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ZK, be careful not to overdose on the Tylenol – it can cause liver damage. Glad you feel better.

If it sounds too good to be true, it usually is.

I don’t agree at all that it’s the girls who are “driving this thing.” I think the reponsibility lies directly in the laps of the yeshivah system that brainwashes the girls into thinking that a boy who earns a living is not a “best boy,” and the seminaries that convince them that they are next true n’shei chayil of the universe. These girls are clueless about real life, and often, marriage is a shocking eye-opener for many of them. they want a Kollel life, but have no concept of what that entails.

Then you have the boys’ yeshivas that strive mightily to inculcate in the bochurim the notion that sitting and learning is THE one and only proper expression of a Ben-Torah. Only problem is that “im ein kemach EIN Torah” and eventually SOMEONE has to earn the living, and we have raised a generation of entitled boys who think the obligation to support their families rests with their in-laws.

Jeez. Jesus. Any other form of the name. Jesus is the anglicised form of the latin for this name, which is in turn a take off of the greek form of the name given to this fellow (some take it one step further back to hebrew). For the record, this name is never found once in the entire xtian bible! “

It’s so ironic, but I personally hold that his name SHOULD be said, otherwise we are chalilah giving it the equivalent chashivus that we do to Hashem’s Name which we do NOT mention except in making a bracha, davening or laining. So bedavka, if I were talking about the man (i.e., not using the name as a mild expletive)I WOULD philosophically say jesus.

BUT – out of respect for the people who post here, who always refer to yeshu as …well.. yeshu or oso ish, I didn’t want to offend anyone by writing “jesus” in my post. HOWEVER, the expression gee or geez should not be used by us, as it is the same as saying “oh,jesus!” as an exclamation for our own conversation. Clearly that would be very inappropriate for any yid, much less a frum one.

A troll deliberately asks questions or posts threads that are guaranteed to cause trouble, and then sits back and watches everyone duke it out.

It’s very difficult to dialogue with someone who can only see one part of a picture – his part. AZ, I did not, do not, and will not be likely to agree with you OR the NASI project, even after reading your extensive, thorough posts. But I truly wish you hatzlacha, because I actually DO believe you are sincere, if misguided in your belief, and I am in favor of seeing successful shidduchim being made. I do not really believe in the long run this initiative WILL be helpful, because it is very elitist in its upfront requirement for big bucks, that many people do NOT have. So basically ONLY the girls whose PHD (papa has dough)comes through, will ever be able to take advantage of this so-called initiative. In my opinion, the initiative has been removed from everyone else.

ayshoshee, so how about starting a more interesting, new topic?

The discomfort of the itch is in proportion to the difficulty of reaching it.

There aren’t more females than males, there are more females who have chosen to enter the “shidduch scene” than there are males who have entered the scene.”

OK, we have a semantic issue here. If there are MORE females who have chosen to enter the Shidduch scene (and really, it is not by choice, much of the time – they are sometimes pushed into it before they are ready), then Hashem has still created more females than males WHO ARE READY AND AVAILABLE to be getting married. It matters little to me WHY there are so many more, but clearly there are, because even when the males ARE ready, by that time, MORE females have entered the scene as well.

Part of the problem as I see it, is that the notions of what type of clothing is tzniusdig and what is not, DO tend to change from generation to generation, in spite of what many on this forum believe. There is a minimum level of what is agreed by all to be modest in dress. For example, the neckline and elbows must be covered, the knees must be covered, even when sitting down or getting in and out of a car. The clothing should not be too tight, or too flamboyant, so as not to attract undue attention.

What attracts attention, however, DOES often change with the times. There are people who hold that wearing a skirt that is floor length, is not tzniusdig. There are people who feel certain colors are not tzniusdig. There are people who only wear stockings with seams, or it is not tzniusdig ENOUGH.

If a woman were to cover her head ENTIRELY with a white or black turban, do you think people would not stare at her? Do you think that women wearing BURKAS are not being stared at? I find that to fit the definition of “attracting attention.”

I think we get so caught up in the minutiae, that we forget that some things are not a matter of lack of tznius, they are simply a matter of not looking so different from everyone else (within limits, of course), that everyone else is staring whenever we walk by. A pretty woman will attract attention, even when dressed in the most modest way she can. Should she NEVER go outside? (That will make it really hard for her hubby, the Kollel Guy, who needs her to go out to earn a living, so he can sit and learn).

And if a girl is “plainer” and less confident than other girls, should she never dress in a way that makes her feel a little more confident (again, within limitations), so that when shidduchim ARE redt to her, she feels attractive, thus enabling her to be more outgoing and personable on the date?

Not everything is untzniusdig. Twenty, thirty years ago, the concepts of tznius were a little different from those of today. Forty years ago, women who were ALL considered frum, wore short-sleeved blouses (some even wore short skirts). Sixty years ago, women whose mothers wore bun-shaitlech with tichlech on top, had daughters who wore cap sleeves. Their fathers could even have been rabbonim. No, not all girls did that, but girls who were considered unquestionably frum did so.

