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Aries, I have been drinking Glucerna, but I would be interested in the Slim Fast low carb shake you mentioned. Could you find out a) calorie count and b) how many grams of sugar and carbs (before the fiber is deducted)?
I have lost about the same amount as you, and I know how hard that was, so yasher koach.
what is considered the ideal A1c, what would be high and what would be too low?
Yes. Do you think Hashem cannot understand all languages? Just daven and He will listen.
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Moski, I actually was trying to figure out a way to fit that word in, but it just didn’t go with the flow.
If you rhyme, pay attention to meter.
The better the lines flow, the neater.
If all follows nicely,
And oh so precisely,
The whole poem sounds that much sweeter.
I can only tell you that my daughter-in-law went to the Mikvah as she entered her ninth month of pregnancy(which is a popular segulah in our neighborhood for an easy delivery), and a childless young woman was the next woman to go into the Mikvah after she came out (which is another segulah that is popular here), and within two months, the childless woman was expecting and delivered a healthy baby later that year. She had been trying for a while with no success. We coordinated the two tevilos to coincide with my DIL’s beginning of the ninth month and the childless woman’s specific leil tevilah. Whether or not this segulah is an accepted one by the frum velt at large, it certainly had two great outcomes, an easy delivery for one and a pregnancy for another woman. Both women delivered boys.
Aside from this, daven with all your heart for the childless women you know. Take two childless women and ask them to each daven for the other one and they will B”EH both be answered.
Step-sibling does not = half-sibling. A Step-sibling is NO blood relation to you whatsoever. It might be that your parent (widowed or divorced)married someone who came to the new marriage with a child from a previous marriage. That child is not assur to marry, and I know frum people who have in fact married their step-siblings.
If however, your parent marries again and sires/bears a child with the new spouse, THAT child though a half-sibling, is certainly considered your full sibling in regards to erva, and would therefore be assur to marry. Some people might have a special sensitivity in the case where the step-siblings have been raised as siblings from a very young age, so that they are emotionally connected as brother/sister, even if they are not biologically related to each other. That is another issue, but still not technically assur should they want to marry.
I use a Melitta one cup filter cone, pour boiling water over the coffee grounds (I happen to like Dunkin’ Donuts regular grind), and I quickly have drip coffee, no electricity needed, and the coffee is delicious.
I have never charged a friend for a service that I performed for them that is within my professional area of expertise or ability to help them out. I have helped them to write speeches for simchas, to write grahmin, to chauffeur around their kids when they were working and unavailable to do their carpool, to take their parents to doctor appointments, etc. If you are a friend, you do these things out of love and chessed.
That said, if they were just casual acquaintances, I might charge them much less than I would a fremdeh, but I would still want to be paid for my work.
Men should also be tznuim in their actions. It reflects their eidelkeit. Would anyone here say that men should NOT be eidel?
Don’t ask you Rov. Ask your lawyer. Do not ask a Rov to take out your appendix unless he is also a surgeon. The knee-jerk response that some people post to “ask your LOR,” does not help in all cases, unless your LOR advises you to ask your lawyer. My gut tells me you could be in serious trouble if you are writing an autobiographical type book or an article that is about your life and actions. When it is in writing, published, and read by others, you cannot take it back. It might also depend on the felony, whether there was a statute of limitations, etc. If it was murder, for example (chalilah), there is no statute of limitations and you could be arrested and tried. Please speak to a lawyer who is proficient in criminal law. Don’t go to a real estate lawyer (unless the felony involved real estate, maybe).
There are machlokos amongst our Chachomim as to what the time frame really is/was. Some believe it was actually that each Day was a 24 hour cycle, and other assert that because there was no sun or planetary creation in the Heavens until Day 4, the time frame could have millions of years initially. What difference does it really make? We believe Hashem created EVERYTHING, “SHe-Haya, Hoveh, V’Yihiyeh.” So does it really make such a colossal difference if our understanding of the concept of time at the beginning of Creation is the same as it is in our time? Many things have changed over the millennia. Is it such a stretch to believe that time was altered as well?
it’s a third party (NASI) encouraging “
You say encouraging, I say demanding. Potato potahto.
LOVE IT, LOVE IT, LOVE IT! I am ready for Shabbos by Thursday anyhow, and it gives me a whole evening to relax and unwind. Much better for me than Shabbos in the summer time. When the days are long, I cannot relax, because my neighbors’ kids are all outside playing and being what kids usually are meant to be, loud and noisy. On Friday nights at this time of year, however, all is calm and quiet. AAAAAHHHHHHHHH!
