takahmamash

Forum Replies Created

Viewing 50 posts - 1 through 50 (of 1,228 total)
  • Author
    Posts
  • in reply to: The process of asking for money for a wedding #2112022
    takahmamash
    Participant

    According to ujm, I guess we’re not traditional. When our daughter got married, we did not give the Chatan a dowry. We paid for half the wedding. (The Chatan’s parents are still living in the U.S.; we pretty much split wedding and transportation costs down the middle. We had the Shabbat sheva brachot in our home city.) We did not buy them an apartment, nor did we pay their rent. We didn’t buy them a car, or pay for their monthly groceries, or anything like that. Both kids worked before they married, and both work now, and the son-in-law continues to study for his Master’s. I find the “requirement” to buy an apartment quite distasteful.

    in reply to: The process of asking for money for a wedding #2112020
    takahmamash
    Participant

    mentch1: In Beersheva. This is not a chareidi city by any stretch of the imagination; those that come to collect funds are from out of town.

    in reply to: The process of asking for money for a wedding #2111760
    takahmamash
    Participant

    Does anyone know the answer to my question about what happens if the amount isn’t raised? And mentch1, we also did not buy our daughter an apartment when she got married. (Of course, we’re not Chareidi, but I have heard of these things amongst the chardal as well.)

    in reply to: How to enforce Tznius guidelines in a Kehillah #2111284
    takahmamash
    Participant

    I was reading the beginning of this thread, and so many wrote comments about having the rebbetzin talk to the women who were allegedly failing with a lack of tznius. How do we know that it wasn’t the rebbetzin who was the problem?

    in reply to: Yeshivos #2111282
    takahmamash
    Participant

    Beis medrashes???

    in reply to: anybody heard of new heimish/chasidish community in Ramat Shlomo #2107845
    takahmamash
    Participant

    Seriously? People pay that much in rent? You can move to Immanuel and live much cheaper. B”H we bought several years ago, and a mortgage is much less than what you’re paying in rent.

    in reply to: school memories #2107602
    takahmamash
    Participant

    ujm: That would be hard to do, since their kids would be in school in E”Y, and there are no “A” grades here. Besides, I know my kids, and they’re not built that way.

    in reply to: school memories #2107556
    takahmamash
    Participant

    My children are well past the school parsha, but I will tell you that if a teacher or school administrator had EVER laid a hand on any of my children, that teacher or administrator would have been nursing some black eyes and broken arms. I would not have regretted it, either.

    in reply to: leaving yeshivah and going to work #2107101
    takahmamash
    Participant

    Years ago, in Baltimore, I had a chavruta who learned in yeshiva in the mornings, worked in a law firm in the afternoons, and attended law school at night. It was hard, but B”H he graduated, opened his own law firm, and still learns in the mornings. (And I might add he married a nice girl from a yeshivish family; she had no problems with him either working or going to law school.)

    in reply to: looking for an apartment to rent in israel #2101061
    takahmamash
    Participant

    “the Negev, they are give houses away there”
    Where are “they” giving away houses in the Negev? I live in the Negev, and I haven’t seen or heard of any houses being given away down here.

    “but the communities suggested here are not my style and too Israeli”
    This is Israel – what do you expect the communities to be here? If you want to live here, you learn to deal with it and become Israeli.

    in reply to: WWRAS-What would R’ Aharon zt”l say? #2095650
    takahmamash
    Participant

    ” . . . Lakewood being the fulfillment of R Aharon’s dream.”

    I would imagine that being in E”Y would be the fulfillment of R. Aharon’s dream, at least that’s supposed to be the fulfillment of everyone’s dream. I don’t see Lakewood mentioned anywhere in Tanach.

    in reply to: BAN SEAFRIA. #2093053
    takahmamash
    Participant

    “you will find pictures of a Beis Hamedrash filled with women, Rachmona Litzlan”
    There is a problem with women learning Torah, or are you simply trolling?

    in reply to: Every rebbe, every gabbai – get a pistol #2091977
    takahmamash
    Participant

    When we made aliyah, we first lived on a yishuv for 9 1/2 years. Every year for Yom Kippur we’d daven at the local Hesder yeshiva, and there were always plenty of people carrying weapons – including the gabbai. I always felt sad that the weapons were needed, even if they weren’t used.

    in reply to: OOT personality is lost. #2085343
    takahmamash
    Participant

    Anyone outside of E”Y is OOT, so I don’t understand what you’re complaining about.

    in reply to: Bochurim on YWN #2078691
    takahmamash
    Participant

    “Is it kdai for bochurim to be using YWN coffee room during bein hazmanim?”

