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July 29, 2011 8:29 pm at 8:29 pm in reply to: Kabbalist Rabbi Elazar Abuhatzeira Stabbed To Death #792375
Each of us knows in the depths of our hearts ways in which we do not live “with the presence of the shechina” unless we cannot be honest with self, each knows ways we can improve. Instead of looking to gedolim to have ruach hakodesh and tell us what we need to fix and then have it part of chat room chatter about how do they know and who said, let each person pick one way he/she will bring self closer to shechina and shechina closer to the world.July 29, 2011 4:00 am at 4:00 am in reply to: What we CAN easily DO to change and improve PRACTICAL #793403
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Now I ask us all…….. should we be frivolously whiling away out time “unwinding ” in chat rooms, or get the message that maybe we can do better with the opportunity Hashem is giving us every minute??
Ironic that this topic of murder s preceded by one who opened a discussion about going to the movies. Maybe we need to worry about the movie we are currently scripting, writing and star acting in…………
Batala is still a waste ………July 27, 2011 3:34 pm at 3:34 pm in reply to: Do I tell the parents about kids being mechalal Shabbos??? #790560
1-Veahavta lirayacha….. . what would you want to be done for you if the situation is reversed?
2- If their reaction will be damaging it needs to be addressed……… even if the answer to 1 is yes.
The Shaatnez lab in Flatbush has them for sale
It is 2 separate Mitzvos. You cannot do nichum at the levaya…… only after kevura
Levaya is a chessed for the departed. Nichum is primarily for the living. 2 Mitzvos, 2 purpose, 2 times. The question will be if I can go to a levaya to “a” or be menachem by “b”, which takes precedence? That answer will be the same if I am conflicted by which to participate in if only one family is involved.
In light of the time of year and added seriousness of recent events, is this what we have degraded to deem significant enough to spend out GD given time and energy??? Amazing. great mussar lesson for when I get back to the classroom……. and for me for today!
What purpose does this serve???
Many Poskim hold that one must be able to feel the ground beneath him and therefore one cannot wear anything which has thick soles or is padded. Rav Yoshe Ber Soloveitchik ztl was very scrupulous about this for Yom Kippur, Tisha B’Av and avelilus of shiva. And yes, inuy does mean suffering of a certain type. Many won’t sit on padded chairs during shiva either …………… one adam gadol told me “my mother is worth one week of discomfort” The Bais Hamikdahs is for sure worth it!!
Did you say all of Krias Shma al Hamitah wiht all the perakim and pesukim?? Seforim write that after that one can repeat Shma over and over….. you will fall asleep.
Alternatively, take a sefer ot bed…… the Yetzer Hora would rather you sleep than learn!!
It needs to be a last resort. There are s many safer ways to lose weight. If this in MD mandated. fine. If not, get yourself motivated to lose in a less intrusive way.July 21, 2011 3:48 pm at 3:48 pm in reply to: Changed Topic of Shiur – Do I Have A Right To Be Disappointed? #788307
Hashgacha Pratis. Hashem is still in charge of the world. Obviously Hashem tested you to see if you will listen to the shiur HE wanted you to hear… We say in Ani Maamin that Hashem has created, is creating and will created every thing which happens in the world. Time to strengthen Emuna and Bitachon!!
If we follow trhe rules of Tefilah as outlined in Halacha, washing, proper dress, contemplating for a moment before I start, becoming aware of what I am about to do, focusing on the meaning of the words (easy in a day when so many types of translations are out there), talking as if I was really issuing heartfelt thanks and anxious requests, then we would not even think of texting, writing, chess, or even thinking of other things. HIS presence will be felt…….. really felt……. quite an opportunity for a daily meaningful experience. It is available to all those who want to strive for it and who focus on it and ask Hashem for his help in making it happen. It nees our RATZON.
Wonderful Kehilla, filled with Torah,one Chief Rav whom everyone loves and respects, tzniyus, kedusha and growing Yidden. The rif raf live in surrounding areas and for the most part are less intrusive than the members of the public school on ave. L and E. 16th in the heart of Flatbush
Adocs- much appreciate your reply. Rav Pam zt”l said that for Brachos, any part of the body which is normally covered and is now uncovered has a din of Erva regarding reciting Brachos just as it has a din that if you touch that part of the body you must wash your hands before davening, learning or reciting a Bracha. He told his Talmidim to try to educate campers in camp who may play ball in shorts that if they want to make a Bracha prior to taking a drink they should place a towel to cover the legs not covered by the shorts. While others may say that it is the proper exposure for summer, he did not feel that way.
Because it stated with kushim. Do we need to imitate them?? Look how many play basketball today in camps and Yeshivos. the kushi becomes our role model?? How sad. How pathetic!!
Instead of being the light onto the nations we become followers of what??
On a date, make sure you speak of people with various disabilities to see if there is compassion and empathy…. admiration or jokery.
I’d love to meet the teen who felt the way I wrote…. a good shidduch prospect for my grandchildren. Not quite yet though.
