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Ever tried using a paper bag in the rain? Last summer I lost my precious cargo this way. I was caught in a downpour rushing to meet someone, juggling umbrella and handbag — and my paper bag disintegrated, without me noticing immediately that its contents fell out. (IIRC it was coated inside so I thought it’ll be safe the short walk until I got on the city bus.) Luckily only my trusty water bottle was inside. But I was thirsty…
Good luck to all of us liberal state and city dwellers.
I’ve been told by an electrician when thinking of switching an area our house from fluorescent to strip LEDs, that although the LEDs may technically last longer, the brightness diminishes over time. If true, we’re probably all frog-like and don’t notice it. So we’re likely being gamed.
While it’s hard to argue with your economics, it’s a lot more than nostalgia. I don’t think it’s a simple thing to sell a Shul to non Jews, especially as in the past many Shuls in Brooklyn ended up as churches l”a. (I don’t think this risk is as great with your average shtiebl, as there’s no real architectural value.)
And changing a neighborhood past a certain age may mean loss of friends, doctors, pharmacist, and of course familiar shul. Especially with married kids working most waking hours, it can literally be a health risk and perhaps even traumatic for some. Don’t belittle it.
No one talks of going back to Budapest, Lublin (or even Uman?) because we fled from there with the last inch of our lives, most of the infrastructure is gone anyway (not that it matters) and suicide is not a Jewish trait – anti-Semitism in much of Europe is transmitted with the mother’s milk. It doesn’t help that the American economy and standard of living is a lot higher anyway.
And to touch on the financial angle a bit, those moving to cheaper ESTABLISHED neighborhoods are for the most not funding the building of new schools. They’re for the most part financially struggling families, who in the course of achieving the American dream laid out their last penny and then some – even if the cost is a lot lower than in Brooklyn. Unless we have some private school tax, the communities being moved into have a hard time absorbing the cost of new schools, ASSUMING THEY WANT TO TO DO THE RIGHT THING.
To say the decrease of young people in any community is not a problem is highly inaccurate. Many aging parents will eventually find it hard if their kids are a few hours drive away. And many of them will not want or won’t be able to move away from the neighborhood they called home for decades.
Add to this the huge Jewish infrastructure that may need to be sold to non-Jews if this trend exacerbates. And then there’s the huge cost (not just financial) of literally replacing those Shuls, Mikvaos & schools elsewhere, which btw is partly to blame for the “school crisis” in rapidly expanding communities like Lakewood and Monsey.
Plus tuition for those that remain might need to go up if the student population shrinks. If schools must close, parents will have fewer choices and children may be effected negatively if they are forced to switch schools, away from the schools they were doing well in.
If what the OP is saying about Flatbush is true, it may be better off than other Brooklyn neighborhoods where Gentiles and secular Jews may take over, because some of the infrastructure can hopefully be saved and put to good use.
The Jersey City’s female murdering accomplice didn’t have a criminal record as far as I know. Some of their guns were allegedly purchased by her. Gun checks can only do so much, yet still I’m torn.
Soaking the Menorah in very hot water with some Arm & Hammer washing soda (not to be confused with baking soda) works great if it’s not aluminum (then it’ll corrode). If it’s silver, I think the black engravings will come off as well. So I just use this for the kids brass menorahs, but it should work for glass or other metal etc. as well.
To clarify RD’s tip, you preheat the oven THEN TURN IT OFF before you put the menorah inside. I don’t think the paper towels are necessary, just in case someone mistakenly turns the oven on.
Randomex: You should never have to know, but the short answer would be yes.
The long answer: Everything is relative. Technology has allowed for a lot more manageability, and is getting better by the day. With T1D, very low glucose and very high glucose numbers are dangerous in the short term, while average high numbers may cause severe health problems down the road.
So bederch hateva better managed diabetes equals longer life and everyone with T1D must be mechalel Shabbos to manage it to the utmost.
Some people need a smart phone to manage Type 1 Diabetes, so you really shouldn’t judge.
You have to build and connect your Geni tree then, as you’ll know how you’re related to most Yidden and make the many people asking happy through this.
Definitely helps if you have nice yichus and can go back far enough. If you’re not related to someone you must be Mechutinim (x 5 sometimes).
Enjoy!November 7, 2019 10:52 am at 10:52 am in reply to: Can you request an online purchase for delivery on shabbos?? #1798251
I was always under the impression that the opposite is true, as long as you’re not paying extra for them to deliver on Shabbos or Yom Tov it’s okay. But that assumption was based on the Psak at a place I worked at way back. They shipped orders via UPS (and maybe Fedex) — and UPS Ground from NY to NY generally doesn’t take more than a day. Saturday, and Next Day deliveries cost extra, so they wouldn’t ship that way on an Erev, but regular, not expedited shipping was allowed anytime.
