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The other story was with a Sony music system I had purchased an extended warranty on that had to be schlepped to a repair shop three times but was never properly fixed.
The problem is that the manufacturers have contracts with third party companies who don’t care about their reputation. You only use them cause the appliance company is hooking you up, with no choice on your part. These guys get paid per service call and many don’t really care if the customer is satisfied.
This question seemed like a typical troll/bored teenager question so I clicked on the OPs profile and my hunch was probably correct – rtabs is a brand new member. What gave me a good laugh though was when I read under Topics Started “Marriage Started: 6 hours ago”. Too funny.
He mentioned something about google Yiddish to English translate in another thread (a book for a yid). I don’t think he’s actually using it, but he’s definitely having fun… Just hope he’s not ZK.
If you’d listen to him on the Zev Brenner show before chanukah you’d be more clued in. He’s apparently taking college courses to improve his English as well as studying performing arts. Although most of us were happy with the “old Lipa” he’s traveling all over the world for really big bucks, not all these guys are so frum and he’s trying to both impress and “blend in”. At least that’s my take on it. I really liked his “temimos” if that’s the right word, and will miss his old style if he continues on this path. B”H I’ve never had this nisoyon.
Just read a fascinating piece “I was falsely accused” and although the story is not even finished (the author is writing it piecemeal) it’s extremely informative and scary.
And knowing someone who was witness to a murder and that someone strongly believes they convicted the wrong guy bc conviction is all that matters, our justice system is apparently not as perfect as we were led to believe. B”H most of us are outsiders to the criminal justice system hence our naivete.
So all of you saying that the community is in denial, perhaps it’s the other way around.
Abstain from the CR and do something productive in its stead. Maybe write a dvar torah? Hey, you asked…
The idea is overcoming adversity. The stories used to be lost and found children, literally or back to yiddishkeit, but this storyline became too predictable. Happily ever after can’t be the basis of a long saga, and even for an ending we now have stories that don’t really finish – supposedly to engage the reader even after the story is over by forcing them to think. I hate thinking ; ) and love happy endings – I guess I’m in the minority nowadays.
However, I don’t think kids are fooled about real life from these stories. They have friends, family and neighbors to base their perceptions of life on, mostly positive, some sad.December 12, 2012 9:35 pm at 9:35 pm in reply to: Yasher Koach to Rabbi Horowitz of Project Yes, for protecting and not punishing #912592
Can everybody please stop with the buying underwear. These stores sell loads of other stuff (shabbos & everyday robes, skirts, turbans, tshirts/shells, even kids’ robes, not to mention nightgowns, morning robes…) which probably make up the bulk of their sales. Am I missing something here?
Iced: didn’t MRA close a few years ago?December 12, 2012 12:55 am at 12:55 am in reply to: Throwing bleach at R' Nuchem Rosenberg to achieve justice? #912377
As far as I heard, the guy was provoked by R’ Nochum coming into his store telling him “your father is next” (after weberman). I don’t know if it’s true, but it wasn’t a planned attack. I don’t condone it, but it paints a different picture. (The guy presumably uses bleach to disinfect in his store.) And he’s actually defaming a witness on his hotline, it’s not only “potential witnesses”. And I didn’t sign the petition.
On a side note does anybody know why the so-called burn story was inadmissible in court? If true, such a scar lasts for years. It is preposterous stories like these that make me doubt her.
Yichusdik: I agree that it’s wrong to intimidate witnesses. And it should work for both sides. One of the witnesses for weberman is being slandered awfully now AND THE DIRTY ALLEGATIONS ARE UNTRUE. Oilem golem unfortunately believes everything they hear, doesn’t she have any rights?
