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I have no suggestions on the insulation part, but if you do work on your home/house make sure (IF NEEDED) that you get a permit from the city.
I have friends who did renovations on their home WITHOUT a permit, the city found out and they were fined, had to hire a lawyer and the nightmare when on for months and months.
Do it right. The city has the money, the time and all the resources they need. Do you?
@ i said so: Are these cousins by blood or marriage. Are they Safardic/Ashkenaz/Jewish?
Forget the general population. If they are first cousins by blood-there is a chance that their offspring having physical and psychological problems.
@Z-Zone: Not all Chssisishe women shave their heads. Why? No idea.
What is the punishment if a man cheats on his wife?
@yentingyenta: Ask your Rav, if you have one.
@moskidoodle: You are bored? I have dishes in the sink that need to be washed….and this is NOT a story…
@Kodesh: Your predicament is very common with newly married, especially in the Orthodox world. How long did you “date” your wife before you proposed? Was there much pressure for both of you to marry? Did you EVEN know what questions to ask? How old were you when you married?
I really don’t have have an answer for you, but I wish you much hatzlacha and take care of this/these issue(s) before they snowball.
@Oomiss: Exactly what my mother taught me……
@Soarin: Your opinion of the shidduch crisis is correct–parents taking over. But, let’s not forget what stupid qualifications/questions were asked of “the other” family.
What color tablecloth is used for the Shabbos table?
Do they scrape or stack (the dirty dishes)?
How heavy is the mother?
How heavy are the siblings–usually the girls (what a surprise)and so many others…
We did this to ourselves.
I hardly ever hear: “what about the person’s midot?”
What about the person’s hashkafah?
What about the person’s derech eretz?
More important than the decor of the home.
Let me know if you agree/disagree. I like to read other CRers opinions. Thanks.
Torah Umada: I watched you on America’s Got Talent. As matter of fact, I called my sister to tell her to tune in. You have a wonderful voice and you presented yourself so beautifully. A real Kiddush HaShem. My sister and I were “shepping nachas” (although we are not related, that is, you are not related to my sister and me.)
Keep up the great work and may you only continue from strength to strength. I will be watching for you when you go to Vegas!!!!
Tomchei Shabbos
Baal HaNess (spelling?)
OHEL
HASC
Mishkan
Ten Yad
Ohr Naava
@Toi: HHHAHAHA!!! Great answer.
Most young women today are very savvy and will have the ring appraised by a diamond dealer. So, who ever is doing the deceiving make sure you know how to compete with a ruby….happy wife, happy life.
@Gefen: Me too!!!! Whenever I write something not too kosher, the mods never allow it…I have E.E. –Editorial Envy!!!
If we did something “wrong” the whole neighborhood found out including every relative in a 50 mile radius. We were so embarrassed that we wouldn’t even think twice about doing that particular behavior again. We would too embarrassed to even apologize for what we did.
Personally, I think the tuition spent on those that have no derech eretz is a big waste…Derech Eretz Kadmah L’Torah….
@Ofcourse: Just do what everyone else does. “Steal” the cleaning lady off the street as she walks to her employer’s house. Offer more money. Just make sure her former employer doesn’t find out it’s you who “stole” her cleaning lady.
@ gregaaron: 🙂
This one trumps all of you: One time while in a major discount store, I put a feminine hygiene product is a man’s (he was at least 70 years old) shopping cart. Imagine HIS surprise when he went to pay!!!! Of course I was with friends and it was a dare…needless to say that was the last dare they ever dared me!!!! We couldn’t stop laughing for days….Poor man!!!
@BaalHabooze: Vashti is a very common (female) name in India.
watch it please.
It is very rude when someone is constantly on their black berry. It’s very addictive which why it’s called “Crack” berry.
If this person is eating in your home, it is up to you to put boundaries on what can and can’t be done at the dinner table. Your home. Your rules. Like children, some adults need to be told how to act appropriately, unfortunately.
Also felt in Ohio and up to Rhode Island. Some people at work felt it, others didn’t. I guess it depends where the fault line is.
Very scary as it lasted longer that the earthquakes in ’85, ’87 and ’02. Yes, January 2002.
dbwcbb: You are correct. Most young people in college aren’t sure what they want to major in let alone which profession to choose. Most colleges internships are part of the curriculum. This way the student will be able to judge if that is the profession she/he wants to pursue.
I never heard of a BA being obtained in two years. Do you mean an A.A.?
In today’s economic climate a college degree is a necessity NOT a luxury.
