A Heimishe Mom
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December 19, 2012 2:57 pm at 2:57 pm in reply to: Anyone here cook with a grill pan, how on earth do you clean it? #914131
Do you mean an appliance like the George Forman? That beats me. Unless you mean a pan that goes on the stove. That you can soak in the sink and wash like any other pot or pan. If it has non-stick finish you can’t use brillo. A plastic brillo or brush or a rough sponge will work. If it does not have a non-stick coating, you can try brillo but it might still scratch the pan, but you can spray Dawn Power Dossolver on it. Works like a charm on anything greasy.November 29, 2012 3:32 pm at 3:32 pm in reply to: Cheapest way from JFK to Newark #909869
public transit will probably take close to two hours and cost almost the same $25. zdad left out the $2.25 for the subway. Check out mta.info for more specific info.
I prefer gmail as an email server over other servers because the ads are not graphic and very easy to miss.
Chat of any sort is a big no-no in my house. Anyone who gets your email address can open a chat session with you and can potentially be very dangerous. Email can be a little more controlled. Incoming emails can also be set to automatically copy to someone else’s email account for monitoring.March 22, 2012 6:21 pm at 6:21 pm in reply to: Home Birth #862911
Anyone that I know personally who had home births were not done by choice and would not repeat!
I feel that it is a sakana, for both mother and baby. Hospitals have gottne more “homey” so as to be more comfortable as well as including birthing centers that are even less “medical” seeming, but with doctors only a step away.March 22, 2012 6:19 pm at 6:19 pm in reply to: Biting Fingernails, Cutting nails, pregnant women Halachot #1035050
Cut nails should be disposed of. Some say wrapped in the garbage is fine, others say they should be flushed.
As to a pregnant woman having a miscarriage if she steps on a cut nail is a “superstition” of sorts. Similar to stunting the growth of a child one steps over.
Most do hold that one should wash nitilas yadaim after cutting your nails.March 22, 2012 6:16 pm at 6:16 pm in reply to: Pollard in light of Missouri v. Frye, 10-444 and Lafler v. Cooper, 10-209 #861745
I beleive that the deal that Pollard agreed to was more like guilty for 10 years. The judge did not take the recommended sentence, just the guilty part and then slammed him with life. Judges are not required to accept a plea agreement. It is a recommendation by the prosecutor.March 20, 2012 4:21 pm at 4:21 pm in reply to: Why I'm never giving blood again. By popa. #1157798
Well, I beg pardon for not taking this as a joke. You certainly did not indicate as such when you posted. And one never knows what one may post here!
If you donate as bein adam l’makom that is a level above bein adam l’chaveiro.
Keep giving. Hatzlocha Rabbah.March 20, 2012 1:35 pm at 1:35 pm in reply to: Why I'm never giving blood again. By popa. #1157776
Popa: To be blunt, your post disgusts me. Completely and totally. As a human being as much as as a frum yid. How can you ever ever talk like that? It is rishus and selfishness through and through.
It doesn’t even hold a candle to birth or kindey stones or anything else. Its a pin prick. Thats it. Like any blood test. It just takes a little longer is all. There are absolutely no side effects (you might feel a little faint or weak if you haven’t eaten). I have donated twice. Once through a bikur cholim, once through NY Blood Bank (it was convenient). I wish I had more opportunites as a healthy adult can donate every 4-6 months.
There are too many people who are not allowed to give blood for healthy people to shrug off this easy, lifesaving, free (for you) donation.
As to personal gain – who cares!! You are helping a fellow human being. and Panni55: No, I do not believe there are any health benefits from donating (blood letting as a practice was stopped way back when). Iron is good for you!
PBA: I really hope you rethink about this.March 14, 2012 5:09 pm at 5:09 pm in reply to: Name "Batsheva" for Seventh Child #859654
Gabie: in Hebrew everyone does spell Ben/Bat Tzion as two words. In English, however, its one word, and Bat rather than Bas – even by Ashkenazim. As a mentioned, convention does play a very big role here. For some reason Batsheva is just not usually split. (I DID look into it so I am not talking out of my head.)March 14, 2012 3:45 pm at 3:45 pm in reply to: Name "Batsheva" for Seventh Child #859651
Using Bat/Bas Sheva (or Elisheva) for a 7th girl or 7th child who is a girl is purely a cutesy thing to do. As is naming your first Rishona (and yes, I do know a Rishona who is the first).