Secondly, we live in the age of digital media. Those guys were stupid to flout the law and take pictures in court, but why assume intimidation? They were there for the fun of the trial. Most serious people stayed away because of tznios. Posting photos is second nature to the young generation today, no sinister motives needed. And her name or likeness was always public nature in her community. I remember her engagement photo floating around cyberspace, do you think whoever took the photo at her vort also had evil intentions? And Damoshe, have you ever been to one of those “lingerie” stores, they mainly sell women women’s robes, turbans and yes basic underwear, don’t make it worse than it is. it’s even possible that these were used to buy yom tov wear for needy families and he was blindsided or that he reimbursed the charity. My point is everybody was “spinning” this and the truth got buried in the process. Don’t fall for everything and repeat it as the truth.
Swimming: you are right that this is much worse, but these are unfortunately “rogue” singers/dancers at a wedding you’d be embarrassed to attend for many reasons. At a wedding like this you say b”h there was no mixed dancing. And I’m not trying to lessen the negative aspect of it, but let’s call a spade a spade. Enough said.December 11, 2012 1:43 am at 1:43 am in reply to: Yasher Koach to Rabbi Horowitz of Project Yes, for protecting and not punishing #912548
ZD: Likely? That’s what’s irking me and many others. It’s supposed to be beyond a reasonable doubt. I don’t think it reached that threshold of proof. Very sad.
And I highly doubt the jurors weren’t influenced by the negative press — where even his weight was held against him.
Imho you are considered “picky” when there’s a PATTERN of you rejecting boys for things such as height, hair color, yeshiva he’s attending etc. however, if the boy is shorter than you, although still a petty excuse, it’s a pretty common reason to say no.November 30, 2012 4:34 am at 4:34 am in reply to: Does anyone have info about any Chessed org that does visits to elderly…? #910022
Generally speaking that’s what bikkur cholim does, send volunteers to cheer people up. They don’t have to be sick, just need company for whatever reason (elderly, depressed etc.) However, they do depend on volunteers so they may not cover as much so they’d like to. Just pick up the phone and ask them.
On the contrary, because so many years have passed (with all the intermarriage in the interim) most Spanish and hispanic probably have some jewish blood. The question is, is it really our job to “fix it”?
Wolf: I was just countering it as a better idea than registering for public school — I’m not sure if it’s a good idea myself, just something worth exploring. Also, your kids will get as much education as YOU manage to instill, they don’t HAVE TO run wild. And I didn’t mention anything about two years, if everybody is on board I think some compromise will be reached sooner.
What if we all decided to home school our kids (and not exactly competently)? Is there a way for them to handle it? I’m not sure how involved the city/county is with this and what their responsibilities are – if any. Just asking. I’d imagine they won’t appreciate if thousands of students are getting a sub-par education or running wild. Would they arrest thousands of parents for truancy? Again, I’m not familiar with the topic but it would seem like a better idea than public school.
Personally, I’d say : 1. rather go to the (more expensive…) eat in places, not the fast food/hangout spots. 2. Don’t go out and mingle with boys , 3. don’t act loud or dress flashy and 4. Be home before 12.
You should be okay if you follow my advice, and not just because it looks bad, but because it could be bad for your neshuma. Unless you’re looking for an ultra-frum /chasidish shidduch and are pretending to be frummer than you actually are. Good luck!
Some schools have on site day care for their staff ( usually not free…). It’s not the same as having your kid with you full time but you do manage to “check in”, maybe share lunch etc. Although there probably aren’t any teaching openings this time of year, you can try to get the word out for “subbing”. If you live in a large jewish community it might be enough to cover your shortfall.November 16, 2012 2:05 am at 2:05 am in reply to: "Your not mechuyav to do it altz hishtadlus but you can do it if you want to…" #911450
Okay, I have a clearer picture now — if I’m “interpreting” this story correctly. Your Rav does not want to push his opinion on you as this is something you really want and you might be resentful if not given another shot at it. And nobody can determine what level you’re on for you because you always have the option of “rising above”.
