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“oomis1105-“destroying” the beard is not prohibited. For ex. you can use ON THE SKIN, acid to shave. This actually was (maybe still is ) used by many israeli yeshiva bochurim . “Mishi” was the brand name. only ‘destruction” by a knife is prohibited. I don’t know what your son did, but “lift and cut” does NOT reach the skin-otherwise, you would have lots of skin cuts and this does not happen. “

ROB, I didn’t say destroy the “beard,” I said destroy the ROOT. Those are two different things. My son had a Norelco shaver, and his rebbie told him that it potentially can destroy the root of the beard, the way it is designed because it plucks the root, and that the action of cutting as this SPECIFIC shaver cuts, is one that is not permissible without modifying the shaver’s blades. Whether or not this is hal;achically so, I cannot say, but once the rebbie mentioned it to him, he followed his advice as to how to modify it.

When I am that agitated and call Customer Service, I immediately tell the rep the following: I apologize in advance, because I am very upset, and I KNOW that my complaint has nothing whatsoever to do with you and is not your fault. But I am really angry about X,Y, and Z, and you are the one answering the phone

B”H I have never seen them in my tap water. BUT — after this entire issue came to light, I was so grossed out that I can no longer drinl regular tap water. I buy bottled water for regular drinking purposes. has anyone heard the notion that boiling the water (such as for coffee or tea) “melts” the copepods that might be present?

ALL DAY EVERY DAY is not asking too much, to spend in the CR.

1dayatatime — lack of menschlechkeit in a Jewish person, male OR female, IS a horror. It has nothing to do with wanting perfection, and everything to do with wanting a minimum standard of respect and courtesy to be shown. What is so difficult about this concept that some of you cannot appreciate it? I never had a bad date EXCEPT when the guys were not menschlech. B”H I can count those on the fingers of one hand. Most of my dates, even though the guys were not for me, nor I for them, were decent and nice people. maybe three or four times I went out with guys who were better illustrations of Cro-Magnon Man. They had all the manners of a bull in a china shop, and the sensitivity of a rock.

While Yeshivas are busy teaching marriage-age bochurim about the Hilchos Ishus, they should likewise be teaching them about common courtesy, especially in a public place. If the Rebbie does not feel comfortable or qualified to teach such niceties as holding a door open for a young lady, asking her what she would like to order if they are going out to dinner, or walking her to her door (something which should be self-explanatory to an intelligent person), then they should find someone who CAN teach it, and then do so.

Chronic whiners are toxic to their relationships. If they have any left, that is.

I already have posted about this, so I won’t do it again. But, I do have a story from a friend of ours. She had a date, and when she opened the door to the guy, he took one look at her said, “Oh no!” and left. I doubt he is married, such a bulvan. While she is not a beauty, she is not homely, either, and was put-together nicely. It was such an appalling lack of menschlechkeit.

Note to guys AND girls: Whatever you think when you open that door, if it is a negative reaction, don’t let it show on your face, except as a pleasant “hi, nice to meet you,” or you will hurt the other person’s feelings.

derech hamelech – interesting gematrios. And SO….?

The thing that makes it jelly-like, is the same type of thing that makes any jello of non-vegetable origin that way. It is a substance boiled out from the bones, gelatin (this being a kosher source, obviously) from the calves’ feet/legs/whatever it is that is used to make this nauseating looking dish.

As far as the historical nature of the water, all we know for a fact is they exist in the bodies of water today. Perhaps we can speculate they arrived at a later time than the Tannaim, etc. But whether that is the case or not, I don’t see how it effects the first two facts. “

They did not spontaneously generate. They were always here, but not readily visible to the naked eye. It is on that basis that many hold that the water is ok to drink. If it were assur to eat EVERY thing that had creatures swarming over it, but which we could not readily see, there would be NO food kosher to eat. There are living bacteria, germs, dust mites, etc.,etc., on virtually everything. If you would see what is sitting on your EYELIDS, it would make you throw up. But you can’t, because they are too tiny to be viewed without the help of a microscope. And thus it is with much of what we are finding in the water. They are seen with a microscope. If you can readily see them with the naked eye, then they are large enough for the water to require filtering.

You walk the girl to the door, tell her pleasantly that you had a nice time, and wish her a good night. Hopefully, SHE has the class and good manners to say thank you for an enjoyable evening (more important, hopefully it WAS an enjoyable evening). In any case, one can never be too menschlech. And that goes both ways.

This is not the same as holding hands in public which is an expression of affection”

So by all means don’t do it with your spouse. Sometimes it is also an expression of a wife needing her husband to help her walk or vice versa. I always hold onto my husband’s arm when we walk. And it is not really negiah in the halachic issur sense, when it is between husband and wife and she is not niddah. Negiah and chibah are two different concepts. True they may overlap in some areas, but they are still two separate inyanim.

