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Just want to say that I’m an extremely non-ra ra type, very low key, and I found my place in The Zone and had an unbelievable time. Many girls who work there are very low key. Rav Chaim Mintz paskens on all the music, and they pick and choose very carefully what they allow to be played. I was also not into the music until I learned the extensive discussion and decision making that went into it… so I follow the words of da’as torah. I think that Nageela has more going for it education-wise (there isn’t a very developed jewish education curriculum in The Zone), but what I like about Oorah is that they do kiruv through making a kiddush Hashem. they’re selective with staff so the kids have good role models. with torah mates, the staff is in touch with the campers throughout the year, so the follow-up is very effective and the kids have that constant role model figure in their lives. and from that they grow and learn… they desire to enter yeshivas and take on tzniyus, and they grow in yiddishkeit at a healthy pace as a result. I’ve seen this with my own eyes, it’s amazing
I HIGHLY suggest Queens College. It’s one of the best secular universities for frum Jews to attend. Plus, it is a ten minute walk away from Main Street in Kew Garden Hills which is packed with Jewish stores, restaurants, etc. Many guys learn part time at some of the small yeshivos in the area.
If you have the money, I would alternatively suggest Touro College or YU (if you can withstand the hashkafic debate of the place).
It’ll be great. B”H, I’m not as strongly attached to my phone as other people are, but I will admit that I check it more often than I would like to admit. So taking the time to disconnect will be fantastic.
Gavra – loved that book. A random old Jewish lady sitting next to me at Jury Duty recommended it to me.
As for me on Shabbos – I run groups for the girls in the neighborhood who are super bored on Shabbos afternoon (50+ girls attend). So most of my time I spend preparing. I also visit with friends.
Gum is actually really complicated to make kosher. Or maybe that I was ice cream. Not sure.
Unless, are you talking about in Israel where some of the MUST gum is really kosher and some is just “fake” kosher? (I always get get confused).
My halacha teacher in high school (years ago!) said that a woman who is expecting should not go into a nail salon. Yes, that means no manicures for 9 months. You just don’t want to risk it!
Go out with her. Names are not a reason to say no.
I saw someone reading it on the Subway today! I was wondering what that was all about…
I don’t want to rattle on and on, but I want to emphasize a point that so many people are making. DO NOT DISCUSS YOUR CHOSSON WITH ANYONE! You can gush about him all you want to your mother and mother-in-law, and that’s it!
Rebbetzin Zahava Braunstein A”H said that keeping things like this private fall under the category of tzniyus.
My eating philosophy is to find nutritious foods that fill me up substantially so I don’t eat again for a few hours. Pizza is the ultimate diet food! It is a complete meal – protein (cheese), carbs (bread – best if whole wheat), and veggies (if you have veggie pizza). It really does the trick and keeps you full for a few hours! The meal is best if you combine it with a nice salad and drink water.
As Heimishe Mom put it – everything in moderation (which I think is a very “heimish” perspective). Don’t make yourself crazy! You want to develop good eating habits that last.
Just out of curiosity – has anyone been close to getting engaged and then the relationship crashed and burned? What was the longest you’ve ever been out with someone?
zeeslick is not ice cream. it’s gelato!
Who’s CD is MP3?
People think that about coffee, but the latest science shows that it’s not. Weight Watchers used to count 1 cup of coffee as a 1/2 cup towards an 8 cup daily drinking requirement, but they recently took that away. Now 1 cup of coffee counts as 1 full cup of liquid.
This thread is way too sad. Instead of posting about divorces, please daven for mashiach to come so we can be spared from all these tzaros.
Thank you. Any other ideas? This is in the NEW YORK AREA.
Happiest – go onto their website and find a meeting near you. They let you go to one for free to check it out.