It’s hard, but you have only one direction to go in, and that is FORWARD. I am sorry you are having this challenge, but it is part of life that we will face disappointment more than once. How we carry ourselves after that, defines who we are. Hatzlacha rabba.
No offense intended at all, but are AZ and Daas Yochid the same person?
The issur is on live instrumental music, is it not (I certainly could be wrong, but this is what I was taught)? Acapella singing is not live music, no matter how much the voices sound like instruments. So the question then becomes, what is the intent of the issur? If it is to avoid the simcha of hearing beautiful sounds that lift the spirit, then it would make sense that even acapella is assur at those times. But if the issur is strictly on the musical instruments, because instruments bring about a certain level of enjoyment that even voices cannot, so it would make sense that the issur is only on hearing live musical instruments, but not on the acapella singing.
The issur is on live instrumental music, is it not? Acapella singing is not live music, no matter how much the voices sound like instruments. So the question then becomes, what is the intent of the issur? If it is to avoid the simcha of hearing beautiful sounds that lift the spirit, then it would make sense that even acapella is assur at those times. But if the issur is strictly on the musical instruments, because instruments bring about a certain level of enjoyment that even voices cannot, so it would make sense that the issur is only on hearing live musical instruments, but not on the acapella singing.
The first thing you do is recognize that it is not a resume. You are not applying for a job. It is a succint profile of your life, which b’kitzur should tell about you, your personality, likes and dislikes a very brief physical description (NOT to include how much you weigh), the general makeup of your family, where you daven and went to school, as well as what you are doing currently.
You should include what you are looking for in a shidduch, and if there are things you absolutely do NOT want (i.e. a pet-owner or smoker). Try to write in an upbeat manner, in a way that sets your profile apart from the 1,000 others that people see. Hatzlacha rabbah.
I was once set up by a well-known shadchan (I was not aware that my name was even given to the person by a friend of the family). I went out with the guy a couple of times and the shadchan IMMEDIATELY began to pressure my parents and me with a what aare you waiting for attitude. I ended up breaking it off with the boy after a few more dates, primarily because he was not for me, as I came to realize, but also because of the feeling of being rushed into something by someone who did not even know me personally.
GET A DUNCAN HINES PAREVE CAKE MIX. Faster than fast and probably moister than most cake recipes. I can only bake from scratch because of a nut allergy in my family, but you had better believe if it was shaas had’chak and there were no allergies, I would go right to the box.
PS. your last sentence made no sense to me.
From husband to wife:
-jewlery
-tickets to a show
-dinner at a classy, nicer restaurant
-gift certificate at one of her faviorite stores
-perfume
-gift certificate at a spa
-restaurant and hotel for one night(doesn’t have to be far)
-camera/camcorder/iphone/ipod/any gadget that she would appreciate
-breakfast in bed
-surprise her with her favorite cake/dessert/nosh
ALWAYS present her with an anniversary card, Happy Anniversay wishes, and appreciate her and thank her for all that she does, and tell her how HAPPY you are that you married her and that you love her more and more with each passing year.
There’s SO MUCH MORE! you just gotta think, think, think, what’s appropriate, what she would appriciate, and budget yourself sensibly”
Yes, that’s a good start…
Of course, it is THE way to serve it. Makes the soup into a whole meal. Yum!
I Gave it My Best Shot
The problem with stressing a point is when it involves extreme exaggeration. Kids who go mamesh OTD (meaning they are no longer Shomer Shabbos, kosher, possibly into drugs or alcohol, though not necessarily) often get disillusioned by hearing stories about such extreme behavior as was described. To them (and to me, I must admit) it is not praiseworthy that someone would consider jumping off a train and possibly killing himself, because he was in yichud with his own kallah. IMO it would have been more praiseworthy had he looked for a way to avoid the situation l’chatchilah, but given that he could not, to show that he is a trustworthy frum person even under this type of duress. Were there no other cars on the train? There surely was a conductor or engineer, so was he really in yichud?
My point is that you don’t impress kids who are already religiously in crisis, by telling them these types of maises. they go OTD because they feel disenfranchised, and do not care for the fact that they are thrown away. There are rabbonim and lay people who work with such kids with great success. They are patient, loving, and welcoming, not stern, judgmental and dismssive.
Nu – So?
