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  • in reply to: Child Victims Act now in effect in NYS #1778733

    anonymous Jew
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    Philosopher, you keep assuming that all the cases being brought under the CVA will be 50 year old cases in which a victim just woke up.
    It’s just not so. The 38 victims who filed yesterday had all done so previously, but had their cases thrown out because the statute of limitations had already passed. The victims who filed against Rockefeller University had also previously filed. The old laws maximum ages of 21 and 23 was in many cases to soon before victims were emotionally ready to file.

    in reply to: Child Victims Act now in effect in NYS #1778530

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    Well, the first shoe has dropped. I had posited three categories where lawsuits were likely to come from. Yesterday 38 victims ( from category A – admission of guilt made after statute of limitations had expired ) filed lawsuits.
    Joseph, if only one case in 25 years is too many, why did the Brooklyn institution and the summer camp protect that molester for 25 years?

    in reply to: Child Victims Act now in effect in NYS #1777748

    anonymous Jew
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    I left out the year of the meeting . It was 2010

    in reply to: Child Victims Act now in effect in NYS #1777744

    anonymous Jew
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    People here are assuming that decades old cases will come out of the woodwork , with no proof, and file cases. While this will probably happen, they are ignoring the more probable cases:
    A. Admissions of guilt made after statute of limitations had expired. Two examples: edited. Now, victims can file suit.
    B. Victims who had previously filed suit with credible documentation but whose cases where dismissed because of statute of limitations.
    C. Victims who are under 30 years old but the time to file had passed.

    I have 2 questions to ask of the posters who maintain that there were few cases of molestation in the frum community:
    1. If there were so few cases, why was Agudah”s
    longstanding opposition based upon yeshivas
    being devastated by a flood of cases
    2. Why was a handbook outlining the dangers of child abuse , and how to recognize and deal with it, given to 36 camp directors at an April 29 meeting in Flatbush? Written in Yiddish and English, it was prepared by the Moetzes Gedolei Hatorah of Agudath Israel. The camps represented were a who’s who of frum camps.

    in reply to: Child Victims Act now in effect in NYS #1777588

    anonymous Jew
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    I did some additional reading and it appears lawsuits can be brought against the actual abuser AND the institution/individuals who enabled them. The individuals do not have to be alive. The articles mentioned that one of the goals is to publicize the identity of abusers, even if they can’t obtain financial compensation. In California, approximately 300 previously unknown abusers were identified.
    BTW, alluding to what I said earlier, my older sister can’t sue because she can’t prove it. Everyone who she told is now dead ( I was an infant and didn’t find out until many years later ) as are the abuser and the enablers

    in reply to: Child Victims Act now in effect in NYS #1777509

    anonymous Jew
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    Tlik, you’ve constructed a strawman, claiming that the law allows anyone to stroll into court, offer zero proof and collect a check. Can you cite the section that permits this? My understanding is that proof is still required, the change being the statute of limitations.

    in reply to: Child Victims Act now in effect in NYS #1775472

    anonymous Jew
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    Joseph, please stop. Bais Dins and yeshivas have ignored the problem for decades. That alone should be enough grounds to pursue justice in secular courts.
    In October 2016 a prominent Brooklyn yeshiva agreed to pay a $2.1 million settlement for the sexual molestation of two boys. The molester had been allowed to teach for over 25 years, despite decades of allegations.

    So tell me Joseph, would a bais din have accomplished or resolved anything?

    in reply to: Child Victims Act now in effect in NYS #1775232

    anonymous Jew
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    ABBA, i agree that, as I mentioned above, lawyers are probably going to go after deep pocketed institutions ( the Catholic Church, Boy Scouts ) . When it comes to yeshivas,all they have to do is find wealthy board members and donors who would have the resources. Keep in mind that the National Agudah could be a target , primarily because of its summer camp.
    From this morning’s paper, money does not appear to be everyone’s motivation. Some of the people suing simply want the organization/school/religious body to finally come clean and admit what they allowed to happen.