I rejoined WW for the 3rd time b/c I loved what I heard about the new program. As of now, I’ve not lost so much weight (I don’t really need to lose weight honestly, I just like to be on a controlled eating plan and WW does that for me… so I’m basically maintaining the healthy weight I’m at now) but I feel GREAT! Energized, I make great food choices, and I love how most vegetables AND fruits are free points!
I would recommend WW to anyone trying to lose weight. It’s a healthy, long lasting choice. Not a fad diet at all.February 4, 2011 1:18 am at 1:18 am in reply to: Just curious ����. What does everyone do for a living? #1119675
Someone once explained it to me.
You are NOT an accountant (or whatever else it is that you do…). First and foremost you are an eved Hashem. Therefore, you are an Eved Hashem who WORKS IN ACCOUNTING. So I guess if anyone asks you, just say, I work in [fill in whatever it is you do that gives you parnassa] rather than I am a [whatever you do]…
With that said, I am an Eved Hashem, and I find extreme fulfillment as an educator, i.e. I teach for a living… and I LOVE it!
Wow! Great responses!!
I loved the part with the taxi driver and the misrad ha’pnim. I just sent the story to a friend of mine who isn’t yet frum and I hope she’ll listen to it.
I also LOVE hearing the part about paying his check at the end and the INCREDIBLE yad Hashem that we see there. If anyone hasn’t heard it, you can download it at http://www.simpletoremember.com/media/a/weareNeverAlone/
ENJOY and let us know how you like it!!
Do what works for you.
I eat 5 small meals a day. I just lost a significant amount of weight B”H.
Honestly, I agree with Professional. How are you planning on getting married if you can’t even pay for your dates?
I now know that Pashuteh Yid is saying a whole bunch of meshugasim once I read the most recent post. And FYI, eating breakfast late in the morning and a late dinner as well is one of the worst things you can do to yourself.
To prove my point:
Try a HEALTHY diet like Weight Watchers. Their new Points Plus Plan is really great and I’m finding a lot of success with it.
I’ve had to listen to the Mostly Music radio, but I like YWN radio. Does anyone have any other good online radios that they would recommend?
Thanks for all the replies!
Here is what happened:
I had to get approval from the principal, and she said that I could only spend 10 minutes on it.
I spent 30.
I prepared a lesson with a short fact sheet on his life, spoke about the history of segregation and what he did, asked the girls why they thought he is a hero and discussed their responses.
Then, I selected a few sections of his “I Have a Dream Speech,” and discussed new vocabulary words from there, and also important terms concerning black history. Then the girls followed along as I played a recording of the actual speech.
After that we discussed what this all means to us as Jews, and how we have to be careful not to judge someone by what they look like, rather by their “insides.”
BH, I think it went over well.
That doesn’t answer my question!!!!! I’m glad for you that you have a day off though…
All my NYC tefillos concern the Subway…
-PLEASE Hashem let the train come fast!
-PLEASE Hashem, HOLD THE TRAIN and let my metrocard word on the first try!!!!!!
-Please Hashem, let this be a smooth ride home with no mexican singers or homeless solicitors.
-Please Hashem, allow for this train to have k’vitzas haderech!!!!
Regarding pedicures and tznuah – I noticed the last time I got my (finger)nails done, they wrap up people’s toes in saran wrap after the nail polish dries during the winter. So that is a great way to avoid wearing flip-flops in public!!! Just ask them to do that in the summer when there is a bigger yetzer harah to wear flip-flops after a pedicure.
I like to call them “professional rejectors.”
Yes, I know they are not all like this, but the vast majority of them are.
Do they ever get married? Usually. To someone who it’s “comfortable” for them to be with.
I recently went out with one such guy. He was a little older than the norm; very set in his ways and proud of himself. He is looking for someone very specific and I fit that description very well. But he said no without giving me a second date. I can’t imagine how he came to the conclusion that “our personalities did not match” because he didn’t ask me any questions about myself, and even so, our conversation flowed very nicely… it was very strange. I wish him all the best.