The Hebrew word “ess” does not really have an exact translation. it indicates additional “something” but does not have a literal word meaning in English. When we say “Breishis Bara Elokim ess hashamayim v’ess haaretz” it could just as easily be “Breishis Bara Elokim hashamayim v’haaretz.” The “ess” is grammatically superfluous, though the Meforshim teach us that there is always something to be learned from what believe are extraneous words in the Torah, because every word has a meaning and a purpose.
Could be allergies, could be caffeine or its withdrawal, could be dehydration. Could be ANYTHING. Make a doc appointment again and have your thyroid checked as well as have a blood sugar fast.
grada – kind of like takkeh, “happens to be” IS a good explanation
ain’t nuthin’ bettah than cheesecake!
I am a little confused. Are we talking about personal information such as name and address, age, etc. or are we talking about discussing personal problems or issues? The two are not the same thing necessarily. I see no reason not to talk about issues in one’s life, but it might be better not to reveal real names or locations.
or the simchos chosson v’kalloh, where they usually put out a kabblos orchim set up of food for people who did not have the meal – kugels, maybe stuffed peppers, fruit, maybe a salad. “
This is something new to me; I have never seen this done.
I tend to agree with you. Though I am not a really private person IRL, I think that the internet can be a dangerous thing, and it is really best to play things closer to the vest than one typically would. Though I doubt that there are many stalkers in the CR, still, one never knows. Inasmuch as people often express personal views that leave them open to criticism, censure, embarrassment, and sometimes real antagonism, it is simply better to keep your personal info to yourself. JMO.
However, in this day and age, most young women are Niddos, and that in of itself is an ervah (not weighing in on Yichud, which may only be a Takana (depending on Pshat in Avoda Zara 36B)).”
Thank you for the source. I think the problem for me is that we are defining things in a very broad way, that are translated in a more specific way. Thus “erva” conceptually serves to cover the entire gamut of forbidden actions, when the word itself means nudity. In the broader sense, all the posts about it are more understandable.
Oomis, you are not a Rov. “
You are correct – so I asked a Rov, and was told that stam (innocent)negiyah is NOT the same as gilui arayos. So unless your definition of negiyah and mine are not the same, I stand by what I was told.
“I’m sorry, I’m know your wrong. I know a famous true story where a yichud with his fiancee caused a chosson (who’s a famous rosh yeshiva today) to almost jump off of a train. “
And that would have made it right – Yichud (not mamesh arayos)versus potentially committing suicide? Even the Torah does not say a boy and girl who have been intimate together are chayav misah (unless she was an arusah or an eishes ish). To the contrary, he is supposed to marry her. And that IS mamesh arayos.
Well we do say it after Bonei B’rachamav in bensching…
Hashem Yeracheim on those children. Clearly their father is a fool, as well as negligent.
A good natured jab is not the same thing as being mevayeish someone b’farhesiah. I do not believe a Gemara in Kesubos would countenance doing such a thing. It’s one thing to talk about the chosson’s bad-haircut days in his youth – quite another to say he looked like Alfred E. Neuman, and we can’t fathom what the kallah sees in him.
If this is a practice today – stop it in its tracks. Embarrassing someone in public is = murder. The words cannot be undone, neither can the potential loss of dignity the person suffers, as well as loss of reputation. Even “grahmin” should be written thoughtfully and sensitively with gentle humor.
I really don’t understand what your issue is. “
DY, so many of us think this is a bad idea for whatever reason. Why do the NASI folks not understand what OUR issue is?
Someone once asked the question about what the difference is between a pane of glass and a mirror? After all they are both made of glass. The answer is that the mirror is glass that has been coated with silver. When you look out a pane of glass, you see everyone around you. But as soon as you cover that glass with a little silver (or in this case, gelt), all you can see is yourself. The perception that troubles many of us is that the NASI project seems overly concerned NOT with how many happy shidduchim they can successfully make, but how much gelt the shadchanim can potentially make (off other people’s desperation and loneliness).
I understand that you personally do not see it this way, but if it comes across this way to so many people, then EVEN IF YOU ARE RIGHT in everything you state, there is something fundamentally wrong with the project as it stands now.
Personally, I do not get dressed up and go running possibly far from my house, for such an invitation, though I will do so to go only to a smorg and chuppah, if I am not invited for the whole thing. But that is not the same as being invited for the “last” part of the simcha.
Someone whom I thought to be a close friend and who was a guest at my own simchas, sent me an invitation to their daughter’s chuppah, and then with an additional printed card enclosed for the simchas chosson v’kallah and dessert. So I would have had to go to the chuppah at 6 PM, then go home and come back several hours later at 9:30 or so. That was just not a polite thing to do. And they had the wedding at a fancy country club, so it was not about money.