We need to increase tzniyius in speech, dress, deal in stores, even the way we walk. Tzniyus is not about dress. dress is part of Tzniyus. Eating in the street, shouting in the street, walking in a way that does not engender respect for Judaism are all various levels of a breach of Tzniyus. The women by the pool is certainly not acceptable. Test yourself. If an adam gadol went for a swim do you think he would feel comfortable if you stood there watching him? It is a litmus test. If you knew you would meet a Rav Chashuv in the street would you be licking your cone in teh street?? Would you eat at a table in the middle of the street?? The Chashuvim are a mashal for Hashem. The beginning of Shulcha Aruch beseeches us to act as if the Shechina is opposite us. because HE is!!
You have an opportunity to fulfill the mandate of the Mishna “greet each person with a ” sever panim yafos’ with a nice countenance and you intentionally don’t want to?? Stay at home till you can!!!
Men should feel,uncomfortable swimming when women are watching. Bathing suits are water wear underwear and I hope men would feel uncomfortable in the presence of women if all thye had on was underwear.
Tniyus means acting in sucha way that you are aware of Hashems presence. Hatznaya leches IM Hashem, walk modestly with Hashem… modest is the characteristic of Hashem, one when we emulate it invites HIS presence.Just as one cannot say a bracha when wearing a bathing suit unless he covers himself up because of “erva” one should not be in the presence of women in such a state. Women should not make men feel uncomfortable by being around the pool……. it is unfair and wrong.
It may be worthwhile to form an ongoing shiur to give chiuzuk in Emunah and Bitachon so that we all have the strentgh, the avoda dand the koach to face the nisayon wiht simcha. The shechina will reside with simcha, not wiht bitterness, sadness, complaints or negative attitude. Emunah bItachon are the “aleph bais” of Yiddishkeit and each person, especially at time of nisayon, needs to frotify oneself..Support for each othere can be shared at a shiur as well, but it will be in context of “aleph bais”!!June 24, 2011 7:44 pm at 7:44 pm in reply to: A third of Litvish families I know, have one or more single daughters 25 and up #908939
Maybe we can set up a time and place and brainstorm shidduchim and share possibilities. serious people only.
Call tow appliance in LKWD, they breathe eat an sleep this stuff. And it’s form out of state so you save the taxes.June 23, 2011 3:16 am at 3:16 am in reply to: Many attempts were made for the Kallah. How would you proceed? #791192
middlepath – if you grew the girl/boy in the garden (meaning you did the shidduch yourself) you would not have to pay the shadchan!!
Secondly- yes everyone has a predetermined match. But as I have heard form many greats, sometimes we say NO to the one it was supposed to be for one or more of many reasons. The shadchan could be the one to turn it around and restore the person to their originally intended. Possible, no?
stickynote – the first thing before practicality is to develop an hashkafic perspective and guideline THEN the choices can be made if they fir into the guidelines. BUt if one never agrees to the premise, then they can just tell someone to chilllllllllllll.
HIE- if one chills here, what will happen to him after here?? Funny we should call it chilllllllllll, maybe we should help people visualize and awaken self by calling it buuuuuuurn!!!!
You have spare time??? Can I buy some??
I have a friend.. young man. he was told he has 3-6 months to live…… want to sell him some time??
Chovos Halevavos at the end of Shhar Bitachon wants each of us to view life that way…….
Still have time??
If you don’t bargain with the Yetzer Tov, you will have sold out to the Yetzer Horah
Still have spare time??June 22, 2011 11:37 pm at 11:37 pm in reply to: Many attempts were made for the Kallah. How would you proceed? #791188
Hashem promises to give you food… nosain lechem lchol basar…… posayach es yadecha……. michalkail chayim bchessed… so why pay the grocer?
Many Chashuva Mohalim do not charge. We give a gift. Some take, some do not. The trend to cahrge is not in line with the “alter heim”. Rabbi Zimmerman a”h did not charge.Dinover Rebbe, Rav Belsky, and many others feel it is a zechus and will not set a fee.
Prospect park is gorgeous. Chuppah near the Lake…… catering setup near the big house in the middle. pix are incredible. Just daven for no rain
Z Dad – Maybe you should tell them not to set a place, but certainly go, give Brachos, dance a bit. show your simcha and ahava. Imagine if no one would go………… ouch!
Chabad has enough ahavas Yisroel to take themJune 22, 2011 7:44 pm at 7:44 pm in reply to: Many attempts were made for the Kallah. How would you proceed? #791180
A shadchan needs to be paid
The Steipler frequently asked people who were experiencing shalom bauis problems or fertility problems if the shadchan was paid. Get the source and send a shaliach to them to explain why this is a bizayon, why it can have negative ramifications and why al pi Shulcha Aruch of law and of midos they need to fulfill their chiyuv.. The florist got paid as did the caterer, music, hall, landlord etc. now the shadchan. When I am mesader kiddushin I inform them that I will not get under that chupah unless the shadchan is paid.
No chiyuv to be mochail a monetary obligation without due reason and cause.
My daughter got married within the last year….. fewer than 20 percent of the people gave any gift. This is own from 3 years earlier when over 35 percent gave a gift to my older child……. still not the 70 percent that gave at my wedding a few decades ago. I guess the economic downturn has taken a toll in this area. Join the club!
