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  • in reply to: Yet another tznius issue (but probably not a crisis) #778306
    boredinoffice
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    @Haifa and other who agree

    Those who want to stare will do so regardless of a logo or non logo. Perhaps its better rather then have them staring all over to see if the name of the school is on it.

    in reply to: Would you vote for a woman? #777112
    boredinoffice
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    @OP – I would vote for a woman if she was qualified. It is sexist to say otherwise

    in reply to: KOSHER FOOD ORLANDO #777384
    boredinoffice
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    @momma

    kosherorlando.com has a shul and restauraunt

    all parks have one vendor with kosher food. i ate there last time a threw most of it in the garbage. not worth it it was vile

    google.com may be able to help also

    in reply to: Running the Conversation #777643
    boredinoffice
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    Not sure there has ever been a time in world history that a man ran a conversation ­čÖé

    in reply to: Business travel #776477
    boredinoffice
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    @Zahavasdad – Labruite was horrible. I went to Pomegrnatae once and had them double wrap but was not worth the trouble especially if you are flying. A suitcase for food??

    in reply to: Were not Chassidish at all, but we go to Rebbes for Brachos #773247
    boredinoffice
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    I go to rebbes for brachos and can only say one thing. When asking the rebbe advice, I DO NOT take his opinion to an anonomous online chat to discuss. I assume you may have another rov that you can discuss these things with. You could also have told the rebbe that this is something that is difficult to do and see what he says. To blindly listen to him and nod your head and then to go YWN CR to debate is utter stupidity on your part!!!!!

    in reply to: Women who drink on a date #770928
    boredinoffice
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    nothing wrong with drinking in moderation

    in reply to: Yeshivah guy ordering beer on a date #770539
    boredinoffice
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    maybe he was having a lousy time and figured a little alchohol can take the edge off. Why is it his fault??

    A beer does not make you drunk in small quantities.

    in reply to: Segulos: Has This Worked For You Personally? #767486
    boredinoffice
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    not sure who R miller is. A few years back my wife did something like this with someone in EY who said some of us had A”H which she removed. not sure what happened after that…………

    in reply to: Should I Allow My Kids To Miss Yeshiva? #770793
    boredinoffice
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    Let them go. They will feel good about themselves. more important then the few hours of learning, they will feel that their parents love them and care and want them to be happy.

    If this would happen weekly it it is a whole different ballgamme

    boredinoffice
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    @health – we are discussing normal rational people not the radicals. Raidcals on either end will never be satisfied with anything except there own way.

    @oomis – you could not have summed it up better. As an aside, if Hillary can come to boro park/monroe/williamsburg to meet with various rebbes then she can most definantaly be published in print

    boredinoffice
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    @health

    The basis is very clear. Doing something in a public forum with without explaining what is wrong will lead anyone to think that way. What would you tell the the guy walking along the edge of a bridge? I think it is safe to assume he is about to jump. If there was a sign that said construction ahead you would not think twice about it.

    If they would have noted that 2 women were removed from the picture then all would be well. By them not acknowledgeing that they were in the room they are showing the world how narrow minded they are and how all that concerns them is is their own agenda.

    Simply put, If one thinks in advance of their actions they will have less problems

    boredinoffice
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    @BSD – tznius is not limited but you cant take your agenda out public and expect no public response. Kosher media has to come with adhering to all rules/laws regarding media. Altering of photos or changing facts cannot be done without a disclaimer in advance not a meek aplogy later.

    @health – true – but again – the target market would be yiddish speaking folks. if it is being sold at a newsstand it is PUBLIC therby allowing anyone to view and comment.

    The apology that came after reminds me of when a judge tells a jury “strike this form the record” It is nice but meaningless. Whatever thoughts or points that needs to be removed are already ingrained in the mind of the juror

    boredinoffice
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    how are they any different than 99 percent of the lying media we have out there whether it be print or thru the airwaves.

    @ getzel

    media may give the interpertation of the facts the way they want to slant it. There was no question that Hillary Clinton was in the room

    boredinoffice
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    Your argument would be correct if there were other readers. Like for example the NY times, some people have a subscription and some buy it occasionally. Here even the ones who buy it occasionally know what they do with all women. There is no logical reason for them to put any disclaimer on any photos.

    A disclaimer is only needed if someone could be misled.

    Anyone on this frum YWN blog ever bought this newspaper? I highly doubt it.


    @health

    How can you say that a newspaper being sold at newstands does nto have other readers. It is being sold to anyone who wants it. Does the newsman only sell it to chasidim??

    I highly doubt that any of the loyal readers ran to the press over this story

    As for your comment about YWN blog – the world is alot bigger then YWN blog (sorry YWN)

    boredinoffice
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    @thewolf – the colbert report did a very funny spoof on this last night regarding your exact point. it would be on his website

    boredinoffice
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    Health – when a paper is published and sold at newstands it is for the public. It does target a reading group but anyone can look at it and draw any conclusion thet want. The readers may know that any women have been reomved but that would hardly be the point.

