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The inner harbor has the aquarium, the science center, and also fort McHenry. There is an eatery downtown called Van gogh cafe
( or something similar) under the hechsher or Rabbi Tzvi Weiss. also there is a Me Late cafe in Hopkins hospital that is under the star K.
baltimore jewish life.com is the best bet for zemanim for tefillah.
also I think last week there was a suppliment in the Hamodia for things to do in Baltimore. Enjoy! Don’t forget to visit 7 mile market for all the food you might need.
Yes I think that it is very wrong to refer to someone you do not know as “GUYS” I work in a retail store & when I answer the phone, to “hey do you guys have……..” I usually hang up on them. In todays day & age when Chutzpa rules, it seems OK to do that. But by our Torah Standards, we have to have Kovod Habriyos and speak to people, especially if you do not know them, with proper respect. Do you think that a Rosh Hayeshiva would speak like that, or even a Rav. We are all Princes or Princess of our “TATTY, the KING” we have to be careful to great someone who is also Nivre BZtelem Elokim with the proper respect.
First of all, living out of town & having BH married off all of my children, I feel that I can comment on this.
I think the question on the table is not the cultural differences between and out of towner & an in towner, because many a time that is not even check into just because the girl is an out of towner. The question is whether a boy should go out of town for a date. For this we have a Mekor in Chumash. Avraham sent Eliezer out of town to look for a wife for Yitzchak & Yaakov was sent out of town to find his Shidduch. So what is wrong with looking out of town. As far as the travel goes, many a bochur do not hesitate to run out of town for their friends Lchaim of wedding. It is not Bitul Torah then?
If a boy wants his wife to support him, (or her parents) why doesn’t the boy have the Derech Eretz to meet the parents when he picks up the girl for the first date? Why is it acceptable for the girl to leave her (paying) job, lower her level of Tznius (to run after the boy )and go to where he is.
My boys traveled for the first date to where the girl was, & I was Makpid that the boy came to my home before I let my daughters go out with them. It was just one of the criteria that I based my choices on. ( & not the color of the tablecloth, what type of dinnerwear they use on Shabbos or many other non important things that people check into before allowing their kids to date)
May Hashem send you the proper guidance with this whole inyan, and may you find your Zivvug soon.
Am Yisrael Chai, thank you for that beautiful poem. If we would just remember that we are all BNOS MELACHIM the daughters of the “KING OF KINGS”, we would all dress in a manner that is becoming a princess. If you remember last year when Queen Elizabeth was in NY to visit ground zero, it was 101degrees in the shade, but she still wore her hat, gloves, long sleeved dress & gloves that is the proper attire for a women of her stature. If we cannot – or do not want to – use our Nashim Tzidkanios as role models, because we think that we cannot live up to their standards, then at least let us emulate the “Royalty” of the world.
It would be very interested to know what was about their dress that was untzniusdik.
If it was just that they were wearing sneakers & knee socks with a long denim skirt that is one thing, but if you could please elaborate it would help us to understand & help you. Thanks.
This is a very interesting topic. There is make up worn that is complimentary for the woman and there is MAKE UP that is worn to call attention to oneself.
In the type of buisness that I work in, I feel it necessary to wear a little bit of make up so that when I meet people that are not Frum, they will not think that all Frum Women look frumpy. To me it is a Kiddush Hashem to wear a little bit, not like I was going to a Chasuna. But I also agree that to a certain degree, some women wear too much make up on a daily basis.
The fine line is wearing enough to be attractive for your husband, or potential shidduch, and not attractive to other men.
I just read mirror image, a very different type of story.
mind games by shulie mensh, nice light novel.
the youngest bride written in the times of the cannonists. interesting perspective of jewish life in those times.
Zman & Ami are also written well.
Dear Eclipse, A Brocha from an “Old” Bbubee.
May Hakodosh Boruch Hu bench you with continued Simchas Hachaim to face each Nisayon with strength, and Bitachon. May you follow in your Mothers footsteps and spread Ahava & Achdus to all of your children. May you see them all grow up to be Shomer Shabbos,Torah & Mitzvos, Yeirei Shamayim & have much Yiddish Nachas from them & them from you. 🙂 Keep smiling, we are all rooting for you.
It is very validating to know that you “ARE FINE” and that most of “His” side was blinded by his sharp talking.
May Hakodosh Boruch Hu enable those involved to be Zoche to the Brocha of “Pokeach Ivrim” their eyes should be opened to the truth, so that you will have Menuchas Nefesh & see only Yiddish Nachas from all of your kids.
I will ditto the other poseters, Eclipse I am here for you if you need me. Hatzlacha! 🙂 ({}) that is supposed to be a hug.
eclipse, do I get the prize?
would you beleive me when I say that I know who you are.
