ShalomToYou

Forum Replies Created

Viewing 50 posts - 1 through 50 (of 55 total)
  • Author
    Posts
  • in reply to: Does not believing in the shidduch crisis make you a koifer? #954279

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    It’s exactly the opposite. If you believe in it, you are a koifer.

    Hashem runs the world. There is no crisis. Or solutions. Everyone has their time. We should try to help others in any way we can, including redding Shiduchim. That’s all.

    NASI has bamboozled klal Yisroel for no good reason and we have had enough.

    And I am an older single in Shiduchim.

    in reply to: Is smoking mutar? #954616

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    The whole anti-smoking agenda is due to the influence of goyishe culture. For years everyone smoked wit no problems. You think it’s unhealthy don’t smoke. Live and let live.

    in reply to: Tznius for bochurim in pools #953762

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    ChiYid is right.

    This whole thread is bizarre.

    I just want to point out that the question comes from today’s warped Hashkafa of equality. If women need Tznius why not men also? Just like WoW and their Tefillin

    in reply to: Why do they teach girls to sound like Harrys? #1144967

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    Thank WIY for bringing this up. I wondered about that for years.

    Squeak- well said.

    It’s also a serious problem because according to many Poskim one is not yotzei saying the Shem Hashem when saying ‘Ado- rather one must say Adoi-

    A few years back when I found out about this, I informed my mother and since then she’s been careful during davening to pronounce the Shem Hashem correctly.

    Sadly many people that try to be machmir in other things don’t know about this.

    An even worse problem is when people pronounce Hashems Name as Adi-noy, which according to virtually all Poskim is not valid.

    Very common unfortunately. Just listen to Chazaras Hashatz. It’s a mitzvah to publicize this.

    in reply to: Three Asifas Today #952883

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    jbaldy22- Why would I like it to be that way?? I have no vested interest n this matter. Just reporting a fact.

    in reply to: Three Asifas Today #952881

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    WIY- it’s only a problem for men. Women may not understand the Yetzer Hora since they don’t have it.

    in reply to: Longest date #952467

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    8 dates was my longest until I finally got honest with myself and realized I could never marry a heavy girl.

    in reply to: Weird, but I don't know if this has any halachic implication #1146903

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    I don’t understand how in this day and age, when we have so much Kosher Mehadrin food to fress, people still need to eat chalav stam.

    in reply to: What is more disruptive in shul…. #1091466

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    The Best Bubby- The Takana of your Shul is really great! I bet after paying once or twice it doesn’t happen again.

    Unfortunately I don’t think Rabbanim in America have the same power as in Europe.

    in reply to: Romantic Restaurant #950938

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    The Yeshiva crowd doesn’t really eat out much, besides for an occassional slice of pizza

    in reply to: What is more disruptive in shul…. #1091457

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    DY- The OP was trying to make a point that the shhhs are more disruptive. His question was rhetorical.

    in reply to: What is more disruptive in shul…. #1091453

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    There’s no excuse for not shutting off the phone before or better yet leave it in the car. So yes everyone should shhh when it happens

    and next time he will remember.

    And for some reason it takes people more than 1 ring to shut it in which case they should be asked to leave.

    I don’t know why people seem to sympathize more with the perpetrator than the victims.

    in reply to: Dikduk that drives me crazy #946415

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    writersoul- cute parody but I don’t see one legitimate counter-argument

    in reply to: Jewish internet radio stations #947891

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    WMDI 107.9 Lakewood. Its on TuneIn

    in reply to: Margaret Thatcher, of blessed memory. #945615

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    why is her memory blessed? by who?

    in reply to: How to tell the Shadchan that the girl's too heavy #946258

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    Alright everyone thanks for your input. BTW it seems that the opinions split along gender lines. Another difference between men and women. Fine. Consider this thread closed

    in reply to: Lakewood vs Brooklyn #945110

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    Lakewood is much more suburban lots of grass and trees. But it’s still a ‘third world country’ in some respects. They need to install some traffic lights for starters.


    ShalomToYou
    Member

    Can someone explain why this is a Gezeira? They will not force anyone to the army, they just won’t fund the Yeshiva students who don’t serve.

