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  • in reply to: Israeli Politics #1180280

    fabie
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    I assume you’re referring to:

    “Well, one of the reasons I pretty much left, was due to what you mentioned!”

    Yes, there was another reason.

    in reply to: Israeli Politics #1180276

    fabie
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    Thanks “coffee addict”. I went off for personal reasons.

    in reply to: Israeli Politics #1180272

    fabie
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    Your thoughts.

    in reply to: Bye Bye CR #963757

    fabie
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    Well, one of the reasons I pretty much left, was due to what you mentioned!

    in reply to: Your Dream-Ticket for 2012 #903336

    fabie
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    I’ll run with Wolf!

    in reply to: Do you know any Professional Shadchans? #749433

    fabie
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    What part of town?

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    in reply to: Bais Chaya Rochel (Newer Gateshead Seminary) #790446

    fabie
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    Thanks tgwdod and Kellyk412 for the input. I am seriously considering sending my 16 year old daughter next year.

    in reply to: Torah Umesorah Job Fair #745910

    fabie
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    Thanks for the input. I will give them a call in the coming days. I used to have a resume on file with them, but they keep it for a few years, then request an updated one.

    in reply to: Who Will You Vote For In 2012? #745795

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    observanteen, I think your choice would be excellent, but he definitely has no plans to run, and no major support, as well as being too old. He would have definitely made an excellent candidate.

    Interesting how you know about Tom Sowell, and weren’t familiar with Rand Paul.

    in reply to: mutchering a menadev to give more money? #745125

    fabie
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    There is another side to this. The more people do this, the less inclined the donors will be willing to give those that ask respecfully.

    in reply to: Speech Therapy Field is Flooded??? #775590

    fabie
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    I would come to E”Y there is a shortage of speach and language therapists in the frum community.

    in reply to: America's Trillions Dollar Debt #744803

    fabie
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    He’s a Senator, who’s proposing a 500 billion dollar budget cut.

    in reply to: America's Trillions Dollar Debt #744801

    fabie
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    To Rand paul!

    in reply to: something is really bothering me…. #745365

    fabie
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    What about all those fire crackers – fire works starting a month before Purim. One of my foster children almost lost a few fingers when one blew up in his hand. Yes we warned him in advance, and watched his belogings as well. He did it at a neighbors.

    in reply to: Advice Needed for Automatic Water Heaters for Israeli Showers #743390

    fabie
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    We purchsed one a Tadmur, but we moved. It worked great. If the water is freezing it may not completely heat with a strong water flow, but will heat with a weak flow. Definitely should save money.

    Uses high wattage, so you will need to make sure there is enough power.

    in reply to: Scholarship for Seminary in Israel #1115021

    fabie
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    Some of them work with Pell grants.

    in reply to: A positive Shalom Bayis Thread! #753255

    fabie
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    Sorry Ralphie, I’ll add another soap opera:

    This is from research – The Seven Secrets of Successful Marriage are revealed from over 15,000 years of collective wisdom. Not mine.

    1. It takes two to Tango. Couples are we instead of me and I.

    2. There are no sacred cows. We talk about everything. No secrets.

    3. The golden rule. Always treat your spous with respect, no matter what.

    4. a) Preoccupation to try to look nice for your spouse.

    b) Preoccupation with your spouses health. I care about you.

    5. Filing joint return. Our money, not my or your money.

    6. The loving touch. Couples touch each other on a regular basis.

    7. The unboaring. Doing and finding things that make life interesting.

    _______________________________________________________________

    I think creating common ruchniusdike goals are very important. Sort of number one here.

    in reply to: Abused Husbands #1001334

    fabie
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    Oh boy another abuse thread.

    1. Abuse,

    2. Divorce,

    3. Crisis,

    4. Tuition

    Lets move on Rabbosia!

    in reply to: to marry a singer or not.. thats the question! #741730

    fabie
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    My eldest son-in-law is a musician, he also sings a little bit as well. It really depends on how they plan on using it. Being a frum rock start is no mayleh.

    in reply to: A positive Shalom Bayis Thread! #753252

    fabie
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    A saw an excellent clip on YTube from a book on 7 behaviors of succesful couples. Will post the seven, and link if anyone is interested.

    in reply to: retrain re: aliya #741050

    fabie
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    What type of Enigineering?

    in reply to: should i break the shidduch #740021

    fabie
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    Please clarify. Is this before your first date, then there is no real major issue in cancelling on the one hand, and on the other no real major issue of going out; or are you engaged, which is a major issue.

