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Just Me, I was also a lucky daughter-in-law like you. And I likewise gave the same love back to her, in turn.

Rebel – it is the smoker’s loss, not the loss of the one who will not date a smoker. Most girls do not want to marry a human ashtray.

Would a beis din apply the death penalty in the particular situation under discussion?”

He did two capital offenses together that are each separately chayav misas Beis Din. Kidnaping and murder.

Why would he throw body parts into a dumpster in a suitcase, but KEEP the feet in his freezer? He is clearly sick, but he still committed two capital crimes.

Yaacov: Being a smoker shows a level of selfishness as well as lack of any concern for one’s health, or that of those people around him. He might not be a “bad” guy, but neither is he a great shidduch prospect. He is addicted to a habit that is self-destructive, wasteful of money that could be put to better use, and potentially life-threatening to others, including the babies he would like to have. The stench of smoke clings to your clothes, and like a dog owner who is so used to the smell that he doesn’t notice it in his home, but everyone else does, the smoker likewise does not realize how much he stinks, and how much it makes his home stink.

Smoke stinks and it makes you stink. It costs a LOT of money, money that if you want to see it go up in smoke, you would do better to give it to tzedaka. It makes a person’s teeth go yellow, stains the fingers, and gives one premature wrinkles around the mouth. Aside from all this, the bad news is it can kill you and even the people around you who don’t smoke at all. If you are a Kollel boy, living off your shver, you are wasting HIS money indulging in your filthy habit. Enough reasons to not do it?

All those qualities contained in me, of course, reflect a top, top shvigger. Ask my in-law kids…(they better say the right thing).

It is considered a sakana for pregnant women.

There is no quick fix, not even the lap band, which has its own risks. No one becomes overweight overnight, and no one loses weight safely and healthfully overnight, either.

When we see a rainbow (and make a bracha) it is to remind us that although Hashem says we are deserving of punishment, He made a promise to Noach and the rainbow is the sign of that promise that He will never bring total destruvtion on the earth again. It does NOT bode well for us, though. To see it today,davka, made me shake.

Age 16 is about right for a little makeup. If she has bad skin, or is pale, even younger. Self-esteem is important at this age, and if makeup helps, so what? The key word is “little.” Enough to enhance, but not enough to make people feel she plastered it on or is dressing for Purim.

I am heartbroken at this tragic, tragic outcome for this young neshama. His poor family.

I don”t undersand why costco will take it back without the 60 cups. “

Because they want to keep their customers happy.

If everyone is a Top Boy, no one is.

Many people find as they mature and grow a little older that the peole they thought of as friends for life, really are not. it’s part of growing up. The few that really stick with you are keepers. But the rest you can see once or twice a year, and enjoy their company (UNLESS they are really obnoxious to you now) on a very limited basis. Go out for a two hour dinner, and finished. Save your quality time for people with whom you have more in common now. I don’t drop people, but there is a natural growth away from some.

“Wicked” was wonderful, taught the value of true friendship and loyalty, and that things are not always as they seem. I LOVED it.

Klutz Kashas…

I think Bombmaniac was being a tad sarcastic, cooljude. (Yu were, weren’t you???)

D”Y, holding hands with a niddah is NOT the same issur as eating at McDonald’s, and anyone who says so, is probably committing the same type of lo tosif as Adam Harishon did when he told Chava they could not even touch the eitz hadaas, whent hat was NOT what Hashem said to Adam.

I am not saying that anyone SHOULD touch a niddah, but if they do, lightning will most likely not strike them, and they will therefore lose their desire to refrain from doing so. It is far better IMO to tell young people that the reasons for shemiras negiya are specifically to help them to avoid a situation that can strongly lead to an aveira that IS chayav koreis. But they should not be told that they would get koreis for touching a niddah, if it simply is not true. Then they don’t believe that which IS true.

Flowers, and do you also not hold of Rabbonim dealing with Taharas Mishpacha shailos?”

I actually AM uncomfortable with the idea of showing a rov a T”M shailah. I like the idea of the Toenet, a woman who is mumchah in hilchos niddah, helping in this area. I also don’t think male doctors should deliver babies. But that’s just me.