    Being that the paper is a public paper avaiable to anyone the disclaimer is needed to justify what to someone may be ignorance/stupidity/uncaring/altering facts the list goes on and on.

    in reply to: Job Ideas #765632
    boredinoffice
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    It would depend on if he had any formal education and how open he would be to working in a non jewish environemnt. The more open he would be the more opurunity he can find. Perhaps a placement coach can help figure out the best market for him. He may want to consider a college degree at night. I would also suggest a non online program so that he can interact with other people.

    Good Luck!!!!!!!!!

    boredinoffice
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    @Tikkun

    If a newspaper is not aware of copywright laws etc.. they should not be in business.

    boredinoffice
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    Papers CANNOT do as they wish. They are subject to copywright laws as well using the common sense that some people are infused with. They may be privatly held but their content is not private at all.

    They would have been better off publishing no picture at all.

    @BSD the beautiful way of life that you speak of is very nice but that can be done in a shul publication, not in a public forum. The editors need to use their heads. its a big world out there and if you are not signing up to join it then dont be part of it. Dont take the pieces that fit the your viewpoints and throw all else away. They could have noted that teh photo was altered……

    in reply to: support #766260
    boredinoffice
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    I think it is cyclical. Most of the guys in yeshiva kollel that are in the mid 20′ and upwards were mostly raised in homes where parents worked (as was the custom) in the 1970’s through recently. Lots of them grew up with modern comforts and therefore when the time came to get married wanted it continued (nice car, support gifts etc..) This group will not be able to give the same to the chidlren that they are raising. Those kids will end up going to work to break out of the lifestyle of living on the basics. Their kids will go back to yeshiva. This is not blanket rule but rather the “norm” Lots of kids growing up want to be different from the way they grew up.

    its a never ending cycle……….

    enjoy the ride

    in reply to: Can You Check Where Someone Is? #1015646
    boredinoffice
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    adorable – not sure if you are CIA – but computers can be tracked by IP address

    if you want to be truly unknown then go to a public library. even an internet cafe will be tracked as you have to buy time

    Not sure what plot your working on but it sounds like fun

    in reply to: Why wasn't Bin Laden armed? #764725
    boredinoffice
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    I still have not seen one solid shred of evidence that he is dead. I think it is a sham

    in reply to: Victory Lap #764211
    boredinoffice
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    Its a political move and photo op. POTUS has not been @ ground zero since elected to office. if he trully cared he would have stopped by on Tuesday rather then wait for all politicians and the like to be ready for him.

    G Bush was smart for declinign teh offer to join him and make it a bigger circus and photo op

    This is going to be his reelection push off

    in reply to: Not Looking For A Psak, Just An Opinion #770196
    boredinoffice
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    Based on the content of what she is asking for, why not?

    If she would ask for other things then I would say no.

    I have a family member who feels that way about the internet and is always asking to check and research things for him. I told him that if it is indeed assur, I dont want to get a bigger aveirah for using it on his behalf.

    in reply to: Anxiety-And Symptoms #795313
    boredinoffice
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    meds is the way to go as a temp solution. Long term your anxiety should be worked out through therapy

    in reply to: What Do You Do When You're Angry? #764489
    boredinoffice
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    i go off on my own and internalize what caused it. Try to change the reaction for next time. But I find it most relaxing to be on my own for some time

    in reply to: Are You A Killer Sociopath? (Riddle) #1005536
    boredinoffice
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    if she kills her sister presumably then man she fell in love with will return.

    in reply to: Which Do You Think Is More Effective? #764037
    boredinoffice
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    then I dont like the real you :-).

    What you said is correct though in reality and you bring a valid point to the table as well as to the OP

    in reply to: Which Do You Think Is More Effective? #764035
    boredinoffice
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    well said zeeskite!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    As I man, I can tell you that you are 100% right

    in reply to: Which Do You Think Is More Effective? #764019
    boredinoffice
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    A – thank him. He is doing you a favor

    I am not sure why a women would think she deserves to have the door held open for her. it may be proper but it has to be earned.

    in reply to: Getting Married & Trying To Decide To Have TV Or Not #764319
    boredinoffice
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    @moderator80 – Is that how one becomes a mod? I guess I am not qulaified then. I have never been to vegas or other such places ­čÖé

    in reply to: Please Answer #763694
    boredinoffice
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    I cant c anyones profile. I dont know how to see mine

    in reply to: I had a dream… #764086
    boredinoffice
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    You need to move on. Do you take all your dreams so seriously. better yet, call it a nightmare

    in reply to: MOTHER INLAWS #763874
    boredinoffice
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    I go to my in laws on rare occasions for this reason. It took may years and MIL has stopped inviting her friends over on shabbos and YT when we do come. it was a group effort of the married kids to explain so she can understand that we have no interest in spending shabbos/YT with her friends.

