My personal opinion is girls want someone they can respect and be proud of. Whether its character, success, middos, money, looks, Learning, yichus,charm (or simply the fact that he breaths and she managed to get one)that depends on her own individual taste. I think thats just what it boils down to.

Thank u Goq! Its so nice to b welcomed!

Its not ur problem ppl have no patience to wait. If u can wait 2 minutes its nice. If u will never get a chance to get in cuz there will always b cars, then please park without guilt! Honking is rude and it doesnt mean ur a *beep* it just means they dont have very good middos.

OMG now ur scaring me! Is this really how u see urself?!

“a horrible person who is, at best, a naval b’rushus haTorah and more likely just a plain old evil, rotten person”

Um, does anyone here on coffeeroom think the Wolf is accurate in his self analysis?

If u cant say hi then just smile and mumble something.

wolfish I dont like reading all that Loshon Horah about urself. Not because Im such a saint but because I think ur so smart and awesome so stop already. It cant b healthy even tho ur kidding.

It doesnt matter which order ur meals r in as long as u get in all ur daily protien, veggies… The healthiest way might be a typical americans lunch for breakfast, dinner for lunch, and breakfast for dinner.

Sing a song and change the lyrics to be about the couple.

Put out pictures from the wedding.

Show a video from the wedding with funny moments, guests wishes, bloopers..

Have music at the end to add some simcha

I think bringing a little fun into a Sheva Brachos helps alot! The couple is in the most major adjustment period and emotions r running high, it should be a good way to lighten things up and add more Simchah (not torture, bore and exhaust them.)

Thanx Middle path. I didnt think of that, ur right!

Thinkfirst- Wow. Ur good at this. A little logic to calm my imagination.. Yes that did help!! Thanx for the responses 🙂

Btw Goq- u said it very well! I feel the same way!

Blabla-(and just so u know I feel really uncomfortable calling u blabla because ur poems r absolutely breathtaking. U r incredibly talented! I have no idea how u create such masterpieces. They r all amzing and after I read one Im always like whooooa how does she do that?? Just sayin)

I know what u mean w the friends. I experienced some of that. Its not fun. Im sorry u have to go through this. I learnt not tell ppl personal things easily because not everyone is sensitive enough to understand or know how to deal w it. Also I wait for a friend to earn friendship before I call them a friend bec a friend i can have expectations of but other ppl I cant. If they dont react apropriately it bothers me less when its just someone I know saying these insensitive things then a close friend.

think- thanx! I told myself that and it calmed me down a lil. But why have u no doubts? I mean I said that to myself the first time and… So as much as I THINK it will be positive i dont KNOW. Ya know?

What I Know From Marriage:

Petrifying

Dreamy

Trapped

Overwhelmed

Loved

Scared

Safe

Anxious

Satisfied

Carefree

Full

Utterly Alone

Warm

Idependant

Betrayed

Confused

Giggling

Stress

Anger

Hard

Trust

Blushing

Shock

Luxurious

Tears

Cherished

Heart Pounding

Impossible

Fog

Content

How am I to try again??

I feel like im the only person on earth, but I do not find it funny when i watch someone jumping off a roof, onto a trampoline, and then bouncing off landing headfirst on the floor. Or into the fence. Or onto a rake. Am i the only one on earth whos highly sensitive?? Its just ouch to me!

Its always entertaining to hang out with people who like to hold it in. Like, with a regular sneezer u know what the protocoll is. Conversation gets interrupted..akward face..wait for it…wait for it…wait for iiiit… Bless U!! Carry on. With these other rare individuals u have know idea why they suddenly grab u, hold ther breath and then make a really strange pinched up face for about 9 seconds.. shudder violently and then “pheeew.” Ur like um.. what just happened?!

Its very rude to decline a gift. Its like saying thanx but I dont need ur trash. Take it, and show HAKARAS HATOV. U can give it away descretely later.

..dont think i just made grammatical sence but my thoughts were downloading too quick..

…or hes a commitment phobe

For those who value sleep: earplugs, and that felt thingy they give u on planes to cover ur eyes. Trust me. Will bring much Shalom Bayis to ur room.

lightit- this is good question. Iv thought about that often and I try to force myself not to cuz it can drive me crazy and nothing positive comes from these thoughts. (for me anyways.) Now that my thoughts r here tho im gonna vent em. (buckle up, theres alot coming.) People marry people who are in ther opinion “less worthy” then them. (usually they would find that out after the Chupah..Surprise!!) They r still ur Bashert. We r born and put here to work and achieve. It seems like it would make sense to G-d that in order to build the best home possible we would get a spouse who is on the same level as us and will encourage and refine is in a way that is easy breezy and beautifull. Nah, sometimes it takes the the oposite in order for us to achieve that goal. There r so many couples who work with what they have in marriages (as opposed to what they feel they deserve..) and THAT brings them closer and stuff. Just like our life circumstances r bashert- whether they push u away or pull u up.. thats ur choice and that becomes ur Tafkid. Not the goals u think u should have, but within the life u r given, thats how u flow. Bashert is regardless and thats not our business to poke r heads into. Now the whole thing with Zivugim is so confusing and I definately dont know anything about. So basicly what i think is- B the best u, be deserving of the guy on ur list, and after that, its out of ur hands!!

mmm bein hasdorim wherev u been eating lately? whats in a western cheese omlet?

(and can anyone tell me why i always have 2 get hungry at 1 am?)

snjn: Hi. Im s2021. I dont really post here anymore but every occasional blue moon i skim through the coffee room (because lets face it- once u start in here, u really cant stop..) and ur post was just screaming at me respond! respond! So here I go. I hope i dont offend u in any way.. and if i do just tell urself- O shes divorced so she obviously knows nothing about life.. and also this isnt directed at YOU its at the working on it’s wife..whom i dont even know exists..

intro: I would also feel resentfull, but if its done respectfully i think its apropriate. U r a team. u share. right?

a)good point, u need 2 b appreciated 4 who u r but..

b)Im sure u would RATHER do things ur ideal way but being a single mom aint exactly dreamy either is it? and from the looks of things… Finances CAN clearly destroy everything. Is now really the time to b so worried about ur own comfort?

c)Oh Puh LEASE!! Life isnt a neat little plan that u choose. It is chosen 4 u by GOD. Do ppl choose to loose a child Chv? Get laid off? Not b able 2 find a shidduch? U have to do the best u can to make it work with the unique challenges and curves that r thrown ur way. Its hard 2 eccept but at sum point or another we realize that life isnt easy. Now lets roll up our sleeves and survive it. Yup, scary thought, i know.

d) being in debt, the prospect of losing my marriage, and destroying my childrens emotionall stability would make ME want to work as many hours as possible. Do those not seem like good enough reasons 2 u?

Okay im done now.

U can buy the flavored starbucks syrups. They r awesome. Or flavored creamers.

R u makin sum?

And how did abuse and molestation remind u of apple cherry pie?

goq- wow thank u! so nice 2 b welcomed!

My thoughts:

MYOB!!

How can someone pull apart and bite into a tough slimy stringy fruit (Not to make fun of Hashems creations..but) that reminds me of nothing other then a large roach?? No matter how tasty… How??