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And it would make more sense to me for Rav to give lashes for kiddushin without tanayim as this assures forerthought to the marriage compared to the misunderstandings which comes with spontaneity.
Shadchanim certainly have a tradition in our history, but matchmakers are found in many cultures.
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“someone who betrothed a woman without a ‘Shadchan’ (b’lo shidduchei).”
“if it keeps your hat or shtraimel dry”
According to many poskim, that is not a heter unless the rain is heavy enough to soak through your hat or shtraimel to your scalp. But according to these poskim, the plastic hat shmatte is not mutter for an ordinary rain or if you are just going a short distance.
Will it cause a rift in the friendship? Will they borrow from someone else and take it anyway, if they take it at all? Seems like a s’fek s’feka.
What would happen if he asked to borrow a bottle of Coke or a can of corn and his posek held that it was mutter to open them l’chatchila, while your posek said it was assur gamur. What would you do?
Would you invite your neighbor over for Shabbos knowing that he is carrying a tissue in his pocket? Or would you give him shalom in the street knowing that he may take off his glove to shake your hand?
There is no end to this and I don’t think you are responsible for his keeping the Shabbos the way your posek determines it versus his posek.
“More practical than umbrella nad can be used on Shabbos.”
Does this “coat” come with the approval of poskim who assir the Brooklyn/Boro Park eruvim?
When it rains on Shabbos, you are nor permitted, according to many poskim, to wear a cheap thin plastic raincoat, since when it stops raining you will be embarrassed to wear it (you would never wear it any other time)and might take it off and carry it. A rain cover for a hat, while there is a a machlokes haposkim whether it’s mutter, is a different matter.
It seems to me from the posts above, that this may apply to this type of raincoat as well. I have worn it, and besides its look, it gets very hot and uncomfortable, and I can see where someone would remove it when the rain has stopped.
Swaying trees… very scary… and six deaths have already occurred due to falling limbs. Stay home until winds have stopped, and even then be careful of tree weakened limbs.
I don’t remember his name right now, but he quoted the g’mara in babba m’tzia that that 99 out of 100 people die before their time due to Ayin Hara. Chazal have said that Ayin Hara causes destruction from Above even without bad intention from the parties involved.
While we have a word “farginin”, which is to delight in someone’s good fortune; it is actually very rare that someone truly fargins another person, no matter what he expresses verbally to the contrary. And instead of the ayin tova which was mentioned in an earlier post, it is an ayin hara that is actually created.
This observation is from a gadol.
a mamin – You are correct for not criticizing but what are your daughter’s feelings? Also, had you known about this character flaw before they were introduced, would it have been a shidduch breaker?
“the same as for hearing thiunder oseh maaseh braishis”
The bracha for hearing thunder is Sh’kocho Ug’vuraso Malei Olam.
The vast majority of heimeshe brands in America do not produce their own products and the rav hamachshir must rely on the OU or another major hashgacha for the heimeshe hehashgacha label.
Sister Mary could use a change of habit.
If she’s that literate, get rid of her. Smart cleaning ladies are bad news.
And certainly if the food stamp “benificary” is not really learning or looking for employment, it would be assur for the same reason that it’s assur to gamble; because his action did nothing to promote the benefit of society.
“The Gedolim have Paskined that Limud HaTorah overrides any concern regarding what others might think.”
Name one Gadol who was/is on food stamps.
And which psak from any Gadol are you quoting which says “that Limud HaTorah overrides any concern regarding what others might think”.
Rav Moshe zt”l and Rav Aharon Soleveitchik zt’l were first cousins.
“I do eat in DD stores that don’t have a hashgacha!”
So according to you, one may eat in any DD store without hashgacha.
Great, so let’s believe the goyish baker that his bread is kosher, after all it looks kosher.
And let’s believe the goy at the movie theater that his popcorn is kosher, after all, what tarfus can you put in popcorn?
And let’s believe the goy that he doesn’t use the microwave at DD to heat up his lunch or that he doesn’t cut his ham sandwich with a DD knife because, after all, the goy is a nice guy and he wouldn’t lie ’cause he might lose his minimum wage dishwasher salary.
“There is nothing not kosher sent to the kosher DD stores and when they run out of anything they absolutely may not go ahead and restock on their own. Besides, what exactly could they do? Buy non kosher bagels and pass them off as DD bagels? Everything you buy in DD has a distinct look and taste”.
Then why have any hashgacha at all, after all,”everything you buy in DD has a distinct look and taste”? That does not hold water both halachikly and in practice, as evidenced in other mishaps.
And let’s not forget Yeshiva University for providing American Jewry with thousands of Rabbonim and mechanchim. The Yeshiva was the home of numerous g’dolim from the renowned yeshivos of Europe who more recently produced the likes of Rav Nachman Bulman, Rav Moshe Bick, Rav Herschel Shachter, Rav Aharon Kahn; to name a few.
Look at the old photos, numerous Rebbes and Gedolim wore neck ties so it’s just a general shlumpy dress code that people have adopted and gave it the label of frumkeit. And some have even extended this dress code to include wearing their shirts outside of their pants. So I don’t want to hear tainas about men wearing shorts and sandals for davining when your own behavior needs fixing. Kavode ha’tzibor and kavode bais ha’knesses should be as important as going to a fancy affair.
But chassidem hold that for some reason one may repeat the word “knee” and it’s not a hefsik.
The Yotzei v’nichnas heter, especially at a food establishment establishment which is run by goyim, is infinitely weaker than Rav Moshe’s shita concerning American milk. Do you remember the recent Boro Park hot dog caper, and that was with a top hashgacha and a camera pointed at the working area.
