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    Has the age gap of shidduchim in the frum community significantly narrowed in the past 5-10 years?

    Are there now relatively less of an overflow of single older girls?

    Has the shidduch crisis eased?

    in reply to: Charaidim #1996004
    ujm
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    CTR: Being Chareidi has close to zero to do with externals such as dress, speech or mannerism. It’s all to do with how to implement practice of halacha and hashkafa.

    Simply, those described today as Chareidi is how the average (and most) religious observant Jews before the haskala/Reform lived their lives — just, without any special or additional terms, descriptions, moniker or group name.

    in reply to: PSA for Hikers #1996006
    ujm
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    I would think pointers about swimming would benefit a lot more of our chevra than backpacking.

    in reply to: Leave of Absence #1995895
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    Refuah Shelamo. Kesiva V’Chasima Tova.

    in reply to: Charaidim #1995872
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    And those who were given the term Chareidi are simply the people who continue to follow the Judaism and mesorah started at Har Sinai.

    in reply to: Why? #1995864
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    Gadol: That’s the Beis Din Shel Matah.

    in reply to: Charaidim #1995860
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    The word or term may be a recent invention. But the practice of Torah Judaism that it refers to is the direct contemporary mesoratic practice of Judaism that started at Har Sinai and continues uninterrupted with those this term currently refers to.

    in reply to: My Walkabout #1995861
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    Didn’t the Great Chicago Fire burn most of the city to the ground?

    in reply to: Why? #1995836
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    Syag, as to your first question, with my super user abilities. As to your second question, per the rules I’m not permitted to divulge that information.

    in reply to: Why? #1995628
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    Syag — Here are all the replies:

    Why?

    in reply to: Charaidim #1995404
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    YO: A Chareidi is simply a Jew who follows Judaism as the Torah meant it, in full without looking for compromises.

    In other words, a default practicing Jew.

    The name was given to them by outsiders; they didn’t assume it for themselves. Much like Orthodox, another term imposed by outsiders who broke off from normative Judaism default Judaism and gave a name to those who simply continued following the Torah like their ancestors.

    300 years ago those called this today would’ve simply been called Jewish.

    in reply to: Charaidim #1995367
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    Are you up to the lofty task?

    in reply to: Are you allowed to give Tzeddakah/charity to Non-Jews #1994643
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    Avi, does Ayn Rand say a wife should risk her life to save her husband?

    in reply to: Politicizing kashrus #1994604
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    CA, it’s usage is Yiddish. It isn’t utilized in Modern Hebrew. Furthermore, its roots is Amaraic, not Hebrew.

    in reply to: Jewish Comedy #1994476
    ujm
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    Was he frum?

    in reply to: Politicizing kashrus #1994471
    ujm
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    Coffee Addict: Yasher Koach

    If non-essential companies boycott parts of the State of Israel or the entire State, even, no one should care. Losing B&J’s in no loss at all.

    Unless you’re a theological zionist.

    in reply to: Politicizing kashrus #1994052
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    Avi K, I noticed that you started speaking Yiddish, as Yidden should. Ah groisa dank.

    in reply to: Anti semitism poem #1993944
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    AAQ: You can’t differentiate between Russian gentiles and Russian Jews? A large portion, likely a majority, of the Russians admitted into the State of Israel are gentiles.

    in reply to: Politicizing kashrus #1993611
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    Because Zionism comes before everything else.

    in reply to: Otzar HaCochma vs. HebrewBooks vs. Bar-Ilan #1993557
    ujm
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    Reb Eliezer: What is DBS?

    in reply to: Anti semitism poem #1993552
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    The Ran in Nedarim (among others) paskens lhalacha that dina dmalchusa does not apply in Eretz Yisroel. Since the reason for dina dmalchusa is that the local government has no obligation to admit Jews in their country, since they do so we owe them dina dmalchusa dina. On the other hand, every Jew has a Torah right to live in Eretz Yisroel. That right isn’t dependent on the current local governing authority of Eretz Yisroel. As such, the halacha is that dina dmalchusa isn’t in force in Eretz Yisroel.

    in reply to: Are you allowed to give Tzeddakah/charity to Non-Jews #1992689
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    AAQ, how many times have you ridden the NYC subway?

    in reply to: Are you allowed to give Tzeddakah/charity to Non-Jews #1992631
    ujm
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    The Gemara says מפרנסים עניי עכו”ם עם עניי ישראל – “We are obligated to support the gentile poor together with the Jewish poor” (Gittin 61a). That means because of darkei shalom, in order to keep peace, we give some charity to the goyim as well. In order to create a good impression, when you’re giving money to a Jewish poor man, and at the same time a gentile comes by for charity, you should be careful to give him something as well. It doesn’t mean that you have to give him the same. But for the sake of shalom, you give him something.

    It says עם עניי ישראל – “With the Jewish poor.” Only when they come together. When this נכרי, this gentile, comes by himself, then you’re not obligated to give him anything. He could just think that you’re a tightwad; but not that you’re impartial to Jews. However, you should always be careful, because if it will create animosity, you should make sure to give him something. You’ll have to use your own judgement.

    in reply to: Are you allowed to give Tzeddakah/charity to Non-Jews #1992618
    ujm
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    Since this site can’t publish Rav Avigdor Miller zt’l’s direct quotations, allow me please to paraphrase what Rav Miller said about this subject.

