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July 19, 2017 4:05 pm at 4:05 pm in reply to: Should we stop bochurim from chilling and drinking beer at a bbqs.๐ป๐ #1321170
AS the father of 5 boys and three wonderful sons i law, B’H, I can tell you there is NOTHING WRONG with your son having A cold beer. when he has SIX, then its an issue. Especially if he is at home, or with his parents.
There is nothing wrong with it, as long as its in moderation. Excessive drinking is dangerous, whether he is married or not!
We can infer from your letter, that once he’s married, he can get plastered!
Wishing your son finds the right zivug, beer or not.
My Children’s and grandchildren’s Yeshiva has had a no peanut policy in pace for many years. Any teacher or Rebbi that has a child in their class that is highly allergic, is given an Epi pen (supplied by the parent) and instructed in its use. The weekly newsletter sent home with the children has a very prominent reminder. When a party is made in the classroom, Rebbi or Morah checks the snacks brought.
The major issue with Amuka will not solve the Shidduch crisis. There is a MECHITZA running down the middle of the path to the kever and around the Kever.
How are you supposed to find your bashert at Amuka, IF YOU CAN’T SEE THEM??
I don’t understand the original question. After all, there is a WATCH MAN …
As a small business owner, I am paying for my employees health insurance. They are getting less coverage, and i am paying more. SO WE BOTH LOSE.
Just by allowing insurance to be purchased across state lines will drop the cost of insurance. COMPETITION IS GOOD
I am a small business owner. I cannot speak about the subsidy portion of Obamacare, but i can speak about the costs and services. We had a group plan for many years that was good for all of us. it increased between 5-10% yearly. Then came Obama care! Our perfectly good plan was NOT GOOD. it was replaced with an Obama plan that cost 30% more, and was accepted by fewer doctors. Our deducible and out of pocket increased as well.This has happened every single year since. we have switched companies several times in order to keep the ridiculously rising costs down! Our current plan is going up almost 30% for next year. They are covering fewer hospitals and doctors, and my out of pocket has gone up $2000.
SO TELL ME, WHAT’S GOOD ABOUT OBAMACARE. One more year, and I wont be able to afford health insurance!!September 14, 2016 4:22 pm at 4:22 pm in reply to: Blocking traffic while parking (or waiting for a driver to pull out of a spot) #1179737
IN NYC its is LEGAL to park at a hydrant, IF the DRIVER is behind the wheel, ONLY DURING DAYLIGHT HOURS. At nigh time you CANNOT block a hydrant under ANY circumstances.
How about you cooking and cleaning up for her?August 30, 2016 7:50 pm at 7:50 pm in reply to: Kumzitz on the Hudson – 2016 – Kosher or Disgusting? #1177166
While i understand the need to attract donors, these affairs are over the top and many times contradictory to the cause they are raising money for.
The night after Tisha B’av, there was a FLEISHFEST in the Five Towns benefiting an organization and yeshiva that works with OTD or on the way to OTD boys.
The ad proclaimed ” WHISKEY INFUSED CIGARS – BOURBON, SCOTCH (i don’t remember all) TASTING !!
The grownups are allowed to all of these crazy things, and then we tell the kids NO? we are using the exact things we tell our teenagers are not right to raise money top help the kids that did EXACTLY WHAT WE ARE DOING.
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Rabbi Yair Hoffman is a real person. He is a BIG talmid chacham and has written many seforim.
He lives in Far Rockaway
Horav Dovid Ozeiri spoke about salaries in yeshivot at the Agudah convention.
Since that time, several Yeshivot have created Simcha Funds to help their staff.
so now YDT has done it. What is the BIG DEAL? why is everyone looking in someone Else’s pockets!
ITS TZEDAKA – if you want to give, fine! if not, BE QUIET !
I know Rabbi Bender for over 35 years. he is KULO LAHASHEM.
The RBSO has given him the siyatta d’shmaya and koach to direct the LARGEST NON CHASIDDIC BOYS SCHOOL in the USA.
Before Pesach he distributes THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS in gift certificates to Bochurim to buy clothes for YT. in order not to embarrass anyone, EVERY BOCHUR gets called to his office,rich AND poor. And some of you question his integrity?
As a long time parent of YDT, as well as a grandparent, i can tell you that everything they do is on the up and up.
if they set up a simcha fund, then that’s what it will be. they wont co-mingle anything.
BTW – the fund is for Rabbeiim, Morot and Teachers.May 24, 2016 8:56 pm at 8:56 pm in reply to: LOOKING FOR A DIFFERENT SHUL IN FLATBUSH EAST 30's #1152945
Ave N. between e. 34 + E. 36
Guangzhou, China formerly known as Canton
Osan, South Korea. Has a VERY large US army base.