    in reply to: Child Victims Act now in effect in NYS #1775227

    anonymous Jew
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    Syag, the only reason I use that example is point out to Joseph that there are extenuating circumstances that can cause religious people to resort to civil court

    in reply to: Child Victims Act now in effect in NYS #1775066

    anonymous Jew
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    Philosopher, I didn’t say you said it, I just compared your undocumented assertion that many were false to the claims made in the CR in past years that all were false.
    false. How do you know that many were unfairly imprisoned? Why does the new age limit to file bother you so much? Since these cases tend to taken on a contingency basis, my guess is a lawyer won’t accept a case he knows they can’t win. As to your other comment regarding age, my older sister was molested 68 years ago and her statute of limitations ran out in 1963. Age didn’t just wake up; my parents didn’t believe her and the Rosh Yeshiva wouldn’t act on it. As a result she stopped being religious.
    Lake hill, the victims who are no longer frum are not going to go to bais din. Bais Dins aren’t exactly paragons of judicial virtue. A reason why the Satmer brothers have been in civil court is because ( surprise!!) each brothers bais din said they were right.

    in reply to: Child Victims Act now in effect in NYS #1774976

    anonymous Jew
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    Joseph, I can’t imagine a victim getting a fair hearing in a bais din. Just like the Satmer brothers who have been b.c battling it out in civil court for years, victims have no recourse other than secular courts

    in reply to: Child Victims Act now in effect in NYS #1774923

    anonymous Jew
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    Philosopher, you unfortunately sound like the people who , in the Coffee Room ) maintained that all the accusations were false. As Syag keeps pointing out, the facts will speak for themselves. Many people couldn’t/didn’t come forward earlier because the statute of limitations ran out at age 21 , which was the point of this law.
    Even if the yeshivas win all lawsuits filed against them ( and there will be lawsuits ) the legal bills will be crippling.

    in reply to: Should Wedding gowns for the extended family be discontinued? #1774737

    anonymous Jew
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    Philosopher, I hope no one who feels obligated to spend big bucks on one time gowns turns around and pleads poverty and requests yeshiva tuition reductions.

    in reply to: Gourmet Glatt moving to Baltimore #1774639

    anonymous Jew
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    Being crowded doesn’t necessarily mean busiest, nor does gross sales. My local Costco doesn’t appear to be busy until you notice that their cashiering process is very efficient and lines are almost never long . KMR’s prices are low, GG is high, so higher gross sales at GG wouldn’t mean they’re busier. You’d need to know things like volume sold, and number of transactions.

    in reply to: Should Wedding gowns for the extended family be discontinued? #1774647

    anonymous Jew
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    I think people should mind their own business and stop telling others what to do ( assuming what they’re doing is not in violation of halacha)


    anonymous Jew
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    Zahavasdad, the change in the shtetl allowing Jews to leave for the big cities had to happen first. You couldn’t stay in the shtetl if you were no longer frum


    anonymous Jew
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    I hate to be the spoilsport but some of these alte heim beliefs don’t hold up under closer examination. The “world that we lost” was already being lost, well before the Holocaust, despite the best efforts of the Gedolim.
    Assimilation had been thwarted in Eastern Europe because government laws kept Jews essentially poor and confined to the shtetl, where they were more easily influenced by the Gedolim to stay frum.
    However, by the end of the 1800’s, more and more shtetl youth, no longer banned by government, were leaving for the big cities, attracted by the isms ( socialism, anarchism, communism, Zionism ) . Assimilation was growing .The communist party and other radical groups were full of Jews who grew up in frum homes. If the Holocaust had not occurred, Eastern European Jewry was well on it’s way to looking like Western Europe. There are many family bare headed on line depicting the generational change going on ( fathers with long beards and mothers with hats; sons who are cleanshaven and bareheaded )

    in reply to: Gourmet Glatt moving to Baltimore #1772135

    anonymous Jew
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    Ktorah, Sanders likened Baltimore to a third world country, it’s Mayor said she could smell the rats and Cummings himself called it drug infested. Trumps comments did not mention race or ethnicity.

    in reply to: Gourmet Glatt moving to Baltimore #1771979

    anonymous Jew
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    Katanhatorah, GG affordable? You’ve got to be kidding! My wife will only buy there what is not available in regular supermarkets or Costco. Did you get this info from MSNBC or CNN?

    in reply to: 0% unemployment rate- good or bad? #1771852

    anonymous Jew
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    Akuperma , you’ve bought the media kool-ade
    Trump is not anti-immigrant, he is against Illegal immigration. He’s very much in favor of merit based immigration, people who have skills to offer

    in reply to: 0% unemployment rate- good or bad? #1771663

    anonymous Jew
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    A 0% can be bad and 10% can be good.

