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  • in reply to: Need Source for Allowing or Not Allowing Teacher to Confiscate Items #906975

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    If the policy is clearly stated and communicated that “if you bring a cellphone into school it will be confiscated and not returned” then by bringing in the phone the person is effectively mafkir it. He knows the consequences in advance and does it anyway. Then it is not gzaila. If there is no such policy, then it cannot be taken form the child beyond the time when it will harm other children. If the policy is clear it is like hefker or yiush midaas!

    in reply to: Water and Electricity #903781

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    Salt water carries electricity, no?

    in reply to: Awkward Situation with Sensitive Information #907018

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    Tell them that they should investigate because there are rumors……..

    in reply to: Inviting friends' spouse to wedding #919112

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    Invite both but on he return card make a place to check off “Chuppah” Seuda” “Simchas Chosson Vkallah” and do it twice, once for each person. The spouse will be happy to sign on for less than the friend

    in reply to: Mohel Training/Bris Milah Course #903272

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    Call Rabbi Krohn. he is an amazing person and will surely assist people to get into the field if they have the ability and Yiras Shamayim.

    in reply to: VOTING???? for who??? #902602

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    Promise of the future based on accomplishments rather than promises based on failed promises and distaste for Jews in Middle East

    But primarily Daven to Hashem that the one best for Yidden and for USA wins and that it should be one and the same!

    in reply to: tallis over head #902497

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    Ari z”l says one should wear it that way the whole davening. Hat is also called a covering

    Shtreimel by Laining may be that Shtreimel is malchus and one dons malchus clothing for event reminicent of Kabbolas HaTorah as we became a “princely nation” then.

    in reply to: shidduchim and weight….. #906783

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    If the inner self is happy the external radiance will be attractive and the wight will not be a detraction.

    Just make sure you would not mind marrying a guy who is 46 portly……….. Too many guys who are 46 Portly want a girl who is a 6 or 8 or less…………. maybe they will succeed…. most likely it is a cause for delays.

    in reply to: Living in Israel – where would you live? #1038327

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    One apt in Tzefas and another in Old City of Yerushalayim!

    in reply to: The chazoin ish, hurricane sandy, and generators. #906521

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    Nu nu means it is not quite an inspiring Hashgacah pratis. It won’t make it onto my list of repeatable events of life to demonstrate the ongoing presence of Hashem.

    in reply to: Why are shidduchim so difficult/tiring?! #901726

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    Like Krias Yam Suf…. gotta have big time bitachon and be ready to jump in………

    in reply to: Does Wealth Equate With Happiness? #1157409

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    Mesilas Yesharoim writes that wealth does not bring happiness.

    Shlomo Hamelech decried wealth in Koheles.

    Gemaros alll over speak about the increased worries of those who have more.

    Poverty? Mishna says it is all in our state of mind. The way we handle it.

    Read Rebbetiz Kanievsky bio and see how much she avoided any excesses.

    Esav was given Olam Hazeh. Yaakov is given an Ohel.

    wealth is a BIG nisayon. One needs to be BIG to handle it right. Most don’t. Unfrotunately

    in reply to: The chazoin ish, hurricane sandy, and generators. #906517

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    Nu nu.

    in reply to: Mishneh Torah on Hoshana Rabbah #898767

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    If your not listening with your heart, what is the purpose?

    in reply to: Is eating in succah on Shabbos Breishis considered Bal Tosef? #977938

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    If you have in mind to fulfill the Mitzvah of Succah it is Baal Tosef even in mid January!

    in reply to: Private parking spaces on city streets #929525

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    Was Yom Kippur only a few days ago?? Boy, it dissipated fast…………

    in reply to: Gender Segregation in Jewish Cemeteries #896194

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    The Satmar Rebbe Rav Yoel zt”l is buried right next to his wife!

    in reply to: G.O. Theme ideas #897277

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    Cities of Eretz Yisroel……… then and now

    in reply to: Boro Park Residents – Urgent Kashrus Alert awarrness #896119

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    I ahve see tnese places receive deliveries of baked goods on Shabbos. there was no Mashgiach overseeing the process…… who are we trusting??

    in reply to: Disinheriting an OTD Child #893477

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    Sam 2. the Gemara in Bava Basra being quoted by the Sforno seems to be the source of his psaht. Which Gemara is NOT like the one in Bava Basra?