As to the one word vs two words: It technically, as per proper dikduk and usage in Navi, should be either two words or one hyphenated word. However, common convention spells it as one word.
As to the Bat vs Bas – as far as dikduk, not sure when it is, but it might actually be Bat in certain scenarios. But in general, most Ashkinazim resort to the Bat for convention’s sake.March 5, 2012 5:57 pm at 5:57 pm in reply to: giving challah in mishloach manos??? #857745
From personal experience, detail label on the challah is a must (yoshon, fleshig oven, etc.). But once I found out that there are many people who throw away all home baked goods – even carefully labeled from people they know and eat from generally, I stopped bothering. Some years I will buy, wrap, and label with bakery name.
Potato kugel and cholent definitely go over better with recipients.
Agree that such foods are the ideal Mishloach Manos.February 28, 2012 7:59 pm at 7:59 pm in reply to: Yeshiva's reading rules #858439
I agree that there has to be more to the story. IMO, either use the book, or don’t. Blacking out words and phrases or tearing out whole pages is just plain crazy. I have seen school novels read like a redacted military report!
I was at a lecture man years ago given by a well-known mechanech. His wife was in the audience as well. The topic was shalom bayis. And he “Dear”ed his wife quite vocally and ademantly.February 28, 2012 6:48 am at 6:48 am in reply to: Cellphones in Shul #856430
I agree with more!
Turn it off before you go in and leave it off until after you leave!
And this applies to levayas, weddings, shiurim etc.February 28, 2012 4:12 am at 4:12 am in reply to: bas mitzvah present #1088940
ask her mother. its also about budget. a nice siddur with her name, a piece of silver jewelry (or a gift certificate). if a camera is in your budget you can also get 16″ tri-colored pearl necklace. (bas mitzvah #2 was this year)February 28, 2012 2:34 am at 2:34 am in reply to: Shushan, New york #856587
Shushan, NY is near Vermont? I though it was on Long Island? The post office might call it Great Neck but we know better!February 28, 2012 12:34 am at 12:34 am in reply to: Gefilta Fish Loaf Help #1106365
I cook for only 1 hour on a simmer. I put the fish into boiling water and cover the pot. Sometimes I also have that it sticks to the paper and sometimes not. Same brand, same batch. No rhyme or reason.February 27, 2012 8:46 pm at 8:46 pm in reply to: OB-GYN Recommendations? #854262
Sorry. Can’t help you.
Try posting on imamotherFebruary 27, 2012 8:39 pm at 8:39 pm in reply to: Mechitza at the Siyum HaShas #854437
Feif – you are right. If they put the women in the balcony that would be mechitza enough. My guess is that the organizers thought of that one as well. You are also right that they did without at past siyumim. It doesn’t make them wrong, but I definitely see where they would consider the mechitza more correct. (And I am pretty liberal when it comes to the need for a mechitza in general.)February 27, 2012 7:57 pm at 7:57 pm in reply to: murder mysteries #857670
Most books in the library today, even the children’s section, are NOT too clean. Today’s authors manage to stick boy-girls stuff into EVERYTHING not to mention “alternative” lifestyles. There is a kosher book list that is put together by mechanchim and teachers. You can try to google for it, I really don’t know how to get it. Books only get on the list once the censors have read it. I believe that they are also “graded” to some extent. People have different levels of “acceptable.” Another good source is your children’s school library – if the have one – or their teachers.February 27, 2012 7:25 pm at 7:25 pm in reply to: OB-GYN Recommendations? #854258
Where are you?February 27, 2012 7:21 pm at 7:21 pm in reply to: murder mysteries #857668
Nancy has a boyfriend (Ned) and one of the Hardy Boys also has a girlfriend I beleive. But if you stick with the origianl sereis and not the newer “case files” series you should be pretty ok. If you can stomach them, perhaps read them first.
