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  • in reply to: shidduchim and weight….. #906592
    mom12
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    A gitte voch to u all..

    I empathize with all of you..But if You have the right attitude all will be well!

    I was a size 12-14 many years ago..and most of the boys I went out with didnt want to continue cuz of my weight- my mom was more upset than I was. and I kept saying whoever is only interested in my looks, and not what I am really all about..they are not for me!

    Well at age 20something I finally got married to someone who saw what I was really worth! and got pregnant..

    surprize-surprize during pregnany I first lost 11 lbs and then gained bak 16 lbs. so after birth instead of a bulge i had a pit in my stomach. and after that i went down to a size 6 (which my mom said I would never be) and stayed that way for quite a few years even during pregnancies. after a certain age it did not go down so fast though.. but by that time I was almost starting to marry off my own kids..

    just as a by the way I got feedback from a few of the guys I met, they married skinny girls and as soon as they had a baby they beacame very overweight well guess who had the last laugh!

    I know quite a few girls that became very thin during pregnancy and stayed that way!

    so there is hope everyone! Just Keep the faith up!

    in reply to: i need advice #757790
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    spill salt at their door so when they leave house they step on salt.

    I know you want them out before Pesach.. but ‘makos vein’ always works.. I have experience with that!

    HATZLACHA RABBA

    in reply to: Guess what I Found Today?? #864854
    mom12
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    its called the bag,bag

    in reply to: I was called crazy #754294
    mom12
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    I’m not a soon to be mom..

    when I was younger I gave peaople my opinion (I’m not the criticizing type)

    Now I mind my own business…

    as long as my children listen to me, thats good enough!

    And NO I dont appreciate when former neighbors call me just to let me know where my child is or who he is spending time with!

    I dont think it’s her business… I know what my child is upto and I know what I have to do about it!

    and if I dont know yet I will when I have to..

    in reply to: where do u live #749206
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    Brooklyn..originally Manhattan

    ‘woman outside brooklyn’, Are u gonna tell us where you hail from?

    in reply to: Thread for posters age 40 and beyond #863796
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    It looks like I better get out of here..

    I dont remember everything just some..

    It looks like I might be too young..

    I grew up in de 60’s and 70’s..li’l young no?

    those were the years when everybody went to the same school and nobody was better than their neighbor or friend..

    Those were the years we respected each other and we lived and let live!

    in reply to: To talk or not to talk?? #758167
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    I dont think speaking and explaining will help.

    I like the cellphone idea.

    and DO tell your parents about the uncomfortable situation.

    Going with a parent to figure out whats going on is a good idea too!

    Or just stay away from that store!

    in reply to: How to Dress? #746585
    mom12
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    Don’t try pushing anything..Let Hashgacha take its course..

    If its right let it flow if its wrong let it just go away!

    in reply to: How to Dress? #746581
    mom12
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    Wear what u r!

    I would go for something neat and not very fancy and not too casual or sporty..but neverthelss something that portrays YOU!

    and if he doesnt like what you are wearing, because of what it potrays, and the personality is not what he is interested in I guess it’s not a shiduch! GOOD LUCK

    in reply to: EXPLANATION PLEASE #745025
    mom12
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    once heard a good vort:

    “katuv b’zayat APECHA lo b’zayat ISHTICHA”

    in reply to: Thread for posters age 40 and beyond #863778
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    I’m still one of those moms who dont send their children off to school till age 3 1/2 or 4 yrs old (depeending on the month the birthday is)

    then I get ‘punished’ and my daughters are put into nursery cuz they were unfortunate not to have been in a classroom yet….

    in reply to: chosson gifts #744466
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    my in laws didn’t get me leichter either,

    when a few relatives realized they chipped in and sent me to choose a set.

    personally I think the issue here is acceptance for some reason you are insecure about the entire engagement

    in reply to: Best MosheRose rant ever #898396
    mom12
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    so where can we all see it???????

    in reply to: Waiting on Supermarket Checkout Line #1212171
    mom12
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    I feel bad as well. sometimes I’m the waiter and sometimes the waiteee…Thats life!

    just remember, next time your the one waiting, be patient and understanding that its not his fault..

    in reply to: teenagers world #836117
    mom12
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    I am not a teen..but I do have teenaged children..

    only got one thing to say: the time flies by so fast enjoy your teenage years and the fact that you r not ‘attached’.

    My ‘in her 20’s’ daughter, only wants to be a teenager again..