My sister thought she wanted to be a lawyer but after speaking with a few she realized that law was not for her. She even took the LSATs. (BTW, she scored very high and didn’t even study). She went into publishing.
I would encourage all college students to talk with people in different industries and ask questions to see if anything piques their interest.
Much luck to all and enjoy your college years. They go very, very quickly.
You people are so naive. Maybe she’s coming into town to see what’s available to HER. Maybe she’s going on numerous dates with numerous young men. Same could hold for the young man. He goes out of town to see what’s available to HIM.
Obaminator: Derech Eretz takes precedence. Derech Eretz kadma LaTorah.
Try Baruch College job placement.
No. I did not vote for Obama. I knew from the start that he is a false “prophet” and that he would pander to the Muslim world. He’s a tyrant and an idiot.
@MichaelC: I don’t know if you are married, have kids or not, but do you think with today’s economy and price of living going up everyday, that women aren’t working outside the home just to pay the mortgage/rent? C’mon. Get real. A nice concept but hardly “realistic” in today’s world.
I have been the Executive Assistant for two men, one Jewish one non-Yehudi. Trust me, there was nothing going on with these two individuals and myself. I not only enjoyed working for them, I respected them even more because they did NOT hit on me. Unfortunately, due to the economy, (1990 and 2010)I lost both jobs.
In theory and idealisiclly, Kol Kevuda Bas Melech Penima is a beutiful concept. But the reality is that most (Jewish) women today must work outside the home and be seen by the general public. Between the cost of yeshiva and camp tuitions, kosher food and rent/mortgage, heat, electricity, gas, bar/bat mitzvah costs, etc. women don’t have a choice but to work outside the home.
The word ‘cheese’ is used because that is the name of their mascot, Chuck E. Cheese. Not because food (cheese) is served at their establishments.
I personally like to go there to play air hockey.
@kapusta: You are correct. I was taught this in Yeshiva. No matter how smart, successful, bright, intellegent, saavy, good-looking someone is, if there is no Derech Eretz then everything is for naught.
I sometimes find that young people in their 20s have no D.E. What happened? Not all. Just some. Their parents pay millions of dollars in Yeshiva tuition and for what? Too bad…..the generation of entitlement…
@abcd2: If the employees come to work and get laid off in the morning, mid-day or afternoon, by law they are entitled to THAT day’s pay.
@Obominator: This must be a very difficult time for you.
If I may add my 2 cents:
Find a very good labor lawyer. Do not say anything to your employees until you know which terminology, words, phrases, by law you may use. The language/words you use can be detrimental depending on the background of a specific employee. I worked on Wall Street and “took notes” when there were layoffs. The law is very intricate and delicate and does NOT allow for mistakes the misuse of words or phrases.
Fina a very good accountant who knows the unemployment laws in the state that you have your business.
Set up an appointment for you, the labor lawyer and the accountant to make a game plan. Every penny has to be accounted for. Every word has to be perfect. I can’t say this enough. I can’t stress this enough.
Ask them for any advise that you might need. Such as which day you should let your employees go/know.
Much hatzlacha to you.
There’s the problem in itself: How can a young man of marriageable age make up his own mind when we keep calling him a “boy”. “Boys” do not make adult decisions. Adults make adult decisions. Same goes for the “girls”. How about “young men and young women”?
No. No females/women allowed on the field after or before the game. All the women should boycott this kind of 15th Century thinking.
We have to have bitachon that HaShem will provide us with what we need.
Everyone has a different standard of living and quality of life. It just so happens that I don’t need the yacht that is selling for $5,000,000. But I do need the $10.00 MetroCard to get me work and back. Yes, we must work and make the effort to have parnassah.
I’m not judging the Trumps, Hiltons, etc. They have their parnassah and live within their means and we have ours.
Unless one is a doctor/EMS/Hatzalah or has a sick family member, there should be no texting, tweeting during davening. So disrespectful to your fellow congregants (men and women) and especially to Operator Himself.
BTW, our kavanah is between HaShem and ourselves. Let’s not judge anyone…..
Charliehall: Eyen Roeh. How would anyone know what is on your Blackberry? I would think that you are texting/tweeting during davening. Siddurim cost a lot of money that shule’s pay for. Use them.
If you drink coffee, Brew/make your own coffee at home. The average cup of coffee is $1.00 – $1.25 per Cup. Multiply this amount by how many times a week you purchase a cup of coffee. More at Starbucks, D&D and Chock Full ‘O Nuts.