Birthplace of Marco Polo and home to thousands of Jewish refugees during WWII
Mesivta Chaim Shlomo (Darchei) is an excellent choice. It is run by Rabbi Yaakov Bender, shlita. They have all kinds of programs for the bochurim. They offer AP courses for the boys. They definitely prepare you for college, though they will not encourage you to go. they also will not discourage you.
I know many boys that graduated from MCS, went to EY, came back and went to schools such as Harvard Law, NYU, etc. and they are all fine bnei Torah.
Reminds me of a joke told by Yankel miller. he said ” my wife copies everything her mother does. Her mother’s name is Raizy, my wife is K-RAZY”December 4, 2015 4:49 pm at 4:49 pm in reply to: Invited to the Wedding Feast, not the Ceremony-would you be offended? #1142983
You are absolutely correct! Why shlep for so many hours to be at the chupah – Your daughter can wear her gown at the party, and you can have her and your son in law make a BIG ENTRANCE once everyone is there.
Whatever he gave you is not the point. The reason for LEKACH (or dead chickens) is as follows;
In case Hashem gave you a gezeira of “matnas bosor v’dom” that you would need to rely on others for sustenance, this should be it.
A Gmar Chasima Tova!
As the father of B”H six married children (4 boys, 2 girls) we met the girl after the fourth or fifth date(depending on where the relationship had progressed to). Our son told the girl we would like to meet her. We met them during the course of a date, at whatever location or activity our son had chosen. We spent approximately 10 minutes “shmoozing” and then left. It was just to see if there were any “vibes” parents pick up on. B”H our sons ALL CHOSE WELL ๐
If you buy NON IRON – its less work for your wife or you save by not sending the shirts to the cleaners !
Send her baby picture. this way they can see what the Einikel will look like ๐
Any girl that would be “turned off” by one of my son’s not shaving on Chol Hamoed, i would not went as a daughter in law.
I don’t think you can compare dating to work related issues about shaving.
Also, in today’s society, where almost anything goes, (tattoos, etc), i cant see shy a beard would be a problemAugust 29, 2014 5:02 pm at 5:02 pm in reply to: #1043784
My first paragraph was written with SARCASAM.August 29, 2014 3:20 pm at 3:20 pm in reply to: #1043782
Of course seminary is important for shidduchim!
Otherwise where are girls going to be brainwashed that their ONLY tafkid (purpose) in life is to marry a kollel guy who wants to learn forever?
What’s wrong with the boy that learned for several years after marriage and then gets a job AND learns every day?
As a father of both sons and daughters who learned ion Israel,
i can tell you that the seminaries are much more cautious and protective of the girls.
All seminaries require that the girls have cell service from the seminaries chosen provider. this allows the seminary to end out mass texts and calls to all girls at once.
Seminaries have curfews, yeshivas don’t.
Seminaries require the girls to tell them where they are spending Shabbos AND WITH WHOM, yeshivas don’t.
Seminaries take the girls on ORGANIZED tiyulim, most yeshivas don’t.
All in all, if you are going to a seminary in Yerushalayim and don’t do crazy things, like going to Petra or Cairo, you will be fine.
In my children’s schools, THE PARENTS have to sign.
A Rabbi, Priest and Imam walk into a bar.
The bartender says, ” Wait , is this a joke?”
As the father of a petite girl in shidduchim, it does bother us and our daughter when the boy is shorter. we have had sevral instances where the Shadchan has told us the boy is 5’3 – 5’4
and when he showed up, he was shorter than my daughter in FLATS.
we have nothing against shorter boys, but TELL THE TRUTH!
As a resident of FR for almost 30 years, allow me to weigh in.
Whether you are buying or renting, FR is more expensive than Bayswater. A 3 bedroom in FR scan start at $2000. so you get a lot more for your money in Bayswater. That being said, the concerns mentioned before, such as distance from FR, safety, etc. are greater there.
FR & Bayswater are both part of NYC, so the property taxes are lower, but you also have NYC income tax.
In the 5T, property taxes are based on the school district you are in. so the same house on either side of Woodmere Blvd. could have a difference of $3000!
With regard to shuls, schools and shopping, there are all equal. you can find what you need in all the areas. Nassau County provides busing to all its school aged residents, regardless if the school in Nassau County or not.
If you plan on renting, there is very little the 5T or Inwood. Most houses are single family. So if you want an apartment, it’s Bayswater or FR.
Young couples are moving to the area for many reasons. There are good schools, all the neighborhoods have an “out-of-town” feel, they all have KOSHER L’MEHADRIN EIRUVS.