    Enjoy the freedom and the fact that your not being constantly looked after (if your not shidduch age,that is)

    GOOD LUCK — try to find the good in each stage of life

    in reply to: Need help with baby! #743411
    mom12
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    My kids are always in my bed..but I sleep so I really cant empathize with you but…

    a friend had the same problem and wanted her baby out!

    put an unwashed nightgown or other piece of clothing UNWASHD into crib so the baby is comforted by the odor of his mom and thinks she is nearby..

    in reply to: bedwetting in camp?????? #1211804
    mom12
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    The camp my son goes to has someone going around to all the bunks waking those that have to be woken…

    Nevertheless I am a little nervous sending my next son to camp for this reason.. Didnt decide yet what we will do. I would wait another year, but he insists on going.

    in reply to: Cataract Surgery #742904
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    maybe you r right but my husband had each surgery done by different doctors and my mom also had it done in recent years by another dr…

    They all provided glasses.

    It doesnt hurt to find out..

    in reply to: Cataract Surgery #742901
    mom12
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    My husband had surgery on both eyes..a few years apart.

    the actual surgery of thecond one took about 5-10 min.

    it was done with a robot with the doc in control, of course,

    it was amazing! my husband saw and heard everything.

    he was able to resume normal daily activity right away including go to work. He had to go in the next day to have checked.

    They give you those large dark sunglasses so really no need to purchase, its probably preferable not to cuz the glasses they give you are closed up on all sides.

    I would suggest do asap, why not be able to see and then there is the Hagada on Pesach..

    in reply to: Shalach Manos Ideas #1138323
    mom12
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    It would doubt it, becuz you cant eat the whip cream without putting it on something which then will make it one food..

    just as an agav I dont think there is anything really edible in whipped cream…its chemicals sugar and oil..(sorry..that has nothing to do with purim…)

    in reply to: Mod Orth Machmir Shidduchim and Shadchanus #743485
    mom12
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    It is a chiyuv.. There is no set price.

    most people like to give ‘the going rate’

    so they shoudnt be looked upon as a schnorrer or stingy etc..

    in reply to: nail polish #743737
    mom12
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    He is telling you the DIN. You choose not to listen.

    I’m sorry I’m being harsh, but then G-D takes over..

    and we ALL learn the hard way…

    in reply to: What type of internet do you have? #742928
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    When we wanted to switch to dsl, I was told my house is not eqippd to take dsl (I still dont know why) so we had to go cable.

    in reply to: Thread for posters age 40 and beyond #863667
    mom12
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    How upsetting it was when they closed down..aside from the closing bargains..we literally emptied out the store!

    in reply to: Mod Orth Machmir Shidduchim and Shadchanus #743482
    mom12
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    Truthfully shadchanus is as much as one wants to give combined with how much u can afford.

    Sometimes there are “difficult” cases. where the parents or someone else will promise even upto $5,000.

    The average these days in my neck of the woods is 1500 to 1800..

    but if one cant afford it or was not satisfied with the attitude or service it might be lower.

    My mom once did a shidduch and she got a flower arrangement.. from then on when someone asks me how much I charge,,I say I dont charge but whatever it is “I’d like it money” not any kind of gift items..

    in reply to: Thread for posters age 40 and beyond #863664
    mom12
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    Who remembers “John’s bargain stores”?

    in reply to: Thread for posters age 40 and beyond #863663
    mom12
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    I still had a few pair of “Danskins” my kids wore..

    they really did make things to last forever..

    Where do we see the kind of respectful and obedient kids we had yesteryear..

    I never remember asking “why”..And we were happy!

    in reply to: Mod Orth Machmir Shidduchim and Shadchanus #743476
    mom12
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    Hello…READ the question!range of SHADCHANUS!

    meaning how much they are paid for their work.

    in reply to: Thread for posters age 40 and beyond #863619
    mom12
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    Wanderingchana.. I remember all that..

    I took my 4 yr old sister to school each morning on the city bus, I was 8 or 9 yrs old.. boy did we run for those busses

    I remember standing on line at a new pizza shop that started charging a quarter (up a nickel)!

    When I brought home a rotary phone my kids wanted to know how to use it!

    Over a dollar a minute for a long distance call..

    in reply to: Have I done The Right Thing? #742811
    mom12
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    You did the right thing 100%.

    Even if you would have known any of their parents,

    I’m not sure they would be able to do anything about it..