    The unemployment rate simply is a measure of people seeking employment. If there are 3,000,000 without jobs but are no longer looking for work, the unemployment rate would be zero, and not good.
    If the economy picked up, jobs were being created and all 3,000,000 went back into the job market, the rate would be higher, but that be good

    in reply to: Gourmet Glatt moving to Baltimore #1770585

    anonymous Jew
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    The headline to this thread is what is misleading. They are not moving to Baltimore, it would be opening a branch

    in reply to: Minyan in New Hamspire #1768826

    anonymous Jew
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    The Arlington has a shul on the premises and is kosher

    in reply to: Admission Cards #1767518

    anonymous Jew
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    Joseph, this time you’ve really gone off the rails. Public schools are supported by tax dollars of ALL people, whether they have children in school or not. Yeshivas are supported only by parents of the students. Big difference. Public schools are legally required to accept all students, yeshivas are not.

    in reply to: Can a frum Jew go on birthright? #1764903

    anonymous Jew
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    What is “exacturation”?


    anonymous Jew
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    To mod 29: thanks for reminding me


    anonymous Jew
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    Find a way to make your point without calling people names – 29
    Remind me again of how many Democrats, either in Congress or running for President, stepped forward to
    A. Condemn the squad for their numerous
    antisemitic tweets
    B. Condemn Sen Booker for saying he had no
    problem meeting with Farrakhan
    C. Condemn ongoing Hamas rocket attacks
    D. Condemn AOC ( and her Chief of Staff ) for
    Implying that moderate Democrats and
    speaker Pelosi are racists?


    anonymous Jew
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    Katanhatorah and CTLIBERAL,,
    I see that you have not been able to find treatment for Trump Derangement Syndrome. Let me point out a few facts:
    A. President Obama was responsible for an average
    of 475,000 deportations during his presidency.
    B. President Trump is averaging 250,000
    C. Under Obama, the annual number of
    illegal immigrants who died while crossing
    the border ranged from 252-471
    D. Under Trump the numbers are 298 (2017)
    and 283 ( 2018 )
    E. Every time the media tries to vilify Trump for
    separating kids , they invariably show
    pictures taken while Obama was in office.
    F. Since January the Democrats refused to
    pass a humanitarian aid bill by first denying
    there was a crisis, then calling it a
    manufactured crisis and finally, blamed
    Trump for their current condition.

    So, did you two ever compare Obama to Hitler?
    Call him Herr Obama? I doubt it.


    anonymous Jew
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    Yitzyk, and saying that I’m an ignorant halachic dening poster is not lashon harah?


    anonymous Jew
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    Joseph, by definition, a merchant who sells defective,misrepresented and misidentified merchandise and fails to make good on it is not a shomer Torah u’mitzvos.

    in reply to: Visiting day traffic #1753695

    anonymous Jew
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    Katan, do you understand English? The OP clearly stated that people should keep their opinions re visiting day to themselves

    in reply to: learning from an artscroll #1753205

    anonymous Jew
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    If the idea was to make it a struggle to learn, the gemorah would have been written in Hebrew, not Aramaic. Aramaic was the everyday spoken language of the people, as is English in the US

    in reply to: Returning To The Derech #1750401

    anonymous Jew
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    There was a story in the 5 Towns Jewish Times by Rabbi Hoffman that dealt with the subject of the outwardly frum. Yanky was considered a great catch. Twelve years in the best local yeshiva followed by two years of learning in one of the top Israeli yeshiva’s. So, his wife was shocked when, by accident, she discovered that he was spending each morning having breakfast at a non kosher coffee shop, not at minyan. His wife pleaded with Rabbi Hoffman to find out why. Yanky told the Rabbi that he had no feelings for yiddiskeit. Yes , he had learned for 14 years but his studies had focused virtually exclusively on the Gemara. He never had any classes that dealt with emunah, davening, or how to relate to Hashem unless it was tangenital to a sugya he was learning. It left him indifferent to being religious. So, on Friday night he would go to shul with his sons, come home, make kiddush, sing zmiros and, after his wife and kids were asleep, go to the basement and watch basketball games on his laptop. He didn’t see it as a contradiction and added he wasn’t alone among his friends who felt that way.