The Bobbsie Twins are kids so those should also be good – but I don’t think they involve murder much.
Of course Sherlock Holmes is the quitessential detective.February 27, 2012 7:14 pm at 7:14 pm in reply to: Mechitza at the Siyum HaShas #854428
As to the cost, I don’t know what it takes to put a sturdy, safe divider on an incline and steps in a space that size.
As to the need for it, although there many times when we do get carried away with mechitzos where not needed, remember, they will be davening maariv. There is no shaila about the need for a mechitza in a makom tefila of any size, venue or number of tefillos it will be used for.February 9, 2012 3:24 pm at 3:24 pm in reply to: Random Questions #850445
🙂 like some of those answers (especially popa)
as to the Uncle Sam question the story I heard on “The rest of the story” as a kid: an official (forget which) was touring a factory that was manufacturing stuff for the gov’t. they were labeled U.S. when asked what that stands for a lowly worker said Uncle Sam.
I don’t think it should. I think it should be instituted in more yeshivos!
And I heard that someone was suggesting that the boys shouldn’t be allowed into Lakewood older than 22 so that they start dating youger to close the age gap. That is definitely more stupid than doing away with the freezer! (I believ that girls should be encouraged to start dating later, not that the boys should start earlier.)
While my moniker may or may not say anything about my taste in make-up (minimal), it can be used to cover imperfections and highlight stronger features, but it should not looked “caked”. Perhaps this girl needs a lesson or two in how to apply it properly to cover that which needs to, but at the same time look bataamt. Such a suggestion needs to come from a parent, sibling, or friend. An anonymous gift certificate left on her keyboard might work as well (if noone else either knows about it), but leave her feeling very self-conscious in the office.February 8, 2012 5:37 pm at 5:37 pm in reply to: Dweck = Kohen #850249
The first person to use that name happened to be Kohein? There are many names out there that are “synonynous” with kehuna that aren’t Cohen or some version thereof. The most famous one I can think of is Rapaport (sp?) though not ALL Rapaports are kohanim, it is a famously associated with kehuna. (I don’t know why – does anyone here know?)February 8, 2012 5:30 pm at 5:30 pm in reply to: Health insurance for large families with decent income #850567
bp27: I may be wrong, but I was under the impression that your expenses need to exceed 7.5% of income, but then you can claim the full amount. It is clearly spelled out on irs.gov which way it is. What is included is also clearly spelled out.February 8, 2012 4:10 pm at 4:10 pm in reply to: Overweight children #850143
I would NOT put kids into O.A. or on any formal diet plan, especially not one that involves meetings or weigh ins. They don’t work with kids. The best solution is to change your entire family’s eating habits from top down. Restock the snack cabinet with better choices and expect that they will probably trade it for junk in school, but if you feed them better meals, and model proper snacking, eating and excercise habits it should rub off on them and help them out in the long run.February 8, 2012 4:07 pm at 4:07 pm in reply to: Kiddush Shabbos Morning on bronf'n #858881
As far as I know, it is a Chassidishe minhag, and the litvish will not do it. Sources, I don’t know. But according to the litvish you need a reviis of whatever it is. I never came across anyone willing to make kiddush on a reviis of whiskey but something tells me that wouldn’t fly for a litvak. As for havdalah, even the litvish are more lenient – beer is perfectly acceptable for that (though again, I have never seen anyone make havdalah on any amount of whiskey).February 8, 2012 3:02 pm at 3:02 pm in reply to: Health insurance for large families with decent income #850563
I have B”H always had employer group health insurance so I can’t vouch for the CHP numbers offered be realisrali, but as to the tax deducatbility of every copay, prescription, dental, orthodontia etc I CAN vouch. If your premiums are out of pocket (meaning not deducted from a paycheck) then add that in as well. If the total exceeds 7.5% of income, then the entire amount is deductable.
Another option is, if you write the pemiums off as a business expense somehow (ask your accountant how that option works) you can save that way as well.February 7, 2012 3:37 pm at 3:37 pm in reply to: Ami magazine article on Mormons baptizing Jews #850742
I still read it. It does have an unusual leaning, but I rarely if ever read the editorial/op ed pieces.