Many people when faced with such a quandary of indecision decide on what I”ll call “creating a test”. For example you decide that if the first person you approach to help you with another attempt says yes then it’s a go. If not, you drop the issue. Of course you can design another logical “test”, but stick to your guns afterwards. There’s also always the option of “gorel”. The idea is to not be too “pushy” and while not relying on nissim also not trying to be fully in control, which isn’t our job here.
Good luck!November 15, 2012 9:46 pm at 9:46 pm in reply to: "Your not mechuyav to do it altz hishtadlus but you can do it if you want to…" #911442
Basically, if I understand correctly, hishtadlus is linked to ones level of bitachon. The higher one is, the less he will want/need to do to fulfill his gashmius’dige requirements. (he will probably also be happy with less, and won’t fret if things don’t work out the way he hoped.)
Easier said than done – hope this helps though.
In yiddish we say “chalish”(ing) instead of “dying” in this sense and although it doesn’t translate properly, it is definitely more appropriate if you think about it. And there’s no need to add to someones pain, intentional or not, just because the rest of the world doesn’t seem to care. We are rachmunim after all.
I had the same thing happen to me, and I took my info. from one of the comments on an article here on ywn. It especially bothered me that she didn’t add an updated comment once the needs changed. On the flip side, we do live in a very populated, warm, frum city, not to mention many more out of towners like you wanting to help. Once the call went out, I can understand how the goods far outnumbered what they could reasonably use as the number of families effected is B”H far less than the rest that wasn’t and is able to donate. They told my husband they needed help sorting and with tags only as it probably is a logistical nightmare. Asking for brand new stuff only doesn’t necessarily mean everyone is picky, it’s a way to limit the supply so they can manage the volume and avoid the junk some people dump. There are also very likely stores, manufacturers etc. that sent brand new stuff which, let’s not kid ourselves, most people prefer.
It still hurts, and I now need to figure out what to do with all those bags of stuff. Hope I managed to somehow “soften the blow” for you. Tizku lemitzvos regardless.
CreativeJewishMom has lots of interesting stuff. Good luck!
Do you hear water bubbling when it goes down (test by turning on water upstairs full force and allowing it to drain)? If so it’s probably partially clogged. For the smell itself you can pour bleach down said basement drain. Clogs usually get worse, so try to convince a plumber/sewer clearing company to come down as soon as possible. Or maybe a tree or something somehow got into the sewer line outside and is restricting flow, or even moved the pipe so that the pitch is not conducive to proper draining. Because even if you had back-flow from the storm, I don’t think the smell would persist, it would have flushed itself out by now.
I am not a plumber, just trying to help, so don’t rely on my “expertise”. Good luck!November 1, 2012 6:21 pm at 6:21 pm in reply to: GAS SHORTAGE: Where Can You get Gas Following Superstorm Sandy? #902422
Supposedly only Hess stations have gas now. Police are sometimes called in to “make peace” once a gas tanker arrives at a station.
If they’d let us know a timeline (when the ports will open, etc.) maybe people wouldn’t panic and fill up regardless of current needs. The shortage is being compounded by lack of good information.
Monsey often has flooding from its streams… And despite being hit less now monsey has severe electrical outages with dangerous live wires from many fallen trees – unlike most areas of Brooklyn where most cables are “safely” underground”. It’s times like this we say “rabos machshovos blev ish…” although we must take necessary precautions, we can’t prevent/protect ourselves from everything.
Miritchka, I felt the same way as you even before the storm hit and couldn’t believe how many people were ignoring the evacuation request. However, once it started getting bad it was too late to evacuate, they were told to stay put. If the house had more than one storey it was generally safer to stay than bracing the flooded and damaged roads, falling trees etc.
It does say “eizehu chochom? Haroah es hanolad” for a reason. Unfortunately after many “false alarms” people were in denial.
The winds are still pretty strong regardless of the terminology. it ain’t over til it’s over.
A storm is coming!