    Firstly some communities never took money from the Medina (Satmar, Eida Chareidis) And even the ones that do, it’s a financial problem not a Gezeira.

    Would it be a Gezeira if Mayor Bloomberg cut off food stamps to anyone who does Metzitza Be’Peh? No. If it’s important to you you agree to the financial loss and get your money elsewhere.

    in reply to: How does one know? #946288

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    Popa- your diagnosis may be accurate but please admit you never would have thought of it if not for his screen name.

    Gilgul- You absolutely CAN lose your Bashert. The Steipler told many older singles that they turned down their Zivug. But as long as you make correct decisions based on common sense and ask Daas Torah if you have a question, you’ll be fine.

    Rabbi Perfect- I must take issue with what you wrote that you don’t want to cause pain especially to a girl. Unless you meant that a girl is more likely to be hurt, it sounds to me like the secular notion of ‘ladies first’ being nicer to women, which is contrary to Torah values. See Horiyos Daf 11

    As for your issue I also feel bad for my rejects. But is it better to go out 8 times and then say no? Is it better to break an engagement and or a marriage Ch’V because the Shidduch was ill-conceived? Obviously the girl would rather you break it off earlier. To make up for the inadvertant pain you caused, you can Daven that they meet their true Zivug soon

    in reply to: Lakewood vs Brooklyn #945106

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    yitay- Goldbergs 18/51. Grocery store on 13/45. And in general stores are open later in Brooklyn. Most groceries 11pm in BP at least.

    Which takeouts in Lkwd open till 2am? Pitta’le closes before 1am

    Paylesher- In the Lakewood phonebook everyone’s a Rabbi

    in reply to: Schissel challah? #1071922

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    Sam2- Chas Vesholom to say so. See Ohev Yisrael.

    in reply to: Why do people do this? #948754

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    Loca- I totally do that every day! I usually throw it out the window

    in reply to: How to tell the Shadchan that the girl's too heavy #946234

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    Smile- I’m glad you’re not punching me anymore. Why can’t I find a record of you as a member?

    in reply to: Why do people do this? #948752

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    How about those people who when they insert their contact lenses, thy open their mouth WIDE, as if that’s going to help get the lens in.

    in reply to: Why do people do this? #948749

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    After coming out of Shul where they were for only 15 minutes, they pull out their phones to see how many thousands of calls they missed. Hello? No ones calling you

    in reply to: I can relate #948497

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    Having to carry in a bunch of stuff from the car and trying to do it all in one trip. So you stagger out of the car in the rain holding stuff in your hand, under your arm, between your teeth. On the way, the stuff falls all over the place, and you end up working twice as hard.

    in reply to: How to tell the Shadchan that the girl's too heavy #946215

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    Please no sermonizing about how weight is unimportant etc. Just assume we’re talking about 400 pounds. How do I break it to the Shadchan?

    in reply to: Girls' Names #948076

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    Many young parents do not realize what an awesome responsibility they carry.

    A Jewish name is not just something to call the person. It’s the very essence of the Neshoma.

    Whatever you do be sure to ask a Rav or Rebbe, who knows these things, about the name. Giving the wrong name to a child can ruin their life.

    It’s preferable to name after an ancestor. If you don’t have, ask before you give whatever name strikes your fancy.

    Giving a name is not a joke. I’ts very serious business. One of the Tzadikim of the last generation often said when people came to him with the name of a choleh “If only they had come to me to ask what name to give”

    in reply to: How would you respond to Savage on Metzitzah #1027954

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    No need to respond to Savage. He hasn’t said anything we haven’t heard before from other disrespectful anti-semites.

    I listened to Savage for years. While he can be funny and often makes good points, the man is an unbelievable megalomaniac and is very nasty to anyone who doesn’t agree with him.

    Bottom line, Savage is an entertainer. You wouldn’t care what a juggler or clown says. You gotta enjoy the good and ignore the rest.

    in reply to: Schissel challah? #1071919

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    HaLeivi- I’d like to see that clip. YWN doesn’t allow links but see if you can figure out a way.