    BTW…….. in US many people legally set up trusts to avoid inheritance tax issues. This is a legal loophole to pass wealth to children by transferring the ownership of the trust to them and so there are no taxes on the inheritance. Sort of Gift “maychaim” NOt quite, but a legal similarity.

    in reply to: Disinheriting an OTD Child #893473

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    Gifts take effect one second before the person dies. Matana maychaim. IN that way daughters can inherit as well……. matana, not yerusha

    in reply to: Yeshivos Wasting Money for No Reason #893406

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    Police advise mosdos to keep them on for securty purposes. Vandalism is much much less likely if there are lights on

    Sooooooooo

    1- it deters potential vandals

    2- If the rooms are visible from outside the building, one can see IN only if it is light inside

    3- Some bulbs are equipped to be cheaper ot run continuously instead of turing off and then needing 15-30 minutes to warm and illuminate when turned on.

    in reply to: Disinheriting an OTD Child #893471

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    Pesukim are not sufficient. They are only the beginning.

    Look at Seforno

    (16-17) ?????? ??”? ??? ????? ??? ?? ???? ??

    ?? ???? ???? ?? ?? ?????? ?? ??? ?? ?????? ?????. ?? ????? ?????? ?? ??? ????? ???? ?? ?? ???? ?? ??? ?? ???? ?? ???? ???? ??? ????? ?? ???? ?????? ????? ?”? (?”? ??? ?? ??????) ?? ?? ??? ???? ????? ???? ???? ??? ???? ???? ???? ????? ????? ?????? ????? ???? ???? ?????? ???? ???? ?? ?????:

    Meaning if the motivation is like/dislike, love/hate then one cannot alter the order. But if it because the son is a Rasha, an evil doer, then it is permissible.

    If you look at the Vilna Gaon on the possuk he says it is talking about 2 children from diff wives each one a bechor born at the same time……… not the case in most homes

    Thirdly, the possuk speaks of exchanging bechor privileges, not about disinheiritng. It is a din in bechor, not simply rights of Yerusha. I had written previously that one can put into a trust with conditions… that is not quite taking from ne and giving to another and is certainly not challenging the din of Bechor.

    Finally, it can all be gifts while one is alive and need not enter the laws of yerusha if one want to set it up that way.

    Theres more, but that should address the issue for now. No?

    in reply to: Disinheriting an OTD Child #893469

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    Sam 2 I appreciate your persistence but I am missing something. I answered already the following

    “Sam2- that is what I meant buy going too far. marrying a non Jewish woman or even moving in with a non Jewish woman with an agreement (even de facto) of being in a “permanent” live in relationship. It was just too hard to write it out so I said “going too far”. If one marries out then one is supposed to sit Shiva. I heard this psak from a few Gedolim who were issuing the ruling as Halacha Lmaaseh.”

    Which HALACHA did you told me I am violating that I did not address?

    in reply to: Disinheriting an OTD Child #893467

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    Thnak sPopa- A competent lawyer can draft what is needed. The issue is advisability, rights to do so. Soem feel a child is entitled to inheritance even if he rejects his heritage.