Nowadays with Amazon I hate Saturday deliveries as I have to peek out the window to see who’s buzzing and run down to manually open the door (as early as 8 am) so I try to avoid it. And I’ve had Postal delivery guys lie (this was during the week) and note they unsuccessfully attempted delivery when they never did so they don’t miss Amazon’s “by 8:00 PM” promise.
My point is that their compliance is far from 100%, so I wonder if that could be a mitigating factor. OTOH IIRC you get a $10. reward if they fail to deliver as promised and you complain, so there’s definitely pressure to deliver on time for all involved.
Joseph mentioned Sullivan county, but to be specific Monticello has a fledgling Chasidish community and R’ Yoely Roth (Breslov) is establishing a community in Liberty, NY. Visnitz has a “shtetl” in Kiamesha Lake, NY otherwise known as Gibbers.
The Catskills mountains have great potential as there is a lot of Jewish infrastructure.November 6, 2019 11:53 pm at 11:53 pm in reply to: Requirement to tell your guests that your pasta is made from chickpeas? #1798099
Pesach: for social reasons it’s best if the host can partake in the food she serves alongside her guests.
I believe LB avoids eating gluten.
Just realized your screen name, so not the advice you needed from me in my previous post, but again others may benefit…
This is not a direct response to your question, so please don’t take offense as I know nothing about your medical situation, but I feel compelled to talk as there may be others that it is relevant to in the CR.
If your or a loved one are experiencing any form of psoriasis, diet may be the answer. Try avoiding gluten, dairy and nightshades for a few weeks and see if symptoms improve. It may be difficult at first but it is doable, and hopefully when things get better you can try to reintroduce one food at a time.
Despite what doctors may tell you (that there are no studies proving that avoiding certain foods helps) the reason for this is that nobody had an incentive to create such a study.
A refuah Sheleima to those in need!
When Joseph and GadolHadorah agree, Moshiach must be on his way…
Another common option is to distribute pens. The boys go back to Yeshiva after the engagement so that’s when it’s given. The kalla’s friends come to the engagement party and they often bring balloons. I’m talking about a Chasidishe vort, so maybe there’s less jealousy by the girls, as there’s no female shidduch crisis…
In reply to the OP from years ago, but still a relevant question: IIRC some of the relatively recent Russian spying was facilitated by fake accounts/people being linked on LinkedIn to real, high profile people. Simply being linked lends some false legitimacy, so now other people may trust the fake account, which seems to be from a real, well connected business person. I don’t remember the exact details, so whoever has the time can to their own research and post here.
Bottom line answer, yes be wary.
I’ve been told that even those that had money worked hard back in the day. There was enough work to go around even with full time maids. And “doing nothing” wasn’t an acceptable pastime. I’m sure there were exceptions, but as a general rule we are a more spoiled generation, and our kids more so…
To clarify, colored walls are not what makes us spoiled, it’s just a symptom of being catered to our whims, which for most wasn’t the case in days gone by.
And to answer one of your questions LB, as far as I know the walls were whitewashed (with lime) for the general populace, while the rich had decorative tapestries and mirrors etc. covering their walls. (And since you made me consult Wikipedia, I now know that wallpaper was a thing a few hundred years ago for Europeans not quite as rich or aristocratic to afford large tapestries. I don’t think it included the average shtetl dweller…)
I’d assume the craftsmen for each trade helped with design, but for all I know there were professionals/specialists that could be hired or consulted to be the design mavens.August 14, 2019 10:35 pm at 10:35 pm in reply to: Should Wedding gowns for the extended family be discontinued? #1775154
Laughing and Phil: I believe Joseph is right on this one. At least if we’re discussing floor length gowns – and not for the Kallah. At the very least it’s Chukas Hagoy aka “ball gowns”. When was the last time anyone here attended a ball? (Rhetorical question only.) We women may love to feel like Cinderalla, and this “custom”may be very widespread, but it doesn’t make it Yiddish or right. Now we can discuss old wedding photos with dresses barely covering the knee…July 23, 2019 7:44 pm at 7:44 pm in reply to: New York State is Denying Access to Education to Anti-Vaxer Students #1764545
Home schooling in groups or “Associations” is coming to a house near you. And for better or worse, it’ll affect the status-quo of Yeshiva/BY education. Schools will likely rethink a lot of their services and expenses if this indirect competition materializes.
