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I heard a shiur from Rav Yitzchok Berkowitz, SHLITA, several years ago about how in the case of shavuos, milk reperesents the Torah, and so the Simcha is through milchigs, NOT basar v’yayin like in all other yomim tovim. It was deeper than that, but that’s the gist. I wonder what his personal minhag is, but since then I think that people are misguided in their eating meat every meal for this Yom Tov.

Does anyone agree with me that it’s become another thing that is the ‘frummer’ thing to do totally based on nothing?

there is something called too much togetherness. It has been explored by many psychological theorists, particularly the founding fathers of family therapy. It is an innate, instinctual response and is normal and healthy. Everyone has their own threshold, but individuality is also important and spending time alone or away from close family members has it’s time too. Pesach and bein hazmanim does mean too much togetherness for many, which is why all the suggestions to spend time alone, take a walk, go for a drive, etc. are good ones! Don’t feel guilty, this is true for any relationship and what’s unhealthy are people who need too much togetherness or too much individuality. You need to have a good balance of both so you can develop your relationship with others as well as with yourself.

MONEY!!!!!!!!My husband is amazing at kiruv krovim and has worked here in EY for a while in it. Now he is looking for a job in the states and NO ONE IS HIRING!!!!!!!! There is no $$$$$$. So if you know of somewhere that will take someone wanting to work in kiruv krovim…please, let me know!!!!!!!!!!

define crisis. numbers. then go out and do a reliable and valid statistical study to find out if the numbers of whatever you define crisis exists. Then you will really know. until you do that, it;s all a bunch of guess work….

Isn’t there an issur about going to places of the goyim? I forgot rashi’s exact language on the pasuk but I think it seems that movie theaters would fit the bill. Anyone remember this Rashi?

Hi- OF COURSE you should have contact with him during the week. Offer to learn something Judaism related once a week at night…invite him to come on a trip with your family on sunday…for sure purim/purim party etc. Another idea could be for you or someone else to start a learning group in the hospital where he works–a lunch/learn during lunch break. There MUST be other Jewish doctors and bring some pizza or chinese and have a learning discussion once a week. he can get involved by helping you organize it. DONT give up on one Jew just because one way didn’t work out…and if you let him know why you can’t invite him, he may want to learn more, or come when he is not working…. good luck!!!!

I am taking just the web part (hmmm, who are you cutie pie?) just because as a designer I have to know….but there is no comparing real, live school to a web school. A real art school that’s longer than a year long is much, much better and you can get a job with a real (meaning not- jewish) company. Do you want to be doing ads for local businesses or do you want to make real money doing international level work?

make meat roll (puff pastry dough with a ground meat mixture with sauted onion, garlic, chicken stock, and flour) and shape them like hamantaschen!!! it’s delicious and cute. if you want I can post an exact recipe. The truth is, it’s better looking (and tasting) if you make your own dough- it may not look like a hamantasch once it’s puffed up.

PS- and honestly, can anyone EVER answer that question for anyone besides their own family? You think you are the one to judge? Well, that has been Hashem’s job for almost 6,000 years now…(if not more)

You want someone to be real? i will be real. Marriage is hard and not so fun at times, but working on it for real gives you the most amazing feeling. We can get away in life without putting in too much effort, but when someone else is involved, you can’t, unless you both make a pact to be unhappy. My wife and I were having some issues- mainly compatibility issues so we decided to go for therapy and it worked! we constantly put in effort, for sure…but it is so much better. Also, because the secular world has gone to such an extreme (negative!) with regard to matters of Kedusha, the frum world, rightly or wrongly, has responded by not talking about it at all (and no, 10 kalla classes with hints don’t count). So people are going into marriage thinking these things are wrong, tammeh, and not nice. I once heard a famous frum writer and therapist say that most of his practice deals with chassidish/ yeshivish couples in this area. Find a good teacher…retake Kalla/chosson classes…or see a therapist to make your marriage as good as it can be!

designalive.net (they have an ad on yeshivaworld)- it’s live but online so you do it from home…

houston, hollywood,FL, Madison,WI, Sandy Springs,GA, Savanna,GA, Los Angeles,CA, Detroit,MI, St.Louis,Missouri, Indianappolis, Minneapolis,MN, San Antonio, San Francisco, Jacksonville,FL, Charlotte,NC, Seattle,WA, Denver, Milwaukee, Washington, Silver Spring,Portland, Tuscon, Cleveland, Raleigh,NC, Tampa. Toledo, Buffalo,NY, Orlando, Birmingham,AL, Irvine,CA, Des Moines, Fort Lauderdale,FL, Vancouver, Eugene,OR, Boulder…..the list goes on and on and on and so many of them have great school with small classes, where each kid in the class isn’t a clone or some mold or cookie to fit into the cookie cutter, or whatever other metaphor people use….you will actually be needed and feel like you have a purpose…so much to give jewishly….your kids will feel proud to be Jewish and will behave accordingly (in many cases…)…..

i saw that ad and i totally agree…the connotation was completely inappropriate- my husband was shocked at it. And BTW, if anyone needs a good graphic designer that knows what they’re doing..let me know…i do graphics that are simply….edible!

someone I know well who use to work for OU israel told me it is not reliable here. The people in the US want to believe it’s the same but it’s not. Kashrus is Israel is a WHOLE ‘nother thing!

at least you save on the shipping- its free!

or did you make it and you are trying to do an informal survey????

the wolf- what do you do that you have time to blog all the time? Do you actually make money for a living? are you a girl? just curious.

Seuda Shlishis:

brocolli salad

tomato salad

cut up veggies

pasta salad

dips

spreads

just potential ideas..

wellinformedyid- I totally agree- we are driving ourselves into a deep dark hole. We expect the wife to work (or she needs to), the husband, have a million kids, many times no close family nearby, involved in tons of chesed, always look happy and put together. Unfortunately, we are seeing the korbonos of our unrealistic lifestyle…

TV is harmless? OK, either you never watched TV nowadays, or your kids are way too close together and you NEED the TV as a babysitter….But seriously, I mean I hear 5 year old girls talking about dumping and boyfriends, and that is the least of it. WHERE DO YOU THINK THEY GET THE IDEA OF DRINKING AND DRUGS??????????????

epstein- Mrs. Epstien….

I heard that in Chicago, there is some sort of board of external people (not tied to institutions) that has been quite effective in running people like this out of town. Of course with it being in the media and all, kids can make things up, and we really have to be careful both for the adult’s sake and the kid’s. Someone I know is a teacher and a student was mad at her and said “Im going to tell the principal that you hit me…” She immediately recorded the incident so that people would know that this kid could make things up. It’s really a catch 22 and Siyata Dishmaya is sorely needed as in all areas of life.

Exactly my point and I am working hard to make up my education….and I think we all should.we need a system of adult education, much like a kiruv program would have where adults learn the basics and then have something to give over to their kids. Give me $10,000 I’ll start a world-wide program….