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May 23, 2013 9:07 pm at 9:07 pm in reply to: Does not believing in the shidduch crisis make you a koifer? #954279
It’s exactly the opposite. If you believe in it, you are a koifer.
Hashem runs the world. There is no crisis. Or solutions. Everyone has their time. We should try to help others in any way we can, including redding Shiduchim. That’s all.
NASI has bamboozled klal Yisroel for no good reason and we have had enough.
And I am an older single in Shiduchim.
The whole anti-smoking agenda is due to the influence of goyishe culture. For years everyone smoked wit no problems. You think it’s unhealthy don’t smoke. Live and let live.
ChiYid is right.
This whole thread is bizarre.
I just want to point out that the question comes from today’s warped Hashkafa of equality. If women need Tznius why not men also? Just like WoW and their Tefillin
Thank WIY for bringing this up. I wondered about that for years.
Squeak- well said.
It’s also a serious problem because according to many Poskim one is not yotzei saying the Shem Hashem when saying ‘Ado- rather one must say Adoi-
A few years back when I found out about this, I informed my mother and since then she’s been careful during davening to pronounce the Shem Hashem correctly.
Sadly many people that try to be machmir in other things don’t know about this.
An even worse problem is when people pronounce Hashems Name as Adi-noy, which according to virtually all Poskim is not valid.
Very common unfortunately. Just listen to Chazaras Hashatz. It’s a mitzvah to publicize this.
jbaldy22- Why would I like it to be that way?? I have no vested interest n this matter. Just reporting a fact.
WIY- it’s only a problem for men. Women may not understand the Yetzer Hora since they don’t have it.
8 dates was my longest until I finally got honest with myself and realized I could never marry a heavy girl.April 22, 2013 6:09 am at 6:09 am in reply to: Weird, but I don't know if this has any halachic implication #1146903
I don’t understand how in this day and age, when we have so much Kosher Mehadrin food to fress, people still need to eat chalav stam.
The Best Bubby- The Takana of your Shul is really great! I bet after paying once or twice it doesn’t happen again.
Unfortunately I don’t think Rabbanim in America have the same power as in Europe.
The Yeshiva crowd doesn’t really eat out much, besides for an occassional slice of pizza
DY- The OP was trying to make a point that the shhhs are more disruptive. His question was rhetorical.
There’s no excuse for not shutting off the phone before or better yet leave it in the car. So yes everyone should shhh when it happens
and next time he will remember.
And for some reason it takes people more than 1 ring to shut it in which case they should be asked to leave.
I don’t know why people seem to sympathize more with the perpetrator than the victims.
writersoul- cute parody but I don’t see one legitimate counter-argument
WMDI 107.9 Lakewood. Its on TuneIn
why is her memory blessed? by who?April 14, 2013 5:38 am at 5:38 am in reply to: How to tell the Shadchan that the girl's too heavy #946258
Alright everyone thanks for your input. BTW it seems that the opinions split along gender lines. Another difference between men and women. Fine. Consider this thread closed
Lakewood is much more suburban lots of grass and trees. But it’s still a ‘third world country’ in some respects. They need to install some traffic lights for starters.April 14, 2013 5:24 am at 5:24 am in reply to: Agudas Yisroel of America Plans Mass Tefila in Manhattan Against Draft Gezeria #945378
Can someone explain why this is a Gezeira? They will not force anyone to the army, they just won’t fund the Yeshiva students who don’t serve.
Firstly some communities never took money from the Medina (Satmar, Eida Chareidis) And even the ones that do, it’s a financial problem not a Gezeira.
Would it be a Gezeira if Mayor Bloomberg cut off food stamps to anyone who does Metzitza Be’Peh? No. If it’s important to you you agree to the financial loss and get your money elsewhere.
Popa- your diagnosis may be accurate but please admit you never would have thought of it if not for his screen name.
Gilgul- You absolutely CAN lose your Bashert. The Steipler told many older singles that they turned down their Zivug. But as long as you make correct decisions based on common sense and ask Daas Torah if you have a question, you’ll be fine.
Rabbi Perfect- I must take issue with what you wrote that you don’t want to cause pain especially to a girl. Unless you meant that a girl is more likely to be hurt, it sounds to me like the secular notion of ‘ladies first’ being nicer to women, which is contrary to Torah values. See Horiyos Daf 11
As for your issue I also feel bad for my rejects. But is it better to go out 8 times and then say no? Is it better to break an engagement and or a marriage Ch’V because the Shidduch was ill-conceived? Obviously the girl would rather you break it off earlier. To make up for the inadvertant pain you caused, you can Daven that they meet their true Zivug soon
yitay- Goldbergs 18/51. Grocery store on 13/45. And in general stores are open later in Brooklyn. Most groceries 11pm in BP at least.