    You’re asking the wrong question. The proper question should be “is it kdai for any alleged Chasid or Chareidi person to be on YW at all, since we all know that there is not one Chassidich Rebbe or Chareidi Rosh Yeshiva that would give reshus to any of their Chassidim/talmidim/followers to be using the internet in this manner.”

    in reply to: How much hand shmurah matzah should I buy? #2074582
    takahmamash
    Participant

    What does that mean, nobody eats it after Pesach? I eat matza year round, and I make sure to finish the shmura first so it doesn’t go stale. This year it will be a bit of a problem because I’m flying to the states on chol hamoed. Such is life.

    in reply to: Washing on Pizza #2074561
    takahmamash
    Participant

    When I asked our Rav back in the olden days when I was a teen, he answered, “The Rebbetzin always serves a slice of bread on the side, so there won’t be a question.”

    in reply to: Missing a parsha #2072226
    takahmamash
    Participant

    “Most big cities [NYC MIA ORLANDO LA] have a Israeli minyan, ask around”
    Not going to be in any of those places. I’ll ask around before I leave.

    “As you are from Israel, I think the above should be done in CH’L when leined in Israel.”
    Yes, from Beersheva.

    in reply to: King Charles and Queen Camilla #2064401
    takahmamash
    Participant

    “He’ll be king and she’ll be queen, it’s as simple as that.”

    Incorrect, as has already been pointed out. He will become King, she will be the Queen Consort, not “the Queen.” There is a difference, Hohum, that you have failed to grasp.

    in reply to: Bowling? #2061975
    takahmamash
    Participant

    I went bowling the last time I had time in America, which I think was the fall of 2019.

    in reply to: Favorite Siddur #2061170
    takahmamash
    Participant

    My favorite siddur is “Minchas Yerushalayim.” For those of you that don’t know it, it’s small and very thick, about 1500 pages. As far as I know, it’s been out of publication for several years now. I love it because it has everything – calendars, times, pictures and diagrams, Avodim Hayeenu for Shabbat Hagadol, you name it, it’s in there.
    I’ve had 3 or 4 copies over the years, and wore each one out. It’s almost impossible to find them anymore, which brings me to a nice story.
    One of my daughters was reading my posts in the CR, as she knows my screen name. She saw the post where I asked if anyone had any info about this particular siddur, like if new copies were still being published. The answer I received to my post was that the family that owned the rights was no longer going to publish it.
    So, my daughter poked around in various Yerushalayim based FB and email groups, asking if anyone had a copy of this particular siddur to sell or give away. Someone did have one, gave it to my daughter; all my kids chipped in, had it rebound, and gave it to me for my birthday a few years ago. It was quite meaningful.

    in reply to: Quick & healthy Friday lunch #2059667
    takahmamash
    Participant

    2 or 3 potato bourekas, or what I used to eat in America – 2 slices and either fries or a knish

    in reply to: Israel South Africa? #2058691
    takahmamash
    Participant

    ujm, before you go accusing the Israeli government of apartheid, why don’t you go read the actual legal definition of the word so you can stop embarrassing yourself?

    takahmamash
    Participant

    What exactly is a “poaster?”

    in reply to: Not thanking God #2053642
    takahmamash
    Participant

    “The fact is, most Americans who consider themselves Jewish (but are not Orthodox) are not the child of a Jewish mother.”

    besalel, I challenge you to prove this by citing a reliable and reputable source. Quoting a Rav who said or wrote it is not reputable.

    takahmamash
    Participant

    He does this because Popa isn’t here anymore.

    in reply to: Danger of Deer In Monsey – Traffic Accidents #2052810
    takahmamash
    Participant

    “Oh see the deer. Has the deer a little doe?”
    “Soitanly! Two bucks! Nyuck nyuck nyuck.”

    in reply to: Amnon’s Pizza Guy from EJMR are you here? #2052505
    takahmamash
    Participant

    The Costco in Homestead (across the Monongahela River from Squirrel Hill) has tons of kosher stuff, including a kosher bakery. Try there, maybe they have your pizza.

    in reply to: Tu Beshvat, Bracha and Shecheyonu Which Comes First #2051855
    takahmamash
    Participant

    There’s no Shehecheyanu on skipping Tachanun? Or maybe I would have skipped anyway because the Steelers lost?

    in reply to: weekend #2051591
    takahmamash
    Participant

    Netanya

    in reply to: Writing on Paper #2047168
    takahmamash
    Participant

    “Googling for words is faster than using a dictionary.”
    Can’t use Google on Shabbat. I miss having a dictionary in the house.

    “Same as jotting down a note on physical paper, instant and secure.”
    Secure until your bag and/or pockets become stuffed with paper notes. Secure until you misplace an important note.

    in reply to: Kollel life with no parental support #2047167
    takahmamash
    Participant

    *whose

    in reply to: My Poasts/Comments are not getting Approved. #2045942
    takahmamash
    Participant

    The YWN mods are taking pity on you. They know that your Rebbe holds that the internet is shmad, and that you have no approval to be here.

    in reply to: I have the flu #2040698
    takahmamash
    Participant

    Did you get a flu shot?

    in reply to: Tel Aviv No. 1 #2039353
    takahmamash
    Participant

    “currently, brooklyn IS a better place to be”

    There is no mitzvah to live in Brooklyn anywhere in Tanach. I know you New Yorkers won’t believe it, but E”Y is “in town,” and everywhere else is not, at least according to the Torah.

    in reply to: Kids Used As Mules, Pidyon Shevuyim #2033285
    takahmamash
    Participant

    “It is 100% the huge mitzvah and obligation of pidyon shevuyim..”