    I usually let her do what she wants and if I disapporve I tell my kids that they cant and tell my MIL things like “please dont give the kids lollies or other sugar filled junk @ 9.00pm” She used to give me a blank look but she come a long way and understands that she has to respect our way of rasing kids.

    Show her that you are in charge of your family. it may work

    in reply to: nosy family members #764009
    boredinoffice
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    If you dont want it repeated keep it to yourself. It has always worked for me. You can always post it in CR if no-one knows you. I have also found that sometimes you can trust certain family members over others. Steer clear of the gossipers amongst the families

    in reply to: Social Experiment #3 #763191
    boredinoffice
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    I would say hello. whats wrong with being nice. of course How would anyone know they were standing next to anyone from CR

    in reply to: Where were You….. #763963
    boredinoffice
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    had I woken up on time – I would have been driving by when it happened. I left my house 15 minutes later then usual.

    I have been waking up late since then just in case

    in reply to: Suggesting Shidduch for………yourself?! #913795
    boredinoffice
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    WHats wrong with suggesting it? If they can date, they can get married. Why would it be different then someone else suggesting it. Does the work handpicked come to mind?

    It would be worse if it didn’t work out. How can you see someone daily that you dated especially if it was remotely serious??

    in reply to: Resume #763797
    boredinoffice
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    resume is a perosnal thing. There are orgainzations such as PCS that might be able to help you. You have to like and be comfortable with what you see on your resume. Perhaps you should go on campus. if you spent a few years there and it is that important – why not?????

    Perhaps a friend who is working can help you. I have reviewed many resumes for various friends over the years

    boredinoffice
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    I started in BP and now live in Flatbush. Flatbush is nicer and people more respectful of personal space. did I mentioni it is much quieter also.

    in reply to: Social Experiment #2 #763759
    boredinoffice
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    a and c would be a deal breaker – if she did not offer me gum I would be upset

    in reply to: Social Experiment #763589
    boredinoffice
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    I would go with the introvert and should have the middah of being genuine and sincere.

    Eclipse – I am confident you realize there are so many more dynamics to this question (dont eb insulted) – however from my experience I have found this would be my choice knowing what I know today….

    in reply to: Job Interview/Shave/Omer/Beard #762753
    boredinoffice
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    spoiler

    I have started my career in accounting and have since moved on to private and can tell you that you should with fair certanty shave ( I am not a rov but am familiar with the firm) it is not a heimeshe business and thus you do need to look your finest. With regards to the yarmulkah, most industries in NY have no issues with yarmulkahs. Some lawyers do not wear them but otherwise most people in mmost industries do.

    With regards to an english name, I use an english name as it is might simpler to introduce to people regardless of whether there is a “CH” in the name. I do not shave now but if I have meetings then I will shave depending on who I am meeting with including people that i work with. You need to find a level that you are comfortable with and try to stick to it.

    in reply to: Do u have a deep dark secret? #767740
    boredinoffice
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    So many and not sure where to start………

    in reply to: If you could live anywhere, where would you live? #891010
    boredinoffice
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    @ Health – Thanks for clarifying.

    Not all are fakers – it just seems like alot for such a small town

    I would actually love to live in the midwest and spend my days storm chasing

    in reply to: support #1041723
    boredinoffice
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    @Patur – 1.It is my money therefore my decision. 2. Let us not be naive to say that one cannot tell the difference between a benchwarmer and someone who is a real osek btorah. It is clear as day who a real learner is and one who is “doing time”.

    I dont know how the problem starts but it continues when a boy will not want to even date a girl without getting a support committment for at least 5 years before going out one time.

    Can I assume you are learning in yeshiva and are of marrigable age?

    in reply to: Allergic To The Sun? #762479
    boredinoffice
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    everyones skin reacts differently to the sun. Some people can tan well while others burn and other get blotches

    in reply to: support #1041717
    boredinoffice
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    Patur – not at all. I happen to have a number of siblings living in Lakewood and one of them is the real deal. I have been been giving him a check almost every month for a while now. I am getting a piece of his learning and I am helping stay in yeshiva. I do not give my other siblings because I dont think that they are real learners. Let me be clear – I have no issue with learning and am all for it and am all for people going to kollel. I do not believe that all the guys sitting in Yeshiva are meant to be sitting and learning. they are causing unneccessary strain on the parent and inlaws that struggle to provide. we are a nation of cookie cutters and conformists. Not everyone should be learning and be supported.

    The kesuba also speaks of husbands supporting families and providing not parents in laws/wives slaving all day?

    in reply to: Magazines in host's house #763266
    boredinoffice
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    it would depend on relative – sibling/inlaws cousin etc.. The closer the relation theeasier and appropriate it would be to move it on your own or ask to have it moved.

    I know if I would be host of where you stayed I would not be offeneded in anyway if you would have asked to move or let me know that you moved it out. I once moved something from a bathroom of mine because I had a guest that I knew was sensitive viewing such material. i told my wife to put it away until after they left.

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