Which takeouts in Lkwd open till 2am? Pitta’le closes before 1am
Paylesher- In the Lakewood phonebook everyone’s a Rabbi
Sam2- Chas Vesholom to say so. See Ohev Yisrael.
Loca- I totally do that every day! I usually throw it out the windowApril 12, 2013 7:37 am at 7:37 am in reply to: How to tell the Shadchan that the girl's too heavy #946234
Smile- I’m glad you’re not punching me anymore. Why can’t I find a record of you as a member?
How about those people who when they insert their contact lenses, thy open their mouth WIDE, as if that’s going to help get the lens in.
After coming out of Shul where they were for only 15 minutes, they pull out their phones to see how many thousands of calls they missed. Hello? No ones calling you
Having to carry in a bunch of stuff from the car and trying to do it all in one trip. So you stagger out of the car in the rain holding stuff in your hand, under your arm, between your teeth. On the way, the stuff falls all over the place, and you end up working twice as hard.April 11, 2013 11:12 pm at 11:12 pm in reply to: How to tell the Shadchan that the girl's too heavy #946215
Please no sermonizing about how weight is unimportant etc. Just assume we’re talking about 400 pounds. How do I break it to the Shadchan?
Many young parents do not realize what an awesome responsibility they carry.
A Jewish name is not just something to call the person. It’s the very essence of the Neshoma.
Whatever you do be sure to ask a Rav or Rebbe, who knows these things, about the name. Giving the wrong name to a child can ruin their life.
It’s preferable to name after an ancestor. If you don’t have, ask before you give whatever name strikes your fancy.
Giving a name is not a joke. I’ts very serious business. One of the Tzadikim of the last generation often said when people came to him with the name of a choleh “If only they had come to me to ask what name to give”
No need to respond to Savage. He hasn’t said anything we haven’t heard before from other disrespectful anti-semites.
I listened to Savage for years. While he can be funny and often makes good points, the man is an unbelievable megalomaniac and is very nasty to anyone who doesn’t agree with him.
Bottom line, Savage is an entertainer. You wouldn’t care what a juggler or clown says. You gotta enjoy the good and ignore the rest.
HaLeivi- I’d like to see that clip. YWN doesn’t allow links but see if you can figure out a way.
I never said its assur to sing it. Just that the mekor is from the goyim. If Klal Yisroel has been mekadaish it, fine. However shlissel challa is brought down in seforim and they say reasons for it. It certainly did not originate by the goyim.
Let sleeping wolves lie
It is unbelievable to me that a holy Minhag brought down in Seforim and practiced by Tzadikim throughout the generations comes under attack by ‘enlightened’ people and customs that truly are Christian in origin go unchallenged. I specifically have in mind the Muzhinke dance done with a broom for the last child and the common Maoz Tzur tune. (not to mention what passes for Jewish music these days)
zahavasdad- upon what do you base your comment?
T613T- Tell us what happened to your friend.
Dina D’Malchusa means that the law is the law not that you need to sit on the case.
squeak- some of the things you wrote are true (reasons 2,4,and 6)the rest are funny.
Court in today’s day and age is no place for a frum Jew.
Here’s what I do. Simply throw out the notice when it arrives.
Despite the scary warnings about fines and jail for evaders this has never occurred. They can’t prove that you got it and they don’t try.
You shouldn’t be so excited about Chametz
I’m amazed how many girls out there are not as slim as I’d like. 85% of the girls I’ve gone out with were too heavy. I gave them all a good chance but every single one was a waste of time. Obviously there are boys out there that don’t mind a bit heavy but I can’t stand it. And I’m not looking for super beauty super slim just normal and I can’t find it.
6 years in Shiduchim and still looking for the ‘thousands’ of perfect girls in Shiduchim.
See my thread on this topic:
I don’t want to jailbreak. Yes wifi router under my control. Any way to filter that?
K9 for mobile is much more limited than the desktop version. In the desktop, the entire computer is filtered not just the browser. However in the mobile, it’s just the browser and the user can download another browser unless the app store is blocked which I prefer not to do.
I’m looking to filter sites.
Any help is appreciated.
I think the two things are not related. Waiting a month, travel issues etc all that was up to you, you didn’t have to do it if you didn’t want to. However once you meet and one side does not want to continue there’s no reason to force a second date. And btw if you wanted a second date you should make sure you have a commitment before you travel.
I’m curious what you would say if it were reversed and YOU didn’t want a second date. I’ve been pushed to go a second time when I didn’t want to and no ‘miracle’ happened on the second date. Just a waste of time and energy.