    The way the money of a deceased person is used can bring great benefit to hte soul of the departed one. Certailny he/she would want or can want to send it where it will more likely be used properly. Assisting one to eat treif, or be mechallel Shabbos or engage in arayos etc. by providing them with a significant inheritance is not a benefit to the former owner of the $$$$$$$


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    The Book of our Heritage by Rav Ki Tov

    Rambam Laws of perepntance……. slowly!

    in reply to: Who are the Quiet Girls Supposed To Marry? #897418

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    Still waters run deep…… deep bacurim will find still waters attractive……. package the maalos……… shadchanim need to be “salesman” because many don’t really know what is right for them

    in reply to: Disinheriting an OTD Child #893465

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    Sam2- that is what I meant buy going too far. marrying a non Jewish woman or even moving in with a non Jewish woman with an agreement (even de facto) of being in a “permanent” live in relationship. It was just too hard to write it out so I said “going too far”. If one marries out then one is supposed to sit Shiva. I heard this psak from a few Gedolim who were issuing the ruling as Halacha Lmaaseh

    Naftush- One can set up a trust in US law and stipulate whatever he wishes… he can say that the money can only be used to buy cars for people with blue eyes. He can stipulate that only college grads can benefit form this trust and he can stipulate that only Shomrei Torah Umitzvos can benefit. It is not regulating from the grave. It is a valid legal trust with specific structure and direction.

    In halacha one can give a conditional gift and so one can say that they give child x 100G if he keeps Toarh and Mtzvos (req definition) for 3 years…….. or whatever.

    in reply to: Disinheriting an OTD Child #893460

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    What about the idea of dividing the inheritance but putting the share of the one who is OTD in a trust with clear stipulations as to what type of lifestyle over how long a period of time would free the money to him? Or what about leaving it in a trust to be divided amngst HIS cghildren if they become Shomrei Torah Umitzvos?

    RE: Cutting off- The one who is OTD did the cutting,not the parent who does not want to give a big yerusha. We can love the child or adult who has dumped our lifestyle, beliefs, tradition and history a deeep and real love, but we need not approve of their chosen lifestyle and if the de facto result of THEM cutting the string is a loss of inheritance, who did the cutting?

    BTW, if one goes too far, are you aware that parents may be obligated to sit Shiva?? Obviously Halcha feels that at some point cutting ties is really pretty serious business.

    in reply to: Rabbonim and Shalom Bayis Problems #892970

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    When people come to a Rav it is important that they agree to either stay togehter or break up , whichever, but that it will be done in an amicable manner. Nothing is gained by getting an army of friends and relatives involved. Nothing is gained by sharing private details with a curious group of friends. The developmental health of the children and the effect on their perception of a relationship needs to override personal vendettas and ta’anos. If it is to stay together it needs to be Bishalaom. But even if it splits it needs to be Bishalom. They will one day want to be at the chassunos of children, simchos of grandchildren… thre is no place for overt animosity and hatred.

    They are not exempt from the Mitzvah of Viahavta or of greeting people with a kind face. It may be hard.. sometimes avodas Hashem is that way. But we can live up to tall expectations.

    in reply to: Disinheriting an OTD Child #893454

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    Why leave money to a child who is otd and possibly encourage or entice him to even gretaer diregard for Hashem and His Torah, spirituality and his own individual tachlis? More taava, more hedonism, more sensory existence. why would a parent want to give that child even more nisyonos?

    in reply to: Rabbonim and Shalom Bayis Problems #892946

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    Rav Pam restored harmony to more marriages than most therapists do in 2 lifetimes. Rav Pam also guided some Talmidim in that haskafa and skill. And good therapists are still great!

    in reply to: Limo for after Wedding #892542

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    Sorce is goyish. tehy all leave the church after the ceremony in a limo. Purely non Jewish source. Collecting $$$$ should be left for inyanei Tzedakah and lets not make this into a “dei machsoro” issue!

    Excess $$$$? Tons of needy legitimate open hands….. much bigger zechus for chosson and kallah!

    in reply to: Shave head #1099007

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    Bluris is a chup

    in reply to: Shlomo Carelbach #895725

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    He has a greater degree of deep ahavas Yisroel and ahavas habriyis than the rest of the world combined.

    in reply to: GIVAT ZEV #892363

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    And there you have a chance to dven with the Stoliner Rebbe and his Bais Medrash and experience Tfillah like never before. Let the soul be ignited!

    in reply to: Rabbonim and Shalom Bayis Problems #892939

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    Some Rabbanim can and should. others cannot and should not.