    in reply to: Kosher Restaurant Review Lashon Harah #1748884

    anonymous Jew
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    Grey matter, just the opposite . We have to be consistent. If restaurant reviews are LH then so are community reviews or any other review ( contractors, seminaries etc )

    in reply to: Kosher Restaurant Review Lashon Harah #1747935

    anonymous Jew
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    And from the other side, how is talking about Brooklyn’s dirty streets different than a restaurant’s dirty floors?

    in reply to: Information about Passaic #1747927

    anonymous Jew
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    Isn’t this topic L’H? What is the difference between a restaurant review and a community review? It’s just an anonymous, non halachic, opinion of a community

    in reply to: Kosher Restaurant Review Lashon Harah #1747928

    anonymous Jew
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    The responses here are amusing. Why aren’t Joseph’s reviews of OOT communities LH? After all, it’s just his opinion and can cause harm to those communities.

    in reply to: What’s the difference between protests and parades #1747178

    anonymous Jew
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    Ky, you don’t seem to get it. When a parade/protest is approved, there is ample advance notice so that drivers can take an alternate route ( on the day of the NY marathon, people know to stay clear of the Verrazano bridge and the BQE.). When spontaneous protesters block streets, there is no advance notice. You seem to feel that your actions come with no cost to yourselves. I think the police have been too soft. If every protest was met with water cannons and arrests , they would think twice before acting

    in reply to: Putting a nickname on a matzeva or footstone. Advice welcomed. #1744893

    anonymous Jew
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    Joseph, non-Hebrew on Eastern European matzeivos was historically not an issue for Ashkenazim. Until the 1800’s, Jews living in the Austro-Hungarian and Russian
    Empires did not have secular last names nor secular first names. By 1844, Jews living in the Empires were legally required to adopt secular last names.

    in reply to: Putting a nickname on a matzeva or footstone. Advice welcomed. #1736457

    anonymous Jew
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    Who says stones can’t have English as well as Hebrew names?


    anonymous Jew
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    Gee Joseph, really? 8 days? Only in chutz laaretz? Who knew??

    in reply to: Shopping for a Psak #1715166

    anonymous Jew
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    Where did this posek get his medical training?


    anonymous Jew
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    Joseph, you realize that this type learning never existed in the alter heim. There was no Medicaid,SNAP etc in pre war Europe and the Jews were too poor support every brochur , no matter their abilities, who wanted to sit and learn. Only the top students continued on to full time yeshiva learning and even they required fulltime fundraising. Every one else had to work in order to eat.


    anonymous Jew
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    I have no problem, as long as the graduates refrain from applying for welfare benefits because they’re unqualified for anything but low paying teaching positions


    anonymous Jew
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    Are you talking elementary grades level? High schools?

    in reply to: Tax Time Nightmare….Trump’s Tax Reforms Cost me big time #1710536

    anonymous Jew
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    Alot of people thought they suffered because they had smaller refunds. It was then discovered that because the new ( and lower ) withholding wasn’t implemented until February, there was less withholding, higher net checks and thus, lower refund.
    The doubling of it the standard deduction helped.
    Our dear Gov Cuomo actually blamed the tax cap on the rise in New Yorkers leaving NY, not the taxes themselves.

    in reply to: Where did all the libs go? #1704619

    anonymous Jew
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    CT, how come you left FDR, LBJ , JFK and Bill Clinton off your presidential cheaters list?

    in reply to: Putting a nickname on a matzeva or footstone. Advice welcomed. #1700445

    anonymous Jew
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    A mamin, so it’s respectful to use the name to their face while they’re alive, but not on a stone?

    in reply to: Lakewood’s economy revolves on local construction #1699714

    anonymous Jew
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    I’m laughing at the hypocrisy. Neighboring towns view what’s been going on in Lakewood and are desperate to keep their quality of life . So, when they use zoning and other regulations to prevent incoming Jews from bringing in Lakewood density problems, they are accused of antisemitism .

    in reply to: New Chumra #1697990

    anonymous Jew
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    This is nothing new. About 20 years ago my son in law was teaching a psychology course at Touro in Flatbush. Two Bais Yaacov graduates accused him of using indecent, foul language and filed a complaint. His crime, using the word sex. It was used in terms of genders , not procreation, and the girls were told that they were in college, not Bais Yaacov.

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