I like Sean Hannity.

Of course it can, especially if it is the wisdom teeth. They can cause referred pain. Also, you might have a TMJ problem which will can perceived as pain in the ears.

“If someone grew up in a barn, that is no reason to look down on him/her. “

You are absolutely correct. I was actually referring to the animals that grow up in a barn, as the original comment implies, and didn’t mean for you to infer that I was talking about people. While I do agree that no one should be faulted for the lack of opportunity to be educated, there is no such lack for most of us; nonetheless, our school systems are NOT educating our young people to speak or even write properly.

There has been a tremendous dumbing-down of our educational system. Instead of elevating our young people and helping them rise to their best levels of ability, we are giving many of them a pass through the system, often to their detriment. This is most evident in many Yeshivas, but is found across the board in the public schools.

I am definitely maskima to making a l’chaim ANY time.

I think the worst I’ve said about it is, jokingly, that it looks alive. “

I rest my case.

And although Derech Hamelech has tried to guilt me into eating peeewwww’tcha, I am not rising to the bait. Come to think of it, bait might taste better than p’tcha.

You never accepted the gift. So it was not yours to begin with. Ask your rov, but just because someone chooses to offer you something does not mean you must accept. IF you accept and are mchavein on its acceptance, that’s a whole ‘nother ballgame.

I can actually see both sides of this issue being valid. WOW!

For badly scarred skin really needing good coverage, Dermablend is excellent. It is now sold under the company Logo of Vichy at most CVS stores.

“he is also right about even if it is after marriage, while you can touch obviously, but you cant do so in public (and the photos are taken in front of others and are going to be public.)”

That is your sevara, but not everyone feels the same way about married couples touching after the chasunah. Obviously we are not talking about graphic affectionate behavior, but holding hands? Please. I know a choshuvah Rov who INSISTS on the chosson and kallah holding hands when they walk down from the chuppah and also when they come back into the seudah room.

I’ve not posted in a short while

Because at times it’s a great trial.

To get out in time

All things metered in rhyme,

Is not something I do with a smile.

Also less than five.

p’tcha, galarita, whatever you call it, it is NASTY. it is the one item that I would have to literally starving, to be forced to eat it. EEEEEEWWWWWWW!!!!!!

If you started talking like that,you’d look nuts! “

Ya, we would!

I am with nfgo3 in this regard. I believe that today’s youth, just as yesterday’s, do not speak properly. Part of that is because their parents do not, and a large measure of that can be directly placed at the feet of the yeshivah systems that do not require excellence in communication skills.

When my mother O”H was in school, one of the grades she received was for proper elocution. My father O”H grew up in a home where only Yiddish was spoken, yet he managed to learn to speak English perfectly, and was a great orator. Both my parents set that fine example for me, and as a result, I, too, spoke grammatically correctly (most of the time, anyway). There is no excuse for poor language skills.

While it is true, deiezooger, that the ikker is to be able to communicate with another person, why can we not communicate as intelligent-sounding human beings, rather than sounding as though we grew up in a barn? Would you want to send a letter to a Rov or to your President, written in childish lingo? I can see it now…

“Hey, Dude,

What’s happening? I got a beastly question 4 u, Reb. Is it, like, um…kosher 2 eat from some meat that got mixed with a drop of milk? I mean, HELLO????? Yo, I need an answer ASAP. That would be totally awesome, Dude.

Shlumiel”

Thanks, Mod 42 for the info on Shlumiel. I never thought of it that way before.

“Here is the big question. Will G-d be angry at someone who is named Shira or names their child Shira?”

Here is a bigger question – will G-d be angry at someone for saying such a thing, and then at us for posting it? EVERY name since time began is made up from SOMETHING. We believe that Hashem gave the Avos and Emahos Ruach HaKodesh in naming their children, and in fact we see that the names given to the shevatim were all based in something that occurred to the Emahos at that moment. “Re-u-bein,” “Ben -Oni” (changed to Bin Yimini), Dina’s name was given to her because the “din” came down for her to be a girl, when she was supposed to originally be a boy.

If any Rov actually were to make the statement attributed to R’Chaim, then it would seem to me that it would have to apply equally across the board to EVERY single non-Torah name given, and most especially, as was mentioned by several of us posters, to any non-Hebrew name, because not one of them is a real Jewish name. Shprintze, for example, which is Yiddish, doesn’t even ORIGINATE from Yiddish. It comes from Esperanza which means hope in Spanish. I didn’t know about the Bunim (bonhomme), and that was interesting. But the point is, NO ONE should change their given names. Names are added when chalilah one is deathly ill, but that’s it. The only exception is when one is misgayeir, or if one was never given a Jewish name to begin with. Then a Rov should advise them on what is proper.