I read the article in quesiton. While the concept is distrubing, and that Romney had obviously participated in it, it really has no bearing on anyone they do it to. As normal as I am sure many Mormons are, this is just one more “weird” thing about them. And it doesn’t even seem to be a discontinued or non-mainstream practice either, which makes it even harder to digest.February 7, 2012 2:50 pm at 2:50 pm in reply to: Is it mutar to be an organ donor? #853581
The only Rabbanim that I have seem mattir it are considered “fringe” Rabbanim. As I understand it, there are multiple issues – when they take it (definition of death), as well as the need to bury all body parts. Harvesting parts that can be lived without (cornea, liver, as someone else said) would also kill the patient as one in such a condition could not survive the operation. Once dead you can’t take anything. I don’t think there is a difference wether the parts are used for people or for research – in fact, research can save 100s or 1000s of lives, not just one. There are many places where you can donate while alive to people and for research – blood, half liver, one kidney, and for research you can even donate skin!January 18, 2012 8:52 pm at 8:52 pm in reply to: Liquid medicine #846350
popa: not true. your ears might pop, but you CAN swallow. then unplug your nose and swallow again. clear ears.January 18, 2012 7:23 pm at 7:23 pm in reply to: Liquid medicine #846347
cold definitely tastes much less than room temp. also, age of your child is a huge factor here. toddler – lay them on their back across you lap, pinch mouth open squeeze in and quickly follow with blowing in after it. Learnt it in a peds er. Works everytime. For an older child have a forbidden treat on hand – piece of chocolate, cup of soda, etc. to be given after the meds.
Good luck and refuah shelaimah! A kid would have to be at least 8 or 9 for the “its good for you” argument to carry any weight.January 18, 2012 7:18 pm at 7:18 pm in reply to: Diet Pills From Brazil Being Sold In Brooklyn #942341
No one is saying you are crazy. Anyone who has battled with their weight cna tell you that it can be crazy hard and so very tempting to turn to pills. They are not the way to go. Time and again they have been proven not only ineffective and mislabeled, but downright dangerous.January 18, 2012 5:23 pm at 5:23 pm in reply to: Diet Pills From Brazil Being Sold In Brooklyn #942336
I have to agree with popa. Your $250 will be wiser, and more safely spent on a nutritionist/healthy foods and gym membership/personal trainer. Magic wieght loss is always tempting but it IS very dangerous. Please don’t be another statistic and stop taking them!!January 16, 2012 5:09 pm at 5:09 pm in reply to: seuda shlishis after shabbos? #844330
As long as the meal began before shkia then it is the third meal on Shabbos.January 16, 2012 4:09 pm at 4:09 pm in reply to: What's the argument against having a Madina? #852387
Tp stick my two-cents in here and difuse some of the mudslinging:
We can all agree that establishing the Medinah had its halachic issues in the first place. I don’t know enough of the political wrangling to judge, but “by force” can definitely NOT be ruled out – the Irgun and Haganah certainly gave the British a violent run for their money. Once that was done, we can say that defense of Israel can, and should, be construed as defense of the human beings inhabiting the land. True Zionism takes a hit by the fact that Theodore Herzl, father of modern Zionism, was willing to take land elsewhere to establish a “Jewish Homeland” and it did not have to be in Eretz Hakedosha. (FYI Eilat and Gaza ware NOT part of Eretz HaKedosha, while parts of Syria ARE!)