    One advantage that rabbanim can have is that they are not governed or possibly limited by APA-LSW rules and guidelines.

    in reply to: Gift for a man: men's opinions #891323

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    The perpose of a watch is to tell time accurtely. Get one that does and give the rest to your kids as incentives for limud HaTorah!

    My timex is over 10 years old and still ticking! So are my kids Yiddishkeit

    in reply to: How do I stop all the Tzedaka Calls ? #887376

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    Instead pray you should have enough Parnassah to help them as well.

    Or daven they should find a BIG donor to take the pressure off. Why daven for them NOT to succeed just to get them off your back. Use your emotions to daven for them to be matzliach and not need you anymore!?

    in reply to: Trust in Hashem #887965

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    Learn Shaar Habitachon of Chovos Halevavos and define your level, live appropriately and work on raising the level. That’s why he wrote it!

    in reply to: summer=no tzitzis #888010

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    Every second is a fulfillment of a Mitzvah D’Oraysa. The Tzitzis themselves have no Kedusha as we see we can take them into a bathroom, unlike Tfillin or a sefer Torah. If so, what’s the problem with having a “shvitzy” pair and washing it like we do to our T shirts and sports clothing?

    The Gra lamented on is deathbed that here we can fulfill Tzizis for a few kopeks and in the next world we cannot add one Mitzvah for all the money in the world. While alive we can…….. should’t we?

    in reply to: How do I stop all the Tzedaka Calls ? #887373

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    To all who want to stop the calls. If you were running a necessary valuable organization, mossad, service etc. and needed to fund a budget, how would you propose to go about it without coming on to the most naturally charitable sensitive giving caring Baalei Chessed in the world whose coreligionists are the beneficiaries??

    in reply to: from otd to back on, ask away #885069

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    Welcome!

    1- how long were you otd?

    2- What inspired your return, emptiness of the outside world? Richness of Yiddishkeit?

    3- In what way are you different now?

    4- Are you concerned that once tried, it can happen again?

    Looking forward!

    in reply to: White Shirts #883555

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    Silbigers (btwn 17 and 18 ave on 51 st in Bklyn) has them.

    in reply to: Three Weeks & Music 🗓️🎹 #883751

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    Is it time to be machmir on feeling loss of Batei Mikdash and show Hashem how much we miss it and need it. If we look for leniences in music or in aveilus in general we will not feel the loss as intensely and cannot cry or mourn or beg for what is missing with the same depth. Small things DO make a difference!

    in reply to: texting a teacher/rabbi #883551

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    Even if the Rebbe/ Morah/Teacher/Rav say OK, please write out what you want to say and don’t use “text abbreviated language”. Speak in writing. Great not gr8, by the way and not btw, for you and not 4u……..

    in reply to: drinking in yeshiva #882572

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    Chocolate??? Flavored with liquor??

    Just kidding………….

    in reply to: Reliable Hashgacha? #1098474

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    Some say KVH on Kellogs is only reliable for non flavored cereals such as Corn Flakes, rice krispies, raisin bran and frosted flakes. Colored flavored relies on heterim not acceptable to all. Check it out

    in reply to: Wedding Intro #881611

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    Deaf?? How did the ears become deaf?

    in reply to: drinking in yeshiva #882562

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    Mayan -True, but I would not want them to generalize and brush all Bnei Yeshiva with a broad stroke of drunkenness or lack of responsibility. The overwhelming vast majority are not abusing alcohol(or internet or drugs). There are thousands of solid Bnai Torah who are really living up to the title. I would hate that some impressionable girl be turned off by an unfortunate sight (ugh!) of a minority occurrence.

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