If you think about it, these guys have gone out on MANY dates, probably over a hundred. What’s the common denominator of all these dates? HIM! So there must be something going on there. Just saying.
Also – I’m NOT denying the fact that for some people it takes longer. This is sooo true. I’ve seen countless guys get married in their late 20’s, early 30’s… it just took them longer to find their basherte.
Ultimately, Hashem is running the world and we have to do our hishtadlus (which means not to reject so easily!!!!!)
Pearly White is a beautiful color. It looks like your fingernails are mother-of-pearl. And it stays on for quite a while as well…
Every person has a life mission, a message that they are meant to bring to the world. This is not a “tafkid”… no one has just one tafkid. Each individual was given their own unique set of strengths that they must use to its ultimate purpose. When an individual uses his strengths in the way they are meant to be used, he is is living his ultimate life’s purpose. I’ve been learning about this concept in detail from Rabbi Aryeh Nivin who teaches based on the nesivos shalom – the Skoliner Rebbe. It’s been life transforming…
Check out http://www.newchabura.com/index.htm (click on “sample audio” to hear a summary of what I just said)…
Rebbetzin Tziporah Harris teaches this material as well to women in her Clarity Seminar: http://www.clarityseminar.com/
When researching, make sure to find out if he has mentors and role models, and families who he has spent time with outside of his home. Perhaps he was away in yeshiva and spent a lot of time in a certain home? Almost like a ben bayis. This is important so he knows what it means to run his own, properly functioning home.December 17, 2010 6:12 pm at 6:12 pm in reply to: yosheiv beseser… mipach yokush midever _____ what? #718404
This information was taken from a fantastic workbook called “Zoom into Proper Kriya” which they use in many first grade classes.December 17, 2010 12:30 am at 12:30 am in reply to: yosheiv beseser… mipach yokush midever _____ what? #718402
I just taught this to my students today!
The rule is that a vuv with a dot on top can either be a cholom malei (“oh” sound nekuda for the previous letter), or it can be a vuv with a cholom chaser (“voh” sound). But a vuv with a dot in the middle is a shoorook (“ooh” sound), but it will NEVER make a “vooh” sound. It is just a vuv with a dagesh inside. So the word says “havos,” and the first vuv is a vuv with a dagesh, and the second vuv is its nekuda – a cholom malei.
that’s an oxymoron. just eat the donut or don’t.December 7, 2010 4:05 am at 4:05 am in reply to: Kosher Activities For Teenage Girls On Motzei Shabbos #885549
Ice skating! (If you consider it tznius).
Start a babysitting club and market yourselves out to be available to babysit (and then you’ll make tons of money!).
Start a choir and practice to sing in an old age home (to the women only of course). Or a dance?
Make yourselves a scavenger hunt (use your imagination on this one).
Go to a huge supermarket and give each other topics (ex. something very random like “computer”). Each girl has to find 3 items that have to do with that topic for under $5. Go home and figure out what you can cook with all the items.
Have a get together to watch a really amazing Rabbi Wallerstein shiur on TorahAnytime.
Make a weekly motzei Shabbos pizza making activity.
Host a Home Kiruv Training seminar from Project Inspire.
Pretend you’re little kids and play little kids games like hide and seek.
I heard this once…
Hi, you’ve reached the number you dialed!
Please leave a message after the tone.
My suggestion is that someone should go and claim it ASAP (even if it doesn’t belong to you – I mean how hard can it be to claim tefillin?), and then bring it to the New Square Hashavas Aveida organization. That way, we know it’s in safe, Jewish hands and will not be risked being disposed of in an unacceptable way. And they will try and find the owner.
I would go myself, but I think someone who actually works/lives in that neighborhood should go.
Rabbi Simmons on Aish.com pointed out that the value of a life is SO precious, and that is the reason why the government spent limitless amounts of money to rescue them, and millions of people have been so concerned over their wellbeing.