Bring your lunch to work. Again, multiply.
Bring your breakfast to work. Again, multiply.
Read through the TV Vues and Torah Times to see which supermarkets have the best buys of the week. True, some of the supermarkets require the customer to purchase $10.00 of non-sale items in order to buy the items on sale.
If you can, walk to work and back home at least 3-4 times a week, depending on the weather.
Use regular plates and utensils as opposed to plastic/paper. Waste of money and the landfills will thank you.
Instead of using tin pans to cook, purchase good quality pans. Same goes for baking. Amazing Savings and Jack’s World (NYC) have really good buys.
Borrow books/DVDs/CDs from the library.
If you can get to ShopRite (McDonald and Avenue I) sometimes they have very good sales.
Many people don’t like to, but how about using coupons? Even if it’s a $1.00 off, it pays for the tax of the product if there is one.
Try to find websites that send free samples. They are out there, you just have to look. Sometimes they also send coupons with the samples.
I know it’s a lot of information. Much luck and you will do very well.
HaQer: Not everyone celebrity/actor/athlete/Princess of Cambridge has to be Jewish, half-Jewish, a third-Jewish. Enough already with this meshugas.
If Derek Jeter would to be redt for a Shidduch and these questions arose and he wasn’t DEREK JETER, no shaddchun would even look at him.
Besides, who cares?
When people ask me why I’m single, if they are married I ask them why are they married. Turn the tables, boys and girls. It will shock those yentas who just want to know your business but don’t know anyone with whom to set you up.
How about the column “Weird But True” from the NY Post? You can’t make this stuff up.
If you want to stop the mailings this what you do:
Each request comes with a response card and a return envelope.
Cross out your name on the response card and write: Please take my name off your list.
Place in the return envelope. DO NOT WRITE YOUR NAME AND ADDRESS ON THE ENVELOPE.
If the envelope DOES NOT have postage, the organization/agency will be charged the postage which is usually double the going rate for a stamp. You become a liability not a potential donor.
If the envelope HAS postage send anyway. They will read your note and remove you from their database.
Nice. No. Effective. Yes.
How about when the husband comes home the wife isn’t wearing that awful, tacky robe that makes her look like she’s bored with him and their life.
Ladies: Put on something nice and pleasant to the eye.
Gentlemen: Compliment your wife as to how great she looks.
I realize not all women wear these type of robes, but some do.
@Wolf: re: Redbull. LOLOLOL!!!
I realize this has nothing to do with this thread, but I have been noticing that some of our posters use the words ANYWAYs. The correct pronunciation is ANYWAY. We are a very educated bunch, let’s “speak” as if we are.
How about what the Lubavitcher Rebbe did. Both Yeshiva and Colllege. Sounds pretty good to me and I’m not Lubavitch at all.
@Yid: You are so correct. Many of our fellow tribesmen and women don’t realize that if one is Modern doesn’t mean one is not frum. Many Frum, Modern Orthodox people belong to the Young Israel and Yeshiva University movements.
I know many frum men and women who date long term. Perhaps they were burnt from a fast-paced shidduch that didn’t work out and decide to do what is comfortable for them.
@shlishi: This site is open to all whether Chasisdish, Litvish, Modern Orthodox, BT, FFB, etc. So, please don’t allow yourself to be so naive to think that only Charedai (spelling?) people visit this site. There is more than one “type” of Jew. We don’t live in a shtatel in Poland in the 18th Century.
Question? How many of the above posters are men and how many are women. If you are men, you shouldn’t be looking at the bride if this disturbs you.
Why don’t we just insist that all brides wear potato sacks or 1960 style dress mumus. That way everyone wins except of course for the bride.
@ofcourse: Forget 1986, the records go back to the 20s and 30s.
@Glatt: I was just wondering if you are married or have male child(ren) over 13, isn’t there the issue of Yichud?
Also, if you do use a W-2 as oppossed to a 1099 find out if you have to pay Unemployment Taxes for the Nanny. Also, check with a labor lawyer and an accountant to make sure what you are doing is on the up-and-up. The IRS don’t play. They are serious.
Will you also expect her to work the major Yom Tovim and if she doesn’t will you pay her for those days off? Will these days off counts towards her vacation days?
cshapiro suggested vacation after 6 months. I would suggest 3. A full-time Nanny position is very hard and exhausting.
@Health: Thanks for responding. But wasn’t Dovid Hamelech punished for doing what he did? Or was that for something else.
Please let me know.