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R’ Shmuel – We call it “Kvitching”. And yes, men definately hate it. Instant turnoff.
Pizza Mayven in LA has by far the best Pizza anywhere in the world. (Just make sure you get a fresh slice).
I just bought one in Judaica plaza. I heared they are selling like hotcakes so I went to get it before they ran out….(I think it is only in the Lakewood stores, because it is mostly relevant to Lakewood.) Great job whoever produced it!
I find the best way to deal with “lows” is to think about the fact that it is usually not like this and it will pass. And that when it passes it wont feel like this at all…
(If it is usually low, a therapist should be seen)
Every husband is abused.
Even if you don’t drink coffee – it’s worth it to buy it just to smell it…
Tasters Choice Original when you open the foil the first time! Yummmmmmmm!
Redzy – Why are you doing us the favor? That is not always true. Usually the babysitter gets paid.February 8, 2011 9:00 pm at 9:00 pm in reply to: Is it harder for Frum adults to form new relationships and make close friends? #737909
I think this question touches upon some deep points. Many times “frumkeit” is used as a subconsious excuse to lack in basic Derech Eretz and social develpoment. The Satmar Rebbe said that “Kol machlokes Shei Leshem shomayim sofa lehiskayem” can be interpreted to mean that once each side thinks they are “Leshem Shamayim” there is no hope of ever having peace. If they would admit that it is bad middos, etc. there may be hope of getting to shalom because you know something is lacking. But if you think you are “fighting G-d’s fight”, you will never change because you think you are doing the greatest mitzvah! If not for some misconceptions about yidishkeit/frumkeit, people would be more aware of what is lacking in basing things like midos and friendships.
Ptchah is not high in fat or cholesterol! It is actually ok for peolpe on a diet. Just scrape off the fat layer which you can see on top when it comes out of the fridge.
I disagree with professional. This is not your obligation. “Drop a friend” is an oxymoron! This is obviously not a real friendship. She is leaching onto you obviously because she is insecure, and whats bothering you is that you feel this is “too much” – it is not a real friendship. If you want to do her a Chesed, arrange help for her.
You are not obligated to stay her friend. You need to convince her to go for help. These situations are very difficult, and will be painful for her. She must see a competent therapist.January 13, 2011 3:10 am at 3:10 am in reply to: Is there an inyin that your zivug should look like you? #728608
It has no effect in how you will get along.January 13, 2011 3:03 am at 3:03 am in reply to: Is there an inyin that your zivug should look like you? #728605
Zero problem. On the contrary – opposites attract! Allow yourself to be fully excited. (Though I do remember once reading that with time, couples begin to look alike!)
I have a different take than everyone else on this.
We are really on a much higher level than the nations in regard to middos, etc. Look at the divorce rate of the world and compare that with ours. The Germans were also very proper and mannerly. The difference here is that the goyim are more in tune with social graces and mannerisms than we are. But if you compre them with us in circumstances that really show the person, eg: someone in your family or office gets on your nerves or provokes your anger, they do not compare with us at all. (not to say we are perfect – we always have what to work on..) In todays society it is rare to find a goy who has real values and morals.
This is not to say that we should not be aware of this issue and be carefull how we act in public, but the way it is being portrayed here is wrong.
No. Gartel = waist material! 🙂
CV – You have a lot to learn. The Kollel people are SUPPORTING the world. They are giving their supporters more than they are giving them! Rav Shach said you don’t even have to say Shkoiyach because you are giving him more than he gave you!
Rav Yisroel Salanter explains all the terrible curses in Sanhedrin for one that says “mai ahani li rabonon” that this is not a separate punishment, but rather, since they are supporting the world, if one says what do i need them for, memeilah he cannot have an existence!
There is no Tzedoka as important as supporting Lomdei Torah.
Eclipse – The quote is 100% true – I heared it out of his mouth!
Many of the girls that are saying they married someone that is not a smoker simply do not know that their husband smokes/ smoked.
The Rosh Yeshiva of one of the biggest yeshivos in America said: “Any girl that says they will not marry a boy that smokes, will never get married”.
Most bochurim that smoke stop not too long after they are married. In our society, it is something that is done in the “bochurishe setting”, and is not a chronic, permanent thing. You can see that it is not too common for an older yungerman to smoke. By the younger crowd, however, it is very common.
Noone comes close to MBD. Long live the king!
Is it a jewish concept? There is no problem with it in judaism. Does it need to be this way before? Definately not.
Why in the world are you feeling guilty that you are not attracted to someone? You should only marry someone that appeals to you. And it is not your obligation to “make her” appeal to you. This is not a healthy sign. It may be good for you to go to therapy.