    You’re sitting in the subway and a so-called blind man comes into the car tapping with his stick, and he’s peeking through his small glasses, looking for customers. He’s walking around and nobody is doing anything. So when he passes by, you just take out a penny – not a nickel, because this fellow is not worth a nickel – and you take that penny and drop it into his tin can. Don’t let anyone see that it’s only a penny, and you drop it into his tin cup with the most resounding bang that you can. And then lean back virtuously to enjoy the admiring gazes of your fellow passengers. Look, you have to do something, so you make it worth it.

    When you’re waiting on line at the post office, and this gentile woman comes by. She’s knocking her pushka for veterans or cancer or some other gentile cause, so it’s good to always have a penny ready. Drop in a penny and she’ll give you a big thank you. And you’ve done what is required of you.

    in reply to: Going to the left #1992527
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    Many, and probably most, people with Asperger’s live normal lives with no one knowing the person has Asperger’s (unless told for some reason.) No different, in essence, than most people with diabetes. No one has to know. And the person lives a life like everyone else. With certain necessary health accommodations, of course. But no need to put your medicine containers, or diagnosis, on your workplace or Yeshiva desk.

    in reply to: Are you allowed to give Tzeddakah/charity to Non-Jews #1992497
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    “No”

    Moderators, so why was his Torah deleted by the mods?

    His Torah wasn’t deleted, your excerpts were. In a past life the request was made by family

    in reply to: Are you allowed to give Tzeddakah/charity to Non-Jews #1992331
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    Do the moderators consider the Torah as explained by HaRav Avigdor Miller zt’l to be unacceptable?

    No

    in reply to: Going to the left #1992207
    ujm
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    People with Asperger’s Syndrome are on the autism spectrum yet can and frequently do fully function as normal, healthy, human beings with most people never aware they’re on the spectrum. And this point is true in the secular world, as well.

    in reply to: Are you allowed to give Tzeddakah/charity to Non-Jews #1991809
    ujm
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    Giving money to a nochri is not considered to be tzedaka.

    in reply to: High Rise vs. Low Rise Residences #1990830
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    There’s a limit how high frum families will purchase an apartment on. Too high a floor becomes a problem on Shabbos.

    in reply to: Funny stories while traveling #1990827
    ujm
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    Eight year olds definitely go and use it.

    in reply to: Anti semitism poem #1990591
    ujm
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    And not have a fancy mansion or ostentatious displays of wealth.

    in reply to: Judgemental people #1990209
    ujm
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    How does eating treif on Yom Kippur help you achieve a stronger bond with your creator?

    in reply to: Anyone know anything about SOUTH AFRICA #1990190
    ujm
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    Post-apartheid the country has gone steeply downhill.

    in reply to: Conservative sounds better for people with ADHD #1990105
    ujm
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    Can’t they have specialized minyanim at the dayhab?

    in reply to: cost of living #1990042
    ujm
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    Syag, you restated Reb Eliezer’s point in a much wordier way.

    in reply to: cost of living #1990026
    ujm
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    Reb Eliezer hit the nail on the head. Bingo.

    in reply to: cost of living #1990015
    ujm
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    CA, how much are *you* paid? I’ll bet it isn’t enough to explain most of the cost differential between kosher and treif. 100k is definitely an extreme on the high side.

    akuperma: What you wrote is true for men/boys but not for women/girls.

    in reply to: Conservative sounds better for people with ADHD #1990008
    ujm
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    Yes, but you scream the ENTIRE davening out loud.

    in reply to: cost of living #1989989
    ujm
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    I know the cost of a mashgiach and hechsher. That doesn’t explain the cost differential between kosher and treif.

    in reply to: Conservative sounds better for people with ADHD #1989986
    ujm
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    You need to go to a Karlin-Stolin minyan. Issue resolved.

    in reply to: cost of living #1989972
    ujm
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    The cost of the masgiach/hechsher is NOT the reason for most of the extra cost of kosher versus treif.

    in reply to: cost of living #1989900
    ujm
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    Same reason that kosher food costs more than trief food.

    in reply to: Anyone know anything about SOUTH AFRICA #1989899
    ujm
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    Downhill since the ANC took over.

    in reply to: Grey or Blue Kapotas #1989569
    ujm
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    Get a Rebbishe bekishe, instead. They come in all kinds of colors.

    in reply to: Grey or Blue Kapotas #1989470
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    They started making stylish kapotas??

    in reply to: Lakewood asifa #1989400
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    The one where they warned against it due to the threat against Yiddishkeit from the Israeli government?

    in reply to: Otzar HaCochma vs. HebrewBooks vs. Bar-Ilan #1988773
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    Sholom: If Otzar Hachochma has multiple editions, with one of them (“Bnei Torah”) lacking the works you’re interested in, then simply get their more inclusive edition that has the books you’re interested in. I’m not following why this should be an issue for you.

    in reply to: growing up #1988774
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    Growing up I used to sit in a high chair with a pacifier after finishing my baby food.

    in reply to: Otzar HaCochma vs. HebrewBooks vs. Bar-Ilan #1988553
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    Sholom: Multiple commentators above have mentioned that Otzar Hachochma has many tens of thousands of Seforim that are missing in Bar Ilan and in Sefaria. So I have no idea what you’re talking about regarding censorship. Otzar Hachochma has far far more that are completely missing in the others.

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