    BTW, 26-25 isn’t so terrible.

    in reply to: Sephardim and gerim #1157510

    fabie
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    How ironic, in E”Y there is a great debate going on right now between the Ashkenazi Rabbanim who are more machmir on gerus and the Sephardi Rabbanim who are more meykel.

    in reply to: Wanting to get married #740773

    fabie
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    What’s wrong with that. Just don’t rush, and be careful on making a positive decision.

    in reply to: moving back to the USA #740465

    fabie
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    Have you tried Ner Le”Elef. You get paid for the program, then they help find you a position.

    in reply to: Divorce Stories #743321

    fabie
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    Based upon the stats I’m familiar with, ususally within the first year, however, most of the stories I’m familiar with are later.

    in reply to: How much do u pay your cleaning woman? #739733

    fabie
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    Yes 40 shekels is the going rate.

    in reply to: Getting Rid of Mice! #994085

    fabie
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    Yes, one keeled over today. Poison is working!

    in reply to: Getting Rid of Mice! #994050

    fabie
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    We have cats in our yard, so apparently that isn’t enough. Our mice are (hopefully were) in our kitchen cupboards, attic, etc. I’m not so sure if we invited them in, they would actually help.

    in reply to: Android vs. iPhone vs. Windows Phone 7 #737850

    fabie
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    In E”Y are cellphones have hechshers.

    in reply to: Getting Rid of Mice! #994047

    fabie
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    We got an exterminator. Only 280 shekels in E”Y. So far we’ve seen 2, within 2 days after he was here, and they apparently ate the poison. So we’ve been clean for a week. We got a year warranty.

    in reply to: The name Shira – A Problem? #1160862

    fabie
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    R’ Chaim is alive. Why doesn’t someone ask if they are concerned?

    in reply to: Bais Chaya Rochel (Newer Gateshead Seminary) #790433

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    I am also considering this option for my daughter as well, approximately the same age. We live in E”Y so her schooling basically is free now, but she doesn’t get a full day program like in a dorm.

    in reply to: Where and How To Learn Safrus #1198666

    fabie
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    I wasn’t clear in my previous post. I learned stam from a professional sofer. I know of those who’ve taught themseves though.

    You will need a kulmus, ink, parchment, a blade for trimming the kulmus.

    in reply to: Of your Shidduch related decisions what would you change if you could #735758

    fabie
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    Try to find out what sort of influence the prespective family mostly, but not only will have on the marriage.

    in reply to: The name Shira – A Problem? #1160739

    fabie
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    I have heard this as well. A relative of ours had the name “Shlomit”, which she added a new name “Shulamit”. To the best of my knowledge Rav Shach ZT”L held differently though. I had a sheilah with a bas bayit of ours by the name of Nogah, which she thought it was a bad klipa, which it actually isn”t. I told her to ask Rav Shroya Debltsky, who told her to keep her name.

    in reply to: Where and How To Learn Safrus #1198664

    fabie
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    To learn the technical, the simplest approach is learning from a sofer, some experienced ones do training, however, I don know of a few sofrim, who taught themself.

    BTW, I learned stam myself.

    in reply to: my brother is off the derech #733311

    fabie
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    I haven’t read through this thread in depth, but I do know what observanteen is talking about. Going OTD is definitely cantagious, I know numerous cases, some of which I’ve dealt with personally, and children sometimes try grabbing their siblings and gang up against their parents. Every case is individual, but the problem definitely exists.

    in reply to: 2nd Foster Child is a Choson #733137

    fabie
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    Professional –

    Regarding Yichud. The psak we received from Rav Ulman. There is no mitzvas chinuch regarding yichud, therefore, so long as the children are below bar bat miztvah, there is no issue from there side, and as far as our chidren who are below bar-bat mitzvah age.