Eclipse, what would you have them call her, by her first name? they are too young for that. Sometimes in a second marriage the call the “new” spouse “Tante” or some such added name. Since you are called “IMA” that is not the worst thing that will happen if they call her Mommy. ( In a way it really is no worse than calling your new mother in law with the same name as you call your mother. most people will call their M-I-L by a different term than their mother, just so they know where their first kavod goes to.)
The Mezinka Tanz is taken from an old Hungarian custom. when the last child gets married in the Velt, there is a celebration of their comparison to our “Boruch Shpatrani”.
In the secular world a marriage is a subtraction, by the Yidden it is a multiplication. Therefore there is no mekor for doing a Mezinka tanz other than “minhag hagoyim”
May you see many more Yeshuos. Much Hatzlacha. We are all here supporting you. Keep smiling. 🙂
It is soooo hard to advise you what to do. you have heard what it is to go to a parents wedding. I agree with farrockgrandma, about the 3rd.4th.5th………..time. look at the bright side if they go, then you have a whole evening to pesach clean without your little helpers around.
Ignore the outside family. Just think of the reprcussions if they do not come. Will “She” {their “stepmother”) hold it against them at a later date? It is nice when there is a “working relationship” with the New Wife.
Just remember to have extra Kavana with “Pokeach Ivrim”, and also “Ata Chonen Ladam Daas.”
May HKBH give you extra Siyata Dishmaya to overcome this nisayon.
May you have the Siyata Dishmaya to bring her back to the Derech of Torah & Mitzvos. Chodesh Adar & Nissan are times of Geula. May you see Hatzlacha in opening your heart & home to her & that she shouldn’t influence the others.
When my husband A”H was niftar at the age ot 34, there were many young children, who asked ” I davened soo hard. for Rabbi R. to have a Refuah Shelayma. Why was he niftar?”
The answer that was given is that Hashem heard all of our
Tefilos, they are never wasted. We do not see it now, but at sometime we will see it. Tefilos are like a rock thrown into a pond. There is a ripple effect. Sometime, we will see the waves that are caused by theses tefilos.
There is a story about the Skulener Rebbe who was thrown into solitary confinement. He decided to understand “Biur Tefila” He came to Boruch Sheomar and seemed confused. The whole Tefilo is about Tov Lehodos Hashem to praise Hashem for the wonderful things that He does for us. He came to the Posuk ” Boruch Gozer U Mekayem” Blessed is the one who is “Gozer” decreed a difficult decree and carries is out. It seemed to the Rebbe not to fit into the general Brocho. So He came to the conclusion Boruch – Blessed is the one, Gozer – who decreed a difficult decree
U MEKAYEM and gives the person the ability to overcome the difficulty. Boruch Hu – Hashem should be Blessed.
Yes MANY of us face MANY DIFFICULT CHALLENGES every day. Hashem helps us overcome these challenges.
Just continue to turn to our “TATTE” in heaven, through Tefila and tears and He will help us. Remember Shaarei Dima are never closed.
I’ll wait for the movie.
May Hakadosh Boruch Hu give you the Koach to withstand this Nisayon. I call tell you first hand that it hurts – somewhere deep down – when your X gets engaged. ( It does not matter whose fault it was ) because we are all human we feel hurt. My Tefilos are for you to learn to deal with the “New” Mrs. Bkavod ( as you have the example from your mother A”H) & for the kids that they should have Menuchas Hanefesh, & finally be able to settle with you!
If you would like to see an illustration of what is Mutar & Osor in the opinion of Rav Falk, he put out a Sefer that has exact illustrations as to what is considered Ervah & what is not. How far back a Tichel can be in the front, sides & also the back, when wearing a Hat.
The best thing would be to go to your Rav or Rebbitzen, and ask them what is the Minhag that your community follows.
I’m glad you enjoyed them. May your life always blossom with beautiful things.
Is there anyone who went to the film? Please let us all know how it was.
What about the people who do go outside with their leggings sticking out of their skirts. Or their hair sticking out of their Teichlach. The answer is ” I am just on the way back from the gym” Is that a heter for dressing not tzniusdik outside?
The blue linear Chumashim were not printed by JPS but by MP press. They were the precurser to the Metzudah Chumash.
How about Simchas Torah in Shul dancing with a flag that had an apple on it.
Hi ho Tonto – Kimosabi
Roy Rogers & Dale Evens
Superman Clark Kent
Perry Mason
Dr, Kildare
Ben Casey
Romper Room
Amazing.I just read these posts tonight & I am amazed BH at the insights that I have read here.
Last summer, if you remember, it was VERY HOT. Queen Elizabeth came from England here & went to visit “Ground Zero” A lot of the commentators remarked that even in the 110 degree weather that we had, the Queen still wore a hat & gloves. If you noticed any of the pictures, she also wore long sleeves and a closed neckline.