It’s a great article, currently on the front page of aish.com.
If you recently started shidduchim, here’s a bit of advice. Make sure you LISTEN when she talks. Like really LISTEN. This is super important. Don’t talk all about yourself the whole time. Ask her questions about herself. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t talk about yourself, but don’t dominate the conversation.
On a different note, what does a guy usually look for in a girl??
Eat Food. Mostly Plants. Not too much.
Read Michael Pollan’s “Food Rules” (Those are his rules above).
And move more.
I heard a story recently about a girl who was looking for a shidduch for a very long time. She wanted a very very frum bachur with a true love of torah and amazing middos. She finally found him – a ger tzedek (who also had a broken engagement). She was able to look past his background because he had everything she ever dreamed of. Rav Nosson Tzvi was mesader kiddushin at their wedding. He is now learning full time in the Mir and she is thrilled.
I know that the Young Israel of Brighton Beach (in Brooklyn) collects old clothes. They do pickups but I’m not sure if they go to Lakewood..
Young Israel Yeshiva of Brighton Beach
Neptune Ave., Brooklyn. Will pick up clothing, shoes, blankets, linens, dishes, and toys predominantly in the Brooklyn area. Will take 2-3 bags per pickup.
Sacrilege – The Rebbetzins is for ba’alei teshuva themselves who don’t have mothers or fathers to make the phone calls and do the checking. They act as “surrogate” mothers for these individuals. Didu is talking about children of ba’alei teshuva.
I think it would be a wonderful idea to have a shadchan deal directly with children of ba’alei teshuva. A woman I know once said that they should start a shidduch organization called “Rav Noach’s Children” (Rav Noach Weinberg – founder of Aish Hatorah).
Another thought I just had – the shidduch “movement” is really very recent. Baruch Hashem, there are many, many people who have become frum and gotten married and had children. But their children are still very young. The oldest children of ba’alei teshuva are right now in their early 20’s. The boys are still in their early 20’s and most of them are not ready to date, but the girls are.
I too fall under that category. However, I just entered the shidduch parsha so I don’t know if this is indeed true.
I certainly hope that the family I marry into will appreciate me for who I am and not focus on my lack of yichus and whatnot. I am proud of my parents and the life choices they made and I want my husband to feel the same. I would marry the son of ba’alei teshuva in a heartbeat (provided that everything else matches up, of course).
I do find, however, that shidduchim with regular yeshivish families (where the parents are ffb) is much simpler because they don’t have to get used the whole shidduch system. I find that the idea of support is not so scary as it is with ba’alei teshuva. It’s a difficult concept – primarily because it’s so foreign – of supporting your children AFTER they get married. In the secular world, you don’t get married until you’re ready to support a family. This is the world ba’alei teshuva come from. Unless the bt parents are 100% completely engrained in a yeshivish community and not involved with the secular world on any level, or are extremely well-off, this is very difficult to get passed. A regular yeshivish family will just take out a loan if they need because the idea of support is as normal as putting food on the table for shabbos.
A favorite of mine (way back when I was in overnight camp!) was using toilet paper to create dresses. We would use the rolls to make a dress on our counselors or someone and then we would have a contest where all the dresses would be judged and the best dress won!
That does make sense. There is a browser on the Sansa. It’s not as clear as an ipod, but I’m really happy with it… especially because it cost a fraction of the price of an ipod!
SanDisk Sansa Express – extremely easy to use and very affordable. The 2GB can hold over 30 hours of shiurim (probably even more, but I don’t put more than 20 shiurim on at a time). You don’t need any special program for your computer (like itunes) – all you need is a computer and you can use the mp3 just like a flash drive. I’m very happy with mine. (And I don’t know what you mean about a browser).
apushatayid: i totally did not mean to offend you. please forgive me. but why b’davka blue and grey rather than black and white? is it a non-conformist “thing”? (i used the word again, sorry).