Our feelings about tzniusdig clothing have evolved somewhat, and we are more into covering up than those previous generations were. But what we are seeing today, is more of a reaction to the shmutz around us, than to the actual concept that the clothing is not so tzniusdig, IMO. If it were not like this in today’s society, maybe the rabbonim, like those of yesteryear, would not be so vocal about it as they are now, and attiribute all the ills of the Jewish kehillah, to lack of tznius. This is just my observation. I do believe women (and MEN) should dress and always act in a tzniusdig way.

Refuah shelaima – – try ColdEeze (zinc Glyconate). Suck on a lozenge every few hours, and it REALLY, really works. It shortens the duration of a viral illness by several days. Taking zinc supplements does not work the same way as this product does. Don’t know why, just is that way.

WE created the 100/150 not HIM… “

You know, that is just silly. Either Hashem creates life or He does not. If there are more females than males (and it would seem that if al pi halacha a man could have taken more than one wife 2,000 years ago, that there had to be an excess of women then, as well), then it is not our doing. neither is it any wrongdoing kivyachol by Hashem. It just IS what it is.

OT, but what do you say to someone whom you greet in the street after dark, but not yet Motzai Shabbos?

Sorry they already have a name for this syndrome -it’s called immaturity! “

Pot, meet Kettle.

If you do not use only cholov Yisrael, try swallowing a pill with some Ensure. The just-right thickness of the drink, helps the pill to go down more easily. I can swallow at least 6 vitamins at a time, of assorted sizes and shapes.

Alternatively, perhaps there are chewable or liquid versions of those vitamins. Whatever you do, do not take them apart or crush them, if they are meant to be swallowed whole, as they might need to be in the stomach for a certain amount of time before being absorbed.

Oomis and 42, golly is a euphemism for G-d. “

That, too, is correct. Good golly, is like saying, “Good G-d!” HOWEVER,the difference is that golly, does not subsititute befeirush for Oso haIsh, as the word “gee” absolutely does.

Sometimes it helps to become an “actor or actress.” That is to say, tell yourself you are NOT and idiot, weirdo, outcast,but rather are a confident, intelligent, charming person, and then act that part. Very often, by mentally telling yourself you are something other than how you perceive yourself, you can actually come to be the things you are trying to be. Please note: this is not the same as telling you to be someone you aren’t, but rather to call upon those resources that are there INSIDE you, to actually help you to be what you truly are, but have been afraid to show yourself.

When it is an admirable trait or phrase, MUCHO nachas (or mucho nachos, as we joke in my family). When it was less than admirable, it made me cringe, because kids are sponges who soak everything up, the good and the bad together. Mostly, B”H, we have been zocheh to see more of the former and less of the latter.

A black hat is… well, it can be a lot of things, but one thing it definitely isn’t is Tefillin”

I believe with all my heart, Moshe Rabbeinu did not wear a Borsalino. Neither did Aharon haKohein. And in fact, if one wanted to emulate HIS mode of dress, it would not fly. They wore levush Yehudi. And the zechus of Bnei Yisroel was that they did not change their levush Yehudi, which I venture a guess resembles nothing that we wear today.

You should definitely get another opinion and I hope the doctor will be the right shaliach for you. Refuah shelaima.

Good points. My own marriage reflects that. My wonderful husband, is in no way a shidduch I would have sought when looking for one. He is a BT, of poshuteh parents, made a so-so living, and could not sing on key, much less well (this was something very important to me when I was much, mcuh younger). So what I got was BT who is totally dedicated to his observance of Torah, whose parents were a second set of parents to me, and truly loved me (and I them), we learned to manage on his salary plus what I earned part-time while mostly being home to raise my children, and as to the singing, Of my five children three have magnificent voices (one son is a chazzan, like my father O”H), and the other two still sound pretty good when they sing together with us, anyway.

How did we meet? I worked for a Jewish book publisher and he walked in the door one day to pick up some seforim for the man who was helping him to learn. Go know this was my basherte.

i also had the I’ll start on Monday mentality. That is, until the day my doc told me I was not borderline anything, but full-blown Type 2 diabetic. That was my wake up call. FInally. By making serious carb changes in my life, the weight was a happy by-product. Everything must be balanced, fat is necessary in a healthy diet also. But it should be healthy fat (like olive oil). We need carbs to functiona nd for energy. But we need to get them, from complex sources like sweet potato, brown rice, whole wheat, as opposed to “white” forms of those foods. A regular potato is not necessarily unhealthy for most people. Just not for me, right now. And bake it, don’t fry it. You can safely oven fry potatoe wedges with spray on cooking oil, and get virtually the same effect as deep fried.

And what happens to the POOR (financially, not nebbich cases) girls?

Coffee, iced or hot. ALWAYS. (unless it’s Snapple Diet varieties Peach, Plum-a-granate, or Trop-a-rocka).

Still pistachio…