeshiva in Lakewood? #1886608
Stating facts is not gaava. I have many Talmiidim learning there and they are real ovdei Hashem which means they recognize the importance if working on midos, anava, mikabail form Rabbaim, that there is limitless growth which Hashem has invited us to do,and you need to keep striving and working to achieve. As a group and mossad, they are the furthest from gaava. The Yeshiva is designed for bochrim who want to fully immerse themselves in learning to the exclusion of everything else. It is not for those who need or feel they need diversions and a way to take breaks. Here the bochrim learn and the break is to learn other limudim or do chazara. That is not gaava. It is a certain type of bochur and environment. The Rosh Yeshiva is one of the best mecahnchim and role models around and he himself is “shpitz anava” like his father was. He knows how to raie Talmidim to heights of Torah avoda and feelings for chesed. There is no shidduch crisis with bochrim coming from this yeshiva. We wait on line to have a chance….July 24, 2020 8:45 am at 8:45 am in reply to: What type of yeshiva is Reb Shlomo feivel schustals yeshiva in Lakewood? #1886288
Bochrim who are very capable in learning, have a serious attitude towards learning, are looking to work on their analytical skills as well as the intangible of becoming a solid, real, dedicated Ben Torah and Ovaid Hashem.
It is not a place for wannabees or bochrim who need diversions such as testing out the many local restaurants, ball fields of social activities. They come to learn and want to find their happiness in learning. There is great peer pressure AND peer support to learn, learn well and learn more.
The question is what is the Hadracha of Gedolim??
I saw it done by Rav Nosson Tzvi Cohen in Mir Yerushalayim in 1973. The bil rubin count of the patient was 29 when we started and 7 when we finished about 17 pigeons later. Instead of hospitalization, the patient was back n Bais Medrash in less than a week.
Rabbi Twersky of Pittsburgh did lab tests to discover and found that it not scientific, but a spiritual siyata dishmaya.
Call Shalheves and ask for the shiur by a Rav Rabinowitz on the topic.
Sit and learn for 20 minutes and you’ll forget the difficulty of the date. Much healthier and more of what Hashem wants.
Do not dwel on what was……….. move forward with passionate pursuit of Chesed, Kedusha and self improvement. Read inspirational books about Sara Schnirer, Rebbetzin Kanievsky, etc… fill up with Kedusgha and do acts of kulo kodesh- selfless Lishma chessed_ and you will be transformed into an improved version of what you were and the past will fade.
1- Maybe its not Motzi Shaim Ra, but could it be Lashon Hara? Toeles is not a heter in such a forum in which you don’t know who is reading it.
2- I encourage the naysayers to visit Lakewood and pick any Bais Medrash. Learn all sedorim.. see the thousands around you doing the same…….. feel the intensity and seriousness of the multitudes. The minority who are squandering the opportunity are too immature to appreciate the gift. But then there are those who squander the opportunity when working in an office or even as a doctor or lawyer. Are they all living according to the Shulchan Aruch? Are they maximizing the time on behalf of the employer…… or do they “batil a bit” around a cup of coffee? iN EVERY ARE OF HUMAN INVOLVEMENT THERE ARE THOSE WHO GIVE IT THEIR ALL AND THOSE WHO ARE A LITTLE LAZIER AND THOSE WHO SQUANDER…….
Wow! Even the Vilna Gaon who paskins that you make a Bracha on Esther, Shir Hashirim, Rus and Koheles if read from parchment says not to make a Bracha on Eicha.
So syag, you do not agree, you actually did cry again and again. NO, crying is not just internal…. when it flows form within the tears flow. Anyone who lost a close relative or friend know the pain and freedom of crying. If we cannot cry for the loss of the Mikdash its because we don’t feel that she is a close friend or relative.
If you can’t cry about yourself you need to learn a lot more to see and then feel the great gap of what we can be and what we are. We need to put ourselves in a private place with no phone and no distractions and learn the Hakdamah and first perek of Mesilas Yeshorim and see how we measure up.
Reb Doniel- Which drashos made a big impression?
Ask Gedolei Torah and Moray horaah. They too know the Gemaros anad parameters of Pikuach nefesh. We need bitul to Daas Torah………..
Origin of the Walkie Talkie
The Chidushaei Harim says if you cannot cry about Churban then cry about yourself……….
Good for you! I wish i did!
In Yeshiva of Brooklyn Ocean Pkwy and Ave,L all day
It’s not exactly graffiti. That would be mazik!
It is permissible fun………….
Smile that Yiddishe kinder are enjoying themselves!
Smile that there are Yiddishe kinder!!!
Charliehall- Why would you do something against the Halcha, especially if there are easy ways to comply WITH the Halahca??
Frum people BBQ in this world to appreciate Hashems bounty with Brachos before and after…….. and won’t BBQ in the next world!
If the non Kollel kids are children of Bnai Torah who are working, where is the bad influence?
Achdus creates strength. Discrimination on any grounds creates dispute.
BTW the initial day that the secularists wanted to declare as Yom Hashoa Ugvura was 15th of Nissan!! That would have certainly discounted all Shomrei Shabbos! In truth it demonstrates who is doing it for what purpose. Shomrei Torah can find ways to do it appropriately.