And why do you believe that? The facts point to murder. Child’s body found in woods with tape in mouth. Are you basing your decision on your emotions, just like the Jury? ‘

Health, do you know for an absolute certainty thaty the tape was not put on her mouth POST-mortem? Someone could have been trying to make it LOOK like a kidnaping and murder to help her, after she realized her baby was dead and panicked. It is you who are being emotional(I do not blame you one bit, this is just horrific), because the evidence was completely circumstantial and had no DNA on it. We do not know if Caylee was even murdered altogether. It may have been a tragic, tragic preventable accident. NO one knows how she died,except possibly Casey and her lawyer. If she drowned, well, nebbich that happens too often R”L. But if that was the case, her mother might not have been watching her, and personally I feel that IS neglectful, but it is NOT MURDER.

Remember little Lisa Steinberg O”H. Now, SHE was murdered, literally beaten to death.

Casey is a sick, sick woman, a liar about many things, and probably one of the most hated women in America right now. But at the end of the day, we will probably never know exactly what happened to this innocent baby. Some people should not be allowed to be parents. That does not make them killers necessarily.

I am a warm and friendly loner. I love people, but am not a party animal (though I like them once in a while). I love to have company for Shabbos and Yom Tov, or a nice BBQ, but I also enjoy my own company with a good book.

There is nothing bad about doing a chessed. When the chessed causes you a loss of income, or compromises you or your family members in some manner, you have to ask yourself what you are doing. If I like to be mevakeir choli,but am away from home to the extent that my kids and husband are being neglected on a regular basis (occasionally is not so geferlech), there is something very wrong with that picture.

Chaverim ARE malochim, as are the Hatzolah members, too. Our battery died for reasons unknown when we were in a not so comfortable neighborhood early evening. We called Chaverim, but that day they had NO one available at that time (it happens), and I had medication I had to take, and so did my husband, but we waited patiently for an hour, then I called them again to check if anything had changed. No one was available. I said thanks, and just asked them to give us a heads up when someone MIGHT be available. The next thing I know I am getting a call that someone is on the way, and to my great surprise (and a little embarrassment) it was a lcoal hatzolah member, who KNEW it was not a health emergency (except for the need to take medication in the evening), but responded to the Chaverim call anyway, because he knew where we were and that we had trouble, and also that Chaverim had no one free at the time. He gave us a boost, which took immediately, and went on his way. And that is why every time I empty my pushke I give the money to Hatzolah AND Chaverim. They are true tzaddikim and ohavei Yisroel, in a very self-centered world. Hashem should always bless these volunteers.

The sad thing is they are calling her the new OJ, when in fact, he committted a clearly heinous act of butchery of two people (if he did it, of course, after all, the glove don’t fit). Casey, if she truly murdered her child, broke every law of decency of G-d and Man, by committing matricide, going against every maternal instinct. That is what is so horrific in this case. It is so incomprehensible to think anyone could murder her own child and then go dancing. I would rather believe she was careless and unknowingly killed her child and then panicked. The prosecution simply did not have the evidence on their side.

Being married to a BT, I can speak from experience. I am fortunate that my husband is a wonderful, loving, chessed filled man, from whom most frum people could learn a thing or two about menschlechkeit. That said, it has not always been an easy ride. My dad O”H really missed having a mechutan with whom he had Torah in common, who would have understood and appreciated the Divrei Torah my father said over at the Sheva Brachos, and many other similar occasions, like brissim, Bar-Mitzvahs,etc. My parents and my in-laws got along really beautifully, but it was a very superficial, pleasant relationship, because the only thing they had in common was us and the grandchildren (which is true for many both-sides-frum machetonim).

It IS difficult when one side is completely frei, unless every single member of that side has total respect for the religious couple. We got into trouble when family members married “out,” and there were hard feelings on their part when we did not attend their celebrations. I davened for only female children to be born to those relatives, so that at least the grandchildren’s children would be assured of being Jewish (and B”H so it was).

Personally, I believe it is easier for two BT to marry and grow together in their learning and Yiddishkeit, but that should not stop someone from redting a shidduch with someone who is FIRMLY entrenched in Yiddishkeit. Someone who is newly frum is another story, to me. I would want to see the level of their commitment, first. I have seen people flip in and flip out, and I have seen BT FRUM relatives who married into my family, who divorced, and then became frei again. This is not an easy question to answer.

No one who is sincere, should be “barred” from good shidduchim, but unquestionably one has to use seichel when redting to them.