Forget about it, this is the land of make-believe…October 26, 2012 4:37 am at 4:37 am in reply to: when snacking becomes a sleep disturbance (aka, raiding the pantry) #900917
I second Ima, make the tempting stuff less accessible. Living on two floors sure has its benefits, but there are other ways to lessen the snacking temptation, especially when you’re tired and lazy. Put the good stuff on the top shelf (if you MUST have it in the house) in hard to open containers etc.
But I must ask, isn’t the CR a greater cause of sleep disturbance ; ) ?
MSS: this topic is really too hot for me to tackle but I still feel the need to add my two cents. It’s nice to hear about the sincere singles and couples you are dealing with — however in all fairness is it not likely that those abandoning yiddishkeit aren’t sending you their shidduch profiles?
Also, all of us should remember that a Yid can not remain stagnant, we either grow spiritually or fall. If someone is holding on to only a few mitzvos to start with, when he (or she) falls it is only these few precious mitzvos that are “available” to be dropped.
At the other end of the spectrum are the sincere MOs a few posters mentioned whose idealism allows them to take great strides. They have a good, knowledgeable starting point with lots of room for growth, which in turn spurs them further. Counter that with “frum” ffbs which when they become lax in their observance [most] drop minor stuff first, and either continue to drop or hopefully mature spiritually and pick themselves up without major harm having been done. OTHD too many are disillusioned and don’t have the drive to grow as their yiddishkeit was handed to them on a silver platter. (the yiddish monthly ma’alos had a good article on this last point a few months ago.)
Those that do strive for more hopefully won’t be ridiculed here and elsewhere as being fanatic — tolerance should go both ways.
Last point, I don’t recall who mentioned it but it’s not exactly true that “especially chasidic” disown their OTD kids.
What people don’t realize is that it’s not just relevant to dating at non-kosher establishments.
A kosher restaurant manager once told me that the daters are the least profitable customers as they sit and schmooze for hours and don’t order that much. But he understandably didn’t institute any cover charge, that’s life.
I don’t know what percentage of river cafe customers are frum daters, but I’m sure there are many other customers that come for the view there which aren’t profitable. They just aren’t as easily identifiable, so they just overcharged the religious couples. I understand the business principle behind it — instituting a min. charge for all will alienate customers, even those that spend more. However it’s still discrimination.
Point is use common sense when dating, but don’t be so quick to chastise daters as if they are doing something terribly wrong. If you ever read a non-jewish paper or even website they usually have ideas for free or cheap dating spots, we’re not the only ones taking advantage of freebies.
Incidentally, this is not the only place such discrimination exists, I’ve heard of a u-pick farm that only charges an entry fee on chol hamoad. Do we really pick so little, is it a form of crowd control or are we easy targets?
ZDad: It’s sad that you couldn’t communicate with your great-grandfather, but you could just as well blame your mother for abandoning yiddish instead of blaming your great-grandfather for not learning English. The reason more Jews speak English today is precisely because such a lack of continuity, which is manifested in many other factors of assimilation.
I’m not trying to be too personal here, I just want you to gain some perspective, so please don’t take it as such. I’m talking about America and using your words to illustrate my point, even though I hardly know anything about you. I don’t I want you to point fingers at anybody either, especially not your mother, just realize that there’s another side to every coin.
I’m not sure that opposites necessarily attract (we’re not talking about magnets…) but too similar is usually NOT good for family stability. Although disagreements and different styles may cause some friction, you wouldn’t for example want both parents to be strict disciplinarians.
The example you mentioned is probably better than the reverse as there needs to be at least one practical spouse, however people do adjust and mature to do what’s necessary so even 2 “studious” partners should be okay. (If you’re just talking about studious while in school/yeshiva it’s a total non-issue.)
So bottom line they needn’t and probably shouldn’t be the same but their personalities should complement each other.
Newsweek is closing their print edition. Maybe you want to buy it :)?
You have a long memory but were not apparently informed of later developments.
