GeshmakMan

My question is, how are we “sure” that person A is a Mamzer? Do we know for sure who/what his parents did? Can we make someone a mamzer based on assumptions?

Jwashing – another solution is not to buy or support such “Jewish” Media.

I think the “leaders” and “system” that let Shadchanim be in charge are to blame.

I also think that if we eliminated the “professional” Shadchan and just let friends set each other up, or meet naturally, etc without the reliance and safety net of a “shadchan”, the Shidduch scene would look better.

Their Mission is to include/integrate people with disabilities into mainstream society.

Their Shabbatons are geared to have the Yachad Members socialize and mingle with their Shabbaton hosts both in the home and at the activities in the shul.

They also have programs to have inclusive bunks in many Modern Orthodox Summer camps.

I believe one can find out more about their amazing work on OU.org

Very simple – if you want to keep the Shtetl mihnagim, then stay home and don’t involve yourself with the “outside world” (and its higher paying jobs).

If you want to work in the real world, then you need to “deal” with some circumstances you might not feel comfortable with or used to.

I am not telling you to shake men’s hands or to eat treif Chas v Shalom, but being referred to by your first name is something that HAS to happen. This is not a Seminary Shabbaton where you are referred to as Miss/Mrs in front of your students.

At my job in BH a nice sized firm, everyone knows that that we Yidden eat Kosher, leave early for Yuntif/Shabbot and do not shake the hands of the opposite gender.

Please enlighten me as to what else we need to be makpid on?

Akuperma – yes I am aware of that, my point was that there is no “blame” here as this whole SS tax issue was a reversal of a prior tax break, regardless of who actually signed off on it.

For many years until Jan 2011, employees paid 6.2% of their salary to SS Tax, for 2011 and 2012, employees paid 4.2% of their salary to SS Tax. In 2013 it reverted back to the 6.2%.

Thank you though for the crash course in how Washington works – much appreciated!!

Ask you LOR if you can even go to non-frum websites such as Yelp.

No, I am not taking a “benign” response, I just think that this whole case is being blown out of proportion. Again, I do not defend what happened, nor do I defend the covering up.

That being said, there is really nothing left to investigate, other than Rabbi Lamm. No one else is left. Most investigations are geared to ensure that the predators are removed and dealt with. These “predators” have been gone for 20 years!

To go backwards 20 years, might satisfy the media and those who want YU blood, but really what will it achieve?

“possibly a similar case”? are you referring to a hypothetical case? Are you conjecturing a what if scenario?

If you are referring to the Weberman case and want to compare the two, so let us first see if the “modern” crowd will start to harrass, bribe and scare the victims into keeping quiet. Let us see if the “MOs” will throw bleach at a fellow Jew’s face. Let us see if the modern world will host a fund raiser to help an alleged child molester?

To be fair, if you want to compare the two cases, then compare the IMPORTANT things, not just the reaction on some “frum” blog.

Second, who knows the Hashkafa and background of each poster here?

Do the two reactions even matter? People got abused and you worry about some bloggers? Maybe let’s focus on the victims? Or I forget, in your world, the victim is the abuser, sorry!

Ok, so fire him and move on – he is the only left at the University from that era who was involved.

But there is no need for investigations and to implicate others who currently work there who weren’t anywhere near the campus then is a little much.

I might be wrong but MORE Loshon Hora, Rechilus and Sinaas Chinam that will generated from such a topic/blog will not remedy what was done and will certainly not help the situation.

I am NOT condoning/defending what was done AT ALL. If someone in the CR has anything constructive to add about this horrific story (or similar stories), then please report the information you have to the proper authorities.

Discussing it and analyzing he said/she said/Joseph said will not help this matter, only will make it worse.

We as a Klal have enough issues, we don’t need to add useless “fuel” to the fire.

There are numerous Issurim related to eating foods (especially the size of the Avg Latke) with your hands.

A Ben Torah should always eat with utensils as it is more Mechubedike than eating with ones barehands.

It’s the same reason that people have Chinese food for Monday lunch!

Wow, I would think it’s unheard of to only invite one “part” of a couple!

On the flip side, MOST married couples are makpid to give a gift b/c they don’t have the built in excuse/understanding of being single and not being able to afford it, etc.

Then again if only my wife got invited to her friend’s wedding and they ignored me, I’d be very happy! I would also think the couple is rude as anything but i’d be very happy to stay home 🙂

Ha – Hatzlacha and Mazal Tov!!