    Unfortunately..

    in reply to: How Could A Yeshiva Bochur Make Money #1133716
    mom12
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    Packing sforim away in shuls (thats what one of my sons do)

    Habiltation worker(formrly Res-Hab) You can take on as many hours as good for you, and choose a job that has hours that fit your schedule… all other were mentiond

    BTW girls can do the res-hab too.

    in reply to: What would you have done? #828057
    mom12
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    I was once on the bus to Wlmsbg, and an older girl got up for me..

    I told her its fine, I can stand.

    She answered me that she gets up for any married woman (even if younger than her) Because ‘u never know what situation they are in’..

    Kol hakavod to her!

    in reply to: HELP! horrible acne #743048
    mom12
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    when I was a teenager, I really did not have a bad case of acne but pimples there were…

    I washed my face with sugar! It cleaned everything out and left my face smooth…

    (not melted sugar!)

    in reply to: Police officers #741079
    mom12
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    I saw a regular frum police officer in Wlmsbg!!

    in reply to: Most Uncommon Frum Names #741044
    mom12
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    When I was in E. Israel a few years ago,

    A child came running to hi mom..’Melech Hamashiach hirbitz otee’!

    Melech Hamashiach looked to be aroun 3 or 4 years old.

    in reply to: Whatíyou looking for? #741347
    mom12
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    yupp, there is a shadchan in the CR.

    and it does sound like there are ,good for each others, here

    How do we get things rolling…like some mazel tovs?

    Yes Midos is most important, but hashkafos and frumkeit level do have to be considered as well

    in reply to: Do you talk about the CR on a date? #736614
    mom12
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    woudn’t give my screen name.

    in reply to: Motzi Shaym Rah follows me like a cloud #713604
    mom12
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    At the end of the day everyone gets what they deserve.

    when these l’h speakers get rejected for jobs,shiduchim etc..

    let them think back if there was anyone they wronged in the past..

    I know of a few such situations!

    HATZLACHA

    in reply to: Sensitivity at Chanukah Get-Togethers #714296
    mom12
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    Thank you..

    Hopefully the people who HAVE to see this reminder, DO.

    A freilichen Chanuka to all!

    in reply to: Shadchanim for Older Singles #711530
    mom12
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    I deal with anyone that wants to get married..

    i have a collection of older singles.

    in reply to: Solid Frum Working guys #712622
    mom12
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    Good evening.. as a shadchan I could really use girls who want GOOD working/learning boys..

    i have quite a few good solid chassidish working/learning boys.

    How do we get together?

    in reply to: Talk Straight Please! #866879
    mom12
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    did anyone hear about the teacher who told her 8th grade students to “mach a zitzy!”

    in reply to: Common Spanish Words Or Phrases To Communicate With #714987
    mom12
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    ropa – laundry

    ropa de cama – bed linen

    gracias..buenas noches

    in reply to: Number of Participants in the Coffee Room #921813
    mom12
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    Good Morning Y’all

    in reply to: Health Insurance / Medicaid #709848
    mom12
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    i second the motion.

    Americhoice

    in reply to: Closet Cooks, Men In The Kitchen #826922
    mom12
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    Well I am a mom of ka’h a bunc of boys and most of ’em like to putter in the kitchen.

    They bake challos, make chicken nuggets for dinner kigel, chulent..

    whatever…

    then I’m left with all the pots and the kitchen to clean..

    I gues I cant have everything!

    in reply to: Dental Insurance #698478
    mom12
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    I’m not sure bcbs is so affordable…chek it out…

    in reply to: Shadchanim #1217094
    mom12
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    I am a shadchan, but I am not sure how u can get a hold of me. I am not pushy and usually offer what u ask for. I do have quite a few clients that take care of there own shiduchim for whatever reason, but then again, you know best what u are looking for in a husband/wife.

    I work with a few ladies, so we network quite a bit. So if I dont have anything that could be suitable I usually go to one of my friends to see if she could help me out…

    You never know we might hav something going here.

    I was told that a Rebitzen was printing a shadchanim list in the hamodia. I will try to get a hold of her if she in fact did it and in which one etc…as s oon as I have information I will post. I think I’m on that list…

    in reply to: old clothing in good condition #698000
    mom12
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    do you know what they do with the clothing?

    some places sell by the pound and its a shme if the clothing is good.

    in reply to: is there some way we can get along? #698473
    mom12
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    How does taxes get to getting along with each other?

    I think this has to do with the fact that every chasidus had to open there own school and yeshivos.

    I guess there good reasons but when we went to Bais yaakov, many years ago, EVERYBODY went to neutral schools and we all respected each other as well as keeping our individual families traditions and lifestyles.

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