    I never said its assur to sing it. Just that the mekor is from the goyim. If Klal Yisroel has been mekadaish it, fine. However shlissel challa is brought down in seforim and they say reasons for it. It certainly did not originate by the goyim.

    in reply to: Separate Yeshivas for the Kollel Families #944825

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    Let sleeping wolves lie

    in reply to: Schissel challah? #1071913

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    It is unbelievable to me that a holy Minhag brought down in Seforim and practiced by Tzadikim throughout the generations comes under attack by ‘enlightened’ people and customs that truly are Christian in origin go unchallenged. I specifically have in mind the Muzhinke dance done with a broom for the last child and the common Maoz Tzur tune. (not to mention what passes for Jewish music these days)

    in reply to: Wife serving jury duty in NY #943565

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    zahavasdad- upon what do you base your comment?

    T613T- Tell us what happened to your friend.

    Dina D’Malchusa means that the law is the law not that you need to sit on the case.

    squeak- some of the things you wrote are true (reasons 2,4,and 6)the rest are funny.

    siper-

    in reply to: Wife serving jury duty in NY #943558

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    Court in today’s day and age is no place for a frum Jew.

    Here’s what I do. Simply throw out the notice when it arrives.

    Despite the scary warnings about fines and jail for evaders this has never occurred. They can’t prove that you got it and they don’t try.

    in reply to: Pesach is over! CHAMETZ!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #1074716

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    You shouldn’t be so excited about Chametz

    in reply to: One of the Causes for Weight GainóShadchanim #943280

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    I’m amazed how many girls out there are not as slim as I’d like. 85% of the girls I’ve gone out with were too heavy. I gave them all a good chance but every single one was a waste of time. Obviously there are boys out there that don’t mind a bit heavy but I can’t stand it. And I’m not looking for super beauty super slim just normal and I can’t find it.

    6 years in Shiduchim and still looking for the ‘thousands’ of perfect girls in Shiduchim.

    See my thread on this topic:

    http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/is-there-a-shidduch-crisis-1#post-418983

    in reply to: Filter for Ipad and IPhone #941725

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    I don’t want to jailbreak. Yes wifi router under my control. Any way to filter that?

    in reply to: Filter for Ipad and IPhone #941722

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    K9 for mobile is much more limited than the desktop version. In the desktop, the entire computer is filtered not just the browser. However in the mobile, it’s just the browser and the user can download another browser unless the app store is blocked which I prefer not to do.

    I’m looking to filter sites.

    Any help is appreciated.

    in reply to: Do I have a right to be upset? #940551

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    I think the two things are not related. Waiting a month, travel issues etc all that was up to you, you didn’t have to do it if you didn’t want to. However once you meet and one side does not want to continue there’s no reason to force a second date. And btw if you wanted a second date you should make sure you have a commitment before you travel.

    I’m curious what you would say if it were reversed and YOU didn’t want a second date. I’ve been pushed to go a second time when I didn’t want to and no ‘miracle’ happened on the second date. Just a waste of time and energy.

    ‘Do I have the right to be upset?’ Silly to carry it around. Just forgive and forget

    in reply to: Apple #940678

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    I am amazed that people still give the ipod touch to children. The devices have wifi capability and are near-impossible to filter. I thought the Asifa made that clear.

    I admit that some Apple products are nice but I don’t buy into the whole hype, like buying a new device as soon as it comes out

    in reply to: Having Children Without Money #940513

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    The Mitzva to have children is one boy and one girl. Anything after that is voluntary. If you cannot afford to take care of them it’s a serious question for a competent Rav.

    And thanks to the OP for bringing this up, whenever I see someone collecting because he has 13 children to marry off I wonder if he had a right to have them in the first place.