Additionally, due to numerous very small venues, the lessons and garbage the state is trying to mandate will be almost impossible to enforce. Which may cause many more parents than just anti-Vaxxers to gravitate towards home-schooling.
Time will tell if I’m right. So bookmark this page…
That’s one of the benefits of legal immigration. Successful immigrants can and do add to the Social Security pot, although a society that doesn’t “fruitfully” reproduce is likely doomed in any case. And not just because of the Social Security set up. Lack of population growth equals the end to any prospering civilization. It may take more than one generation, but it’s an indisputable fact.
Since some of the key scientists behind the success of the moon landing were former Nazis who performed dreadful experiments to further their knowledge during WWII and/or used slave labor to build German war rockets – skills they later used to help the Americans (and then got US citizenship illegally) – should we perhaps stop being enthralled?
I think LOTR92 was referring to a recent comment by him/her on a YWN video news article.
See fifth comment. It actually gave me a chuckle. https://www.theyeshivaworld.com/news/general/1746894/epic-footage-jewish-man-warns-drivers-about-police-sting-on-ave-j-in-flatbush.htmlJune 20, 2019 12:17 am at 12:17 am in reply to: Putting a nickname on a matzeva or footstone. Advice welcomed. #1744855
I find this conversation a bit puzzling. Many Brooklynites are already moving “Out of Town” albeit staying in the tri-State area. Housing is a lot cheaper, and for the most part they can retain their jobs and have a nice choice of schools for their kids or (in the cases of Staten Island & Linden from BP) bus or drive them to their original schools. And all Jewish amenities are still a jump, skip, or hop away…
I’m aware that most here arbitrarily decided that Lakewood, Monroe, or Staten Island is considered “in town” either due its high heimish population density or close proximity to Brooklyn, but each community has its quality of life perks with much more affordable housing. Which begs the question, why move out of NY & NJ if you can have your cake and eat it too “locally”?
And Chicago and Rochester are just too cold in the wintertime for many to want to move to.June 19, 2019 3:18 pm at 3:18 pm in reply to: Putting a nickname on a matzeva or footstone. Advice welcomed. #1744525
Maybe not the perfect forum for this, but I can’t figure out what R”VV stands for in the notes column on a Munkács Burial list found on JewishGen, taken from cemetery records. If anyone can help me out I’d appreciate it.
IIRC the cost of the actual Chasuna night I heard is $1,200.
Paper goods instead of real dishes, buffet style food, “DJ” music, and family and friends chipping in by making potato kugel etc. with students clearing up. And I assume the shul is free.
I believe they’re up to Chasuna number 5. Only R’ Yoely Roth’s Bresolver Chasidim so far. So whoever wants to sign up either join them or simply call up R’ Roth to see if he accepts outsiders. And get some folks to help you with the kugel…June 6, 2019 7:41 am at 7:41 am in reply to: Bedbugs – advice and information request from desperate family #1739289
CA: worst advice ever. Moving without treating everything will just spread the bed bugs to their new home as well. Assuming it’s truly bed bugs. And since he/she is likely the owner of said home, they can’t exactly run away from the problem in any case.
To be honest I only made it once so far, and I never follow recipes to a tee… But it still came out great.June 5, 2019 7:10 am at 7:10 am in reply to: Bedbugs – advice and information request from desperate family #1738294
Please don’t spend a fortune before a confirmed bed bug siting or a positive from a reliable sniffing dog. (The dog may not be 100% accurate, but going just by bites during mosquito season is even less so.) Good luck!
Double chocolate quinoa brownies. I chose almond extract for flavor. Surprisingly good! (Don’t over-bake it, the toothpick will always be chocolatey… A bit tricky there.)June 4, 2019 1:15 pm at 1:15 pm in reply to: Modern world changed traditional living (shidduch/ affordable living) #1737936
Mistykins: if the population were smaller you would likely have less high schools to choose from and maybe one that was actually a good fit, assuming they all had the space.
The overcrowding is partly our fault, as for example in KJ they are building (schools and housing) like crazy to accommodate the growing population, and it’s covering the Brooklyn influx besides its own natural growth Ka”h.
Yes, government funding and having their own tax base definitely helps, as money is needed for everything, but you can’t negate that smart growth-oriented planning plays a huge part in meeting the demand. And less schools equals less choice, but also better allocation of resources.
On a side note, what do you guys say about the Chinese new “merit system” that literally punishes non-conformers?