Why does a boy take a girl out? Maybe a girl should take a boy out? This question doesn’t bother you, right? Because you understand that this is the way of the world – the man goes after the woman and this is a Chazal too.
Since you are taking her out, why should she open the door for you? Can u imagine if I bring you to my house and I expect you to open my door for me?
(The only question remaining is if it appropriate or not, which is indeed a borderline question and has always been.)
Yes, I was in Paris. I saw all those parasites… (Jackie Mason)
I agree with popa. Why does it bother people so much? Even more, why do other terrible things that people do, not bother people nearly as much? Do you know that I know of a doctor who said that smoking 2 a day is GOOD for you?! The only reason they make such an issue against it is because most people cannot smoke 2 a day and it usually results in smoking much more, which is indeed dangerous. Just chill out. I think most of our youth that smoke do not remain permanent smokers and end up stopping around marriage age or a little later. I really do not consider this a serious issue in our community.
While it may be true that we need to emphasize those aspects of yiddishkeit, however, the stories where people actually go off the derech from internet etc., ALWAYS goes back to emotional abuse. This is not reffering to “the system”, but to his specific abusive parent/s. Ask any professional. (In most cases the parents have no idea that they are abusive). Any healthy kid doesn’t just go OTD because he saw images.
Nobody has addiction problems or goes OTD because of internet, etc. It is always because of emotional problems that were there from BEFORE (caused by bad parenting). This can cause a person to go off or get addicted when he sees these images. Someone that is emotionally healthy and has a good relationship with his parents will not go OTD from these images nor will he get addicted. He will likely do Teshuva and go on with life. This is what most proffesionals in the field say.
R’ Matisyahu says he does not like the word dropouts. He calls them Pushouts!October 20, 2010 5:00 am at 5:00 am in reply to: An important lesson from last weeks parsha for married people #702569
I agree you should not look at or talk to your wife.
Not the end of the world. Most bochurim do not end up permanent smokers, they usually stop sometime after they get married.
Also R’ Moshe writes (if i remember correctly), that although it is not a good thing, it is not assur.October 6, 2010 4:23 am at 4:23 am in reply to: What does this mean, its a quote from the Kotzker. #699356
The Kotzker did not mean mixing ruchnius and gashmius. The first explanation is closer to what he meant but not exactly. If you read some books on the Kotzker, you will have a better understanding of what he meant by gaining a better grasp of his Derech. He was very against doing things because everyone does it or because this is what I did yesterday, or this is what my Rebbe told me to do. The whole difference between an animal and man is the intellect. Always know what you are doing and do your own actions because YOU understand this should be done. (Many of the Kotzkers points are hard to understand unless an effort is made to understand it, and it can take some time..).
The purpose of marriage is the same purpose why women were created, Lo Tov Heyos Ha’adam Levado. (You see from here what is wrong with the womens lib movement.)
There is a serious misconception here. When a boy that wants to learn looks for support, he is looking for the type of family that wants to support and feels good doing so. The boy is part of “shevet levi” and his match should only be someone that fully understands and appreciates “shevet levi”. Other people that are koveya itim are very respectable and are doing a great thing by making time to learn every day. However, shevet levi is something else entirely. Rav Shach speaks about this at length as well as the Brisker Rov in Parshas Chayey Sara. R’ Shach said that people that support them are taking more than they’re giving, and therefore the taker is not even obligated to say “shkoiyach”!
I think the real answer is that it is because of some changes in the jewish music scene as a whole. It used to be more “commercial”, everything was more official. You wouldn’t hear him singing a song from a different singer in his league… Now you can find clips of him singing virtually any current hit like Vzakeini (B. Levine), etc.. Everything is more heimish in a way. This is also, in my opinion why he is know now to more people as Avreimel.September 2, 2010 3:57 am at 3:57 am in reply to: Which Singers Are Your Top 3 Favorites, (list by order) #1109077
The rest is all commentary.
R’ Matisyahu’s book is one of the best on Chinuch.
save yourself a LOT of aggravation and give it up – the best way is to put out an album, but only do that if your songs are really, really good or else you will lose a lot of money. Everyone thinks their songs are amazing so ask others that know these things.July 22, 2008 7:53 am at 7:53 am in reply to: A Thread That is Not Really About a New Cd by Boruch Levine #1026322
It worth buying this album for Vehevei Yodeya (track 6?)
What an embarrsment that The Yeshiva World even posted this letter. Almost every comment shows pure daas baal habayis. This should be Alef Bais. There are other sites where such a letter would be more appropiate.