    On a personal level we didn’t have too many problems since we have a large family, and for part of the time my in-laws, mostly my father in law, since my mother in law past away almost immediatelly after we started caring for her were living with us. My father in law passed away two years later, but that’s another story. We also had some other people living with us, who were mostly adults, who needed a family to take care of them as well, again that’s another story, and there were yichud questions as well. Generally speaking I was usually in town, however, the heter of Baalah b’ir is not so clear in this specific case, and my wife was generally at home.

    There are lots of practical solutions. Homes with two doors, and a possibility of locking from both sides may help. Living in apartment complexes like in E”Y can also make things easier, if you can make agreements with neighbors. You need to learn the halachas well though. Our living room was visible as well. In Bnei Brak, you pretty much live together with your neighbors. This helped as well according to Rav Ulman.

    Regarding foster children with no major issues. If you or anyone else wants to go into the field, you must be prepared for difficult times. One of them was violent at times, and he was also dangerous to himself. In a few years we were in the E”R 5+ times.

    Fortunatelly both of them have been very succesful, and got excellent shiduchim, but you never know where things are going to end up.

    I used to shutter watching DZ cross the street, and Purim time, wow that was a blast, he blew up a peice of firework in his hand, and almost lost a few fingers. He made a neder never to touch them again, which apparently he kept.

    in reply to: 2nd Foster Child is a Choson #733133

    fabie
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    Professional – I am more then willing to try to address you questions.

    1. Not everyone is fit for fostering. We took some boys into our home almost immediatelly after we got married, but not as foster children. At a later stage we officially filed forms to become foster parents for exceptional chidren, and by hasgacha a social worker from the non-exceptional department saw our form and contacted us. At a later stage we were obligated to take a course which was done specifically for frum families, although some felt a little bit uncomfortable.

    Our first child, whom we received at a young age is Chasidish, and we’re Litvish-Yeshivish. Looking back at this point it was far from trivial, especially since he learned in a Cheider, which doesn’t take funding from the Zionist-government, and frowns on speaking Hebrew at home. I speak a little Yiddish I picked up in Yeshiva, and my wife knows a little as well, but none of our children know. When he first came to us, he knew almost no Hebrew, no English, his father’s family is from the US. All of his Hebrew he pretty much picked up was at our home. I still recall a funny moment when he came home one day and said something of this sort, please don’t mind my broken yiddish:

    “Der menahel hot gazugt az mir tor nisht redden in di shtib in ivrit, mit di shvesteren oychit”, to which I repled, “zog tzi di menahel az dein shvesteren kein nisht redden in Yiddish”

    We had one couple in our Foster family preparation group, who ended up taking our second foster child, which ended up not working out, and therefore came to us. My impression of them were so excited and jubilant, but completely out of touch with reality, which was true about most of the participants, and to be honest, I think the most important factor when raising children who are not your own as your own, is “perserverance”. Since I had experience in Special Ed. this was much simpler for me, but it was still a nisayon.

    As far as shiduchim. The first one is engaged to soemone from a very similar background who grew up in a foster home, whom my wife knows from get togethers, but we didn’t make the shiddich. The second has somewhat of a similarity as well, but since he has some Yichus, the situation was a little different. He is also related to my wife.

    In general the shiddich process was more difficult, but far from being locked out.

    in reply to: Price of The Hamodia #733506

    fabie
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    Does the Modia have a daily English version in N”Y? I haven’t seen this in E”Y.

    in reply to: Correcting a misconception about parnassah #750569

    fabie
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    Question: Does anyone here believe these types of threads contribute anything to their understanding of the topic at hand or for anyt hing else?

    in reply to: Believing A Rejected Opinion #1049613

    fabie
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    Nice point!

    in reply to: No Women On The Seruv List? #746840

    fabie
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    According to halacha the man should get the boys when they reach the age of chinuch, otherwise the mother gets the children.

    in reply to: The Liberals' True Face #768577

    fabie
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    The author of the Tosafos Yom Tov instituted what we would now call a progressive tax system in Prague under which the wealthy were required to pay more.

    No he didn’t!

    in reply to: The Liberals' True Face #768567

    fabie
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    I think this post is just baiting C”H. The aforementioned is obvious though.

    in reply to: No Women On The Seruv List? #746826

    fabie
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    Nice story Charlie. I had a similar case with B”D which, would not give me a seruv, but told me to go to secular court. The ending was quite a C”H, which I won’t mention.

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