Yes, houses are not cheap, but much cheaper than Brooklyn or Queens.
based on your reasoning, if this elderly woman’s dying wish was to eat pork, you would allow it.
Halachah TRUMPS dying wishes. That why we have a Rov. If your Rov cannot or will not give you a Pska, at least he can send you to a Rov that is more knowledgeable about end of life issues.
But “express wishes” don’t count, the Torah does.
I once asked my Rov to mention this issue during one of his speeches. he said ” IF HIS MOTHER COULDN’T TEACH HIM< YOU THINK I CAN??”
after all the back and forth, the bottom line is:
ARE THERE SHADCHANIM that specialize or dont look down at working boys AND THE GIRLS THAT WANT TO MARRY THEM!
Lets get a list going!
maybe a shadchan can start specializing in “working” boys.
the fathers that are my age were all Torah Vodaas types that went to college at night, and kept sedarim after they started working. and they are all still keeping sedarim. but their DAUGHTERS ALL WANT LEARNERS??
i thought girls want to marry boys like their fathers?
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First of all, all of these “collectors” are NOT TZEDAKAH !
Many of them are collecting for themselves. They are perfectly capable of working, yet find it easier to schnorr. that is what they are SCHNORRERS.
IF they have a valid letter from an ESTABLISHED VAAD, that is NOT EXPIRED, then IT IS TZEDAKAH.
Many of these Russians come around with letters from a Rav in Queens that states IF you believe the are Jewish, then give them.
with regard to the Chadishe guys that swarm into shul and wave their hands under your nose, they should know the Halachas and know when they can or cannot collect. fi you ignore them, they will learn.
As a resident of the 5T for over 25 years, i must say that it is a wonderful area to live in. Granted some parts are pricey, but you can buy a house at a decent price. Many young couples have moved to Inwood, North Woodmere, parts of Cedarhurst and Woodmere. There is even talk of a group moving to Valley Stream. All of these areas are relatively close to the shopping and restaurants in the 5T.
You can also check out West Hempstead and Oceanside.
It’s a bit hectic this close to Pesach to go and watch matza baking UNLESS the bakery is equipped for it. My chaburah went to bake this past Sunday. We were hampered by little kids going back and forth watching and getting in the way. its difficult to carry matzos to the ‘reidler” (hole maker)while dodging back and forth.
Then you have the issue of “helpers”. every kid over 8 or so wants to get into the action and help. the problem is, WE HAVE A CHABURAH for a REASON. we want to ensure that the baking is done according to our standards. Parents letting their kids “help” may work for them, but they’re MY matzos, not yours.
CHAG KASHER V’SAMEACHFebruary 11, 2013 10:12 pm at 10:12 pm in reply to: Outdated Industrial Knitting Machine Needles/PartsJunk Metal? #976484
there is a scrap dealer on Cropsey Avenue right in front of Home Depot. if its one machine and you can take it to him, fine.
if you have a lot, he can send someone to you and shlep. you will get less money if he shleps it.
there is a “market” price for every metal. the dealers are almost all the same price.
THE BEST THING ABOUT OBAMA IS: HE’LL BE GONE IN FOUR YEARS !!
Square Peg – according to your reasoning, if a woman would wear a full length body suit covering her from head to toe (ala’ Blue man group) it would be OK?
ANOTHER ONE BITES THE DUST ! ๐
there are three rings in marraige
is this a new thing? my kids won’t get married if i don’t wear a square button shirt?
is that the only thing your husband needs in life?
I asked R’ Yaakov Reisman, and he told me that there is no problem to make Gebrochts on Erev Shabbos for Shabbos.
Who told you they are kosher Jews?
I have a Puerto Rican that works for me, and he and his entire family are Karaites! They never were Jews, they never considered themselves Jews.
He would not cut the grass on my lawn during SHMITTA!
Several years ago, he kept Pesach TWO WEEKS EARLY, because his “Priest” was in EY, and saw green barley blooming on Purim.
(AVIV is when barley blooms. SO Purim to him became Rosh Chodesh Nisan, and they all kept Pesach TWO WEEKS EARLY.
So unless you can provide the names of some Gedolim that say Karaites are Kosher Jews, I would not call them that.
While my daughter was in seminary a few years ago, she went with some girls to Rebbitzen Kanievsky a’h. It was during Chanukah, and they arrived just as R’ Chaim shlita was getting ready to light.
My daughter and her freinds were able to stand near the Rebiitzen in the doorway while R’ Chaim lit the menorah. After R’ Chaim lit, THE REBITTZEN LIT HER OWN MENORAH WITHOUT A BROCHO!!! We have photos of it at home. If Rebbitzen kanievsky could light, so can all other girls and women.