Supporting, or joining, the government of a secular medinah that is in control of the Eretz HaKedosha falls into the same realm as supporting any government under which we live peaceably, inlcuding the USA, Canada, etc. It is just sad that Jews have left Judaism out of the equation when establishing a purpotedly Jewish country.January 11, 2012 4:07 pm at 4:07 pm in reply to: would this be a Chillul Hashem #842852
Nechomah: If you did not declare it and pay import taxes, they did not buy it legitamately.January 11, 2012 4:05 pm at 4:05 pm in reply to: Haagen Daze declared TRAIF in Israel #842705
I don’t get involved in Israeli politics, but unfortunately the “treif” designation based on non-food related issues is more prevalent there than it is here. (Pepsi anyone?) But as far as halacha goes, the chalav stam category applies only in the USA. Israeli products do need to be “colov Yisroel.” If I can extrapolate for the Yoshon issue – American products that are made chodosh can NOT be sold/consumed in Eretz Yisroel where the halachos of Yoshon are unquestionably D’Oraisa (Sam Adams beer sold in E”Y is Yoshon!). Does the same apply for chalav Yisroel? If it does, then Hagan-Daaz should not be sold in E”Y either.January 11, 2012 4:00 pm at 4:00 pm in reply to: Out of town Shiduchim #842823
Aside from the short-term complications and added expense of flying to date and IY”H make a wedding, the constant who goes where for yom tov, and who gets to see the couple/grandchildren more can cause a LOT of friction in a family. I have seen it time and again.
A more “real” factor is that the mindset of an “out of towner” is very different from a New Yorker and there are many who can’t handle the cultural differences. And anyone who tries to deny that these differences exist is oblivious.
Unfortunately it seems that many folks here are a bit deluded about what being a Mashgiach in a food establishment entails. And a pizza shop is just as much liable for trouble. A Mashgiach must check every order and delivery as it comes into the store to make sure that a) only accepted items are ordered and that b) only those items are delivered. In a fleishig shop the meat needs to be checked, but cheese in a milchig place needs to be watched as well. Bugs, eggs, ovens, and employee use of equipment are only some of the jobs that they do.
The question of who pays the mashgiach is a problem of “eidus” in terms of shoichad which can pose a conflict of interest. If you have a question about a particulat hechsher or establishment, call the main office of that hechsher. Any skirting the of issue will indicate a problem.
The standards of the orginization you are working for will dictate the necessary qualifications. But I do find it odd when a hashgacha allows the owner to be his own mashgiach.January 4, 2012 6:42 pm at 6:42 pm in reply to: Eat the morning of a Fast day #931474
Personally, I would be more hungry at 10 then I would be if I hadn’t eaten at all. Besides, I would rather sleep!January 4, 2012 4:58 pm at 4:58 pm in reply to: Ruth vs. Esther #841535
ok, sof. you got me there. I have no idea to which incident you are referring to by Rus (guess I should have paid better attention in class!).January 4, 2012 4:23 pm at 4:23 pm in reply to: Ruth vs. Esther #841532
miritchka: wife and GRANDmother. thats a bit of a stretch. its also circumstantial. You gotta be able to come up with something better than that!
(typing can come off wrong – I mean to be light and conversational, not confrontational or patronizing.)January 4, 2012 4:18 pm at 4:18 pm in reply to: Sun and The Moon..Forbiden Image? #841696
koillel101: That is why there are many gedoilom who did not allow themselves to be photographed or drawn. They DID consider it a problem!
Also, many or makpid to damage any dolls their kids might have (cut off an ear, or the nose) so that it shouldn’t be a tzelem.
You don’t need a college degree to get a paralegal certificate. If you enjoy legal work but dont want the difficulty, expense, and commitment of law school followed by crazy lawyer hours you would like it. I believe Brooklyn College or Brooklyn Law offers a course. Call to find out expense and length of training (I think its 15 months but I could be wrong). If you aren’t even sure if its for you, you can get a secretary job in a law office to get the feel of what kind of work it would be.January 4, 2012 3:46 pm at 3:46 pm in reply to: Ruth vs. Esther #841527
School assignment Nothing? 🙂
They are both strong, steadfast women, but so are all women in tanach. They are both also both know for their tzniyus. To contrast – Ruth was a giyores so her strength was a personal choice as opposed to ingrained in her upbringing. Esther was also placed in a position where she had to breach her concept of tzinyus and apporach the king while Ruth was never put into the spotlight like that.January 4, 2012 3:19 pm at 3:19 pm in reply to: Appreciation worth more than $$$$$ ?? #841927
You are lucky if its a choice! In the real world, most people need the money, so they would stick it out. When it gets to the point of “hazardous to your health” then the choice isnt really there anymore either. I know a family that lived on $200 a month at one point because the father was getting ill from the torture and had to quit.