So you can have a heimish CY coffee with your sofek powdered milk donut. But the milk is the least of your kashrus worries at a Dunkin Donuts store.
Getting old means never buying green bananas.
“because apparently they are only made with powdered milk.”
“he said that everything but the donuts will be chalav yisrael.”
yitayningwut, I too try to be medakdek in my words and because you inserted “apparently” in your post rather than a difinitive statement, I assumed you were not positive about the powdered milk. And it seems from following posts (including your own) that the donuts might not be made from powdered milk.
And I appreciate Lubavitchers for going to all corners of the world to provide succor for Jewish travelers with emergencies or in need of kosher food.
“The one in Chicago is under the cRc.”
Does that mean it’s Yoshan?
“Rav Ruderman held that Chalav Yisroel is not required for powdered milk.”
That’s no chidush. But are you sure that Rav Ruderman didn’t hold of Rav Moshe’s psak concerning milk in America?
“although my father came from a chasidish family he turned out to be very modern and had(or have)still issues with some points in yiddishkeit”
Don’t ask questions. You are fortunate that your father survived and that he retained some traditions and left enough room for you to continue the chain.
am yisrael chai: Correction. R Yitzchok Berkowitz and R Eli Mansour are Harav Yitzchok Berkowitz and Harav Eli Mansour.
And I too respect the “modern” community for embracing the Gedolim of the Charaidi world.
And I respect every yid of every type who rises early and learns before the shachris minyan and again in the evening after work when he can barely keep his eyes open. And I respect this yid’s wife for encouraging her husband to learn while forgoing his help and companionship.
And I respect the Daf Yomi Magid Shiur for the hours of work for every daf prepared and his wife who should be proud and encourage her husband’s efforts.
I respect the Orthodox Union for their outstanding contributions to Klal Yisroel. The Orthodox Union has been the first and is second to none in the areas of kashrus, kiruv, political advocacy, Torah dissemination, programs for the deaf, job placement, Bais Din, Torah learning given by top drawer Rabbonim on its web site, and many more.
It would be hard to find any Tisha B’av kinus and program event which is as meaningful and beautiful as the OU program which is webcast every year and features Rabbi Weinreb.
A big Yasher Koach to the Orthodox Union.
I respect the CR moderators for their tolerance and respect of all legitimate opinions, whether they personally agree with them, and even when it is not politically correct to do so.
What a wonderful topic for the CR!
“But for a crowd to sing together is problematic.”
Vu shtait?
“the issur of kli shir includes Acapella”
Only recorded Acapella; not live.
The reason there is a shidduch crises is because the vast majority of single men who are past 40 are actually not interested in marriage and probably never were.
Many Jews who don’t believe in Torah and halacha hold that it’s a mitzva to cremate; both from an economical and environmental standpoint.
This has nothing to do with mesira; it has to do with an unlicensed and probably uninsured child care establishment housed in a firetrap. It is a matter of pekuach nefesh for these children.
Having said that; I moved into my house many years ago and was just about the only Yid on the street. Because of its location and convenience, every chaleria in the neighborhood used my street, and in particular in front of my house, as a play ground from early morning into the night. Screaming, cursing, loud radio…all day long. It was unbearable.
After a few years, the street started to turn frum until it was all frum.
Now, when yiddishe kinder run and play and make noise, it’s all music to my ears. I love going to sleep to it on a Shabbos afternoon. Think about it.
There have been many victims of terror since the bridge shooting incident where an Arab terrorist succeeded in his aim to kill Jewish children. However, to single out one individual over others does not do us well.
“I think it will be a powerful reminder and symbol”
It would be a powerful reminder and symbol for all the goyim that one Jew murdered an innocent defenseless Jewish lad.
We unfortunately have had more than our share; let’s commemorate the tragedy in the ways our chazal have provided.
If it’s decided that he is insane, so be it. Otherwise, he will probably make a plea deal and not have his day in court.
If the parents don’t know already, they certainly suspect. There is nothing to gain by telling the parents; only causing them additional tzar. The parents need to wait it out and daven. The neighbors need to mind their own business and be accepting and show extra kindness to this child.
“Sefer HaChinuch – Mitzvah 580 : It is fitting for a person to remarry his former wife.”
While this information was found in a legitimate source, I have since looked into the original text and could not find this quote; but I may have missed it.
Sefer HaChinuch – Mitzvah 580 : It is fitting for a person to remarry his former wife.
Yeah, he misses her burnt chulent and she misses the daily abuse, but they’re getting back together for the sake of the children.
“Reb Elyashiv says that you should put your food onto an upside-down foil container”
I don’t know of any poskim who says that this way is assur; do you?
“and if you cover it with aluminum”
Be careful, wrapping the food entirely will cause an issur of hatmana.
Sender Av, your good friend’s practices has the backing of major poskim who rule leniently; but that’s no reason to treat him the way you do.
“Why we object to same sex toeiva marriage but not this other kind of toeiva marriage is not clear to me.”
Come on Charlie, it’s obvious to every wholesome person. One is a gezeira associated with hefkeirus and one is just plain utterly disgusting.
“It is a wonderful way to teach the children to collect tzedakah while at the same time raising tzedakah.”
No, it’s a terrible way to teach children to collect “tzedakah”. Did you ever see the administrator’s children schnorring door to door; I haven’t.
You want to learn Yiddish quickly? Ah nechtiger tag!
The window is opaque. Perhaps that the user doesn’t need to turn on the light…saves $. They also have flush options; heavy and light.