‘Do I have the right to be upset?’ Silly to carry it around. Just forgive and forget
I am amazed that people still give the ipod touch to children. The devices have wifi capability and are near-impossible to filter. I thought the Asifa made that clear.
I admit that some Apple products are nice but I don’t buy into the whole hype, like buying a new device as soon as it comes out
The Mitzva to have children is one boy and one girl. Anything after that is voluntary. If you cannot afford to take care of them it’s a serious question for a competent Rav.
And thanks to the OP for bringing this up, whenever I see someone collecting because he has 13 children to marry off I wonder if he had a right to have them in the first place.
Before anyone screams what a horrible person I am, let me say that I give plenty of Tzedaka to these guys and I was not referring to a case of catastrophic illness etc, just a guy who has more kids than he can support. I think its very greedy for a person to have many children and throw the responsibilty on others
For a detailed arichus on the inyan see Vayaged Yaakov L’leil Pesach
A few points:
1) The Aruch Hashulchan brings the Minhag to say Baruch Haba at the opening of the door
2)It is well known that tzadikim throughout the generations merited to see Eliyahu HaNavi at the Seder, I personally, as a descendent of R’ Mordechai Banet, have a Kabbala that one year at the Seder when the door was opened his ten-year old daughter asked him “Who is that old Yid with the white beard?”. “Shhh” he answered, but it was too late. She passed away that year.
3) Also it’s brought from the Chiddushei HaRim that he marveled at the greatness of the Noda Be’Yehuda that even when he was old and infirm he trudged down many steps to walk Eliyahu HaNavi to the door. The Chiddushei HaRim said that to believe with perfect faith that Eliyahu comes is a higher madreiga than actually seeing him
4) It’s an unfortunate tendency of this generation to ask for a Mekor on accepted Minhagim that Tzadikim have been doing for hundreds of years. Yes, certain shtusim have crept into practice. For example the ‘Muzhinka Dance’ with the broom that originated by the Christians. But anything that we have Mesora on is in itself a Mekor
5) I did not see anything on whether Eiyahu drinks from the Kos. It would seem that if we put a Kos in his honor that he should take a sip. But I’m not certain of that
I don’t like the fact that it became a Pesach ‘Bible’.People consider it required reading. Like you can’t make Pesach without it. Is it helpful? Somewhat. Is it indispensable? Absolutely not. The Jewish nation has been making Pesach for thousands of years before it came around.
And the idea that you must buy a new one every year is ridiculous, the changes year to year are minor. if you have a question on a specific new product look it up in a bookstore or ask a friend who has it.
old man- Well said
I just want to add that it’s not only your opinion that the learning is worthless, it’s the Torah’s opinion as well.
Shulchan Aruch Yoreh Deah states clearly: A Talmid Chochom without Yiras Shomayom is K’kal Shebitzibur, like the lowest person in town.
A good thing to keep in mind.
I read thru the posts and only 1 person came close to explaining the problem. Sushi is a craze, not a normal food. Its raw and disgusting and decent people stay away from it but like all Aveiros the Yetzer Hara makes it look appealing.
That’s why its eaten with chopsticks; for the ‘experience’ not the taste.
The Jews were redeemed from Egypt because they did not change their unique names, tongue, and clothing. We have unique foods as well. See Shulchan Aruch Hilchos Shabbos about ‘Pashtida’ which is a type of Kugel and the commentaries on its significance.
To summarize: Sushi isn’t just a food, it’s a way of feeling Goyish.
P.S.maybe if we Yidden would stop idolizing the Japanese culture we wouldn’t have had problems in Japan with the 3 bochurim
Here’s my opinion: Rebbeim should show as much affection as possible. Nothing happens from a simple touch.
Everyone should stop freaking out about abuse of children, which the goyim are so busy with, due to their worship of youth.December 4, 2012 6:01 am at 6:01 am in reply to: Yasher Koach to Rabbi Horowitz of Project Yes, for protecting and not punishing #912450
America’s obsession with being anti-child abuse stems from their worship of youth. Unfortunately this is becoming more common in the Jewish world as well. Everyone should take it easy. The greatest threat to Chareidi Judaism?? Give me a break.
farrocks- You’ve gone off the deep end with the last 2 posts
I don’t think that people who only want blondes is a real thing, just something picked up from the goyim. (I don’t even like blondes) Heaviness though is definitely a legitimate issue
Popa Bar Abba- What in heavens name is wrong with you and your RY? I know you’re a senior CR member but please Rachmana Litzlan, as my grandmother used to say “nisht afilu far a joke” Besides the fact that the post didn’t make any sense