Yes it was a brilliant and revealing article, very scary as well!

However as Sam2 said, the number is extremely high because they are including ALL members of “Yeshiva High Schools” regardless of how that school defines Orthodoxy. Some of these “Orthodox” schools have a school sponsored prom, and many of the kids come from homes that are not keep Shabbos at all anyway. In that case the kids are not “off the derech”, rather simply following the “Derech” of their parents!

That being said, the real number is high enough his article was spot on about the issues and how to solve them

Yes, even the “frum” halls, will allow a few mixed tables. We had that at our wedding. Regarding the men seeing the ladies dance, there is usually a “natural” Mechitza of ladies standing around the outer circle anyway so that it is very hard to see anything anyway. And yes, as mentioned before, if men want to look in, they will look in, even if they are in separate halls.

You also have those “frum” couples, who will only bring their spouses IF it is davka mixed seating, since they will enjoy a night out together (yes, a novel idea in the frum world!).

All in all, this topic can be discussed for days/weeks – it started out as a nice Chumra and now evolved into something larger than the Simcha itself unfortunately.

Mazal Tov!

I was in YU at the time, I to get very emotional every year on 9/11 reliving the experience and memories. By chance I had happened to be at the Towers the Friday before and to think that they had collapsed four days later was mind numbing.

I will never forget one of the Rabbeim stopping morning seder to announce what had just happened and hearing the word “terror attack on US Soil” come out of his mouth. It was like being in a movie, only unfortunately this movie was real life. Going to bed that night was one of the scariest, uncertain moments of my life. No one knew what tomorrow would bring.

I very much appreciate the relevant stories/articles that YWN reposts every year on 9/11, I sit at my desk at work every year and just cry reading them.

May we all have a meaningful 9/11 and learn/daven/do a Chesed LeZecher the Neshamos that perished Al Kidush Hashem that day.

PuhLease, I wish you Hatzlacha and condone you for not going public with your life issues.

My question though is the following:

Which lifestyle/religion is perfect? Every system in any area/walk of life will have unhappy people and “flaws”. We are humans and by definition are imperfect.

If you tell me that a majority of people in this circle are unhappy that would be one thing, but for some unhappy bitter people to paint the entire religion as oppressive, abusive, in such a negative light is just embarrassing and falsehood.

It would be comparable to having a bad experience at a dentist and then going on TV and accusing all dentists as being evil/awful.

I don’t want to belittle her issues or yours G-d Forbid, but as you stated before, the Religion was not meant to be lived this way, the fact that some lunatics do shouldn’t be relective of the entire religion.

Lifi Shitascha, Smart phones must be ok and muttar, b/c there are “frum” Apps for them!

I am still waiting for someone to mention the Israeli Flag hung by Ponovezh on Yom Haatzmaut!

The fact that other similar events happen is not a proof for anything. Yes, they are all heartwarming and nice to see/hear but one cannot derive Halachik Psak from it.

Also, I would think there is a SMALL difference between singing the National Anthem at a 500-1,000 person audience at a private graduation as opposed to singing in front of 100,000 people!

Besides – it was a beautiful event – why are we always looking for the worst and to criticize??

Is life that good that this is all we have to worry about??

The questions isn’t about a game, it’s really how you define “wrong”. Going to a game isn’t wrong per say, however it’s not exactly the “best” thing either”. It’s one of those “gray areas” that we put on the “there’s nothing wrong with it, or whats wrong with going to a game” list.

That being said, the fact that there is Kosher food, “minyanim”, etc etc at games does NOT make it a Jewish event or “muttar”. I have davened at these “minyanim” and it’s a complete joke. Try davening while people walk past you half dressed, drunk and yelling. Or try davening while a great play happens and the crowd erupts cheering.

Again – everyone has to do what he/she feel is right, including to define the word “wrong”.

Zahavasdad – just b/c other do things, does not make them correct/muttar. Plenty of “frum” people talk in shul, does that make it ok?

Sidepoint – are you going to Yeshivat Citi Field Sunday night for Mets Yankees? Kosher food, minyan and a baseball game – does it get any better?

Czar – can you please enlighten us and tell us who the Yankees beat in the World Series in 2001 and 2003?

Its probably not important to the story/topic, but at least get your facts right!