I DO understand that not everyone, myself included, can always be invited to everything, finances and/or space could be limited, etc. for the baal simcha, but it is tacky IMO to invite someone only for dessert unless the simcha is VERY early. Exception is Sheva Brachos in a private home, where people often invite others just for dessert to help make the minyan, and just have immediate family for the meal.
I have heard that it seems to be customary nowadays to also invite many of the chosson and kallah’s friends only for dancing and dessert, but I don’t love this idea. It makes it seem like you are on the A list or B list of invitees, and that bothers me.
If I were Jonathan Swift (“Gulliver’s Travels”)I would probably write an updated version of “A Modest Proposal” and suggest that parents simply eat half of all the baby girls born, so as to ensure that there will be enough boys to go around for the rest of the girls. But I am neither Jonathan nor too Swift these days, so I will refrain from trying to figure out how to bridge the numbers (not age) gap.
It really does depend on the dream. When I dream I am doing some strenuous activity, running, etc., I tend to wake up and feel as tired as if I actually did those things. It also depends on how soon I wake up after falling asleep.
Hatzalah, Bikur Cholim,Hachnossas Kallah, and Camp Simcha come to mind.
I will go one better. Why do so many people fail to put their STREET ADDRESS number on their doorway (or somewhere else that is highly visible)? I had so much trouble locating someone’s house to pick up one of my children who had been dropped off by someone else. There was snow on the ground covering up the one place that had an address, some small spot in the front yard.
Chas v’Sholom lo aleinu that they should ever need Hatzalah. Precious time will be lost as people search in vain for an address that is not readily visible. PLEASE put your house number (the numerals themselves, not a calligraphically-written script of the words)in an area that is well lit and easy to spot.
DY, let us agree that we disagree, and at least respect each other’s right to our viewpoint. I do respect yours. But I also believe that we do not live in a world like our great-great grandparents in which the genders are not mixed together for the most part, whether in work or out in the world at large, and the sooner our kids learn how to act properly when faced with these social challenges, and know how to PROPERLY interact, speak, do business with, and eventually date people of the opposite gender, the better off they will be. If you read disrespect of your derech into that statement, I assure you that you are mistaken. I am glad it works for you, as it apparently truly does. It does not work quite as well for many of the rest of the frum Jewish world, and therefore the process needs to be re-evaluated so we can see where different HALACHICALLY ACCEPTABLE methodologies can be utilized.
Hashem can do anything. That is a given. In the case of Elisha Hanavi, EVEN if the boy was in a coma and not really dead, or if Elisha actually did CPR for him and breathed life back into him, the fact that this actually works to bring someone back to life who has stopped breathing,IS A MIRACLE. We take this miracle for granted because doctors do it routinely nowadays. But in Elisha’s day, it was not commonplace, and he did not have any fancy resuscitating equipment, only himself and Siyata D’Shmaya,
I insulted no one. I accept that the Yeshivah world has a derech that they follow that has certain hashkafos that are a little more stringent than others follow. I have met only a very few Yeshivish young men who actually knew how to start and hold a conversation with a female who was not his immediate relative. most of the young men whom I have mnet over the years, do NOT know how to talk to a girl. And sometimes the girls do not know how to talk to a guy. And yes, the non-Yeshivish world has its share, too, but in a different way.
The fact that so many mentors and facilitators seem to be necessary nowadays (and please do not try to tell me this is not so, I constantly see articles everywhere, that are being written by frum dating experts who keep advising their readers to find a good mentor to instruct them on how to act on a date), seems to indicate to me that young men and women who grow up in certain environments, often have poor social skills (not to mention manners). Is this true of ALL Yeshivish people??? Of course not! That WOULD be insulting to imply that. But in my experience, it is true of MANY.
And yes, many people do manage to marry and raise families,in spite of being socially inept.If you disagree, fine. That does not necessarily mean I am incorrect. I don’t generally make statements that are not based in my own personal observations. Your observations are apparently different from mine. And I have as much right to express my opinion as you do. I am sorry you feel I insulted the Yeshivah world, that certainly is not my intent. I am merely defending my position that socialization is not a bad thing, under controlled environments, and was the norm when I was growing up. And my generation had far less trouble getting married than does the present one. Draw your own conclusions.
Daas Yochid, perhaps the things you quote refer to MARRIED women, not to girls of marriageable age. They used to send girls into the fields on Tu B’Av to make shidduchim with the young men.