Mother in Israel

I don’t think men should be reading this thread.

Sakin and sakanah.

what does Shabbos have to do with this thread?

I think society plays a very big part in this. Where I grew up, pretty much all women and girls wore denim skirts. It wasn’t even an issue. After I got married, I moved to an out-of-town kollel community in EY where it’s very rare to see denim skirts. It took me very little time to realize that I stood out in my denim skirts, so I stopped wearing them. It’s been a good 13 years or so since I last wore denim.

Yes, but it’s 2:37 a.m. and I’m heading to bed. Remind me in the morning to post it.

Startling.

I went to a bris today and the baby was named Pesach. 🙂

Torino and Rosemarie, milchig only. Yum.

We go to bonfires at night. We don’t do much during the day other than play music, get haircuts (the menfolk), and relax.

HIE, if you would slow down just a little bit so that your spelling and grammar were correct, we would all have an easier time reading what you have to say. Your writing really does leave much to be desired. It doesn’t take that long to put in apostrophes, differentiate between “then” and “than”, and spell “they’re” correctly instead of writing “their”. And those are just a few examples.

2 twin beds. We wouldn’t have room for anything bigger than that.

Health, a few people asked about you. See this thread:

http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/coffeeroom/topic/is-health-gone-forever

K9 is good, but plenty of bad things are accessible when it’s in the default mode. I’m constantly adding things to my “always block” list.

Do you mean growth hormones? They have some undesirable side effects, so doctors don’t give them without a complete workup first to check bone age and other factors.

He’s probably allergic to something that blooms at this time of year. My kids take antihistamines during their bad seasons. They really don’t do well without them.

Maybe the Rav felt they could have done something differently? In my case, I told him everything I went through to try to light–running down from the umpteenth floor (Friday was YT so no elevator), crossing the street to another building, climbing up another few flights to get to the room where I was told to light and finding it locked, running all over looking for a key, trying to find someone to borrow candles from, etc. etc. After he listened to my whole story, he said that my not lighting was not due to negligence so I did not have to add on another candle. I’m not c”v saying that your parents were negligent, but maybe the rav thought they should have done something differently.

You’re kidding me, right? Please say you are.

I saw this on “Ask the Rabbi”:

Question:

I have read 2 archive articles about exercise (one specifically about exercise on Shabbat).

I am trying to improve my well being through exercise. This includes both fat loss and muscle growth through lifting weights (barbell and machine weight). The trainer I deal with prescribes specific days to lift versus take off in order to promote the best results (e.g. Upper body one day, lower body the next, followed by a day off, etc.).

Would such exercise be prohibited on Shabbat? It might include about 1-1.5 hours lifting weight.

Answer:

Weight lifting is good but not for Shabbat. It has two main problems.

One, it is a week-day activity (Uvdin Dechol)

Second is the issue of prohibited medical procedures on Shabbat and exercising is included. (Shulchan Aruch OC 328; 42)

Try to talk to your trainer how to compensate for you missing Shabbat, maybe Motzaei Shabbat is a good time.

Additional answers of Rabbi Elchanan Lewis

I think women used to give birth at home and didn’t miss lighting at all.

What Mod-80 said. I once missed a week because I was in the hospital and the room I was supposed to light in was locked and nobody had the key. I had no other candles and after much rushing around trying to locate some, I had to give up because it got too late to light. I called a rav right after Shabbos, and he said that I did not have to add a candle.

Pizza. I have other foods that I like a lot, but pizza’s definitely in 1st place.

is proof of a good woman standing behind him.

I once won a phone in a chinese auction.

Wolf, was that Oorah’s auction?

Hmmm, maybe it was me you saw? 😉

Seriously though, as someone in the same boat as that woman, I would say that you have no reason to feel guilty, but in the future, you don’t have to worry about making her uncomfortable by offering to help. When I’m feeling really weak and in need of help, I don’t care what people think of me–I would appreciate any help I can get. I’ve had people bring me in a chair in a public place, shlep my groceries, hold my baby, etc. because they could tell that I wasn’t feeling well, and I’ve only felt gratitude toward them. It never makes me uncomfortable when I’m that desperate.

Dumb question–Isn’t all matzah whole wheat on Pesach? I was told that flour has to be bleached to become white flour and that there’s no way to bleach it without it becoming chometz.