Agudas Yisroel has made Asara B’taivais a day to focus on aspects of the Holocaust as well . They supply schools with high quality professional video presentations.
I remember that in summer camp we had a lot of focus on the Holocaust before and during Tisha Bav. Our camp brought in survivors and we had small groups of teens bonding with them and spending hours together with discussion, q and A and ending with an Ani Maamin kumzits. This combined the need to learn and know, the need to remember and not forget and the appropriate weeks and a day.
What question is bothering you?March 31, 2013 8:31 am at 8:31 am in reply to: The Longest Seder Contest�How Late Will Your Seder End? #1199611
With Talmidim joining night 1 @6am. With family an a few non religious guests night 2 @3am.
Look up and learn Rav Dessler in Kuntres Hachessed in the first volume of Michtav MEliyahu. He describes that real love is created by giving. Juxtapose a birth parent who has not seen a child in 30 years since the birth and an adoptive parent who has been giving their all to raise an adopted child for 30 years. Undoubtedly at the end of 30 years the adoptive parents will have much much more love for the child than the birth parents. Giving (hav) creates ahava!
Talmud….. Now that we are on the same page…
1- We discuss in Hagada the time of sipur and how you can be Yotzai.. from here the Halcha seforim prove that speaking in depth about the Halacha is part of sippur. and it is all done with the Korban Pesach on the table. Mahral says all halacha inyanim of the seder now or tehn is part of sipur.
2-You are absolutely right….. pilpul can be part of the sipppur but the story at different levels is what it is all about. For the lamdan it get exciting when he can delve into lomdus as well. But the mesader needs to know the audience and he has a chiyuv to teach each child appropriately. Children can even be older as well.
2- Our seder?? We try to start the Matza eating 60-70 minutes before Chatzos so that we can have 40-45 for the seuda. we have soup and chicken with sides . Dessert is afikoman. we start Afikomn bargaining about 15 minutes before chatzos so the kids can have a great fun time and adults finish eating and then eat afikoman 5 minutes before chatzos. Then with the pressure off we can hear “personal stories” or individual amida in nisayon ….. how we survived or withstood and grew from our makos of the year. Our makos bring us closer to geula from this galus.
After 4th cup people who need/want go to sleep ( after a litlle clean up) Those who want try to fullfill the dictum of fqalling asleep while engaged in sioour…… A few of us try to say an enivened Shir Hashirim and then fall asleep with hashkafa/ Chassidieshe toros. Looking forward. I hope you can find a way to enjoy yours this year. Kdai to broach with your father if he is receptive……… Biderch kavod.
Chag Kasher Visameach!!
“You have a very naive and warped Yiddishe outlook.
1) People talk Chiddushim hours on end, and are NOT even Yotzei Sippur Yetzias Mitzraim.”
“2) The Mishnah Berurah says not to drink so much that you are full by the other Kosos.”
so dont!!! Take a smaller cup!! Who said you need a large one? Thats what I mean, are you an adult? Take control of your daled amos!! Need to spend 2 dollars to but a 3 oz glass, do so!!!
3) You’re supposed to enjoy Shulchan Oreich- (and it’s not called Shulchan ‘Oreich’ because it rhymes w/ Koreich,) and there is a special Mitzvah to have meat.
So enjoy it! Eat less mataza… self control never hurt anyone! A baby eats whatever he sees and then has no room. If you know what is coming, mavbe some self control by the Matza and leave room for the fleish!
“A mature adult who has any spirituality would not be where you are.”
I’m in Beis Medrish, and enjoy Pilpulim, but there’s a time and place for everything. You don’t begin to know what you’re talking about.
BTW if you learned the halachos, speaking pilpul about hilchos Pesach is part of sipur Yeyzias Mitzaryim
If you are in Bais Medrash and are a mature bochur, sit down with your father before Pesach begins and discuss the possibility of changes to the venue. Be an adult, not a whining baby on the internet!
You have become so entangled in the minutia of Yeshivish culture that you are completely lost of true Frumkeit.
Sorry, you got the wrong guy. You read between the lines incorrectly. You have become so entangled in self you forgot to think of what a father is and how we need to speak about him and to relate to him.
I’ve had Rabbeim like you, who are very imposing of their Chumros. Instead of being Mekarev people, you push people back.
Chumros??? You are the one who eats too much Matza! I measure it out before Pesach for each person so no one has to eat more than the basic shiur of Rav Moshe Feinstein.
Our sedorim are filled with singing dancing, stories for the kids, pilpul for the older bachurim, midrashim and analysis for the women. and all listen in rapt attention as the older generation share stories of their personal hatazla after we eat the afikoman….. and we rarely finish befroe 2:30 or 3am
Talmidim come second night after their own sedorim to join with my family and we can continue till 4 or 5 am………. we do discovery.. enthusiastic, enjoyable, uplifting, frelich yiddishkeit.
Be active, not passive!
Talk to your father respectfully with humility and Yiras Hakavod and you may find a very receptive person.
It is you who need to join a discovery program.
I am in it each day of each year………..Thank you!