We who are all Bnos “Hamelach” the Ultimate KING, should always rememeber to dress in the way that will make a Kiddush Hashem, while walking, sitting, getting in and out of a car, bending down to pick something up, putting our children into their car seats etc. It is not only the length of the skirts, but also making sure that your shirt meets your skirt when you bend down. I was in a store one day as a young woman bent down to get something on a low shelf & her shirt & skirt did not meet. That is just as not Tzniusdik as a skirt that is just 2 inches below the knee & not 4. Also please make note of how form fitting your clothing might be. That also falls under the same umbrella of Tznius.
One of the most traumatic things for children from divorced homes, is being used a pawns in the parents quest to outdo the other one. Rav Pam ZTL said that the Mizbaich cries at divorce.
There are many boys out there that need male companionship, to learn with, daven with, play ball with etc. When it can be their own father, Mah Tov Umanaim. But when it cannot be, Single men be aware that there is a great Chesed that you can do for these boys. Don’t always think that only women can do Chasadim. Sit next to one of them in Shul, show them the place, learn with them – act like a big brother not a substitute father figure.
( the same can be said for Yisomim) You can make a difference in the future lives of these boys.
then, rezdy, why are you doing it here?
I will tell you what happened with my son. His Kallah didn’t get him ANYTHING. The one thing her mother got him – I was insulted by. His friends went out & got him a watch so that he should be like everyone else. My son was not upset that his Kallah didn’t get him anything – or her parents (excuse me they bought him one talis, I got him the second). One must learn priorities. as Wolf said- treasure the gift that Hashem has sent you in the form of your Kallah. A watch could break & be gone next year but a true Aishes Chayil should last you til 120.
oops spellchecker is still at work. I meant old bbubbee!
Are OLS BBUBBEES also invited to your Chanukas Habayis? Please advise. Hatzlacha.
Hatzlacha Rabba on your new endeavor. We will miss you. 🙁
BD”E May you only know Simchos from now on. When one suffers a loss, everyone reacts differenty, some people feel a need to remember the Niftar all of the time.They are always relaying stories of that persons life, challenges, successes etc.That keeps the person alive in a certain sense. “Tzadikkim, afilo B’misosom nikraim Chaim”. By constantly remembering the Niftar it reinforces their beautiful lives. That is the main reason for Shiva and being Menachem Avel.
After Shiva is up, people still have to deal with each day in their own way. Some deal by forgeting, and others by remembering.
If you have a relationship with the Rav, go speak to him, tell him that you are still hurting from your loss. Ask him to guide you into recovery and help you grow.
No one will replace that grandparent that you lost, but speak to your parents, siblings, aunts & Uncles to help you. May Hashem give you the Siyata Dishmaya to overcome the pain & relive the good times & joy of that granparents life.
Eclipse, I know of a Bubbee that would adopt you if you would like!
Eclipse, Yes you are a nice & friendly young lady ( Or not so young, depending whether I am older or younger than you)
When you marry a second time, you are taking a foundation and building on it. Just as in construction it is very hard to find the exact match when you want to enlarge your dwelling, building onto an already existing home is also difficult, to match. Most of the time it works, but sometimes even when it doesn’t work, there can be good relationships that remain long after the marriage doesn’t. 🙂
Eclipse,
Chazal have tried to protect us, but are we following their guidelines? I think not as well as we should be.
There are so many singles, or married women who have not been blessed yet with children, What do you think these women think when they see a pregnant woman who is ” in your face” with the way she dresses. Do you think that there is Brocha in inciting jealousy with these women who are hurting so?
eclipse, we all have a long way to go every day. Just as the song says, we are on a train, and we never know when our stop will come. When we have a one year old child, just going to the corner is a long way, but as we grow, it really isn’t. just remember each long journey starts with one step in the right direction. You are doing just fine!:-) If you need a cheer leader, may I apply for the job? anyone else out there joining me?
Eclipse, don”t be so hard on yourself. Just be the “Very best me” because we love you just the way you are. 🙂
You’ve come such a long way, for the better, just keep Smiling.
My Bubby told me the same thing many years ago. It should be a lesson to all of those clothing manufacturers who make clothing sooooooo revealing that they leave nothing to the imagination. Maybe if we dressed a little less ” in your face” then Klall Yisroel would be Zoche to Much Bracha.
Don’t worry deary I’ll IY”H be there soon with Chicken soup.
Will that help! 🙂
I once went to shul wearing a blue suit. I looked around the shul to see that I was the only one not wearing black. Was that not tzniusdik, since I definetly was different than everyone else.
I heard a Shiur from a prominent Rebitzen that we should start planning for Shabbos,Motzoei Shabbos. When we wash the dishes from lunch we should say “Lichovod Shabbos Kodesh” so that we do something everyday for the next Shabbos. We have to wash the dishes anyway, the tablecloth etc. so why not get the added mileage of saying that it is for Shabbos.
Can’t you see that you are winning the battle over the Satan, If you can identify that the satan is getting in the way then you are two steps ahead of him. keep up the good work! 🙂