    Before anyone screams what a horrible person I am, let me say that I give plenty of Tzedaka to these guys and I was not referring to a case of catastrophic illness etc, just a guy who has more kids than he can support. I think its very greedy for a person to have many children and throw the responsibilty on others

    in reply to: Does ????? ????? Really Come? #1071250

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    For a detailed arichus on the inyan see Vayaged Yaakov L’leil Pesach

    A few points:

    1) The Aruch Hashulchan brings the Minhag to say Baruch Haba at the opening of the door

    2)It is well known that tzadikim throughout the generations merited to see Eliyahu HaNavi at the Seder, I personally, as a descendent of R’ Mordechai Banet, have a Kabbala that one year at the Seder when the door was opened his ten-year old daughter asked him “Who is that old Yid with the white beard?”. “Shhh” he answered, but it was too late. She passed away that year.

    3) Also it’s brought from the Chiddushei HaRim that he marveled at the greatness of the Noda Be’Yehuda that even when he was old and infirm he trudged down many steps to walk Eliyahu HaNavi to the door. The Chiddushei HaRim said that to believe with perfect faith that Eliyahu comes is a higher madreiga than actually seeing him

    4) It’s an unfortunate tendency of this generation to ask for a Mekor on accepted Minhagim that Tzadikim have been doing for hundreds of years. Yes, certain shtusim have crept into practice. For example the ‘Muzhinka Dance’ with the broom that originated by the Christians. But anything that we have Mesora on is in itself a Mekor

    5) I did not see anything on whether Eiyahu drinks from the Kos. It would seem that if we put a Kos in his honor that he should take a sip. But I’m not certain of that

    in reply to: R' Blumenkrantz Pesach Digest 2013 #939919

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    I don’t like the fact that it became a Pesach ‘Bible’.People consider it required reading. Like you can’t make Pesach without it. Is it helpful? Somewhat. Is it indispensable? Absolutely not. The Jewish nation has been making Pesach for thousands of years before it came around.

    And the idea that you must buy a new one every year is ridiculous, the changes year to year are minor. if you have a question on a specific new product look it up in a bookstore or ask a friend who has it.

    in reply to: Shadchan speaks #946389

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    old man- Well said

    I just want to add that it’s not only your opinion that the learning is worthless, it’s the Torah’s opinion as well.

    Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah states clearly: A Talmid Chochom without Yiras Shomayom is K’kal Shebitzibur, like the lowest person in town.

    A good thing to keep in mind.

    in reply to: Rabonim Crusade Against Sushi #938619

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    I read thru the posts and only 1 person came close to explaining the problem. Sushi is a craze, not a normal food. Its raw and disgusting and decent people stay away from it but like all Aveiros the Yetzer Hara makes it look appealing.

    That’s why its eaten with chopsticks; for the ‘experience’ not the taste.

    The Jews were redeemed from Egypt because they did not change their unique names, tongue, and clothing. We have unique foods as well. See Shulchan Aruch Hilchos Shabbos about ‘Pashtida’ which is a type of Kugel and the commentaries on its significance.

    To summarize: Sushi isn’t just a food, it’s a way of feeling Goyish.

    P.S.maybe if we Yidden would stop idolizing the Japanese culture we wouldn’t have had problems in Japan with the 3 bochurim

    in reply to: Rebbes Affectionate with Children #1055901

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    Here’s my opinion: Rebbeim should show as much affection as possible. Nothing happens from a simple touch.

    Everyone should stop freaking out about abuse of children, which the goyim are so busy with, due to their worship of youth.


    ShalomToYou
    Member

    America’s obsession with being anti-child abuse stems from their worship of youth. Unfortunately this is becoming more common in the Jewish world as well. Everyone should take it easy. The greatest threat to Chareidi Judaism?? Give me a break.

    in reply to: Is there a Shidduch Crisis? #1137127

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    farrocks- You’ve gone off the deep end with the last 2 posts

    in reply to: Is there a Shidduch Crisis? #1137118

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    I don’t think that people who only want blondes is a real thing, just something picked up from the goyim. (I don’t even like blondes) Heaviness though is definitely a legitimate issue

    in reply to: Is there a Shidduch Crisis? #1137107

    ShalomToYou
    Member

    Popa Bar Abba- What in heavens name is wrong with you and your RY? I know you’re a senior CR member but please Rachmana Litzlan, as my grandmother used to say “nisht afilu far a joke” Besides the fact that the post didn’t make any sense

Viewing 50 posts - 1 through 50 (of 55 total)


Trending