This from kashrusmagazine.com ” Snapple Summer Peach Bears Unauthorized OK- June 12, 2009 A limited quantity of Snapple Summer Peach (Snapple Beverage Corp.) was inadvertently labeled OK Pareve. This product is NOT KOSHER. Labels are being corrected. “
I assume this still holds true, so you won’t find it in kosher establishments.
Remember the Hillary/New Square controversy? And she was only running for senator then. Don’t even think of going there. Besides, the religious Jewish vote is virtually worthless when it comes to electoral votes.
To answer your question: yes, and it ain’t kosher.
BB: the minimum wage for most of us (federal, NY, NJ) is $7.25. If that were the prevailing wage for cleaning help, maybe I’d actually afford it. In my neighborhood it starts at 10. And off the books equals tax free (not even Fica). I don’t think home attendants make more, and they must go for training and have taxes deducted. Also, usually the employer provides lunch, dinner or both.
It’s definitely hard work, but don’t claim they are being mistreated. Most aren’t, or they simply “fire” their bosses (no resumes or even references to worry about)…
ZK: Don’t worry — your sharp brain can probably handle a little less caffeine and still function quite well. It’s the others in the C R I’m concerned about. Apparently everybody else was too drowsy to properly read your post and get your joke at the end…
ZK: Don’t you worry your pretty little head over this. Your mammele wouldn’t be laughing when she finds out how much coffee you are drinking — I mean ingesting…
ZK: you really cracked me up!
613: please tell me you are kidding. In case you are not, and for anybody else out there in la la land, be aware that generally speaking, more gashmius equals less ruchnius, and vice-versa. I’m not talking about natural good looks here. A sophisticated, muscular yirei shamayim?
The same holds true for many other traits. There is a reason for the yiddish saying “alles ineinem iz nisht du bei keinem”. (can’t translate too well “no one has everything combined”)
The even tougher question is where do you stand that you have such conflicting ideals? Are you covering all bases to meet your needs AND everybody else’s expectations/values?
Again, if you are serious you need to do some serious introspection, if not I’m directing this to others thinking along these lines.
Of course there’s also the elephant in the room of simply having a list that’s too long. Again, prioritize.October 12, 2012 5:41 am at 5:41 am in reply to: Working parent letter: two implementable ideas I posted #899464
Has anybody considered that one of the reasons schools “stagger” the schedules for different age kids is to allow for repeat trips by their school buses? The logistics are especially tight on fridays.October 11, 2012 3:34 pm at 3:34 pm in reply to: Best way to mouseproof a basement in BP, with Shuls and schools on every block? #899214
GN & MT are both correct… It all depends on how “finished” the basement is. If it’s full of gaps or the walls or floor are “soft” enough for mice to dig through, it’s virtually impossible to mouseproof short of a full renovation. If this is the case the best you can do is try to figure out where they are coming in from and plug those holes (quarter size and up). Concrete is great for sealing boiler rooms, a common point of entry. You can also add mouldings (1/4 rounds or whatever fills the gap) between the floor and wall.
If there’s construction nearby that’s probably the reason for the persistence of the problem as they are being disturbed and finding other accommodations. Once the construction is over and you (and hopefully your neighbors) are placing poison, the problem should ease up. I’ve never tried this before but it’s also possible to inject poison into the walls, assuming they’re not solid. I assume you’d need a commercial exterminator for that. Good luck!
Fresh fruit such as mango, watermelon, or pineapple served with a scoop of sorbet.September 27, 2012 8:32 pm at 8:32 pm in reply to: Segulah! Open Hashgacha from the one ABOVE! RE: FoodStamps #897931
You can’t donate food stamps benefits directly in any case –it’s a debit card that can be used only at authorized vendors. What he/she meant was to donate other money instead.
Wouldn’t the question be if the sidewalk actually belongs to the city or to the public? Is the public the same as the city?
Owners are required to shovel snow and clean up the sidewalk in front of their property, so it may be a bit ambiguous. Just asking, not sure either way.