Sure seems like the best government to me…
Funny, I was in Lancaster county recently and had the same question. Oh well. Your question had the answer, it’s called conditioning, or “hergel naase teva”.
As much as you think your neighbor’s life is boring, sleeping late and being “lazy” doesn’t exactly give you more time to do the things you love. We could all benefit from some structure and actually gain time to incorporate the stuff we love doing, without resorting to crazy late nights and the ensuing bad moods.
Oh, what’s the time now again?…
It needed to be said twice😀
Why are we debating a topic asked about in 2010? Give it a rest, guys, unless someone new has questions.
Why are debating a topic asked about in 2010? Give it a rest, guys, unless someone new has questions.
Neville: I was responding to Charlie Hall who mentioned he took another full MMR booster shot, when all he needed per testing was the Rubella vaccine. This seemed overkill to me. They can combine the MMR for most, but have the separate vaccines available for those that need/want to separate it.
And I believe the anti-Vaxx complaint is having to be immunized against many diseases, not specifically how many times these need to be injected. Some people believe that the risk of vaccinating babies for a few viruses at once is greater than if done one by one. It makes sense, but I don’t have any data on this.
Charlie: I’m pro-Vaxx, but don’t you think it’s ludicrous that you had to get all three vaccines when you only needed one? Why can’t there be an option of choosing what you need/taking it step by step? It’s this shoving stuff down our throats (or extremities in this case) that makes the vaccine companies/Health Dept. seem morally wrong and makes people question their motives.
I didn’t realize how right I was about misspellings… (Referring to my own typo above.)
Whether Mae or female, the OP is right here (except for the spelling, but what else is new?).
The mannequins are very often in the display window to the street, which he/she may be referring to. Either way, if they cater to a Frum clientel they should be more sensitive to the community.
Joseph is correct. Studies show that when it comes to smiling, fake it till you make it is the way to go. NBC News had a late 2017 article on this, and following is the headline & byline:
“Smiling can trick your brain into happiness — and boost your health
A smile spurs a powerful chemical reaction in the brain that can make you feel happier.”
Anyone interested can google for the full article.
AMD: Thanks for the link, and you’re probably right. The possibility still exists though that since he’s using a different screen name, he’s taken a different approach and his standards here have changed.
While you’re all busy racking your brains over this troll-worthy thread and the halachik ramifications therein, I’m breaking my head over the possibility that Rebbetzin G. Is actually a reincarnation of Poppa Bar Abba. Thoughts?
Wolfish: Imagine not even having cake with milk! Unless the cake is vegan, chances are there are eggs in there. I think “Rebbetzin troll” forgot that eggs are in sooo many foods, not just in scrambled, sunny side-up or boiled eggs.
Lucky for her, trolls don’t have to be well thought out or take reality into account when trolling. It’s known as the famous trolling kula, which is based on the fact that trolls don’t die, they live online forever, have no atzmos, yet there are no know kol koros against them.
Don’t remember if I ever tasted it, but Tuv Taam makes it. Frozen though.April 1, 2019 6:42 am at 6:42 am in reply to: making marijuana and toeiva marriage legal but plastic bags illegal-normal???? #1705829
ZDad: I mentioned shopping being done by foot, specifically on the spur of the moment, then it’s impractical. It’s not such a big deal to stash a few bag in your car. No one wants to lug empty bags around all day so that they can perhaps drop in for groceries on their way home from work, presumably first using mass transit. I’m not saying you shouldn’t use reusable bags if they work for you, and perhaps the paper bags can be sturdy as well. But to legislate it, is a whole different story.
And it’s kind of ironic when NYC is trying to limit the cars on the road (Midtown Manhattan is just the beginning, these laws work like Pharaoh’s did) with crazy tolls passed in the same budget. Reusable bags are not really compatible with the very mindset NYC is trying to cultivate. Unless buying a new bag or three every time one does grocery shopping is considered environmentally friendly…
And if more than one family member might do the shopping at any given time, on the way home from school etc., having bags on hand for everyone becomes more than just a small inconvenience.March 31, 2019 10:24 am at 10:24 am in reply to: making marijuana and toeiva marriage legal but plastic bags illegal-normal???? #1705348
Reusable bags can spread salmonella if not washed after carrying chicken etc. Many people don’t wash them often enough. And in cities where shopping is often done by foot on the spur of the moment, reusable bags don’t cut it.
According to my “expert photo analysis”, most likely Rabbi Jacobson doesn’t trim his beard, just tucks it in with “rubber bands”. For some reason it’s very commonly done by Chasidish men, but apparently uncommon in Lubavitch.