    It’s 100% a chiyuv to teach your children how the world works, and what not to do, and what not to believe.

    in reply to: Trump 2024? #2031417
    takahmamash
    Participant

    I’d rather not vote at all than vote for Trump.

    Years ago, when I was a teen, I said something disparaging about the President at that time – most likely Carter. My father z”l heard me, and he said, “Look, if you don’t agree with something the President has done, that’s fine, but don’t disrespect the President or his office.”

    That’s why I could never vote for Trump. He himself didn’t (and still doesn’t) respect the office. He is simply not a mensch.

    (As an aside, I’ve been registered as a Republican since I first registered to vote when I was 17. That’s a long time ago. This past election was the first time I ever voted for a Democrat for President.)

    in reply to: The most unexpected place where you met yid. #2030504
    takahmamash
    Participant

    My daughter and a friend were hiking through some beautiful backwoods in Ireland. They came across a man and a woman, also walking through the area. The man looked familiar; as it turned out, he was a regular customer at the Aroma where she worked.

    in reply to: Nusach Sefard #2029535
    takahmamash
    Participant

    When we made aliyah to a yishuv in the Shomron, I switched from davening nusach Ashkanaz to Sfard. There were 5 shules in our part of the yishuv; 2 were nusach Sfard (including the American shule), 1 was Ari, 1 Edot Hamizrach, and one Ari. There was one Ashkanaz minyan a week, the Shabbat hashkama minyan at one of the shules. I davened there on occasion. Most of the people at that minyan were Sfardim who wanted to daven early.

    In Beer Sheva, there are 3 Nusach Ashkanaz shules in the entire city. One of them (the Anglo shule) only has minyanim on Shabbat and chagim. At this point, I strongly prefer davening nusach Sfard anyway. Davening Ashkanaz for the amud (as I did in America for shiva for each of my parents) is now very difficult.

    in reply to: which jewish community to live in #2027898
    takahmamash
    Participant

    There are plenty of places in E”Y, which I note were conveniently left off ujm’s list.

    in reply to: Nachlas Seminary Open House #2027897
    takahmamash
    Participant

    If you mean Nachlas in Lakewood, they actually have a website where you can email them, or call them with the number on the site. Try Googling “Nachlas Seminary.”

    in reply to: Girls reputation vs boys reputation #2026214
    takahmamash
    Participant

    “Current educational system is great at inspiring everyone . . . .”

    AAQ, if you really believe this, you’re living in a fantasy world.

    in reply to: Klal Yisroel Needs an Official Central Yichus Registry #2026212
    takahmamash
    Participant

    Good luck with that!

    in reply to: Tznius and kosher pastimes for teenagers #2025683
    takahmamash
    Participant

    “Ask a girl from Baltimore I think the star k specifically says restaurants shouldn’t be open on motzei shabbos so what do they do?”

    Places in Baltimore certainly are open on motzei Shabbat. What, you think people can’t go out and get pizza if they want?

    in reply to: I’m leaving for Mincha now . . . #2025515
    takahmamash
    Participant

    “Why daven maariv twice?”

    Sorry, wasn’t clear on that – I went to the earlier minyan. The later minyan is available for those that want.

    “A custard donut, please. 🙂”

    I’m walking to post office in the mall later. I’ll stop by the bakery and see what’s available.

    in reply to: Life in Israel is hard for most isreilis #2022465
    takahmamash
    Participant

    “1 Bedroom apartment, is 5500. And eight thousand for 2 bedroom.”

    Ummm, what? Perhaps in Yerushalayim or Tel Aviv. Certainly not in other places. Definitely not in Beer Sheva. And believe it or not, not everyone lives in Yerushalayim or Tel Aviv.

    in reply to: Shorts #2006862
    takahmamash
    Participant

    Why not? I wear them all the time, except in shule and not on Shabbat and chagim. I’ve worked from home for many years, and I live in shorts and sandals from April to November.

    in reply to: Its impossible to make a living in Israel #1983575
    takahmamash
    Participant

    It’s certainly not impossible to live in E”Y. Come and live with the right attitude, and understand that this isn’t the United States, and you’ll be fine. Come with the understanding that you don’t have to live in Yerushalayim or one of the Anglo ghettos, and you’ll be fine (and your rent or mortgage will be cheaper).

    in reply to: Where have all the Yekkes gone? #1979081
    takahmamash
    Participant

    I’m not a Yekkie, but I do sing L’Dovid Baruch (by myself) before Arvit on motzie Shabbat. Back when I was a teen, I occasionally stayed with friends who davened at Glen Avenue in Baltimore, which was a long time Yekkie shule. I was fascinated by the tune, learned it, and have sung it (mostly by myself) for years.

    in reply to: Seeking recommendations for sleepover camp for 10th-grade boy #1967214
    takahmamash
    Participant

    “Where has he been every summer until now, in a closet? Don’t mean to be rude, but most boys have been in camp since at least 5th Grade.”

    Maybe he hasn’t gone until now because, believe it or not, there’s no actual halacha that says one must send children to a sleep-away camp.

Viewing 50 posts - 1 through 50 (of 1,228 total)