If yow eere asked to invest 10,000 or more for 5 years in a product, wouldn’t you want to know if the product is all that it is supposed to be??
A bechina is not common.. mostly because the bachrim refuse……. but there should not be any philosophical rejection of the idea.
An advantage is that one get to see the involvement and simcha- if it exists- when Torah is discussed.June 19, 2011 5:38 am at 5:38 am in reply to: Kula Creep – The Creation and Use of Non-Existent "Kula's" #779679
If the London Bais Din supervises we are not relying on government officials to enforce anything. It is a hechsher!June 17, 2011 9:40 pm at 9:40 pm in reply to: Kula Creep – The Creation and Use of Non-Existent "Kula's" #779674
Look at what Rebbi1 wrote In Switzerland. no, Germany, no and would you trust them anyway France, no… lets hear form some of the frum crowd in European countries.. What about Australia??? South Africa?? Do you know how many little farmers bring their milk to central companies?? Who is enforcing?? I was told that it is not eve trustworthy in England because people drink treif mmilk and its not a crime to mix. or the penalties are minimal
have a great Shabbos everyone!
I can’t wait for my menahel to read and try to convince me to edit!! Too strongly worded for the son of the gvir……..
He actually once edited grades and comments without my permission. I discovered it when I looked at a transcript to write a more personalized letter of rec.June 17, 2011 5:54 pm at 5:54 pm in reply to: Kula Creep – The Creation and Use of Non-Existent "Kula's" #779663
newhere- They do not. Rav Moshe relied on the USDA and the strong enforcement. It does not exist anywhere else.June 17, 2011 5:43 pm at 5:43 pm in reply to: Kula Creep – The Creation and Use of Non-Existent "Kula's" #779662
newhere- They do not. Rav Moshe relied on the USDA and the strong enforcement. It does not exist anywhere else.
Health- 1- And if it is hot?
2- What is the best way to educate our kids.. … take the temp of the meat…… or have 2 separate ones and explain to them that out of a sense of Yiras Shamayim we would not to chas vshalom mix… or embarrass a guest (Dioraysa)who touches it to the hot-warm-cold meat.
What about the possibility of the suction of the squeeze bottles sucking in the fleishik fluid. Aren’t these at least legitimate concerns??? ever see people put ketch on pizza??? Even adults frequently touch it…. kids for sure. NOt even talking about the greasy fingers on the outside.
Kashrus is a chok.. we need to protect it.
Gavra – correct, but the tone should be one of Yiras Shanmayim and kavod not one that smells a bit of sarcasm
re: salads If you carefully observe people when they take salads using a communal spoon or salad fork, unfortunately some are not careful and touch the plate into which they are dishing the salad. If they already have chicken, meat, cholent on the plate (particularly if they are taking a second helping) then the spoon has come in contact with real fleishiks. If it goes back into the salad bowl you have a real shayloh about the status of the salad and need a psak and maybe rely on a kula to permit it as parve. Many people therefore remove it before bringing meat to the table so that they can reuse it with a milchik Shalosh seudos or Melave Malka.
The problem exists also when squeezing ketchup or mustard form a container. People, especially children accidentally touch the fleish on the plate.
I sympathize. I just finished an 8 hour marathon of working on grades and comments……I also write like it is Torah Shebiksav……. and each year I ind that there are many parents who do not even read them. But my job is still to do what is right………
You are defacto denigrating real Halacha and the topic as mentioned in Pirkei Avos of our obligation to “assu syag laTorah” to make a fence around the Halchos so we do not violate them. Chumra has a real place in Halacha…. do not start something which may cause loss of respect for real geniune Halacha based valid chumros. Thin ice… not worth it. Certainly not when the focus of these parshios of Miriam and of the meragliim is being careful with speech
Todays time may require more diligent seperation because of the influence society has had in breaking down our internal midah of modesty.
Aside from which husbands want a mechitza so they can eat whatever they want without having to answer afterwards why they are not careful with weight!
Unconditional ahava……… and tons of Tefillah
The Ari zl wrote a tefillah for the return of the son of of a Talmid. printed in some siddurim
A hung Kesuba can be taken by the husband in a dispute and she can lose the power to claim the kesuba $$$$ in event of divorce. It has happened.
here are some
Krus Shifcha does not marry.
Safek Mamzer cannot marry
Half eved knaani- half ben chorin does not marry (yes, one can achieve status of eved knaani today)
agunah cannot marry
One meshulach used to “redd” shidduchim to my daughters whenever he came to the US. She ended up marrying a bachur who he did not set up, but who was a ben bayis by him and he helped facilitate the situation
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Outdorrs. sky. horizon. nature.. water. The soul resonates with connecting with the Master of it all……….. Connect. introspect.. commune… it enervates and energizes
Listen to some shiurim of Rav Avigdor miller ztl on the topic… it’s amazing how it gets into your psyche!June 13, 2011 1:32 am at 1:32 am in reply to: Guys who reject most of hundred girls they date- are they "ON the Derech"? #776966
I do it all the time. I have never made a shidduch but i have coached many through the process and they say it probably would not have happened without it